Sigh# marriage. . .

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally damage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.[/quote]

You've really pass through alot in her hands as your last paragraph advise indicated. Kindly let her go before things get out of hands. People that advised you to keep endures won't come to your aids if you kill another man's daughter...

You seem to me like a weakling, I don't mean to be rude, even though your delilah of a wife has thrown more verbal jabs at you. Man up and tell her you are the boss ad an African man that you are. If your house is in disarray, you are the first culprit and if you can't control your woman, she might be the end of you. So man up ogbeni

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

So many times, we choose not to set our journey records straight!
From the word go- stop getting involved in affairs that has no direction. Stop saying you are only there to enjoy yourselves while it lasts.
It beclouds your sense of reasoning and make you end up walking out, if you can't fix it.

Raymond0008:
Omo! They will be nice to you during dating and courtship but after marriage they will change a lot.

I don’t even like talking about marriage for now, na to make money be my priority now.


My scope of dating girls now is that if you stress me from dating definitely we can’t be together for long period of time so it’s far better to cut it off at the moments.

alizma:

Those raised by both parents are not totally excluded. You need to add that men should observe the spread of authority in their prospective in-laws house before they say I do.
If the woman is in charge, the young lady is likely going to see it as a normal thing for her to be in charge.

Hmm

Romanoff:
I recently attended a marriage seminar that made me understand why some people react the way they do in times of conflict.

The Rhino and Hedgehog scenario and qualities were compared.

A woman can react like a Rhino while a man like a hedgehog, a man can react like a Rhino and the woman a hedgehog or both can be Rhinos or hedgehogs.

It's good to understand how your partner reacts to situations so you can talk things through in a saner manner, as long as there is no physical abuse.

In all, you both should go for counselling, you are obviously the Hedgehog of the marriage and she a Rhino.
[b]
I know verbal and emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse [/b]but once you take divorce out of the table, you'd be able to find other ways to resolve you're conflicts. You both need counselling and you need to express how you both feel in your counselling sessions.

All the best.

"I know verbal and emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse..."


God bless you for acknowledging this as a woman.

Pecoleee345:


[/b]Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.[b]

the bolded further shows your weakness and your evil self. You knew her weakness and yiu judged her instead of you to act as succour to her as a husband. You don't deserve her and I'm sure if we were to hear her own side of the story, "fowl yansh go open". My verdict 8s yiu are not a good person yourself

I disagree with OP... abi na wetin una dey call.. this writer ni... saying one should aviod single mother kids or those raised by single mums... There some circumstances one cant change in life...

Mine is that take the good and drop the bad and move on... Yes So men are suffering in the marriages no doubt about that.. Some still stay in there cos of what boths families that arranged it for them some what ...society will say.... but when it gets to the breaking point they will go their seperate ways... its just a time ticking bomb in such situations..

BluntTheApostle:


You are being observant, but not empathetic.

Anyone who has been through abuse will understand why the OP is lashing out at contrary opinions.

It is the psychology behind abuse. That is why children raised in abusive environment become abusive themselves.

OP is gradually becoming abusive.

It is no wonder why verbal abuse is rated as more destructive than physical abuse.

Some years back, we managed to save a woman from an abusive husband. He never abused physically. But the damage he did to her self esteem from years of constant degrading comments and remarks are still visible till this day.

Imagine someone saying to you, "I think I am truly stupid"

Whenever we asked her to make a decision, she thinks she is not smart enough. Obviously, her former husband always called her foolish.

Absolutely, you made perfect sense, I'd expected more from him as the man. It is well.

Elock1:
I concur

Na so one of my female friends post video of a woman slapping her husband multiple times and the simp husband ended up kissing her and embracing her.

Then she captioned it "good men are hard to find".. That thing pain me ehn.. The way I take attack her, say oh na men suppose dy receiving end and women suppose to dy misbehave.

She come dy say I'm not a gentle man and bla bla bla.. To cut the whole story short I just block the idiot.

Respect should be from the 2sides

People love foolish people, don't you know but I so much dislike them.

@op pls divorce that woman for both of you sanity though it takes two to tangle. The best gift any wife can give her husband is peace and a great sense of understanding but with a touch of werey so that she won't be taken for granted because some of you are just a pleasureable pains in the ass so don't wife a slowpoke

Emma1Oj:
Guy, watin you dey talk na... Abi make we start another lecture for here again...?

I think he means they should stay apart for a while though still married. It gives room for quiet reflection.


I've seen a few couples do this and it helped.

dacblogger:

You're quite rude,I only asked a simple question which you might have lied about in your post.
No wonder your wife is always abusing you.learn how to talk to people,I was only trying to help out

Abeg getat joor!......... Stop asking dummy questions

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

You see this word LEAVE AM ...YOU NO KNOW SAY NA WOMAN

the nigerian woman grew up using this as a get out of jail card.
They know that no matter what they do
People will say LEAVE AM..YOU NO KNOW SAY NA WOMAN..
This phrase has reenforced bad character
This phrase is why the nigerian woman is an eye sore including my mother and sisters

They are no good...the man is mentally pushed to hit them cos that's the language they understand
And after you hit them
They begin to gaslight
You are called a useless man
While she wears make up and tells the world how she has been supportive
How she gave u beautiful kids
How she cooks for you and takes care of the house

You are made to look like the devil
So if it will take u a divorce to have peace.
Please do it fast
They usually bring nothing to the table than pussy and strong head they call feminism.

UDUJ:


Lol

I have a colleague that did the exact same thing. He left his house he built with millions of naira to go stay in a short let apartment at Lekki- for peace of mind. He left the wife and kids in the house and makes sure they lack nothing financially.

Him leaving the house was better to avoid him committing murder or something of the sort. The dudes work output in the office fell drastically, he was emaciated and seriously depressed before making that decision. Now she is begging him to come back to the house

I value my peace of mind over anything.

If you stand a minute arguing with a woman you have wifed you will lose your sanity and go into a dark place you didn’t know is buried deep inside you. It’s best you walk away and go cool off as a man.

pansophist:


Does she acknowledges her anger issues and seeking the work on it? If yes, then there is hope.

At first naaaa. But lately yes

What about Men that were raised by single mothers? It can also go this way.
Are they guarantees that only people who were raised by both parents have 100 percent happy marriages?
Much as that father figure is important, it doesn't guarantee even 60% Fidelity, morality and grooming! Environment and other factors too numerous to mention also contribute to how a child eventually turns out!
Please let be guided.

Besides not all single mothers are/were slots. Some became single by deaths or no fault of theirs.

SpruceMediaNG:

[/b]Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for there father sins.[b]

Ibrahim3307:
she is not just a bad person but a terrible one. I can't even believe she is a psychologist judging by her comments

She's not any psychologist.

Kondomatic:
Enyi..... How can two walk together unless they agree? Amos 3:3

You can not practice what is written in a section of the Bible because it suits your interest and ignore other verses.

For instance, the only acceptable ground for divorce in Christiandom is adultery but the Bible stated clearly what the woman and the man should be, their roles and all.

If you are failing this then you don't deserve the privileges of the other.

Is this woman a proverbial woman? Is she submissive as a Christian wife should be? If No then the only acceptable ground for divorce in Christiandom doesn't apply to her.

It is same when a man is the fvck up, you don't love your wife as Christians are mandated to love their wives but you want her to be "a Christian wife", is that not madness?

Finally......
All these questions that you people ask on posts like this one is annoying. Didn’t you see this while courting? Like seriously?

A woman will show you the real her while courting.
The real her pro when married.
The real her pro max when she takes you to court.


No, you cannot see that while courting

How can I like this comment more than once? You are the bomb bro

My professor used to say "you can't force a willing husband on an unwilling wife and vice versa ". Your peace of mind is more than that marriage.

Nonexisting1:
Did he tell you he was a Christian? You said if she is not committed to the marriage, he should work things out. How? Does that statement make sense to you? You expect him to remain married to a vile woman and when he dies in it, you will turn around and call him a fool. You people should stop asslicking the women folks here, the highest thing they can give una is puna which one can easily order online nowadays.

abeg no kill us with Lafta

pongwa:
You seem to me like a weakling, I don't mean to be rude, even though your delilah of a wife has thrown more verbal jabs at you. Man up and tell her you are the boss ad an African man that you are. If your house is in disarray, you are the first culprit and if you can't control your woman, she might be the end of you. So man up ogbeni

Pls explain what you mean by "man up"

cryptoglorious:
So many times, we choose not to set our journey records straight!
From the word go- stop getting involved in affairs that has no direction. Stop saying you are only there to enjoy yourselves while it lasts.
It beclouds your sense of reasoning and make you end up walking out, if you can't fix it.

I don’t get this auntie. So I should fixed it when the frustration lines are already showing. I do stand by my words, once my lover is stressing me definitely that’s the bus stop.

chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?

Oga please shift, let him have peace of mind. This is why men kill themselves, carry religion pin ursef for tyranny.

bjtinz:


Pls explain what you mean by "man up"

I mean he should find solutions to his problems or challenges instead of looking for a cheap way out. A divorce does not solve a problem once children are involved. The children would end up being raised by a single parent which is what the guy judged his wife for. Is he not a culprit now?

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

Even if an Angel from heaven married to any lady with such character as depicted above will definitely misbehave one day and beat her up mercilessly. The sure antidote for her stupidity is to avoid her like a plague.

Pecoleee345:

A psychologist indeed....answer the person above me first and mind ur damn business..... A wife I spent fortune to marry and provide for is always abusing and cursing me .....u are telling me to ignore her

To you a sensible woman who want her hubby to prosper will be placing curses on him.

Bro, there is no need replying to that self-claimed woman psychologist, is like talking to the photocopy of your wife.
Bro, I was once in your shoes but not that too deep, she was my galfrnd then before I call it quit, she could abuse and curse for Africa. I would break up, she will come pleading she will change, cuz of my soft heart and hope that she could be better, we started again. She almost tricked me in impregnating her. She will be the doting galfrnd for almost three days and go back to her abuses and curses. During one of our quarrelling days she said, 'I know the kind of woman you want, the kind my mother was to my dad, and I will never be like my mom to any man.' My eyes opened that day, she lost her relationship to her dad when she was little cuz one of her stepmothers biwitched the dad from showing love and care to her,her siblings and mother except to the stepmother and her children, and the stepmother did horribe things i cant divulge. Till date she couldnt forgive the dad. One thing to men who want to get married is that if you want respect from your wives, then get married to women who loves and respect their dads so much but if u dont care about respect from your wives marry who the hell you want. You don't need to pass through bad experiences before you can learn but you can learn from other people's experiences. Be guided.

Please do not hit a woman. Despite their mouths, they are weaker vessels. You could accidently kill her. I cannot advise you to divorce, because that is between you and God. However take a break from that marriage as long as you can. No one should be abused in the name of marriage.
You are also being damaged psychologically and it will affect your children.

Upon leaving, two things will happen. She will either ask you to come back, at which points you can make your demands. The second thing is that she will take on a lover and not call you back. Either will not end well for her. Life is for the living. So live your life and stop living in misery.

MummyD2020:
Oga it goes both ways abi did u not see the single motherhood before marrying her? They have successful relationships that stems from what u are complaining about. Secondly we need to hear from her too. Audi altera patem. If i hot it right. Tank u veri muc

But if it was the man beating his wife I am sure you will not say we should hear from both parties.....let us stop this hypocrisy...because we are women do not mean we should be hypocrites...

Bliss955:
Your last statement is wisdom for those who choose to take heed.

honestly speaking

pongwa:
the bolded further shows your weakness and your evil self. You knew her weakness and yiu judged her instead of you to act as succour to her as a husband. You don't deserve her and I'm sure if we were to hear her own side of the story, "fowl yansh go open". My verdict 8s yiu are not a good person yourself

You people should learn to speak with wisdom....there are some weaknesses you cannot act as succour to...same way I cannot succour to a man that beats me physically is the way a man should also not succour to a woman that abuses him too...let us all stop encouraging bad manners all because of marriage......."do not judge" is the reason why Nigeria is where it is today...People do wrong things and we say "we should not judge them"........let us call a spade a spade...

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

Good to get a divorce, you only live once.

But about Women raised by a single mother, that's just your experience don't generalise

crazymommy:
You people should learn to speak with wisdom....there are some weaknesses you cannot act as succour to...same way I cannot succour to a man that beats me physically is the way a man should also not succour to a woman that abuses him too...let us all stop encouraging bad manners all because of marriage......."do not judge" is the reason why Nigeria is where it is today...People do wrong things and we say "we should not judge them"........let us call a spade a spade...

well said