Good morning Nairalander A close relative is getting married but he is not bouyant enough he is planning to buy some things on credit after the wedding he will pay. I advice him to cancel reception,just the registry n every One go home.

No, your friend is not serious, I don't know why people borrow because of one day ceremony. I attended a wedding last month, all of us wasn't up to 20 people at the court. They served us one big meat pie and a coke inside one fashioned nylon. They were happy and I was happy to celebrate with them too. They have the money but the wife told me they needed to plan ahead, also because of high increase in foods, they changed their plans. Wedding ceremony last just for some hours, na the couple go suffer the hunger

Why are you talking like you are not an African. Why would i come for your wedding if there is no side attractions (reception). So i will buy aso ebi just to go sit down and watch em take their vows? .

Juicewrld27:
Why are you talking like you are not an African. Why would i come for your wedding if there is no side attractions (reception). So i will buy aso ebi just to go sit down and watch em take their vows? .

D asobi na your own 4 life na

CrownDthrone:
Good morning Nairalander A close relative is getting married but he is not bouyant enough he is planning to buy some things on credit after the wedding he will pay. I advice him to cancel reception,just the registry n every One go home.

I stand with you on this. Please discourage him from borrowing to do what will please people and put you in debts with this very fine economy wey we dey experience presently.

Juicewrld27:
Why are you talking like you are not an African. Why would i come for your wedding if there is no side attractions (reception). So i will buy aso ebi just to go sit down and watch em take their vows? .

even self for western par of the word after church item7 is always on ground.

In reality, most expenses incurred by wedding preparation is just a waste of money. The most important aspect of marriage is the introduction between both families. Any other things added to it is an exaggeration.

Same thing I will do if it comes to my turn.
From house to registry,sign papers,take a few pictures with my very few friends and family ,then maybe we go to a location for small flex then everyone goes home.
Me and throwing party no get any business for this life and its not even a cost problem.

CrownDthrone:
Good morning Nairalander A close relative is getting married but he is not bouyant enough he is planning to buy some things on credit after the wedding he will pay. I advice him to cancel reception,just the registry n every One go home.

Who are the everyone in a Registry to start with? Registry requires just the bride, groom and two witnesses.

They don’t need to go home, they should sit at home from the beginning. They can view the pictures via WhatsApp status, that is if you are nice enough to show them. Like the poster above said, it is not even a money problem, I just feel loud weddings should be going extinct. I find them exhausting.

Guy,ur brother shud not borrow to do wedding o.if he must do the wedding, he shud feed the people na,how will someone leave other activities to come and celebrate with you and even groundnut he no see.you can control the number of guests by telling a few.but there shud be refreshments

CrownDthrone:
Good morning Nairalander A close relative is getting married but he is not bouyant enough he is planning to buy some things on credit after the wedding he will pay. I advice him to cancel reception,just the registry n every One go home.

Please discourage your relative and show him investments he can do with his hard earned money.The idea of borrowing for a wedding is ridiculous.

The high cost of food in the market is not favourable for fanfare even for the extremely rich.

That aside we should still be conscious of Covid.

pocohantas:


Who are the everyone in a Registry to start with? Registry requires just the bride, groom and two witnesses.

They don’t need to go home, they should sit at home from the beginning. They can view the pictures via WhatsApp status, that is if you are nice enough to show them. Like the poster above said, it is not even a money problem, I just feel loud weddings should be going extinct . I find them exhausting.

Vry exhausting.... I ve to him all the paparazzi wedding he is planning to run into debt to do it not worth it. His fiancé is not helping matter,she wants those Instagram wedding n money no dey

Lala please move it to a front page 4 a broader view

What will he able the wife be eating when he is paying back the money he borrowed.

Tell him it's easier to spend borrowed money than paying Back

Cudos to the females discouraging living in debt for wedding here on nairalland it means less burden for aspiring husband.
Why would you borrow to do wedding but can't or won't borrow to do business.
If money dey celebrate if not pampares don cost fortune now ooooo.

Bola146:
No, your friend is not serious, I don't know why people borrow because of one day ceremony. I attended a wedding last month, all of us wasn't up to 20 people at the court. They served us one big meat pie and a coke inside one fashioned nylon. They were happy and I was happy to celebrate with them too. They have the money but the wife told me they needed to plan ahead, also because of high increase in foods, they changed their plans. Wedding ceremony last just for some hours, na the couple go suffer the hunger

Bless you for this!

OP, I believe people should do things they deem fitting. People should stop living their lives to conform to a "standard!" You will be left to bear the consequences of your actions alone.

Though I have never been married, I think the most important thing is to get the consent of a woman's parents or guardians before proceeding to get married. All the ceremonies are good but not necessary. It's high time we learnt to cut our coat according to our cloth!

If I have my way, I'd prefer a very private wedding (less than 20 people in attendance). But how do one find an understanding lady to agree to that? I don't like too much publicity even if I were rich.

Temmylee01:
even self for western par of the word after church item7 is always on ground.

How many have you been part of, sir? And what were the average number of invited guests?

Reception is not compulsory. Guests can be given take away packs after the church service and everyone goes to their houses from there.

He gets to cut out money for hall, decorations, rentals, MC, etc.

Not compulsory

Buy snacks and drink for the few people at the registry take pictures and go home.

ThaThinka:


Bless you for this!

OP, I believe people should do things they deem fitting. People should stop living their lives to conform to a "standard!" You will be left to bear the consequences of your actions alone.

Though I have never been married, I think the most important thing is to get the consent of a woman's parents or guardians before proceeding to get married. All the ceremonies are good but not necessary. It's high time we learnt to cut our coat according to our cloth!

If I have my way, I'd prefer a very private wedding (less than 20 people in attendance). But how do one find an understanding lady to agree to that? I don't like too much publicity even if I were rich.

I am one such lady, only if mine would agree to that kind of arrangement. I dislike the attention and pressure, you have no idea. if it were possible to have no one attend at all, that would be even better.

beckyomas:

I am one such lady, only if mine would agree to that kind of arrangement. I dislike the attention and pressure, you have no idea. if it were possible to have no one attend at all, that would be even better.

Says who? You bet I do.

Such is life. There you're wishing your guy would agree and here I am hoping for same. Case of "he who has head has no cap and..."

SeaTrade:
Same thing I will do if it comes to my turn.
From house to registry,sign papers,take a few pictures with my very few friends and family ,then maybe we go to a location for small flex then everyone goes home.
Me and throwing party no get any business for this life and its not even a cost problem.

The legality involved in a marriage at a registry is what should make you not consider it except you love your bride more than anything you owned, currently own or will own, including your future kids.

Apart from hating gatherings of more than 5 people, I can't kneel before a Pastor. I wish to wear a night gown for a 5-minutes wedding in my living room when I'm ready. Her parents hand her over to me and my parents then I move upstairs to focus on more important things.

ethicallyright:


The legality involved in a marriage at a registry is what should make you not consider it except you love your bride more than anything you owned, currently own or will own, including your future kids.

Apart from hating gatherings of more than 5 people, I can't kneel before a Pastor. I wish to wear a night gown for a 5-minutes wedding in my living room when I'm ready. Her parents hand her over to me and my parents then I move upstairs to focus on more important things.

Dude!
You’re not obligated to marry, neither are you entitled to someone’s precious daughter, so save yourself the effort!

The audacity of these nairaland monkeys that think life owes them a companion when they feel like it is...urgh!

ethicallyright:


The legality involved in a marriage at a registry is what should make you not consider it except you love your bride more than anything you owned, currently own or will own, including your future kids.

Apart from hating gatherings of more than 5 people, I can't kneel before a Pastor. I wish to wear a night gown for a 5-minutes wedding in my living room when I'm ready. Her parents hand her over to me and my parents then I move upstairs to focus on more important things.

Who is this one?

Some of you Nairaland guys are hilarious. Someone that doesn't even have levels in his compound will come and be forming master on this forum.

When you grow up and read this your post years from now, you will shake your head for yourself.

Why borrow to hold a wedding reception? He doesn't need it.

He can still do both Church and registry without a reception. All he needs to do is meet a pastor and discuss with him that he only wants church blessings with a few family members around as witness.

He and one or two pastors will pray for you guys in the vestry. And also make you exchange marital vows. That's all!

So all you'll be spending money on is the wedding dress and your suit. Plus other little requirements from the registry.

Personally, I don't like that reception of a thing. It can be very exhausting and financially draining. Also very stressful to tidy things up especially if you don't have enough money to employ the services of an event planner.

Tell your friend to pick this option.

ImaIma1:


Some of you Nairaland guys are hilarious. Someone that doesn't even have levels in his compound will come and be forming master on this forum.

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ROFLOL .

You guys with bad mouth eh? Chai!!!

ImaIma1:


Who is this one?

Some of you Nairaland guys are hilarious. Someone that doesn't even have levels in his compound will come and be forming master on this forum.

When you grow up and read this your post years from now, you will shake your head for yourself.

Some opinions are wild, some conflicting, yet he merely stated his opinion, just like everyone else has been doing. Granted, you didn't agree with him, but it does not warrant being angry or hurling insults on him.

mrblessed:
Some opinions are wild, some conflicting, yet he merely stated his opinion, just like everyone else has been doing. Granted, you didn't agree with him, but it does not warrant being angry or hurling insults on him.

Was that comment an opinion or someone day dreaming of something that he can never do.

So a father will be desperate enough to hand over his daughter to someone who disregards him by sitting in his living room in his night wear to receive his proposed inlaws? In what country does that happen?

You should know that this is Nairaland where so many guys just come here to say thrash to belittle women. Most of these guys cannot even approach a lady in real life.

You've gotten solid advice from commenters above, infact I don't know what to say again.. Tell your friend to give himself brain o, these are difficult times oo.. His wife to-be wants a grand wedding, she don dey fantasize lori IG torrr but money no dey nau, mek she try understand.. Na how to survive after wedding, naim be d koko oo.

ThaThinka:


Says who? You bet I do.

Such is life. There you're wishing your guy would agree and here I am hoping for same. Case of "he who has head has no cap and..."

Lol. I guess.

Mariangeles:


Dude!
You’re not obligated to marry, neither are you entitled to someone’s precious daughter, so save yourself the effort!

I am a full-hearted campaigner for women's right which makes your welcomed advice on why not to be entitled valid yet a reiteration.

Pretty women force me to hug them after fighting to be in my lives. That first hug is often accompanied by an inquiry process because these ladies find my life intriguing. After involuntarily playing detectives for a couple of days, sometimes weeks or months, most of them suggest that I need "someone like them" to care for me. They stress that I deserve to be loved.

I have never believed I deserve someone's daughter. I think I am too poor to make a promise to love and cherish a human female. Contrary to the norm, the girls think I am their entitlement, birth right, soulmate or whatever you'll love to call it.

I always tell them that romance is for the wealthy, but they always insist that they are made for me and we will grow as a couple.

If girls perfectly made for the runway see a poor me as Mr. Right, I am certain a rich me can contract marriage with a beautiful woman in my living room. It doesn't matter if she's always dreamt of wearing a long white wedding dress and walking down the aisle at a well trimmed field, decorated with roses, hibiscus and lilies since childhood.

Imaima1 , I have responded here.