luminouz:

You completely talked about something different from what OP meant. How does helping people equate with OP's topic on choosing between who you love and who loves you? I responded based on OP's topic that being chosen by a woman is better because you don't need to stress yourself pleasing women. They are eager to please you instead. Guy nawa for you oh. I dey talk Lagos, you dey yarn Sokoto na

On the issue of quoting, When you quote people next time, make sure your response is after their message...that's how you quote properly. Sometimes, when messages are long, and you forget to scroll up till the end, you might end up putting your reply into the message, not after it

Okay, thanks. But I was actually responding to your comment on the second paragraph and not the OP's.

If I can remember and you can stillif I'm wrong, you stated that you don't give ladies gifts, money etc so I was only responding to that. I may not have read the full comment.


All corrections noted.

As long as you’re not crypto I can’t run after you o

Toks2008:
Let me paraphrase this so that it can make more sense. Would you rather be with someone who wishes to be with another person? Because this is the case if you find yourself married to the one you love who does not love you and YES people marry without really wanting to be with the person they are married to.

This may sound so twisted but it is not at all. It is the dream of many people to be with someone they love who also loves them in return but we all know that this is seldom the case as we usually have the feelings tilted in one direction and as they say, the person who loves less in a relationship holds the power over the other.

I have met ladies who i love and i have met those who love me and i can tell you for a fact that these two categories are not in anyway alike.

When you love someone and they don't feel same way, you usually see yourself having to do more of the work to make it work and in most cases, you are taken for granted because the other person cares less if you stay or leave..

But when you are with someone you don't really desire but the person desires you, you will feel very uncomfortable at the beginning but there will be this serenity in your life with so much inner assurance that you are truly cherished and you will feel so alive and loved so much that you will inevitably start developing strong affection for the other person. (The beauty and the Beast is not just a fiction very realistic)

As a man, if you marry a lady who truly loves you, she will submit to you, cherish you, treat you like a king and will never see any reason to be with another man. And in like manner, if a woman marries a man who truly desires her,. he will treat her like a queen and cherish her all the days of his life.

YES i understand how twisted this sounds cos whether you choose the one you love that does not love you or you choose the one who loves you but you do not feel same way, the bottom line is that there is still an imbalance in the affection.

But be it as it may, you can never know how special you are until you meet someone who genuinely desires you and sometimes it is best to leave the one you love to be with the one who loves you because with time, you will realize you made the right decision.

So let us have your opinion.

I will wait till 83 years old to marry if that's what it takes to get a girl who love me like sharwarma.

Well
I married the one I love.
As for my husband, I don’t know if he Married me as the one he love or the one who loves him. But to the best of my knowledge,I would say that he married who he loves too.�‍♀️

frankson1:




Okay, thanks. But I was actually responding to your comment on the second paragraph and not the OP's.

If I can remember and you can stillif I'm wrong, you stated that you don't give ladies gifts, money etc so I was only responding to that. I may not have read the full comment.


All corrections noted.

I didn't say I don't give ladies gifts. Is urgent 2k a gift or paying her house rent...or her school fees? Nope bro. These things are what I call SPONSORSHIP. I don't sponsor women...That's their parents job

Amarisco:


Noooo we already stated our positions, you just didn’t defend your corner after opposing mine
You are looking for an easy exit - no wahala

Ose oooo profile analyser!!!
Calling out creepy behaviour is not about any fear, it’s about the ick/cringe!

Ok...so what about lunch?

Your corner won't still agree no matter what I post...why bother na?
You go like argument o

UyaiIncomparabl:


You can't try all these with me.

Yiimu! I like hearing those words and those ones that say "i don't do shit" ALOL !
Lemme guess, the only hard part of you will be the "high fence" you built ... sha know some men are climbers while some can afford a ladder

Just have money. Everything will configure.

luminouz:


I didn't say I don't give ladies gifts. Is urgent 2k a gift or paying her house rent...or her school fees? Nope bro. These things are what I call SPONSORSHIP. I don't sponsor women...That's their parents job

Alright then, Mr. Luminouz.

You've proven that we can argue to come to an understanding without insults.

You're a man and not a boy as I erroneously stated.


Do sleep well Mr. Luminouz.

The one who loves me.

please check my signature I'm available for night deal asap

luminouz:
Here we go again!!!!!

Gbas gbos coming in. 3...2...1

N.B: That's why redpillers subscribe to being CHOSEN. It's the best feeling ever. You don't suffer from urgent 2k requests, birthday billings, Pay-my-school fees-naaa scenarios and all that entitlement bullshiit. You, are in control because it's the person who loves less that has the upper hand in the relationship. You enjoy the true benefits of having a woman take care of you,

I have never bought a phone for any girl, never paid for her hair...or her school fees or apartment or given her allowance. Anytime I hear men say they did such to make their girlfriends love them more, I shake my head. These dudes don't know what's up. I have in many occasions even collected the monies given to these girls by their 'hard working ATMs' after having their guts blown out by me. I'm the prize, because I made myself so.

But when we tell men to become the best versions of themselves, they scream 'hustle o, make another man no fuq your wife ooooo'... Forgetting that we fuq their so-called girlfriends too, despite the money they have invested in these girls. Money won't get the girl all the time. Chosen does

Al this na small pirkin talk, when you make real money you will understand me, pray to make money

Some of these ladies are in a relationship/marriages beacuse they see that as opportunity to Bill their male partners,some men love and marry a lady Because she's beautiful and will give birth to beautiful children for them,whereas the lady in question don't rate them or love them,DNA test result has actually saved most men from taking care of another man's children.

Munzy14:

I have dated the ones I love.

Now, to marriage case,I will marry the one who loves me and see me as her prayers answered as a man..Such women are the type that makes their hubby a king.

As a man, it is better for you to always go after what you want, regardless of what had happened.

Men love, women respond to love.

If you want to die early or have broken marriage, marry someone you love,you are finished. Because when you are having financial challenge she would show you her True colour. But if you marry someone that really loves you, Your days would always be filled with happiness and joy because you will have peace of mind, irrespective of the financial challenge. I rest my case.

DaddyGngeess:





Al this na small pirkin talk, when you make real money you will understand me, pray to make money

Dey dia dey shout real money. That your girl wey you dey spend on with your mumu love...na me go fuq am for you.

luminouz:

Dey dia dey shout real money. That your girl wey you dey spend on with your mumu love...na me go fuq am for you.

My first son just completed 18 years yesterday, which I celebrated for him well well, I believe he will have the same mind set with you now but I know he will outgrown it soon because he is my son and I will teach him how to make money and be a real man.
Stay bless son

DaddyGngeess:





My first son just completed 18 years yesterday, which I celebrated for him well well, I believe he will have the same mind set with you now but I know he will outgrown it soon because he is my son and I will teach him how to make money and be a real man.
Stay bless son

Lol...grandpa...wehdone oh...

Stay blessed G-daddy

DaddyGngeess:





My first son just completed 18 years yesterday, which I celebrated for him well well, I believe he will have the same mind set with you now but I know he will outgrown it soon because he is my son and I will teach him how to make money and be a real man.
Stay bless son

If i did not lose my first child, he would have been 18 this year.

But i know he is in heaven right now.


Many aged people dey this forum o.

In about 20years from now, many of us who joined nairaland in our 30s or 40s will be in our 60s and we will still be nairalanders lol!

Thank GOD for life.

Mariangeles:


As a man, it is better for you to always go after what you want, regardless of what had happened.

Men love, women respond to love.

When a man is in love, a new mugu is born.

He will channel the energy created for him to use and provide, into foolishly following his woman about and stalking her moves here and there while being unnecessarily insecure.

Men express love with provision/giving..

It is left for the wife to love and pamper him like a king...While maintaining her stand as a queen.

Yes, a man goes for what he needs first and wants secondly...Even the bible made it clear a man will Find his wife..

But on this we are talking about that love and in regards to modern day reality..I swear if your man love you like that, it gets to a point his ways will irritate you..And you will be the one telling him to Man up.. mbanu na.

A man who loves you, will treat you right, that alone is an expression for us men..

Na wify the pamper her hubby...Your hubby is your first son. And men will always be boys atimes...it is so natural..

Check any guy that is your age mate in the place where you were raised as a kid..You will agree with me you look and act more matured and can handle stuffs better than most of the men in your age...Reason because women are trained to be care givers from tender age...

Most men comfortably call their wify mummy.. O wunu love ndi mummy ka ochoro na ahu nwunye ya..

From experience, I will prefer my wife love me more...Onwehu ihe m na agahu emere ya..Obi m di clean..As longer as no manipulation.

In return she gets the best treat I can give..And when a woman is treated well by her man, she is literally blind to other men advancing...

Lastly, a man can tell you he loves you 10times in one minute, but actually he is real with 3 or 4..

But if a woman open her mouth to tell a man she loves him, she is speaking from a deep place mainly..Pure wnd and undiluted...So with these epistles of love I hope I av convinced you and not confuse you..

Women have the bigger heart to love...Her love is the strength she uses to undergo Oga's pounding, nurse the offsprings and release them after 9months, do most of the upbringing work and maintain the hubby care and child care and manage the home till old age..Even while supporting her man with provision..

Unu nwe love biko...

Of course I will love my woman, but she will love me more..For real.

Read the male comments, you will agree we have a thing to have a woman who loves us more.

The rainy days are inevitable...Her love for her man keeps them going.

The one that loves me
But big yansh is life Sha

hopexter:


A woman’s love might not mean much to you, I have a mother and her love means a lot to me right from infant till this day. All I’m saying is it’s better to marry who loves you to who you love. Cos a woman’s love is engraved with faithfulness, protection and respect. She will never allow harm into your way.

But there are grave repercussions in which ever! Another day’s discussion

What are the repercussions, please? Another day is just too far for me!

Amarisco:
E dey pain am

Na you wey need marriage by fire by force e suppose dey pain na.

You go soon change church again because your prayers for a horse-band in your current church no dey work.

Nonsense.

bluefilm:


Na you wey need marriage by fire by force e suppose dey pain na.

You go soon change church again because your prayers for a horse-band in your current church no dey work.

Nonsense.

Oga go siddan. See how your thumbs are even throbbing

luminouz:


Ok...so what about lunch?

Your corner won't still agree no matter what I post...why bother na?
You go like argument o

Shior - packaging plenty

Grandmeister:

No the love of a man is stronger. Ever wondered why the Holy book told men to love their wives but told the wives to honor their husbands? A man can( and it has happened in many cases) give his own life for his friends and even for a stranger but a woman will only do that for the child she carried in her womb. The ultimate show of love is sacrifice...."Greater love hath no man than this, that a man is willing to lay down his life for his friends ". Note it didn't say for his child or wife because it's easier to do..but for a friend.

OK bro, I understand you coming from the Biblical perspective on husbands and wives . But in the context of our discussion here, we're talking about relationships (premarital). There's reciprocity in love/loving and I am bound to love her, even more, in return if I decide to marry her eventually because she loved me first. Why won't I love my wife, far more than when she was still a spinster/fiancée?

The man should have a strong feeling for the woman in the first place, and then the woman should reciprocate times 2 of it. The man should give out first to the woman, and the woman should multiply it back to the man.

Love your wife, but be convinced that your wife loves you more.
Even scripture says before we love him, he first loved us.

Man: marry the one that reciprocate your love more than you do. Not really in quantity but quality.
Woman: marry the one that you know and convinced truly loves you.

oluwaseyi0:
I was once in this dilemma

I was pursuing this girl who is forming not yet ready for relationship while there is another giving me all the green light, green light was so bright that we had sex before I even officially toast her

I realized I deserve to be love and simply go for who love me, it make my life very easy as I've never ever regret it

Safest route for anyone bt will u be content? At the end of the day it must be Mutual for it to work.

Mutual love is the best!

I'll definitely go to the person that loves me.

emmanosyclo:
The man should have a strong feeling for the woman in the first place, and then the woman should reciprocate times 2 of it. The man should give out first to the woman, and the woman should multiply it back to the man.

Love your wife, but be convinced that your wife loves you more.
Even scripture says before we love him, he first loved us.

Man: marry the one that reciprocate your love more than you do. Not really in quantity but quality.
Woman: marry the one that you know and convinced truly loves you.

You are blessed