My wife and I have been married for 6 years and have a son who is 4 years old.
She confessed to me that she has been having an affair for “about a year” with a guy from church and is around 6 weeks pregnant based off when she had her last period. The last time we had sex was yesterday, before that the last time was maybe 4 months ago. She told me that she pretty much only had sex with me because she thought maybe she could make it seem like the baby is mine.

From what I understand, she hasn’t told her affair partner that she is pregnant. She showed me the last texts between them (it looked like there were some that were deleted). He asked her to call him when she could, and he replied with she needed some space from him and to not contact her anymore. She told me she will end it officially with him and was crying begging me to forgive her. I told her that I needed space and went into our bedroom and locked the door (which is where I am now). I could hear her sobbing a little while ago but it sounds like she’s stopped.

I posted on relationship_advice and a lot of the replies were validating but not helpful for the kind of advice I need right now. I’m going to have to face her tomorrow morning and our son will be there. I don’t know what to say to her. I know he’s only 4 and I don’t know how much of this he will remember but I never want him to see me speak to his mother with anything except respect. I grew up with divorced parents who hated each other and I don’t want that for him. I don’t know how I feel about her right now, I’m too angry but I’m pretty sure things aren’t salvageable.

Take your son for DNA test. If positive, kill the mother.
If negative, kill both.

Use poison.


Modus operandi:
Smile a lot in the days leading up to this act.
Forgive her. Act like you've come to terms with the situation. If abortion is decided, support her. If successful, act relieved and happy. Behave well. Buy goodies for the family. Defend her furiously if attacked by nosy friends/family. Allow sufficient time to pass so you won't be suspected (months).


Strike.

VeryWickedMan:
Take your son for DNA test. If positive, kill the mother.
If negative, kill both.

Use poison.

Indeed a wicked man

VeryWickedMan:
Take your son for DNA test. If positive, kill the mother.
If negative, kill both.

Use poison.

Thunder fire your left nyash goat

Very wicked person indeed

My friend take the normal procedure joor

VeryWickedMan:
Take your son for DNA test. If positive, kill the mother.
If negative, kill both.

Use poison.


Modus operandi:
Smile a lot in the days leading up to this act.
Forgive her. Act like you've come to terms with the situation. If abortion is decided, support her. If successful, act relieved and happy. Behave well. Buy goodies for the family. Defend her furiously if attacked by nosy friends/family. Allow sufficient time to pass where you won't be suspected (months).


Strike.

Ahhh on top wetin na

Uncle , dash her to that guy and find a brand new one case closed, next please.

I'm not saying that you're lying ooo.


I just don't believe your story.

VeryWickedMan:
Take your son for DNA test. If positive, kill the mother.
If negative, kill both.

Use poison.


Modus operandi:
Smile a lot in the days leading up to this act.
Forgive her. Act like you've come to terms with the situation. If abortion is decided, support her. If successful, act relieved and happy. Behave well. Buy goodies for the family. Defend her furiously if attacked by nosy friends/family. Allow sufficient time to pass where you won't be suspected (months).


Strike.

I Dey fear una for here ooooo

VeryWickedMan:
Take your son for DNA test. If positive, kill the mother.
If negative, kill both.

Use poison.


Modus operandi:
Smile a lot in the days leading up to this act.
Forgive her. Act like you've come to terms with the situation. If abortion is decided, support her. If successful, act relieved and happy. Behave well. Buy goodies for the family. Defend her furiously if attacked by nosy friends/family. Allow sufficient time to pass where you won't be suspected (months).


Strike.

Your advice is inhumane, things like this ain't a joke for the man @ this period.

@OP, my advice for you is just relax yourself. Don't get too upset, cause it might lead you to destruction. As I man, I know it's going to be hard to forgive her but find a way to solve this amicably

Forget her tears, let her go.

VeryWickedMan:
Take your son for DNA test. If positive, kill the mother.
If negative, kill both.

Use poison.
Strike.

Mad fool.
Never have you ever dropped any sensible comment.

As for op,
As much as I would have liked you to forgive her, mainly for the sake of your son.

I would also want to consider your happiness and peace of mind.
If you can find a way to forgive her and move on good. Do so and try to work on your marriage.(let bygones be bygones)
Try to build a better home.

But if you can't forgive her,or somehow you feel you would resent her and hold it against her .

There is no point staying in the marriage, your son would have to accept his fate.
You happiness matters as well.

Please send her away immediately

Crocodile tears works like magic

Forgive and Forget
Be a real man

Safe your marriage
No need for DNA your women loves you so don't do anything that will make her no trust you

Enjoy your marriage

LoveUdie:
My wife and I have been married for 6 years and have a son who is 4 years old.
She confessed to me that she has been having an affair for “about a year” with a guy from church and is around 6 weeks pregnant based off when she had her last period. The last time we had sex was yesterday, before that the last time was maybe 4 months ago. She told me that she pretty much only had sex with me because she thought maybe she could make it seem like the baby is mine.

From what I understand, she hasn’t told her affair partner that she is pregnant. She showed me the last texts between them (it looked like there were some that were deleted). He asked her to call him when she could, and he replied with she needed some space from him and to not contact her anymore. She told me she will end it officially with him and was crying begging me to forgive her. I told her that I needed space and went into our bedroom and locked the door (which is where I am now). I could hear her sobbing a little while ago but it sounds like she’s stopped.

I posted on relationship_advice and a lot of the replies were validating but not helpful for the kind of advice I need right now. I’m going to have to face her tomorrow morning and our son will be there. I don’t know what to say to her. I know he’s only 4 and I don’t know how much of this he will remember but I never want him to see me speak to his mother with anything except respect. I grew up with divorced parents who hated each other and I don’t want that for him. I don’t know how I feel about her right now, I’m too angry but I’m pretty sure things aren’t salvageable.

You will contract HIV and die if you don't leave that woman , a cheating partner can never change but will change pattern

LoveUdie:
My wife and I have been married for 6 years and have a son who is 4 years old.
She confessed to me that she has been having an affair for “about a year” with a guy from church and is around 6 weeks pregnant based off when she had her last period. The last time we had sex was yesterday, before that the last time was maybe 4 months ago. She told me that she pretty much only had sex with me because she thought maybe she could make it seem like the baby is mine.

From what I understand, she hasn’t told her affair partner that she is pregnant. She showed me the last texts between them (it looked like there were some that were deleted). He asked her to call him when she could, and he replied with she needed some space from him and to not contact her anymore. She told me she will end it officially with him and was crying begging me to forgive her. I told her that I needed space and went into our bedroom and locked the door (which is where I am now). I could hear her sobbing a little while ago but it sounds like she’s stopped.

I posted on relationship_advice and a lot of the replies were validating but not helpful for the kind of advice I need right now. I’m going to have to face her tomorrow morning and our son will be there. I don’t know what to say to her. I know he’s only 4 and I don’t know how much of this he will remember but I never want him to see me speak to his mother with anything except respect. I grew up with divorced parents who hated each other and I don’t want that for him. I don’t know how I feel about her right now, I’m too angry but I’m pretty sure things aren’t salvageable.

pls forgive her.......

LoveUdie:
My wife and I have been married for 6 years and have a son who is 4 years old.
She confessed to me that she has been having an affair for “about a year” with a guy from church and is around 6 weeks pregnant based off when she had her last period. The last time we had sex was yesterday, before that the last time was maybe 4 months ago. She told me that she pretty much only had sex with me because she thought maybe she could make it seem like the baby is mine.

From what I understand, she hasn’t told her affair partner that she is pregnant. She showed me the last texts between them (it looked like there were some that were deleted). He asked her to call him when she could, and he replied with she needed some space from him and to not contact her anymore. She told me she will end it officially with him and was crying begging me to forgive her. I told her that I needed space and went into our bedroom and locked the door (which is where I am now). I could hear her sobbing a little while ago but it sounds like she’s stopped.

I posted on relationship_advice and a lot of the replies were validating but not helpful for the kind of advice I need right now. I’m going to have to face her tomorrow morning and our son will be there. I don’t know what to say to her. I know he’s only 4 and I don’t know how much of this he will remember but I never want him to see me speak to his mother with anything except respect. I grew up with divorced parents who hated each other and I don’t want that for him. I don’t know how I feel about her right now, I’m too angry but I’m pretty sure things aren’t salvageable.

Before you call that boy your son go and conduct a DNA test on him

Profmetoo:
I'm not saying that you're lying ooo.


I just don't believe your story.

Nigeria woman like you can never be trusted

Women are over taking men in the game of cheating... I always urge every single guy to be very careful of the kind of woman they marry... I don't subscribe to cheating from any gender but truth remains that a man cheating and a woman cheating is never thesame thing..

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Seriously? You're still asking for advise on what is crystal clear like this? And about the boy there's nothing u can hide las las he will still know so it better for him to know now than later when he's big n maybe hear another story entirely different from what happened and then he will hate you thinking you leave him and his mom.

Crazy. The kind of marriages going these days.

Do not talk to her tomorrow because you might be angrier. Leave the house for some days to calm your emotions and gather your thoughts before your next line of action. My 2kobo.

Op follow that very wicked man advice. Before calling that boy your son, go for a dna test. Your wife is a very wicked woman. She almost pinned this pregnancy on you. Some women have no regard for marriage at all.

VeryWickedMan:
Take your son for DNA test. If positive, kill the mother.
If negative, kill both.

Use poison.


Modus operandi:
Smile a lot in the days leading up to this act.
Forgive her. Act like you've come to terms with the situation. If abortion is decided, support her. If successful, act relieved and happy. Behave well. Buy goodies for the family. Defend her furiously if attacked by nosy friends/family. Allow sufficient time to pass so you won't be suspected (months).


Strike.

Hey!! God
Done people done kolo for this life

Yeye...... Nonsense storyteller.

LoveUdie:
My wife and I have been married for 6 years and have a son who is 4 years old.
She confessed to me that she has been having an affair for “about a year” with a guy from church and is around 6 weeks pregnant based off when she had her last period. The last time we had sex was yesterday, before that the last time was maybe 4 months ago. She told me that she pretty much only had sex with me because she thought maybe she could make it seem like the baby is mine.

From what I understand, she hasn’t told her affair partner that she is pregnant. She showed me the last texts between them (it looked like there were some that were deleted). He asked her to call him when she could, and he replied with she needed some space from him and to not contact her anymore. She told me she will end it officially with him and was crying begging me to forgive her. I told her that I needed space and went into our bedroom and locked the door (which is where I am now). I could hear her sobbing a little while ago but it sounds like she’s stopped.

I posted on relationship_advice and a lot of the replies were validating but not helpful for the kind of advice I need right now. I’m going to have to face her tomorrow morning and our son will be there. I don’t know what to say to her. I know he’s only 4 and I don’t know how much of this he will remember but I never want him to see me speak to his mother with anything except respect. I grew up with divorced parents who hated each other and I don’t want that for him. I don’t know how I feel about her right now, I’m too angry but I’m pretty sure things aren’t salvageable.

You may need some time, please don't be in haste to decide. I know you hurt and the act is painful and despicable but you need some help now. Call a close friend or speak to someone with a better sense of reasoning, you can get a professional to help you with your emotions and pain or a clergy man who can offer some emotional healing. After that make your decision without heavy sentiment or pain. Look at the pros and cons and see if she's truly repentant. You can ask for separation for a while to work on each other then come back and work out the relationship.
PLEASE DON'T DIVORCE HER IN HASTE!
I feel her conscience is eating her up, so she's hurting too. I feel she wants the marriage to work, you can both sit down and find ways to move forward. Please remember this too shall pass.

Hmm,I don't really understand marriage of this days,I think social media and this phone era contribute alot to this madness going on among married couples.you hardly see a married lady loyal to their marriage,they did not see anything bad fucking outside there matrimonial home.if catched some don't even feel remorse about it.They feel like "did I kill person ".

She's not sorry. She only told you because she got pregnant and sooner or later you will find out. Assuming the date adds up from the last time you both had sex then she won't tell you anything. Send her packing or pack your things out. Forgive her but don't take her back and also make sure you carry out a DNA test on your son.

Marriage of this days ehn. Why will you be married and not have sex with your wife for 4 months wetin happen. She's emotionally detached from you since, you just didn't pick up the clue. Once your wife starts refusing sex then just know the marriage is over.

VeryWickedMan:
Take your son for DNA test. If positive, kill the mother.
If negative, kill both.

Use poison.


Modus operandi:
Smile a lot in the days leading up to this act.
Forgive her. Act like you've come to terms with the situation. If abortion is decided, support her. If successful, act relieved and happy. Behave well. Buy goodies for the family. Defend her furiously if attacked by nosy friends/family. Allow sufficient time to pass so you won't be suspected (months).


Strike.

I second this, OP.

were you not the one who wrote a thread that got to front page about "your husband starving you of sex"?

how come you are now a husband with a cheating wife? in this thread?

o.p is a fake story teller . save your advise people! this story is fake.

sshyne:
She's not sorry. She only told you because she got pregnant and sooner or later you will find out. Assuming the date adds up from the last time you both had sex then she won't tell you anything. Send her packing or pack your things out. Forgive her but don't take her back and also make sure you carry out a DNA test on your son.

Marriage of this days ehn. Why will you be married and not have sex with your wife for 4 months wetin happen. She's emotionally detached from you since, you just didn't pick up the clue. Once your wife starts refusing sex then just know the marriage is over.

the story is fake. save your energy biko