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It is well even in the well...

yinkeys:
Relationships are dead.
Don’t bring in kids to this life if you don’t have at least $1 million to properly finance children’s sports, formal, martial, creative education etc.
Nigerian economy has gone to the dogs.
It’s bad times for blacks in the global political space.
Just pump and dump.
Have fun

“What most menuniquely deceive themselves of is that they will ultimately be appreciated by women for their sacrifices. Learn this now, you won’t”

You’re a utility
Honour is not a feminine trait
If you like be deceived by society
If you like waste your life trying to understand them.
Lesson & advice to singles without kids

and I tut bible says go into the world and multiple, if u no pregnant that woman she will leave you for another man ,stay there dey speak big English

edunaragold:
and I tut bible says go into the world and multiple, if u no pregnant that woman she will leave you for another man ,stay there dey speak big English

If she leaves so.
I will leave too.
It’s stupid to have only one gf
You don’t know women prefer to date monsters.
They’re all for rent

See madness o, after paying her bride price, spending lot of cash she get mind to do anyhow, she carry any child come your house? you better tell her to return with your innocent children back or else she should be ready to take care of all the responsibilities there herself, Op must be too damn soft for his wife to get this kind mind

No one can advise you better on how to manage your wife but try to complete your house now that she isn't around.

Some women act unreasonably out of anger while they have very little to offer in terms of help.

She's the one losing as things stand. Because what she could have achieved with patience، she feels violence and anger can do it faster.

Focus on yourself. When she becomes hungry she will return to you with your kids. As long as you didn't chase her out, you are not necessarily obliged to send her money.

She already has a plan to sustain herself don't let her use your children to blackmail you.

Couples should communicate and be reasonable.

lies lies lies, I never knew I would find someone I know on nairaland. This MaN fall my hand na so all men dey lie for there wife head.

edunaragold:
himm its very hard to be a wish man especially in the mist of a woman who concluded before seeing result

Do to her what you wish her to do to you.

If you think of it, you might also realize that she's not doing what she's doing out of selfishness!

Currently, this economy no funny

You were paying house rent and feeding them

You can still build and feed them

Wazobia2216:
not in a bitter way!

He is lying and you have read through it, that same wife advice him to build that house forced him to buy that land.

Nwodosis:
How do we get to hear her own side of the story? No matter how had you try to paint her of not being a good wife, there no smoke without fire. Your problem with your wife is not finance but TRUST issues! Who no wan answer Landlady? Did you carry her along in the purchase of the land and the building project? Did she contribute in the design or in the choice of the property location? Is the said property bearing only your name or both of your names?
I bet you never carried her along and she felt insecured. She wants her own business for financial security because your actions made her feel insecured.
I advise, you swallow your ego and bring her back and apologize with style.

You're a SIMPle man

edunaragold:
To be brief, happy Sunday everon
,indeed marriage is a blessing but has it's ups and downs,
MY wife left to east angrily ,and without thinking the consequence of tomorrow, she left ignorantly as money no dey flow again somehow ,but am not saying she marries me for money sake OK,but she is impatience and ignorances,,but somebody somewhere may be remotting her as she has no dad,,now am all alone,this is a woman I paid all and married before white and traditional igbo marriage before touching her, so money were no longer flowing like before and we had ups and down, while the house rent increase skyrocketly and I decide to build my own house ,since then I have not know peace .pls ladies in the house,is it bad if become a young landlord, would not my wife be a young landlady too.


The problems is my wife thinks given her the money for business would be better than building. She sees me as a wicked man, she has relocated back and non of her families has called to ask what is going on,pls mothers ,and great men,was I wrong in building, or should I have taking that money to established my wife,knowing full well that once the house is half way ready I can get few tenenat to rent and use that money join another cash to support her business. The worst part is that I have stop building just to favour her ,I send few of my business profit to her while my uncomplicated building with things I have paid for still lies in the hands of the sells since 6 months now,only coming to repay my rent again.

(1) Pls should I stop sending her money ,so she will learn her lesson to be patience if owu done blow her,she may return with the kids ,and use that money to finish up the building in 5months,just a 2bedroom flat ,and 3 extra self con
Or

(2) should I abandoned the building and keep sending her money at the other end,while I wash my plate,Cook by my self , wash my cloth, and still act as a gentleman ,and snurb the temptation of looking outside since she don't cares any more. And when a woman leave a man house without a good reason or violence, mothers and ladies we all know the wife has left an open doors for another woman .meanwhile another more beautiful lady is knocking and conjeee dey hold me each time ,bit I kept saying the devil you know is better than the angel one don't know .

Complete your house
Get a lawyer to write her the terms for legal separation, which must include access to your kids while u provide money for education and feeding...watch if anything changes but zero ur mind
Move on...but ensure you remain in your kids life through the law

Xtopherwalkings:
He is lying and you have read through it, that same wife advice him to build that house forced him to buy that land.

To be honest his story no add up.

Have a tenant like that, he kept pushing the wife to the wall, he thought the woman has no where to go, the woman after much petting left.

She eventually got help, starts a business and has moved to a new apartment she rented

He on his own part tried dating other women till date, none has stayed, none has taken care of him like his ex

Now he's back looking for her, the woman in question no longer picks his call

You see, sometimes people don't appreciate what they have till they lose it!

edunaragold:
To be brief, happy Sunday everon
,indeed marriage is a blessing but has it's ups and downs,
MY wife left to east angrily ,and without thinking the consequence of tomorrow, she left ignorantly as money no dey flow again somehow ,but am not saying she marries me for money sake OK,but she is impatience and ignorances,,but somebody somewhere may be remotting her as she has no dad,,now am all alone,this is a woman I paid all and married before white and traditional igbo marriage before touching her, so money were no longer flowing like before and we had ups and down, while the house rent increase skyrocketly and I decide to build my own house ,since then I have not know peace .pls ladies in the house,is it bad if become a young landlord, would not my wife be a young landlady too.


The problems is my wife thinks given her the money for business would be better than building. She sees me as a wicked man, she has relocated back and non of her families has called to ask what is going on,pls mothers ,and great men,was I wrong in building, or should I have taking that money to established my wife,knowing full well that once the house is half way ready I can get few tenenat to rent and use that money join another cash to support her business. The worst part is that I have stop building just to favour her ,I send few of my business profit to her while my uncomplicated building with things I have paid for still lies in the hands of the sells since 6 months now,only coming to repay my rent again.

(1) Pls should I stop sending her money ,so she will learn her lesson to be patience if owu done blow her,she may return with the kids ,and use that money to finish up the building in 5months,just a 2bedroom flat ,and 3 extra self con
Or

(2) should I abandoned the building and keep sending her money at the other end,[/b]while I wash my plate,Cook by my self , wash my cloth, and still act as a gentleman ,and snurb the temptation of looking outside since she don't cares any more. And when a woman leave a man house without a good reason or violence, mothers and ladies we all know the wife has left an open doors for another woman .meanwhile another more beautiful lady is knocking[b] and conjeee dey hold me each time ,bit I kept saying the devil you know is better than the angel one don't know .

Am I the only one that read that bolded side and went blank , he went from being a victim to subtly threatening his marriage in half a second , like because you wash your hand by yourself you want to cry , she even took the two children and she's taking care of them , how much are you even sending that is making you talk , and you're here about another opportunity for another woman , you don't mean it?

Nwodosis:
How do we get to hear her own side of the story? No matter how had you try to paint her of not being a good wife, there no smoke without fire. Your problem with your wife is not finance but TRUST issues! Who no wan answer Landlady? Did you carry her along in the purchase of the land and the building project? Did she contribute in the design or in the choice of the property location? Is the said property bearing only your name or both of your names?
I bet you never carried her along and she felt insecured. She wants her own business for financial security because your actions made her feel insecured.
I advise, you swallow your ego and bring her back and apologize with style.

You dont marry a man and the next thing on your mind is how to get your name on properties u didnt finance!!!...She should have exercised patience and win her husband's trust...it is not given but earned. Did she bring financial security from her parents' house?...if it was that easy why didnt she start the business before marrying him?

She has to exercise patience and follow the man's plans, especially when she isnt contributing financially...through her loyalty and calmness, the man will gradually do all the things you mentioned...In this days of anyhow divorce, you expect a man to start putting his wife (of how many years sef) name on properties they didnt co-fund within the first few years of marriage?....If she was the one building alone will she put the husband's name....In her situation all she eeded was calmness and support, atleast there is no record of the guy not providing her with her necessary needs....All the other lofty dreams like setting up a business will come with time, atleast she didnt achieve it before marriage and they still have many years ahead!

No fvcks to give here.. some of you don't just learn or is it lack of sense we'll call it.
You left your own tribe to East to pay millions for transactional marriage only to come and be disturbing our peace now that the lady you paid millions for has dumped you and is probably with one 'Emeka container' somewhere flexing life. Let's call a spade a spade, the way Igbo people raise their kids especially the girls is really terrible. all they think of is ego and more ego.

Wazobia2216:
You see, sometimes people don't appreciate what they have till they lose it!

this one don loose better thing already, make him wait for another life time.

edunaragold:
. I go with you advice sir

Thanks dear, am a woman, I don't support a woman over stretching a man

Wazobia2216:
do you know what he will marry

If this one is asking for N10, do you know if the new one will ask for N1,000

He will marry another one right

Children of today, must you lose what you have before you cherish it

SMH

If you read the question that brought my comment, you will understand that, the statement says, "what if the woman remarries" and I said if so then the man too will remarry,
So if the man remarries its going to be either good or naughty person that he will meet

Wazobia2216:
So what if she remarries Will you go and live in the new building with OP

She can't remarry if her bride price is not returned to her husband by her people besides if she was thinking right she leave her husband's house..

Datboredberri:
She's not alone, she's with his kids

That will make things more easier self..e be like say children never cry for head well well.

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
Am I the only one that read that bolded side and went blank , he went from being a victim to subtly threatening his marriage in half a second , like because you wash your hand by yourself you want to cry , she even took the two children and she's taking care of them , how much are you even sending that is making you talk , and you're here about another opportunity for another woman , you don't mean it?

everybody and his own opinion, thanks

Skullano:
That will make things more easier self..e be like say children never cry for head well well.

. Laugh wan kill me lol

Xtopherwalkings:
He is lying and you have read through it, that same wife advice him to build that house forced him to buy that land.

is like u know the couples involved

Is the man saying the truth

I think building or completing the house is for the betterment of them both

edunaragold:
To be brief, happy Sunday everon
,indeed marriage is a blessing but has it's ups and downs,
MY wife left to east angrily ,and without thinking the consequence of tomorrow, she left ignorantly as money no dey flow again somehow ,but am not saying she marries me for money sake OK,but she is impatience and ignorances,,but somebody somewhere may be remotting her as she has no dad,,now am all alone,this is a woman I paid all and married before white and traditional igbo marriage before touching her, so money were no longer flowing like before and we had ups and down, while the house rent increase skyrocketly and I decide to build my own house ,since then I have not know peace .pls ladies in the house,is it bad if become a young landlord, would not my wife be a young landlady too.


The problems is my wife thinks given her the money for business would be better than building. She sees me as a wicked man, she has relocated back and non of her families has called to ask what is going on,pls mothers ,and great men,was I wrong in building, or should I have taking that money to established my wife,knowing full well that once the house is half way ready I can get few tenenat to rent and use that money join another cash to support her business. The worst part is that I have stop building just to favour her ,I send few of my business profit to her while my uncomplicated building with things I have paid for still lies in the hands of the sells since 6 months now,only coming to repay my rent again.

(1) Pls should I stop sending her money ,so she will learn her lesson to be patience if owu done blow her,she may return with the kids ,and use that money to finish up the building in 5months,just a 2bedroom flat ,and 3 extra self con
Or

(2) should I abandoned the building and keep sending her money at the other end,while I wash my plate,Cook by my self , wash my cloth, and still act as a gentleman ,and snurb the temptation of looking outside since she don't cares any more. And when a woman leave a man house without a good reason or violence, mothers and ladies we all know the wife has left an open doors for another woman .meanwhile another more beautiful lady is knocking and conjeee dey hold me each time ,bit I kept saying the devil you know is better than the angel one don't know .

Whatever that happened stop given her money since she left without your consent, that's my little advice

Nwodosis:
How do we get to hear her own side of the story? No matter how had you try to paint her of not being a good wife, there no smoke without fire. Your problem with your wife is not finance but TRUST issues! Who no wan answer Landlady? Did you carry her along in the purchase of the land and the building project? Did she contribute in the design or in the choice of the property location? Is the said property bearing only your name or both of your names?
I bet you never carried her along and she felt insecured. She wants her own business for financial security because your actions made her feel insecured.
I advise, you swallow your ego and bring her back and apologize with style.

Jezz what kind of childish advice is this? Build a house rent it get enough and start up a business for her and stop paying rent, the wife should understand it

One thing I don't get is Why do married men loose peace when their wives leave them?

U mean, are men this weak?.

Any woman that leaves her matrimonial home should Neva be allowed back. It simply means she is not interested in the marriage.

Any woman that leaves my house will Neva come back.

edunaragold:
To be brief, happy Sunday everon
,indeed marriage is a blessing but has it's ups and downs,
MY wife left to east angrily ,and without thinking the consequence of tomorrow, she left ignorantly as money no dey flow again somehow ,but am not saying she marries me for money sake OK,but she is impatience and ignorances,,but somebody somewhere may be remotting her as she has no dad,,now am all alone,this is a woman I paid all and married before white and traditional igbo marriage before touching her, so money were no longer flowing like before and we had ups and down, while the house rent increase skyrocketly and I decide to build my own house ,since then I have not know peace .pls ladies in the house,is it bad if become a young landlord, would not my wife be a young landlady too.


The problems is my wife thinks given her the money for business would be better than building. She sees me as a wicked man, she has relocated back and non of her families has called to ask what is going on,pls mothers ,and great men,was I wrong in building, or should I have taking that money to established my wife,knowing full well that once the house is half way ready I can get few tenenat to rent and use that money join another cash to support her business. The worst part is that I have stop building just to favour her ,I send few of my business profit to her while my uncomplicated building with things I have paid for still lies in the hands of the sells since 6 months now,only coming to repay my rent again.

(1) Pls should I stop sending her money ,so she will learn her lesson to be patience if owu done blow her,she may return with the kids ,and use that money to finish up the building in 5months,just a 2bedroom flat ,and 3 extra self con
Or

(2) should I abandoned the building and keep sending her money at the other end,while I wash my plate,Cook by my self , wash my cloth, and still act as a gentleman ,and snurb the temptation of looking outside since she don't cares any more. And when a woman leave a man house without a good reason or violence, mothers and ladies we all know the wife has left an open doors for another woman .meanwhile another more beautiful lady is knocking and conjeee dey hold me each time ,bit I kept saying the devil you know is better than the angel one don't know .

Keep sending her money for your childrens upkeep and marry someone else. Afterall you were living your life before you met and decided to marry her. Don't allow a worthless banny frustrate you due to entitlement mentality. They are Nothing. Absolutely Nothing.

We hvnt heard her own side of story

Reggaemich:
is like u know the couples involved

Is the man saying the truth

I think building or completing the house is for the betterment of them both

i know the couple very well, he is lying and I'm just disappointed in him. Honestly he just lost my respect.

edunaragold:
To be brief, happy Sunday everon
,indeed marriage is a blessing but has it's ups and downs,
MY wife left to east angrily ,and without thinking the consequence of tomorrow, she left ignorantly as money no dey flow again somehow ,but am not saying she marries me for money sake OK,but she is impatience and ignorances,,but somebody somewhere may be remotting her as she has no dad,,now am all alone,this is a woman I paid all and married before white and traditional igbo marriage before touching her, so money were no longer flowing like before and we had ups and down, while the house rent increase skyrocketly and I decide to build my own house ,since then I have not know peace .pls ladies in the house,is it bad if become a young landlord, would not my wife be a young landlady too.


The problems is my wife thinks given her the money for business would be better than building. She sees me as a wicked man, she has relocated back and non of her families has called to ask what is going on,pls mothers ,and great men,was I wrong in building, or should I have taking that money to established my wife,knowing full well that once the house is half way ready I can get few tenenat to rent and use that money join another cash to support her business. The worst part is that I have stop building just to favour her ,I send few of my business profit to her while my uncomplicated building with things I have paid for still lies in the hands of the sells since 6 months now,only coming to repay my rent again.

(1) Pls should I stop sending her money ,so she will learn her lesson to be patience if owu done blow her,she may return with the kids ,and use that money to finish up the building in 5months,just a 2bedroom flat ,and 3 extra self con
Or

(2) should I abandoned the building and keep sending her money at the other end,while I wash my plate,Cook by my self , wash my cloth, and still act as a gentleman ,and snurb the temptation of looking outside since she don't cares any more. And when a woman leave a man house without a good reason or violence, mothers and ladies we all know the wife has left an open doors for another woman .meanwhile another more beautiful lady is knocking and conjeee dey hold me each time ,bit I kept saying the devil you know is better than the angel one don't know .

Oga, look for another woman.

Nwodosis:
How do we get to hear her own side of the story? No matter how had you try to paint her of not being a good wife, there no smoke without fire. Your problem with your wife is not finance but TRUST issues! Who no wan answer Landlady? Did you carry her along in the purchase of the land and the building project? Did she contribute in the design or in the choice of the property location? Is the said property bearing only your name or both of your names?
I bet you never carried her along and she felt insecured. She wants her own business for financial security because your actions made her feel insecured.
I advise, you swallow your ego and bring her back and apologize with style.

No part of the law says a man must establish his wife. Let's get that straight. This man probably paid millions of Naira as bride price. Why on earth should a man take the responsibility of setting up a business for his wife? We men are the ones placing too many irresponsible responsibilities upon ourselves. No wrong in establishing your partner, if you have the means. But how dare you blame the man if he refuses to do that, to the point of moving out of your home?

Has he committed any crime? If the woman needs a job she should go out there and send job applications. Na husband she marry, not a Human Resources personnel or Venture Capitalist.

If she wants her own business like you rightly stated, she should approach a bank and get a loan! As for upkeep, it is totally the man's responsibility.

Something is not right about this story.

Doesn't sound right.

I don't buy it.