I'm married with two beautiful children..
I love my husband no doubt....
But I noticed that I'm beginning to like my reverend, I don't know how to explain this...
He is married with children too but we are kinda fond of each other...
How do I stop this unusual feeling , I can't stop going to church cos my husband would be mad at me.

AntiMen:
I'm married with two beautiful children..
I love my husband no doubt....
But I noticed that I'm beginning to like my reverend, I don't know how to explain this...
He is married with children too but we are kinda fond of each other...
How do I stop this unusual feeling , I can't stop going to church cos my husband would be mad at me.

Cry to God because you want to ruin your home. Love kwa? How I wish Nairalanders can be known like on Facebook. Then the sins of everybody would find them out.

Gentlerespect76:


Cry to God because you want to ruin your home. Love kwa? How I wish Nairalanders can be known like on Facebook. Then the sins of everybody would find them out.

Love isn't the word, you should understand how I'm feeling, like I always think of him and always want to have a conversation with him...

I can't hit on him, neither would I ruin either of our homes by having an affair with him, but how can I erase what I'm feeling about him?

AntiMen:
I'm married with two beautiful children..
I love my husband no doubt....
But I noticed that I'm beginning to like my reverend, I don't know how to explain this...
He is married with children too but we are kinda fond of each other...
How do I stop this unusual feeling , I can't stop going to church cos my husband would be mad at me.

Leave the church. Look for another branch.

Change your name from AntiMen to AntiChrist.

How can you be AntiMen and still have such feeling for a man?

Mtchewww

AntiMen:
I'm married with two beautiful children..
I love my husband no doubt....

You're married with kids and you claim you still love your husband But yet you're crushing, liking and developing feelings for another man. Nawa oo!

This is the main reason why most guys don't take Nigerian women serious.

I do come across some foolish articles on nairaland like "How to make a woman love and respect you" "How to make a woman stay with you till eternity" "How to make a woman do this... How to make a woman do that... Blah blah blah" the funny thing is, SIMPs will even be saying "nice one op".

Lol, seriously I go just dey laugh and dey look them like mgbeke.

Oga, if you like give Nigerian women the whole world, If you like chase everybody away to planet Mars and give her the whole earth. She would still cheat on you to go collect better preek in planet Mars.

Dear Men, don't ever take Nigerian women serious Please. Avoid Nigeria women like a plague.

Meanwhile.. Adeleke ifeanyi be like Madam carry your mouth go one side... abeg.

Blunttruth:

Leave the church. Look for another branch.

What reason will I give my husband for not following him to church.

immortalcrown:
Change your name from AntiMen to AntiChrist

Did I force the feeling on myself....
It grew naturally.

Beebah2000:
Mtchewww

You don't need to his...

Na feeling I get, I no kill person.

AntiMen:


What reason will I give my husband for not following him to church.

make up one. Learn from this. Stop getting close to the opposite sex, reverend or not.

I think you need no advice now but, a little dosage of Bianca Ojukwu's takeaway gift.

I hate nonsense

Blunttruth:
make up one. Learn from this. Stop getting close to the opposite sex, reverend or not.

Thanks for telling me the blunt truth, but my husband holds key position in the church, there's no reason I give that would be meaningful to him except I become opened about the issue...Actually I didn't get close to him, but he ( Reverend) seems to be interested in my spiritual life, often times he wants me do certain church activities which I usually dodge, since then each time he sees me in church, he doesn't fail to call my name, if I'm seated amongst my friends, he will call me, greet me and pass, every time , since then I began to have this funny feeling for him...

It's not that serious though but it's becoming intense unlike before.

BeeBeeOoh:
I think you need no advice now but, a little dosage of Bianca Ojukwu's takeaway gift.

I hate nonsense

If it will rest my head ,I don't mind, but no be me force feeling on myself.....did I?

AntiMen:
Did I force the feeling on myself....
It grew naturally.

Who forced you to name yourself AntiMen?
How can you be AntiMen and still have such feeling for a man?

AntiMen:


If it will rest my head ,I don't mind, but no be me force feeling on myself.....did I?

We are the same thing nah, the gift will massage your brain thoroughly and the that feelings will be uprooted

Tell him to stay away from you and explain why, earlier the better.

immortalcrown:

How can you be AntiMen and still have such feeling for a man?

When I say I'm Antimen, I'm only against the bossy attitude of men, nothing more nothing less..and that doesn't stop me from loving or crushing on anyone....
It's just a feeling, im only Looking for ways to making it stop ,nothing more....

Sheddy5:
Tell him to stay away from you and explain why, earlier the better.

DO I TELL HIM DIRECTLY?

Like Reverend, I'm beginning to crush on you, can you please stay away from me ?

AntiMen:

DO I TELL HIM DIRECTLY?

yes ofcourse.

Sheddy5:

yes ofcourse.

How?

AntiMen:

Love isn't the word, you should understand how I'm feeling, like I always think of him and always want to have a conversation with him...

I can't hit on him, neither would I ruin either of our homes by having an affair with him, but how can I erase what I'm feeling about him?

I understand, it's temptation which is human. But do not give room to it. God is your strength.

AntiMen:


How?

tell him you want the both of you to keep a distance that will help you focus.. Tell him about your strange feelling and you want to stop it, thats all.

AntiMen:
When I say I'm Antimen, I'm only against the bossy attitude of men, nothing more nothing less..and that doesn't stop me from loving or crushing on anyone.... It's just a feeling, im only Looking for ways to making it stop ,nothing more....

Your two responses give me the impression that you are open-minded. Your responses suggest you sincerely seek advice. I like your manner of approach. I am really sorry for my first two comments about you. Please, forgive me. But your username objectively connotes negativity (gender discrimination). Now, let me try to advise you.

Avoid intimate conversations with him. By intimate, I do not mean lustful discussions. I mean confidential matters. Curtail your physical interaction with him, especially when there is no third party present, to avoid losing control and kissing him.

If possible, let your discussion with him be in the presence of either his wife or your husband. This can help wither the feeling. Also, do ponder on his faults as a man. Thinking about his imperfection can help suppress the feeling.

One question: Are you demisexual?

Gentlerespect76:

I understand, it's temptation which is human. But do not give room to it. God is your strength.

I will never give room for it..
It's the reason why I'm out here to seek help, I just need ways of becoming less fond of him, so to say...
Or Maybe I should just give it time...

AntiMen:

Thanks for telling me the blunt truth, but my husband holds key position in the church, there's no reason I give that would be meaningful to him except I become opened about the issue...Actually I didn't get close to him, but he ( Reverend) seems to be interested in my spiritual life, often times he wants me do certain church activities which I usually dodge, since then each time he sees me in church, he doesn't fail to call my name, if I'm seated amongst my friends, he will call me, greet me and pass, every time , since then I began to have this funny feeling for him...

It's not that serious though but it's becoming intense unlike before.

Then tell your husband

Sheddy5:

tell him you want the both of you to keep a distance that will help you focus.. Tell him about your strange feelling and you want to stop it, thats all.

Sincerely I want to, but I hope he won't look at me some type of way each time I go to church?

AntiMen:


I will never give room for it..
It's the reason why I'm out here to seek help, I just need ways of becoming less fond of him, so to say...
Or Maybe I should just give it time...

Yeah. Talking about it as you are doing is a wise decision as i can see you have conscience. And it's all about commitment to your marriage and a deep conviction that is ever present in mind, that infidelity is a redline you are never crossing.

AntiMen:

Love isn't the word, you should understand how I'm feeling, like I always think of him and always want to have a conversation with him...

I can't hit on him, neither would I ruin either of our homes by having an affair with him, but how can I erase what I'm feeling about him?

u are foolish

immortalcrown:

Your two responses give me the impression that you are open-minded. Your responses suggest you sincerely seek advice. I like your manner of approach. I am really sorry for my first two comments about you. Please, forgive me. Now, let me try to advise you.

Avoid intimate conversations with him. By intimate, I do not mean lustful discussions. I mean confidential matters. Curtail your physical interaction with him, especially when there is no third party present, to avoid losing control and kissing him.

If possible, let your discussion with him be in the presence of either his wife or your husband. This can help wither the feeling. Also, do ponder on his faults as a man. Thinking about his imperfection can help suppress the feeling.

One question: Are you demisexual?

Let me begin with your last question...Yes I am ..

Then about having intimate conversations with him, actually I don't.

Maybe I should tell you how this started, I've stated it before but I will again, He expects me to have attained a level of spirituality which I'm not interested in, so whenever he sees me in church he would remind me to come for activities that would aid my spiritual life but I ain't interested in all that shit, seeing that I didn't bulge, each time I'm in church , whether I'm close or far away from him, he always ensure he calls my name or greets me, I could be having conversations with two of my friends,he will call only my name and pass to show he's greeting me ..Sometimes I feel embarrassed for my friends cos I believe he's supposed to greet all of us and not just me...
So because of these actions I began to grow fond of him...I won't lie sometimes I steal glances at him in church and our eyes meet, but I always shrug it off..

I don't really discuss anything confidential with him, and our talks have always been in the front of others...there's nothing more to all of that asides the unusual feeling I'm having...

Recently, we had a chat about an issue that concerns someone else in church and I gave my opinion about the matter, after our conversation ,we said the usual good nights and I want to use the normal hands emoticon to indicate goodnight, mistakenly (God's my witness) I pressed the lips emoticon after goodnight, it was so embarrasing.
But I left it that way cos it was a mistake and never ever intentional.

Gentlerespect76:


Yeah. Talking about it as you are doing is a wise decision as i can see you have conscience. And it's all about commitment to your marriage and a deep conviction that is ever present in mind, that infidelity is a redline you are never crossing.

I'm never ever crossing it, it's very effortless for me..No struggles..
I'm too proud of my body and I won't bring myself to been dicked by anybody...I got married a virgin, it's been 8 years, and I've never commited adultery..never given it a thought neither would it begin with my rev.

Blunttruth:

Then tell your husband

I don't think it's a wise thing to do..
He's human and not spirit o.