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Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Austeeenxx: 3:46pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Wahala for who still dey reason marriage In 2021. 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Rubbiish(m): 3:48pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Pochettino:Lol u must be a guy behind this moniker 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 3:49pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
I’ve been strongly opposing people getting married without making sure that they’re financially stable. Getting married is the biggest mistake that will ever happen to any man and being poor getting married doubles that mistake. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 3:49pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Extra money for your in-laws. Extra money for your food. Extra money for more necessarily equipment that can accommodate both of you under roof. Extra money for medical check-ups and other related health issues as they may arise. Etc Should I go on? 4 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Parisian: 3:52pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
You're the one that is too next deep in your own beliefs to actually give room for a more superior fact. Most men have unrealistic expectations and want to make millions , build a house , buy a car etc before getting married and the sad part is that more than 90% of them will not achieve their goal early enough for them to still get married young. That's why there are a lot of older bachelors these days. If you keep waiting till you hit your goals you just might get old before marriage. udoji2021: |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Parisian: 3:52pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Wahala for who dey reason babymama. Austeeenxx: 2 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by FMAKJ: 3:55pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
From point A to point B of this thread is still based on "less,little or more money" to help a marriage grow. |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Commandoabdul(m): 3:56pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
What does not work you for might work for another. |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Rubbiish(m): 3:56pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1:U do sound like an unmarried man! Ask your elder brothers & married neighbours, money solve 70% of marriage issues. Without finance, the rate at which that tingling love feeling will decline will shock u. Ask your parents! 5 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 3:59pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
udoji2021:thanks alot for saying the truth I hope all the senseless boys here will learn from this. But Bros "hustle" don't make people rich. Life of hustle no be life o. God bless you Sir. 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Rubbiish(m): 4:00pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1:All these things can occur as result of lack of finance in marriage, money will go a long way to reduce the negative effect of these things u listed on the family. 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Realmarvel1989(m): 4:00pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Alright � |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 4:00pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Rubbiish:no mind the senseless guy. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Limassol(m): 4:01pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
udoji2021:Circumstances like? |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by bepositive11: 4:02pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
udoji2021: There's no end all be all answer to this A couple can get married before being financially stable and build financial stability in their marriage -- as long as they don't have kids and are strategic in their approach, it's very possible. Many have done this It's up to the couple to decide. Me though, I prefer financial stability before marriage and I've achieved it 3 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by MrBrownJay1(m): 4:02pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Walex124: bro, the problem here is that you are thinking like a broke person. a good woman who doesnt respect you as a poor man, will still NOT respect you as a rich man. money does not equate to respect....only broke begging deluded people suddenly respect you when you have money BECAUSE THEY NOW WANT YOU TO HELP THEM. its only oloshos that will suddenly admire you because you have money AND its only broke minded men that believe that when they get money they will settle with all the oloshos in the world. just because many women in Nigeria are broke deluded beings (who sell themselves to the highest bidder), doesnt mean that this what you should now use as a tool to value life... IF A WOMAN DOESNT VALUE YOU AS A POOR MAN, THEN SHE HAS NO BUSINESS BEING IN YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU FINALLY MAKE MONEY. if you decide to be with such woman then the joke is on you. the sad statement you made that "if you dont have money you are nothing" is such a clueless statement, but then again, thats what most broke minded people would say...they really believe that all their problems lies with having money. all their lives revolves around money and they actually believe that if they are ugly, then with money attracting oloshos to their sorry lives, they will now become beautiful..if they are rude they will become nice, if they are bad they will become good; if they are evil they will become saints; if they are disgusting they will become sweet abi?!?!? sadly, let me help you on the subject...if you are a shitty poor person, you will simply turn into a rich SHITTY person... attracting shittier person in your life (like oloshos). as for your family, if having money is the only way that they will respect you, then i feel sorry for the family you got. as for a wife, if she wouldnt respect you if you were broke, then the joke is on you for marrying such worthless good for nothing disrespectful wife. BTW go ask Steve Jobs, TB Joshua etc if all their Billions (who gave them access to the very best health care), made any difference.... 5 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Rubbiish(m): 4:03pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Vultron101:Honestly the guy is just talking like a 5 year old kid! Education, health, feeding, in-laws, shelter which of these doesn't involve money? Marriage without moderate inflow of cash is worthless. No one is saying u should be rich like dangote, but there must be moderate inflow of cash, else your wife go change am for u & life go tire u. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by bepositive11: 4:05pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
FriendsAndFans: You can never force anyone to respect you. Even if a man has financial control over his wife, he's foolish to think that she's respecting him. The day he loses his job, her so called respect will disappear 4 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Owopariola1: 4:06pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
TossTos: A struggling man should marry a rich woman if he sees one, and vice versa. There is no point in two poor people marrying each other all in the name of I don't want to be a gold digger, or I want respect. At the end of the day it will just be a combination of poverty, and the question is when will you get out of it? Because at the end of the day, people are born and die inside poverty. The most important thing is that the poor partner should use the rich partner to also make money and eventually multiply the wealth for the family rather than just spending for spending sake. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Oyin2212(m): 4:09pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
udoji2021:You're a wise man |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 4:09pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Rubbiish: I just hope that someone will take that guy serious and follow what he is saying practically. I'm talking here as a married man but I believe he is still chasing women up and down so he will not understand no matter what we say here. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by toxjox: 4:11pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Pochettino:...speak for yourself |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Realmarvel1989(m): 4:12pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
You right ▶️ |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by dedunji: 4:12pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
The main reason for marriage na to get legal pikin that can take care of ur old age .what's the essence of getting married in 2021 and be waiting to have money in 2027 before u can pregnant ur woman choi . Na this cain write up dey make some men go dey 65 years while their first son is 7years that one name wasted life naa .Igbo people talk say Nwa ka Ego |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by FreeIgboho: 4:13pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
seeme2: @bolded u r saying the same thing OP is saying. Your point that things may change tomorrow is not how we make choices in life. Yes, Dangote may go bankrupt tomorrow and, yes,, Usain Bolt may run last - but we don't make choices in life based on such. Yes, a lazy, uneducated, drunkard may become a millionaire tomorrow, but you don't choose your life-long partner based on such. |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by MrBrownJay1(m): 4:16pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
udoji2021: are you saying that as a couple, you will now eat more food than you did when you were dating?!?!?!?! here is a clue: small money you have for food (before marriage) + small money your wife had for food (before marriage)... put it together and thats more than enough money for food as a married couple. Extra money for more necessarily equipment that can accommodate both of you under roof. if you had these equipments before marriage why do you need more after marriage? better yet, you bring your TV, she brings her bed, you bring your fridge, she brings her oven... aka you both bring what you can. you can even live on the floor in a shack, if thats what you desire. Extra money for medical check-ups and other related health issues as they may arise. you deal with the above issues the SAME WAY you would deal with such issues as a single person, duh! Should I go on? pls do as i see nothing of value here... Extra money for your in-laws. i kept the above for last as it is such a funny statement, it made me burst laughing... are you really saying that before 2 people get married, they need dash money for deluded people out there? didnt you see where i wrote to cut your coat accordingly? what about telling in laws that I AINT GOT IT?!?!? is that so difficult to do?! in law ko, off anarchy ni! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by redirect(m): 4:18pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
MY BROTHER GOD BLESS YOU, MANY GUYS TODAY ARE VICTIM. |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by FreeIgboho: 4:18pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
dedunji: See this one still with this antiquated thinking. Don't plan your own retirement and how to be comfortable in it. Wait for "legal pikin that can take care of ur old age"! 6 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by FreeIgboho: 4:20pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Klass99: See, you wrong. The thread still sweet 3 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Rubbiish(m): 4:21pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
aod1:Because u can lose your job after marriage is not enough reason to enter marriage unprepared. We humans can die at any given time, that is not enough reason not to prepare for life, we struggle for education, skills etc some of us may end up not using. Planning our retirements of which many won't even get to old age. So losing your job after marriage is unforseen & it is totally different from entering marriage unprepared financially! It is just like saying kids should start impregnating their girlfriend since it is possible they may be unable to give birth after marriage which is very possible, such unplanned mentality can only bring about untold hardship. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by titusmichael27(m): 4:22pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Marriage is a blessing. The societal problem is the reason why we see it the way we're seeing it now. I have this advice to give you, if you can do it go ahead, but make sure that you abstain from a culture that could stand as stumbling to your blessings. I gave you my promise that marriage is an institution from God, He will never leave you alone. |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by MrBrownJay1(m): 4:23pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Rubbiish: bro you can have all ther money in the world, and buy your wife private jets if you desire, but if you cant satisfy her sexually/emotionally etc then chances are she will go and cheat... same with respect in marriage or bad health... and believe me when i say that: no amount of money will be big enough to satisfy the ungrateful bastards people in your life (today they want a new pair of shoes, tomorrow a car, next week a house etc etc etc) here is a simple clue: there will always be a richer man out there than you....so if money is what makes a person be with you and/or respect you etc, then a man with more money can come to her life and take her away, along with the respect she had for you. 4 Likes |
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