andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex-boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterward to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has canceled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to reconsider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his married life on the wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

The lady in question doesn't have any excuse for visiting her ex. She deserves everything she got. Your friend just got an early signal warning. Better a broken relationship than a broken home.

Juliearth:




Sir, if you have time, please scroll through my comments. You may not find them intriguing, but one pattern you would notice is that I bash my gender, so much so that you would think I am a man and a red piller. However, note that I am a realist and to that effect, I cannot just conclude that an engaged woman who visited her ex cheated or is cheating. The act itself is wrong, no doubt, but it is also wrong to conclude that she cheated. People break up and still keep being friends, with no strings or Okafor's law involved. Note that a woman who wants to cheat can do so even in her home, so lets not focus on what is inconsequential; lets not imagine smoke and fire where there is none. Some of us really just have to think outside this coccoon of women bashing and learn to call a spade as is.



If your life is beautiful and you have aced all your goals courtesy of not taking advise from women, then congrats and by all means, keep at it, but you should do well not to marry a woman. Marry a man!

you really make sense and very matured...you see that marry aspect,it not longer special,so many men are getting married just to have children and society talk....that why 98.4% of them are cheating...I would take advice from my 10 different friends before asking from my wife!

Very smart decision.

Galaxybar:


Lol. I still don’t oh. A few anonymous commenters who may not even be up to the legal drinking age are not enough to be the standard to judge the thoughts and actions of everyone. Lots of people hide under anonymity to do and say the most. Catch them outside and they’re probably the opposite of what they represent here.

98 percent of Nigerian men still sleep with their ex’s. That’s why most of us are condemning the lady. In our dictionary, an ex that comes visiting still want the almighty D.

I hope you get the point now?

YelloweWest:

Have lived in the US and seen what other women do OPENLY?

Spend one month in any Nigerian city and weep. You think the lamentations by men in the romance section is just bad belle? People are the same everywhere bro. Know this and know peace

AutoChick4U:
But I've been without sex for more than a year. Mind you I'm a sexually active adult who simply chose to be disciplined. It ain't easy though

There's always an exception to every rule sis. How many women do you know that can stay fr one year like you?

Faithy247:


Not every woman is like your sister,ex or female cousins idiot with a stupid notion.

I pray for God to heal you sis. It shall be well with you

Any girl that's visit me, as long as we aren't related has been fvcked, no two ways, ex or current or whatever.

End of story!

uthlaw:
you really make sense and very matured...you see that marry aspect,it not longer special,so many men are getting married just to have children and society talk....that why 98.4% of them are cheating...I would take advice from my 10 different friends before asking from my wife!

Okay sir!

andronite
You Nigerians abroad has backward mentality, why on earth will you or your friend come back to marry a Nigeria woman here in Nigeria?

If you see what women are doing here, you will save your peace where ever you are

Black women no many full america?
Nawa for una O

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

Coded runs woman I sight you...Can you imagine the trash spewing out from your mouth that he should forgive her after her ex boyfriend has banged her severally.l know you are olosho personified

slimman007:


Coded runs woman I sight you...Can you imagine the trash spewing out from your mouth that he should forgive her after her ex boyfriend has banged her severally.l know you are olosho personified

Be careful with ur utterances and don't falsely accuse people, if u are not mature enof to understand the concept of love, forgiveness, trust and understanding ur partner shut up

frank950:


Na only babe fit give this kind advise.

I wonder why men don't marry black lady over here. The stress of even coming to Nigeria, marrying a lady and bringing her over is enervating. Trust Naira ladies when they get there and become established, the man will see pepper.

Safe yourself the stress, marry someone there. Nigerians are everywhere.

He can marry anyone but he shld make sure he understands, love and trust his partner before giving her a ring, throwing a woman away last minute is distateful

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creampieGod:



With all due respect Ma........... What kind of drug do you abuse?? I have been steadily abusing drugs for a while now, and I know a lot of drug abusers too, but I have never encountered one on this kind of high lol. The kind of *trips* you dey on, dey worry me. You sure say you dey okay?

drug addict, leave this thread becos ur mind is clouded with horse shit..wen u are mature and understand the concept of love, forgiveness, trust and understanding ur partner come back and dish advice

Qatar2022:

When will you people reason like human being? So he should forgive a cheating woman that don't realized that she engaged?

stop throwing aspersions and accusing her falsely, she did not fvck the man, her only blame was being honest with her fiancee

AfricanGiant91:
well if you read your bible/quran or any religion notes, Man are born polygamous, it's natural not something we wished for or deliberately do, solomon, david etc have many wife's & jehovah is pleased wit em', u'll only hav a problem wen u seek after anoda man wife.
Back to ur question bout' if she's a runs girl; wetin u go do for ur ex house afta u don engage
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Stop accusing her falsely unless u will experience worse and gnash ur teeth with regret as well..be careful with ur utterances

gregyboy:



Forgiveness could be something else not a cheating spouse that is the biggest insult a man can ever take from a woman the outcome is death to the man, and humiliation

You saw tue outcome of that banker,

I would d lady tell me she prefers an open marriage than go behind my back to cheat despite the burden i spend daily caring for the family

Loyalty is our reward

Not forgiveness

No time to forgive shit

Stop running into conclusions and casting aspersions on her. It's still a sin to accuse people falsely even if it's on social media and u don't know d person..be careful with ur utterances..u are a man not a boy

emmyileri:

You are definitely a prostitute. No sensible human being will be spewing trash.

Again with ur foul mouth, pls be careful with ur utterances, u are not a child anymore..don't use ur mouth to judge anyone so u won't be falsely accused

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Any of my ex that comes to visit me in my house will be banged, no exceptions

good bye s3x sure die

StreetFight:


Can you all see why there will be no single woman in Heaven? Look at this post from a woman.

The woman is the only human that saw Lucifer face to face and had a discussion with him. Whatever they discussed, no human or Angel knows till today.

Be careful with ur utterances so u wld be among the men in heaven..social media is not an excuse for talking carelessly..to forgive is what God expects of every body..I pray no.one will accuse u falsely

HRHQueenPhil:
drug addict, leave this thread becos ur mind is clouded with horse shit..wen u are mature and understand the concept of love, forgiveness, trust and understanding ur partner come back and dish advice

Aren't you supposed to be ashamed of yourself that you don't understand good old sarcasm Is this actually how retarded you are? Crazy gold digging bitch

HRHQueenPhil:
forgiveness is a rare virtue and d secret to many lasting relationship, men do worse so it's not becos they are not caught that makes them righteous

i am suspecting you!!!

nijaomegacode:

Love is not stupid!
This is stupidity. Why am I even arguing this with you? If you have ever done this to a man and he forgave you and married you, he is stupid!

He is not stupid, but mature,loves trust and understand me , u also have people u can' beat ur chest that they are incapable of doing certain things, but be careful with ur utterances and not make assumptions like I have done something like this before..u will give account for even ur careless words in heaven

Mcslize:
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Let's come to it; what she did was terribly wrong for someone who was already engaged. It shows that she didn't value the engagement. If she was bored, why must it be an ex she must visit? Why didn't she visit her female friend, her mum or her aunties if truly she was bored and not dick bored?

Most ladies lack wisdom when it comes to their day to day life style. It is very good the man found out on time, he was possibly going to marry someone that will cheat on him. But the universe saved him.

There are things ladies should not be doing once they find a man that is ready to take the shame of being single off their shoulders.

Most of the things ladies do are always done out of foolishness.

The rest should learn from things like this.

Her lack of wisdom is glaring and am sure she has learnt a huge lesson . It's good the wedding was called of..marrying a man that does not love, forgive, trust and understand his partner is a life of hell

DrayZee:

You’ve been saying a lot of wrong things on this thread:
She didn’t tell him she went to visit the ex, the man found out himself and confronted her. Yet most of your comments on this issue are that “the man should trust her for telling him”.
You are to judge the situation according to what you heard. This your generic response doesn’t mean anything. You’re not even attempting to think. You’re just defending her actions because she’s a woman.
Well done.

I am not siding with the woman, I am profering a solution that wld make sense if the husband truly loved and understand his partner..the issue has already happened, it's not me to call her olosho and advise the man to let her go

Her lack of wisdom is glaring and am sure she has learnt a huge lesson . It's good the wedding was called of..marrying a man that does not love, forgive, trust and understand his partner is a life of hell[/quote]
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eagleccentric:


i am suspecting you!!!

the Eagle perfect bird for suspecting. Continue oga investigator

HRHQueenPhil:



Her lack of wisdom is glaring and am sure she has learnt a huge lesson . It's good the wedding was called of..marrying a man that does not love, forgive, trust and understand his partner is a life of hell

Aren't you confused?? What is this one saying? You go just dey carry HRH dey put for moniker make people feel say something dey your head, meanwhile the oil wey been dey your head been don dry up since.

HRHQueenPhil:

Be careful with ur utterances and don't falsely accuse people, if u are not mature enof to understand the concept of love, forgiveness, trust and understanding ur partner shut up

What sort of useless love are you referring to,this is a lady about to wed in August visiting her ex boyfriend or will I rather say her sexual partner.if that guy marries that lady it means he is a fool,how can you marry retired runs girl who has decided to take the last dick from her ex boyfriend.it's God that expose her so that the man will know that he is getting married to retired olosho and you are here talking about nonsense love and forgiveness...Madam abeg park well.....

HRHQueenPhil:


Stop running into conclusions and casting aspersions on her. It's still a sin to accuse people falsely even if it's on social media and u don't know d person..be careful with ur utterances..u are a man not a boy

I dont know were you are driving to, but i know its a fake reality you're thinking of,

There is no forgiveness in an attempted robbery, court doesn't here that, likewise the man wouldn't listen to an attempted fucknication escapade

You can preach around it, for all you want we men will never have anything to do with such woman

What she going to do in her ex place in the first place... If not an attempted fucking if they end up not fucking probably something played out, but an attempt robbery is unforgivable like wise an attempted fornication

She should enjoy d ex, next she will be wiser

He should find another girl who is not residing far from him, take his time to know her better before marrying her.
Coming back home to a girl he knew over ten years ago is highly risky. As far as I'm concern, he doesn't know this girl anymore.