Shalommy:
What about men raised by single parents,we should avoid them too?.

Men don't usually have issues in that aspect...They like the hubby their mom sees...

But you see those men that can't take decisions on their own comfortably and confidently, run!...We call them mummy's boy...


Little issue they are calling there mom....for advise.

TarOrfeeek:


Whether she exhibit.

Whether she nor exhibit

I no like wahala.

Buhari hardship is enough for one person.

This op na mafia.

Rozcol:
Please let us hear word and for your information she's right about that number 2,in marriage a man should provide everything and its solely depend on your wife's decision to assist you or not,its not a mandatory task.Women are care givers and not providers, you can't expect a woman to provide and still respect you it usually don't happen that way.She's not here to say her own side so nobody has the right to condemn her yet. No be Nigerian men again mtchewww

No wonder you wrote this
https://www.nairaland.com/6599023/please-suggest-very-good-flimsy
Good luck with that, I pray you don't learn the hard way. Or you better stay single if you're after a man that'll be footing all your bills.

Folorunsho15:


I feel you bro, currently in this kind of relationship but whenever I think about marriage omo I'm just sacred and I've been looking for a way to step out man. The OP has finished it, it's like they are wired to take the revenge for their fathers actions on you when you haven't done anything wrong but to love and care for them. Ladies raised by toxic single moms or from a toxic family with an abusive father is a risk not worth taking imo. I just hope this one will not go and commit suicide cuz she always threatens that

Omo draft reasons why both of u cant work, your peace of mind is more important. She is using that 'suicide" to scare you, pls don't buy the format (been there too). And most importantly, don't call it quit physically, a long text/whatsapp explaining yourself and giving her room to talk is better and safer. Good luck

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

The only thing I want to point out is that living with a girl for 6 months makes u really really entangled with her and u will not be able to let go even if u find faults in her

this is partly why no man wants to marry u.... absolutely no sense and no class.... zero brilliance...

i feel for da innocent 30 something year old boy that has bn hoodwinked by ur voodoo... him eye go soon clear...

CharisEleos:
Twp Captains cannot be in one boat.
The problem lies with both of you.
She cannot take shit. You cannot take shit. So, who will now take the shit? Pride.

Pride goes before a fall. That is what has befallen your marriage.
When you learn to get off your high horses, you both will be cohabitable.

The problem with many couples is that they place themselves higher than the other. Now you talked about her trying to measure up to you ( equality). What made you see her as trying to do that if you yourself have not placed yourself so high.? Even before God, we all are equal. So why think you are higher than someone else? Your better half for that matter.

It's normal for two people to have a misunderstanding. But you should learn to to let go immediately and also try to avoid anything that will cause any further misunderstanding. If you see it coming, quickly turn it to a joke. Is she sees it coming, let her do same. but no. Rather you'll feel, "Why should I be the one to backdown" let him /her go to hell!!!!!!. Ego.

If you can't manage your first marriage then you'll not be able to manage the next. mind you the other woman will be coming with a baggage of her own character flaws.

No one is perfect.

That's very correct. May God see you through and please run away from negative friends both male and female. Best regards.

AutoChick4U:
Aeya sorry. Im a single mom but definitely raising my kid in love. Not all single moms bad sha

debbydams:
Jesus Christ

Noooo!!! What about the men who gets these girls pregnant?

A man told me that he can't use condom no matter what and you may be surprise that many guys detaste condom.

Folorunsho15:


I feel you bro, currently in this kind of relationship but whenever I think about marriage omo I'm just sacred and I've been looking for a way to step out man. The OP has finished it, it's like they are wired to take the revenge for their fathers actions on you when you haven't done anything wrong but to love and care for them. Ladies raised by toxic single moms or from a toxic family with an abusive father is a risk not worth taking imo. I just hope this one will not go and commit suicide cuz she always threatens that

once dated one and would have settled down with her if not for God....
omo, fear ladies from this background....
boko haram dey learn work for their side

Xilsbridalhouse:
pecoleee345

There are 3 sides to a story, yours, hers and the truth.

I have a feeling you are leaving her because of the test result. Perhaps you detested her afterwards and now making her look bad to everyone to justify your actions.

so make I marry who no get womb??

Trash as usual

If not that I have seen some intelligent responses from some females here I would have say y'all modern women are dumb..
Keep your silly emotions in check and use your brain because it will do you no good with a man. .

Rozcol:

[s] Be forming redpill
instead of you to go and apologize to your wife,take fully charge of your responsibilities and do all you can to save your home.Besides maybe you have neglect your body and you are not attractive to her again which warrant some of her behaviors (that's if there's truth in all you typed), big tommy,over weight,careless dressing, not taking her out like you do during courtship, no more pamperings,weakness in the bedroom,cheating etc try and fix all these things up and she will never disobey you.Do all you can to be attractive to your woman, a good man keeps his home and not destroy it. [/s]

Rozcol:
Be forming redpill instead of you to go and apologize to your wife,take fully charge of your responsibilities and do all you can to save your home.Besides maybe you have neglect your body and you are not attractive to her again which warrant some of her behaviors (that's if there's truth in all you typed), big tommy,over weight,careless dressing, not taking her out like you do during courtship, no more pamperings,weakness in the bedroom,cheating etc try and fix all these things up and she will never disobey you.Do all you can to be attractive to your woman, a good man keeps his home and not destroy it.

Tks for this word of wisdom...
Op need to have lots of patience and also be prayerful....
It takes patience to live with a woman under the same roof....

Patience and the passage of time do more than strength and fury. Jean de La Fontaine

DaddyRochie1642:




You're in pains, I feel your pains but am sorry I cant help myself I just have to say it,.

I'm sure when the Love dey Shack you that time, you were like,
"Baby you're the angel of My Life", "Baby you're the Oxygen that I breathe", "Baby I can't do without you", "Baby any day I don't see your Face my day is not complete", "Baby without you in my Life, my Life is not Complete"

Bro. That's how everyone feels. Until the mask is been removed from the face. Youths of now shld watch how they jump into marriage. Allot of things re happening out there. Guys are loosing their mental health because of the kind of person they got married to.
I didn't also do background check. And was tied down with pregnancy before I knew it I signed another contract and had two kids before my eyes opened. I was used big time and I saw my eyes shattered right before me. I'm still at the peak of recovering and I don't even know if I'll ever remarry . I thought of suicide but waved it off when I remembered I have kids . The thought of dating didn't come to me for over 2yrs now talkless of relationship.. be wise guys. Na beg I beg.

BigDan69:



Omo draft reasons why both of u cant work, your peace of mind is more important. She is using that 'suicide" to scare you, pls don't buy the format (been there too). And most importantly, don't call it quit physically, a long text/whatsapp explaining yourself and giving her room to talk is better and safer. Good luck

Thanks boss, always good to have people with experience ��

TarOrfeeek:
My current GF is from a single mother home.

Immediately I finished reading this topic. I will break up with her mentally.

lol, ogbeni be calming down abeg... Lol.. He said avoid most girls raised by a single mother, he never said All... There are pretty single parent raised ladies who are extremely respectful and submisive bcoz their mother thought them that...

Rozcol:
Be forming redpill instead of you to go and apologize to your wife,take fully charge of your responsibilities and do all you can to save your home.Besides maybe you have neglect your body and you are not attractive to her again which warrant some of her behaviors (that's if there's truth in all you typed), big tommy,over weight,careless dressing, not taking her out like you do during courtship, no more pamperings,weakness in the bedroom,cheating etc try and fix all these things up and she will never disobey you.Do all you can to be attractive to your woman, a good man keeps his home and not destroy it.

What does a good woman do? Display madness once the husband doesn’t buy everything for her?

Gambit23:



The only thing I want to point out is that living with a girl for 6 months makes u really really entangled with her and u will not be able to let go even if u find faults in her

This is gold!...

Fountainofyouth:



I am very much married, so let's have the conversation, I'm waiting.

you don't think, act like a married woman. Sorry to say. I used to see you as one miserable feminist with so much bitterness and hate for the men folk.

BamBamK:



once dated one and would have settled down with her if not for God....
omo, fear ladies from this background....
boko haram dey learn work for their side

Honestly man, these kind of ladies are just messed up psychologically no matter how much you love and care for them, can't even begin to say the things I do for this lady but that hatred is just inside of her.

Juoflife1:
Respect should go both ways. Some men because they provide for the house,are very rude and arrogant.

Any man who fails to respect his wife is doing more harm to himself.

lordally:


My friend's elder brother left a Cool headed and respectful business woman he was dating saying he needs to marry a professional by the way , he's a doctor working at UCTH he ended up marrying a Doctor too! That is one of the greatest mistake he made in his life and he's deeply regretting it. The woman does nothing in the house! Even to cook na Wahala to even sweep na Wahala, plates go dey sink for 2 days. The woman's mum came for Omugwo and does absolutely nothing in the house. In the morning the wife go carry phone dey press the mama go dey follow the wife gist na this man go wake up to go cook. The wife has no atom of respect for the man! The man's mum too came for Omugwo this woman doesn't even care if she eats or not. But the woman would bath the baby , cook etc. Make I just stop here. See bro take your eyes away from Profession. Doctor , lawyer engineer , SSCE holder all na bullshit! You're not marrying the profession na the woman you dey marry! See let me tell you , a stack illiterate and a PHD holder all give the same wahala! Just go for one that gives peace of mind and sees her Helping you all round as her responsibility.

That your last statement is deep!..


I av noticed their is a threat of arrogance and pride when some women feel they have achieved financial stability...You will notice this when you date some professional or career ladies.


Yet, there are very comfortable ladies humble, cool and humane..with womanly care...

In all this, you just pray you meet the woman for you...Even in the long run most trusted partners can be influenced by a lot....Friends, what they read, hear or see etc..

When a man is ready to settle, e dey involve prayer o..

If not you may repeat marriage.

bisqit:
you don't think, act like a married woman. Sorry to say. I used to see you as one miserable feminist with so much bitterness and hate for the men folk.

What you think of me is SOLELY your problem, you are just a mere moniker same as everyone else.

Xilsbridalhouse:
pecoleee345

There are 3 sides to a story, yours, hers and the truth.

I have a feeling you are leaving her because of the test result. Perhaps you detested her afterwards and now making her look bad to everyone to justify your actions.

The fact that you don't even know that the results of the test are super sufficient grounds for a divorce shows your ethical leanings.

She deserves to be divorced on the grounds of lack of womb alone. Jeez.

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.


I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

Am sorry brother but thanks for the advice, not really working at the moment so i just keep out of relationship even though i would like to settle down very sooner, now i know its not only my finance i have to settle before the ish of settling down.

Ishilove:
Op, nobody is perfect. Let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone.

Let who is without sin ... Are you drunk or something, you want to remain in a toxic relationship because of some stupid motivational quotes.

Anyone you see saying this quote is either seriously damaged or with low self esteem.

A lady that has over used her sex organ/womb dishing out motivational quotes, that is the craziest thing I have heard.

Belafonte:


If I weren't trying to avoid a ban I would have said you're an imbecïle.

If he was cheating why didn't she leave? Why become a monster in another man's house?

Now that she's acting like a loon, the man has decided he will have none of it instead of becoming a monster. That's what people with functional brains do, not coming on NL to disgrace their lineage with watery hypotheticals

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

abobi just say u are broke and need your wife assistance and since she cant give u that u divorcing her. all the write up here is pure trash

MrColdsweat:


Wahala for who no marry virgin.

where are the virgins? My ex confessed she was a virgin till i stumbled on her erotic chats.

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

Wish I could meet with you.

Wisdom at its peak.

Pecoleee345

sparko1:


Let who is without sin ... Are you drunk or something, you want to remain in a toxic relationship because of some stupid motivational quotes.

Anyone you see saying this quote is either seriously damaged or with low self esteem.

A lady that has over used her sex organ/womb dishing out motivational quotes, that is the craziest thing I have heard.

Let me direct your question back to you since you don't know the meaning of civility. If you are not drunk, then you must be high on your own fart.

Belafonte:


The fact that you don't even know that the results of the test are super sufficient grounds for a divorce shows your ethical leanings.

She deserves to be divorced on the grounds of lack of womb alone. Jeez.

Dumbness of the century, you keep ranting lack of womb everywhere when Op specifically said she had miscarriage TWICE, are you blind? Or you lack comprehension?

BROWNEMMANUEL26:

Ishilove nwanyi oma, u are more than this na

I am more than what, please? What is wrong in what I wrote?