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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by VULCAN(m): 12:11am On Jul 02, 2022

Notice how she spelt come as "cum".

That is all you need to know.

Her visit will lead to many things and in the end the friendship will be lost

I also pray that your life will not be lost also

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by Stevo35: 12:12am On Jul 02, 2022

Rape case loading....

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by ToyinDipo(m): 12:12am On Jul 02, 2022

....like to CUM OVA, wahala

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by xest(m): 12:16am On Jul 02, 2022

JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

na lie Aunty,go back to that text message and read it again to understand it properly well

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by grandstar(m): 12:19am On Jul 02, 2022

JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

Oga, everyone will carry his own load. He is probably being wiser than most people here. What may seem very innocent may lead to disaster (Read Proverbs 27:12).

It is better to be safe than sorry.

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by Af0nja: 12:20am On Jul 02, 2022

Kobojunkie:
A wife is not a toddler or a teenager abeg!

So making deals behind the back of your husband is what makes an adult

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by Anonymoususher: 12:21am On Jul 02, 2022

I have been battling same thing with my childhood friend's girlfriend of 9yrs.

My friend is one of the Best Human being I have met. We have been through alot together yet haven't quarrelled OR fought since our childhood.

He started dating this girl I think since 2012 OR so and I got to be friends with her too.

Being that I am doing better than him, as my blossom friend without asking him I gave him a start up capital to start up a business and quit his poor job (he paid back though), I also gave him money to rent an accommodation and leave his parents house because I didn't like the fact that he was still squatting.

His girlfriend happens to be my friend too (got close to her through my friend) and to her I have also been supportive especially with her accommodation which I gave to my friend to give to her, somehow she got to know that I was the one that raised the money.

My problem is that she will come visit me to discuss issues bothering her, I always feel uncomfortable whenever she comes then I make sure we stay outside and not inside. Many atimes she seeks my opinion without even seeking her man's own then when I ask her if she has spoken with my friend she says he is busy.

I only go-to her side along with my friend and most times she will say, you no dey come find person unless your friend follow you.

Recently she was angry with me because she invited me to come eat what she prepared but I didn't go.

All these makes me uncomfortable, my friend is a great guy and I will be sad if he starts thinking otherwise.

I have my fiancee I love to the core and I pray she herself doesn't misunderstand what I am avoiding

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by Kobojunkie: 12:27am On Jul 02, 2022

Af0nja:
So making deals behind the back of your husband is what makes an adult

Making what deal? She asked to help a man who helped her family out of a predicament, with house chores since his wife is absent. She is not a child and is hence competent enough to know what makes sense and what does not in her own situation and for her own family's welfare. undecided

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by iamme1234(m): 12:28am On Jul 02, 2022

JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

Am not sure you think down before writing this shit
What's her motive of coming
If not for sex,if its house chores true true why didnt the said lady tell her own husband instead of the man that helps her own husband financially
Go and seat down kid

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by vince96w2(m): 12:31am On Jul 02, 2022

JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

you are talking as if sex is one way..what if it's her way to get close and seduce him actually? They have said Thank you .Why is she sending him such text again?Am damn sure her husband isn't aware of this..

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by vince96w2(m): 12:32am On Jul 02, 2022

DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

Tell her you are doing fine..If she comes and her husband mistakenly meets her There, even if nothing happened, no explanation can help u

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by iamme1234(m): 12:32am On Jul 02, 2022

DamnnNiggarr:
thanks sis.

Infact you even said thanks sis
Chai weak men
Spits

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by yusufmurry: 12:34am On Jul 02, 2022

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JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

Outside sex thought, why would you even encourage such visit for two married adults?
No be only house chores she dey come assist? The guy complained that he needed assistance? Why do women think the only way to pay back good gesture is sex? Poverty isn't good at all.

Know this and have peace of mind, that 99% of men thinks of sex either at first instance or second

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by yyba: 12:35am On Jul 02, 2022

Pographice:
I have nothing to say

na lie

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by Charly500(m): 12:36am On Jul 02, 2022

Op reply saying that is not necessary

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by godwon01(m): 12:36am On Jul 02, 2022

Don't use their financial vulnerability to break their home. The woman is very innocent. She can never make any move which I am quite sure of. If you do mess up with the lady, your help is no longer to be acceptable by God and you will get the repercussions in the future. Allow the woman to visit and don't make any stupid move otherwise the implications will be disastrous for you which I don't want you to imagine.

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by yusufmurry: 12:41am On Jul 02, 2022

Kobojunkie:
Why make an issue out of a molehill?

Simply text her back thanking her for her kind offer, informing her that the help is not needed since you have your chores all covered. The end!

As simple as that
Don't mind @Kobojunkie

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by godwon01(m): 12:46am On Jul 02, 2022

galantjoe:
Never reject free food, it is risky to reject female freebie.

Let her come over, do whatever chores she wants even in a bedroom. Chop and clean mouth.

Likely a deal by her and her husband to repay your kindness.

Not a good advice bro. This is a very sensitive issues and it can happen to anybody. Remember, they are old friends and the friendship should not break like that because of one useless pussy. Just a game of +-20 minutes and split a family.

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by Af0nja: 12:47am On Jul 02, 2022

Kobojunkie:
Making what deal? She asked to help a man who helped her family out of a predicament, with house chores since his wife is absent. She is not a child and is hence competent enough to know what makes sense and what does not in her own situation and for her own family's welfare.

If you think her husband shouldn't know about it then you're irrational and a true Kobo junkie because you are mentally poor

You don't even sound free minded, you sound mentally dry with your baseless debate.

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by Af0nja: 12:52am On Jul 02, 2022

Anonymoususher:
I have been battling same thing with my childhood friend's girlfriend of 9yrs.

My friend is one of the Best Human being I have met. We have been through alot together yet haven't quarrelled OR fought since our childhood.

He started dating this girl I think since 2012 OR so and I got to be friends with her too.

Being that I am doing better than him, as my blossom friend without asking him I gave him a start up capital to start up a business and quit his poor job (he paid back though), I also gave him money to rent an accommodation and leave his parents house because I didn't like the fact that he was still squatting.

His girlfriend happens to be my friend too (got close to her through my friend) and to her I have also been supportive especially with her accommodation which I gave to my friend to give to her, somehow she got to know that I was the one that raised the money.

My problem is that she will come visit me to discuss issues bothering her, I always feel uncomfortable whenever she comes then I make sure we stay outside and not inside. Many atimes she seeks my opinion without even seeking her man's own then when I ask her if she has spoken with my friend she says he is busy.

I only go-to her side along with my friend and most times she will say, you no dey come find person unless your friend follow you.

Recently she was angry with me because she invited me to come eat what she prepared but I didn't go.

All these makes me uncomfortable, my friend is a great guy and I will be sad if he starts thinking otherwise.

I have my fiancee I love to the core and I pray she herself doesn't misunderstand what I am avoiding

You are a good man with a great conscience. Keep it up sha, sometimes when good people do such things, it doesn't work out well for them.

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by CaptainFM1: 12:55am On Jul 02, 2022

JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

Hmmm....Devine visitation!
There are two sides to a coin Sir.

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by yusufmurry: 12:56am On Jul 02, 2022

Berankis:
Some ladies are naturally and permanently born-stupid! And some guys too can be irritatingly daft.
Go ahead allow her to CUM ova to your house to show appreciation as a woman.
This is irritating! I dislike things like these.
And I sense you Op are an Opportunist & weak too and very immature. A married man acting like a Neophyte.
It's obvious this is just some women's antics. Don't mind all those bastard ladies saying your mind is going towards sex. Yes it is about sex! And if you allow her to come, please do come back to give us the gist of how you messed up your reputation and dignity.

Just my mind and thought.
Modified: Not like some women's antics, it's all women antics

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by splashbaby(m): 1:01am On Jul 02, 2022

ibechris:
Allow her to come first...

Let us not conclude yet...that was how u people told us that Buhari would make Nigeria be like America now, how far.

Allow her to come and help u and if she throw passes at u then,u can decide to shun her no be so?.

I don't like doubting anything as far as I am concern.

Again you people are still telling us Obi is better…I can’t believe una lailai…Tell her you will let her know when to come. This way it will be forever…if it’s genuine concern or not, you don’t need to experience any of the two. Meanwhile, Avoid all politicians including Obi, na restructuring we need

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by Nobody: 1:11am On Jul 02, 2022

DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

She already said it all. She says she wants to cum over. Meaning when she comes visiting. She’ll cum all over you.

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by nedekid: 1:18am On Jul 02, 2022

Kobojunkie:
Why make an issue out of a molehill?

Simply text her back thanking her for her kind offer, informing her that the help is not needed since you have your chores all covered. The end!

Simple and streight forward!

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by Boredberrry(f): 1:21am On Jul 02, 2022

Whois:
You'll be manipulated to offer them more money if you allow her to CUM over. This I have seen

why did you put the cum for block letters?

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by Yankee101: 1:27am On Jul 02, 2022

Cum?
Of course not.

Thank her and decline

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by olamilekan9(m): 1:30am On Jul 02, 2022

ibechris:
Allow her to come first...

Let us not conclude yet...that was how u people told us that Buhari would make Nigeria be like America now, how far.

Allow her to come and help u and if she throw passes at u then,u can decide to shun her no be so?
Hahaha crazy dude

I don't like doubting anything as far as I am concern.

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by godofuck231: 1:31am On Jul 02, 2022

You don't bring a rat home for dinner , they will bring in the whole colony and wreck you , you house is about to be compromised

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Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by Greatlee54: 1:42am On Jul 02, 2022

Grow up man!

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by lereinter(m): 1:43am On Jul 02, 2022

If ugochi is reading nl nko

Re: How Do You Handle This Type Of Situation? by zedegit: 1:46am On Jul 02, 2022

DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

Simply tell her that you appreciate her offer but that it wouldn't be necessary. Remember she said if you didn't mind but you mind.

Don't encourage this no matter how harmless it looks.

Besides you left too many details and clues. Who knows if the husband is in Nairaland?

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