Hello guys good day hope y'all are doing great.

Am writing this with so much grief in my heart as I feel depressed, sometimes love can come with somuch pains and joy at same time.

So recently I agreed with my fiance to relocate to a different city since she got a job over there, we agreed a scheduled time we wil have to see each other within a specific period of time. This is someone we share everything in common the love was great, she's an awesome soul to be sincere.

I got so much attached to her, that it made me felt lonely and empty when she left, due to that reason I always want to call and check up frequently, This has been going on For about 4 weeks consistently, the first red flag I noticed was that she asked me not to be calling her frequently that sometimes it's not really cool with her, I respected that fact and reduced the way I call but I was beginning to loose the trust I had for her.

She goes out with her friend frequently and they love partying, even when I consistently warn her about the late nights they keep most times in clubs and partying she keeps telling me she's not a kid and she can handle things herself. Lately the relationship have been filled with lots of argument, misunderstanding, and the trust is beginning to reduce drastically.

Yesterday she uploaded a nasty picture as her display pics on WhatsApp, she was just putting on a top without bra, though she's busty and all that, I asked her take it down and upload something more appealing and decent that am not comfortable with such pics, she began to rant and start saying all manner of things like it's her privacy,her phone, her body,and she decides what to do with it, am an African man and I don't welcome this woke mentality of women nowadays, feeling they need to be half naked to feel sexy I can't cope with such indecent dressing, I told her am not trying to tell her what to do but atleast you should respect my opinion sometimes, I got angry and sent her a very long message about my displeasure. since then she has refused to pick my calls nor reply my messages.

She tried calling earlier today but I didn't pick, I couldn't sleep through out the night the whole drama was just playing in my Head.

Guys is this enough reason to call of a relationship or are my just being too self centered? have actually made up my mind just need to hear from different and more matured people in the house.
Thanks for reading and enjoy the rest of your day.

I won't mince words as i'll tell u what you need to know

Yes, your woman is an hookup girl, olosho, pr*stit*te, just pick whichever that suits you, so u know, she has someone bankrolling her currently more than you do. It's a big red flag if she wouldn't respect your decision and it clearly means she doesn't love or no longer in love with you. Now I'll tell you this for free. A woman fears and respects the man they truly love, as she wouldn't want to loose u. You don't force it as it comes naturally.

Now I'll leave you with this question to go and pounder on...

Can you go ahead with a woman that wouldn't take your words or rather respect you as man?

I believe you've gotten the answer. Now be a man and be logical. *drops_mic

Redfillers ounje ti'de.

Pls find a way to iron your differences.

U have made up ur mind so what're you seeking advice for

OP this isn't a redpiller issue but most men need to experience ladies like these so they learn and become something of the redpillers that these guys talk about here. She's going through the 'hoe' phase and there isn't really much you can do. You seem like the soft one, the one who will do the begging, the one who will find out she's taking another di.ck and still talk to her to change her ways. Sadly you are hooked already and you will keep begging no matter the rubbish she shows you. But be grateful to her cos she's going to teach you good lessons you need to learn about women and why you must learn to place yourself above first before her.

This might help...another man is doing little or nothing to spread her legs while you are begging and crying and having sleepless nights. The earlier you get over it the better. I've gone through this before. Many years back and that made me realise that women prefer this redpillers to SIMPs like you...

While I'm not an extremist like the redpillers here i tend to identify the good girls and treat them nice. But you see the ones who are like your former gf? You get them and just f.uck them till they move on to the next dick. It's just a phase for them. Unfortunately you are with her at this time and you will suffer for it.

If you've had this experience before you'd know exactly how to handle it. Trust me the next one you'll come across you'll realise that you should just service that womanliness till the next one takes over.

omo

What you put up there as indecent is actually not indecent.

You should focus on the obvious facts,one of which is that she is getting no longer interested in you, and possibly she has got eyes for other guys.


My verdict;

Anything that will not bring you peace of mind,DISCARD IT!

Na you born am........No
Na you pay primary school fees........No
Na you pay secondary school fees........No
Na you train am................No
Na you buy the mobile phone.........No
You don wife am.............No
Na you father the girl.........No

Wetin everybody dey enjoy,e reach your turn you wan form relationship dey do oga boss..

I'm surprised at the way thunder has been ineffective, maybe I should opt for Lightening.

She is still in the market bro, "your girl" dresses indecently because she is still advertising for a customer, she is keeping her options open, if a better bidder comes along...sorry.

When a woman meets a guy who she genuinely feels is the best she can do, she'll tone down the indecent dressing sometimes unconsciously.

She is still available to be bought in the sexual market place....do what you want with this information.

ahnie:
Redfillers ounje ti'de.

Pls find a way to iron your differences.

No difference to iron out here. She wants to live a certain life that the op can't handle. Don't decieve him about handling differences. You know that wild stage where virtually every lady goes through? That's where she is now. She's interacting with guys who are not as SIMPle as the op and truth be told they are usually more fun and exciting even in bed. So I think op should just move on. She's at a stage now and words or talking or long messages don't change such. She will calm down at her own time.

If you cannot step down to her level, why can’t you step up to another level to avoid stories that touch.

See as that Olosho just dey emotionally manipulate you. The olosho just dey give you sleepless night.

You better bang that girl, dump her asap and move on. Alaye Stop simping. Stop being a pussy ass niggar.

Animals are 3rd class citizens while Nigerian girls are 7th class citizens .

I don talk am before and I go talk am again **the day I go mistakenly born girl child, I go cry like say ...... **

OyeofIkoTuN:
Na you born am........No
Na you pay primary school fees........No
Na you pay secondary school fees........No
Na you train am................No
Na you buy the mobile phone.........No
You don wife am.............No
Na you father the girl.........No

Wetin everybody dey enjoy,e reach your turn you wan form relationship dey do oga boss..

I'm surprised at the way thunder has been ineffective, maybe I should opt for Lightening.

Lmao...you too blunt...his turn don finish. Na another man turn. D babe never ready settle down and if e nor careful e go suffer emotional torture cos the more e dey try the more e go love the girl and the more e go wan fight for am. And the more the girl go dey irritate for the guy matter. Na normal cycle with girls life. Na the person wey she day with at the time when she wan go haywire dey suffer. Whereas one bad guy somewhere go dey use ordinary phone call spread here legs...

You are dating a hoe. Take it or leave it.

Oga, it is indeed her body and her phone and she can post naked pictures if she feels like it.

Now is the time to look very well before you marry her and be having huge conflicts every day.

I don't think a woman will wake up and just start being indecent, I believe she's been doing it since so how come you didn't notice it?

How long have y'all been together and when did she become your fiancee?

I'll advice you have a serious talk with yourself.

Do you want a woman that parties into the night, dresses indecently and gives you time you can call her?

Think am well.

Whatever red flag you're seeing now will be magnified in marriage.

If you can't handle her current red flag, let that woman ho in peace till she's ready to settle down cause from the look of things, she isn't o.

If she has always dressed this way before you met her, the first question is why opt in if you knew this was not cool wiv you. Secondly, a woman asking you to NOT call all the time. It's a red flag that says you are either choking her or maybe there's someone with a better Convo tickling her mind. Partying till late etc. If those are not your thing, then go look for another woman who does not do all that.

DominusPrime:


Lmao...you too blunt...his turn don finish. Na another man turn. D babe never ready settle down and if e nor careful e go suffer emotional torture cos the more e dey try the more e go love the girl and the more e go wan fight for am. And the more the girl go dey irritate for the guy matter. Na normal cycle with girls life. Na the person wey she day with at the time when she wan go haywire dey suffer. Whereas one bad guy somewhere go dey use ordinary phone call spread here legs...

gbamsolutely

Well...I will not tell you what to do, but seems like you just explained how I broke up with my girl last year!! She started by hanging out with one of her friend I knew was a core runs girl, I knew because the said friend on a particular day I visited her, was busy giving her gists about different guys she traveled to meet in various hotels, they thought I was busy with my phone and earpods...

Then she started posting for the public, her caption was now "hey guys....!! How do you rate my dance steps, Hey guys, say a word about my dressing and every other rubbish hey guys" it was no longer about us anymore...

Then the missed calls, unnecessary dramas, arguments and disappointments trooped in, well I was just smashing the damn pussy to my satisfaction because I knew it's already slipping away...

Then she started going to the bathroom to pick calls or ignore when I'm around, always traveling to see her brother without being consistent in lying, Well as a bad guy, I acted along until we were in a very good mood one day and I brought up a topic about her bro and asked how the matter ended. Her reply was:::::::

"Hmmm...I don't know, I haven't even seen that one for 2months now"

so who Aunty travel go meet last 2weeks and spent days with, wey she tell me say she dey with her brother?? I just smile tho and knew it's time to move ahead...

I told her two things before I started Ghosting her existence even till tomorrow...!!

1. If your Presence is no longer needed try Absence
2. If they no value you, value yourself

Move on.

Colephbreed:
Hello guys good day hope y'all are doing great.

Am writing this with so much grief in my heart as I feel depressed, sometimes love can come with somuch pains and joy at same time.

So recently I agreed with my fiance to relocate to a different city since she got a job over there, we agreed a scheduled time we wil have to see each other within a specific period of time. This is someone we share everything in common the love was great, she's an awesome soul to be sincere.

I got so much attached to her, that it made me felt lonely and empty when she left, due to that reason I always want to call and check up frequently, This has been going on For about 4 weeks consistently, the first red flag I noticed was that she asked me not to be calling her frequently that sometimes it's not really cool with her, I respected that fact and reduced the way I call but I was beginning to loose the trust I had for her.

She goes out with her friend frequently and they love partying, even when I consistently warn her about the late nights they keep most times in clubs and partying she keeps telling me she's not a kid and she can handle things herself. Lately the relationship have been filled with lots of argument, misunderstanding, and the trust is beginning to reduce drastically.

Yesterday she uploaded a nasty picture as her display pics on WhatsApp, she was just putting on a top without bra, though she's busty and all that, I asked her take it down and upload something more appealing and decent that am not comfortable with such pics, she began to rant and start saying all manner of things like it's her privacy,her phone, her body,and she decides what to do with it, am an African man and I don't welcome this woke mentality of women nowadays, feeling they need to be half naked to feel sexy I can't cope with such indecent dressing, I told her am not trying to tell her what to do but atleast you should respect my opinion sometimes, I got angry and sent her a very long message about my displeasure. since then she has refused to pick my calls nor reply my messages.

She tried calling earlier today but I didn't pick, I couldn't sleep through out the night the whole drama was just playing in my Head.

Guys is this enough reason to call of a relationship or are my just being too self centered? have actually made up my mind just need to hear from different and more matured people in the house.
Thanks for reading and enjoy the rest of your day.

Having loved her and showed her what love is, she has her own way of life and you may not be strong enough to stop her

Relationship has never been easy in all areas

I think she wants to be as free as a bird and explore then come back to you when she realizes that there is no one like you

I will suggest you stop getting worried about someone who is on a fast lane

She has friends who will either deceive her or make her

Just relax yourself and mind

Stop playing cheap because she does not need that for now

I am not saying you should ignore her but start responding the way she is treating you

Reduce your frequency of calling her let her live the life she has designed to live

Focus on yourself on how to build up your self to be strong to withstand the heart break that may come up or not

Be a man, take a break and watch the masquerade with its dancing steps

A time is coming when she will search for you then you can decide whether to continue or not

Just leave her until she gives you a call and when she does don't be desperate

Women like when men are all around them

Just be yourself that's why you are a man

Tomorrow will tell

Someone who can't be loyal to you can not be committed to a relationship

Who knows probably you are blocking others

Holly Gram Port Harcourt boi like u come de LOSEGUARD for BANI like dis...


My Gee!


U see for this present GENERATION wey we day, there is nothing like LOVE or RELATIONSHIP!


the earlier u know dis the better for U!


I been one use HARD words on U but as I see Port Harcourt as ur LOCATION, NaSo I maintain SOLO..



Guy na MAN u be ooo...


If house No TEACH U, street GO TEACH U..


That's all I have to say my Gee!


And not to forget.. THUNDER fire RELATIONSHIP!


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

It's well bro... it's either you eat the breakfast or serve the breakfast it's obvious you are at that stage now so make Ur move and move on....it's obvious this is not leading to the altar....

Bro you are just a SIMPle man

AsomArchitectNG:


I won't mince words as i'll tell u what you need to know

Yes, your woman is an hookup girl, olosho, pr*stit*te, just pick whichever that suits you, so u know, she has someone bankrolling her currently more than you do. It's a big red flag if she wouldn't respect your decision and it clearly means she doesn't love or no longer in love with you. Now I'll tell you this for free. A woman fears and respects the man they love, as she wouldn't want to loose u. You don't force it as it comes naturally.

Now I'll leave you with this question to go and pounder on it...

Can you go ahead with a woman that wouldn't take your words or rather respect you as man?

I believe you've gotten the answer. Now be a man and be logical. *drops_mic

No one can fear and respect you. It's either one of the two. Fear or respect.

It's better you're respected than feared.

The person who fears you will kill you when you're weak and they have the chance.

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage......If she's behaving like this now I wonder what she would do when you marry her. There're are many fishes in the river, don't waste your time with an idiot.

See another male chauvinist
Why are you insecure?
Give yourself peace


I think that babe don dey eye another guy. If I were the one, I will restrict you from viewing my status . She no get sense

Na brave people dey do long distance relationship.

AsomArchitectNG:


I won't mince words as i'll tell u what you need to know

Yes, your woman is an hookup girl, olosho, pr*stit*te, just pick whichever that suits you, so u know, she has someone bankrolling her currently more than you do. It's a big red flag if she wouldn't respect your decision and it clearly means she doesn't love or no longer in love with you. Now I'll tell you this for free. A woman fears and respects the man they love, as she wouldn't want to loose u. You don't force it as it comes naturally.

Now I'll leave you with this question to go and pounder on it...

Can you go ahead with a woman that wouldn't take your words or rather respect you as man?

I believe you've gotten the answer. Now be a man and be logical. *drops_mic

Most stupid comment

I don even run out of Advice, I do not even know what to say TBH

DominusPrime:
OP this isn't a retailer issue but most men need to experience ladies like these so they learn and become something of the redpillers that these guys talk about here. She's going through the 'hoe' phase and there isn't really much you can do. You seem like the soft one, the one who will do the begging, the one who will find out she's taking another di.ck and still talk to her to change her ways. Sadly you are hooked already and you will keep begging no matter the rubbish she shows you. But be grateful to her cos she's going to teach you good lessons you need to learn about women and why you must learn to place yourself above first before her.

This might help...another man is doing little or nothing to spread her legs while you are begging and crying and having sleepless nights. The earlier you get over it the better. I've gone through this before. Many years back and that made me realise that women prefer this redpillers to SIMPs like you...

While I'm not an extremist like the redpillers here i tend to identify the good girls and treat them nice. But you see the ones who are like your former gf? You get them and just f.uck them till they move on to the next dick. It's just a house for them. Unfortunately you are with her at this time and you will suffer for it.

Your comment is rabid. U could have toned it down a bit

drnoel:


Your comment is rabid. U could have toned it down a bit

I'm sorry if you don't have the balls for it. Others saw it and smiled and even agreed its true. Besides your standard of what is described as rabid is for you and you alone. Don't use that to determine how and what I should type ok.

You should probably check this out:

https://www.nairaland.com/7166252/wahala-chaos-female-nature

One who submits to you!