DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

Resist her in everyway possible. You see how she stylishly used the word "CUM" lol.

DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

E be like say u get am for mind to uv canal knowledge of this your frd's wife b4. Wetin dey text wey suggest sex now? Put your yeye prik inside trousers and behave well.

Lol �. Comments are hilarious.
Someone who text cum instead of come.
Na wahala be that o.
She also know that your wife no dey house. That is the perfect storm.
2 choices my Friend. 2 choices
1 . You let her cum ova and thank you or
2. You decline the invitation and avoid the obvious temptation.

Bro u may have helped ur guy out financially but u have always had eyes for his wife shaa...that's bad...very bad bro..

DamnnNiggarr:
not that I can't handle being at close proximity with her but...
That too much closeness with opposite sex that's not my wife almost ruin my family, my family is divided as a result of that. See link below.

https://www.nairaland.com/7152523/family-verge-destruction#113306128

Its like youre all shades of trouble. Always learn to set boundaries with the opposite sex so that your wife will not keep accussing you of INFIDELITY. Na only you?

Op you're the problem
You've an eye on your friends wife

So many little kids on this forum.
NOW LISTEN, WHEN A LADY USES CUM instead of COME, She is asking for somethng else. Be wise.

DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

Erm, is "No thank you, that wouldnt be necessary", so HARD for you to text and send?
Is the Nigerian government blocking text messages these days unless it passes through Nairaland or what?
Male attention seekers. SMH.

Not everything should be posted on social media. That shows your immaturity and lack of decision.
if you know you can't control your sex urge due to high libido, tell her straight not to come.
MY DEAR ISSUE LIKE THIS IS NOT FOR HERE. YOU DON FALL MY HAND.

And she used CUM instead of COME Flee from the devil

JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

Just thank her and tell her No need.

Hmmmmmmm

Super story...this guy just sat in his room and made up a story.

How is this difficult?
Tell her you don't need any help and also thank the husband for allowing his wife

Poster, I know you are lying , but continue

DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

My brother RUN.
You don't need any more message here oh; let's decode her message together


Why did she spell come as CUM despite her apparently flawless text?



Why did she say "appreciate as a woman"

Why did she hint that Ur wife isn't around?


Offcourse a female animal goes to where Dias abundant food naturally. It's her biological instinct playing out. Her womb is gravitating towards a male with an empty nest,plenty food and who can take care of her offspring.
This is pure nature and nature can be very wicked.


If you love Ur wife and Ur peace of mind just avoid her.
Simply ignore the text; don't dare flirt beyond that text or soon U will understand that "no matter how toto water small,E dey reach preek baff"



Thank you.

Anonymoususher:
I have been battling same thing with my childhood friend's girlfriend of 9yrs.

My friend is one of the Best Human being I have met. We have been through alot together yet haven't quarrelled OR fought since our childhood.

He started dating this girl I think since 2012 OR so and I got to be friends with her too.

Being that I am doing better than him, as my blossom friend without asking him I gave him a start up capital to start up a business and quit his poor job (he paid back though), I also gave him money to rent an accommodation and leave his parents house because I didn't like the fact that he was still squatting.

His girlfriend happens to be my friend too (got close to her through my friend) and to her I have also been supportive especially with her accommodation which I gave to my friend to give to her, somehow she got to know that I was the one that raised the money.

My problem is that she will come visit me to discuss issues bothering her, I always feel uncomfortable whenever she comes then I make sure we stay outside and not inside. Many atimes she seeks my opinion without even seeking her man's own then when I ask her if she has spoken with my friend she says he is busy.

I only go-to her side along with my friend and most times she will say, you no dey come find person unless your friend follow you.

Recently she was angry with me because she invited me to come eat what she prepared but I didn't go.

All these makes me uncomfortable, my friend is a great guy and I will be sad if he starts thinking otherwise.

I have my fiancee I love to the core and I pray she herself doesn't misunderstand what I am avoiding

Create a situation where your fiancee would be around when ever she is visiting. Introduce her to your fiancee and and vice versa and make sure during the few hours she would stay, you shower enough love and attention to your fiancee

When ever she invites you for dinner or launch, tell her your fiancee brought or cooked some, the she need not to border.

Do this repeatedly a couple of times or more and she will naturally withdraw

I think the family need more help from you if he's truly your friend and you wish and have the power to assist please call your friend and his wife over ask him on ways you can upgrade his life so he won't come for house rent renewal again because the house rent will soon expire ,be kind enough with godly fear and forget everything about the wife,may the lord heal your weaknesses and bless you for blessing others

JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

Stop shifting blames on the man. Why would a married woman want to go visit her husbands friend to be assisting with chores. It's natural to think sex whether u admit it or not but u lots like decieving urselves. I doubt even her husband is aware of that text message as no right thinking man would allow that. He doesn't even need any assistance or her recipocration to his "kind gesture" he did his friend a favour and not the wife. Even her suggestive use of words was deliberate to cause his mind to wander towards what she expected of him. No be only church mind. The type of orientation wives have these days na wah. No wonder boys easily fûck married women. Stop backing nonsense. Any body with little sense can read between the lines of that message. And u be woman sef... U are either very ignorant or u deliberately choose to not understand the true message in that text. Learn to always read between the lines

stanvesco:



My brother RUN.
You don't need any more message here oh; let's decode her message together


Why did she spell come as CUM despite her apparently flawless text?



Why did she say "appreciate as a woman"

Why did she hint that Ur wife isn't around?


Offcourse a female animal goes to where Dias abundant food naturally. It's her biological instinct playing out. Her womb is gravitating towards a male with an empty nest,plenty food and who can take care of her offspring.
This is pure nature and nature can be very wicked.


If you love Ur wife and Ur peace of mind just avoid her.
Simply ignore the text; don't dare flirt beyond that text or soon U will understand that "no matter how toto water small,E dey reach preek baff"



Thank you.

You're a smart man. She is a very bad woman and has already made up her mind to pay in kind with sex. The text is very easy to decode except that person is really daft like a lot of people here are showing to be. And I can bet her husband is in the dark about this arrangement

[quote author=DamnnNiggarr post=114327116]My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity? [/quote

Base on the text, I don't think you mean anything bad, it's all depends on you

Berankis:
Some ladies are naturally and permanently born-stupid! And some guys too can be irritatingly daft.
Go ahead allow her to CUM ova to your house to show appreciation as a woman.
This is irritating! I dislike things like these.
And I sense you Op are an Opportunist & weak too and very immature. A married man acting like a Neophyte.
It's obvious this is just some women's antics. Don't mind all those bastard ladies saying your mind is going towards sex. Yes it is about sex! And if you allow her to come, please do come back to give us the gist of how you messed up your reputation and dignity.

Infact, I begin to believe that women have fish brain.
Indeed ,they are something else.
Going to wash man's clothes that is not ur husband, daddy or ur sick brother without wife in his own house.


If she is honest, why dnt she tell her to bring them to their house to wash them for him?

DamnnNiggarr:
My Bossom childhood friend was financially down and needed financial assistance because his landlord was suffocating him with his constant nagging. So he contacted me as his old guy and and told me the situation on ground and requested for financial assistance from me. I didn't hesitate in sending him the money which he summed up with the one he had and cleared his house rent.

So, this afternoon, his wife texted me, and in her text, she thanked me for the assistance and requested to pay me a visit and and help me with some of my chores since my wife is in Bayelsa. From the very moment I set my eyes on that text, I haven't been myself knowing fully well that one thing may lead to another during her visit/stay.

That my guy is so dear to me and we treat each other with utmost respect so for this reason, I wouldn't like to loose that respect and trust. This woman is anticipating my response, according to her.

Please house, how do I discourage her from visiting me in my wife's absence without it looking as if I'm avoiding her? What does she want? Who has been in this type of situation and how did you resolve the issue without creating enmity?

It doesn't take much to decode her message and she is good at delivering it. Stay away from her if u know u don't want to complicate ur friendship. Just tell her it's unnecessary

She just want u to Yash her it's up to you truth is she will keep coming after the first bite

JovialJune:
Smh!!! Someone decided to appreciate your kind gesture by assisting you with house chores knowing your wife is not around, and all your mind went to is sex? What is wrong with some of you men sef? Must your thoughts always be what is between your legs?

If you know you are sex starved and can't control yourself when she comes, tell her off straight, don't assume and accuse her baselessly, na church mind she wan use help you.

So she doesn't know any other way to appreciate him, if not visiting a married man to help him wash his clothes? If youre the one that they visited your husband at your absent how would you feel?

Pls handle the situation that seems right with you. We all learn a lesson one way or the other.

Na must she helps with your house chores? Abeg, tell me something I don't know

Hope she also told her huband before going to his friends house. .She also said she looking forward to his reply, thats something so fishy

Dozie32:


So she doesn't know any other way to appreciate him, if not visiting a married man to help him wash his clothes? If youre the one that they visited your husband at your absent how would you feel?

No mind am. Some people no even get common sense

xest:
na lie Aunty,go back to that text message and read it again to understand it properly well

She knows.. she's just defending the woman. A lot of women are damaged. Looking for whom to drag along. Maybe she done dey find opportunity to fück the guy since

nkemchineke:
So many little kids on this forum.
NOW LISTEN, WHEN A LADY USES CUM instead of COME, She is asking for somethng else. Be wise.

Probably they have both been indirectly flirting with each other behind thier partners. The OP is probably undecided on whether or not to fück the lady