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what is the point of this question?

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I guess you are not married then.

Comrade

Carcholce:
This is why it’s good to marry two wives. Both wives cannot be acting like witch at the same time. They will always be at competition to kill you with sex.

This is true. Nothing to add.

But men also are at fault here. You left the girlfriend of your youth that probably loved you to wife another and even enticed her with money.

Well, can't eat your cake and have it.

When the man is stingy to his wife
Most men also settled for women they don't love and be treating her anyhow

odinson1:
The simple reason is, she doesn't love you bro. She married you only because she had no other option at the time. Know this that a woman will break all rules, raise hell if she has to, to have sex with a man she likes. If she's constantly giving you excuses for an extended period of time, or making demands before she allows you in, it means you're sexually unattractive to her bro, she settled for you.

Women will come on this thread now and give nonsense excuses about her being tired, depressed etc but for how long can one be consistently tired that she only has sex with her husband once in 3 months?

Why are you men just so blind to reality? Damn! You'll jus rush into marriage because of love without making sure the person you're marrying isn't settling for you. You'll give her a comfortable live in the marriage, she'll deny you sex and you'll come to Nairaland to ask for advice.

Women will tell you to continue treating her right, talk things out with her etc. But it never works, trust me. If your wife settled for you, she'll deny you sex and use it to control you. When she needs a new handbag that is very expensive, she'll deny you sex and wait for you to buy it for her first before she allows you in.

Then she repeats the process for another demand and so on and so forth. Is that how you want to live the rest of your life as a man? Begging and paying your WIFE for sex. I'm tired of you men really, y'all lack balls and that is why women use Sex to control you.

odinson1:


You didn't see where i mentioned CONSISTENT on my post?
If a woman consistently tells you that she isn't in the mood every time you ask,doesn't common sense tell you that the woman isn't sexually attracted to you?
But I expected a reply like this though, women and flimsy excuses
So you'll deny your husband of sex for months because you're not in the mood? How can you not be in the mood even once a month?

And Don't try to shame men for Wanting to have sex with the woman THEY LEGALLY MARRIED AND PROVIDE FOR.
You're being deceptive here like women don't like sex just as much as men. When there are hoes on the streets with hundreds of body counts. When a woman gets married to a man she doesn't like,it means she settled for him,and him she settled for him, he'll disgust her Sexually. So she denies the man sex every damn time and comes up with flimsy excuses like not in the mood,tired,period etc
Bull****! Nothing can excuse denying your husband sex CONSISTENTLY For months.

Before you argue, keyword is CONSISTENTLY.

You even have time explaining to her.

You really exposed them with their nagging nose

Slurity:
If every man is like me, (sex) will be an irrelevant topic. Overrated thing

I swear, there are other productive things to do really.

MrBrownJay1:


bro, you are highly confusing the issue... just because women can stay off sex does not mean they dont want sex, it means they can CONTROL THEMSELVES AND GO WITHOUT, while for us men its a different ball game.

Control what! I think you should hang around women more and understand them. Them no dey control any shit. Men got more control than women. My ex almost messed my head while I follow the rule honestly, she was taking the D behind my back and finally got married to her sugar daddy. She was so holy and all that, when I told my friends they were shocked. A man can go without sex for months than women. I am a classic example of such simp way back then. No married/single woman can stay without sex for a month without show. No let anybody lie to you it biological as long she get her central flow.

I can make excuse for pregnancy, infection, illness, multilation (castrated woman), Stress from work, raising kids and house chore sometimes religious rite like during fasting and co. Anything outside that Nah story.

odinson1:


This is another excuse,if a woman likes you, she'll always want to have sex with you. If you aren't good in the game, she'll teach you.
Women break rules for men they like,and Make rules for men they don't like.
Don't let the lies women say get in your head bro

Before I say anything I want to ask you this question . Are you a married man ?

The ones that had sex with you and your kind, how did you look at them and treat them? Entitled feeling self absorbed self centered entities. Enjoy the women you deserve. Funny society. What does if a woman likes you she will always want to have sex with you even mean. Is it about ONLY YOU? Useless entitled feeling rapists.

Jephyard:
Control what! I think you should hang around women more and understand them. Them no dey control any shit. Men got more control than women. My ex almost messed my head while I follow the rule honestly, she was taking the D behind my back and finally got married to her sugar daddy. She was so holy and all that, when I told my friends they were shocked. A man can go without sex for months than women. I am a classic example of such simp way back then. No married/single woman can stay without sex for a month without show. No let anybody lie to you it biological as long she get her central flow.

bro, a woman who doesnt respect you as a man is a different issue entirely. your ex was a broke aass undercover wh0re who just used you as stepping stone until she found someone richer to be with. you cant possibly compare her with decent women who may (or not) want to have sex with their husband.

ultimately, you should rejoice that the low life dirty wh0re (you called your "gf" is out of your life and, somehow take part of the blame for not seeing through her charade.

again, women interact with us men differently, and as much as sex is important to us all...we menfocus on sex from the get go, while for women it aint a necessity for them (to get close to someone).

In the absence of any response , I will say this .When you marry ,even the ones that were having sex like bunnies from dating into marriage, frequency of sex will ultimately reduce . Secret or dating sex is different from marriage sex . While dating , sex is usually about prowess , skills and the quantity . In marriage it should gradually turn into quality and Mastering each other’s bodies . So one smashing can last a week or more .

many guys are so used to smashing Ashawos who have no right to orgasm and they transfer that behaviour to their wives without bothering to learn . Imagine for one second that women have the ability to cum before men . Men for don run finish from marriages .

Now a lot of things can contribute to little sex in marriage . Lack of love, breaking of trust, domestic violence/abuse , Child birth , economic situation , stress , low libido on both sides , health , living conditions etc . So you are partly right because it’s one of many reasons .

Carcholce:
This is why it’s good to marry two wives. Both wives cannot be acting like witch at the same time. They will always be at competition to kill you with sex.

Though I don't blv in polygamy, but you have said d truth.

I can't fault ur assertion in any guise.
To buttress ur point, if u want to be happy, choose one of two: marry more than one wife, or -for those of us who for religious beliefs do not subscribe to polygamy, it's better to remain unmarried!

odinson1:


This is another excuse,if a woman likes you, she'll always want to have sex with you. If you aren't good in the game, she'll teach you.
Women break rules for men they like,and Make rules for men they don't like.
Don't let the lies women say get in your head bro

Brah, too much sense wee nor kee u!
#copied and understood!

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MrBrownJay1:


dont mistake someone who is willing to COMMUNICATE with their partner in order to fully understand the issue, with a man thinking with his dikc and not caring about what may be going on. is it difficult to sit your woman down and ask her whats going on?!

There's no explanation a woman will give that will justify her denying her husband sex for months and months with no end not when she is not critically sick. Even a depressed woman will try to have sex if not for anything, at least for the intimacy.

Secondly you must be a novice if you believe a woman especially a married woman will open up and tell her husband that she is no longer sexually attracted to him anymore. Especially when she knew she married him simply because he was the only one available and willing to marry her at when they got married.

The best you will get out of her is that she is depressed as a result of child bearing which in most cases is a big fat manipulative lie most married women use to justify why they are no longer sexually attracted to their husbands.

I bet you that woman that is not in a mode to have sex with her husband, is 100% ready to have sex with a total stranger as long as she will not be caught, exposed and judged by society...

Lastly it's quiet unfortunate that we still have large percentage of men who still think and believe that women are innocent and inexperience in the sexual and manipulative games.

Carcholce:
This is why it’s good to marry two wives. Both wives cannot be acting like witch at the same time. They will always be at competition to kill you with sex.

If all the conditions are met, that is just the right thing

Blessedmercy8:
Not true. A woman can love you and not be in the mood. The problem with you men is that you are so highly insensitive and all you care about is you yourself and you especially when it comes to sex. It's like a woman should not have a say over her own body just to please you.

When last did anyone have d 'mood'to wake up and go to work? We don't have the mood to wake up from our cosy bed and go to work yet we still do. You know why? It's bcus there are dire consequences for such actions:
It's either:
(1) you receive no pay
2) you are laid off.
So what do you and I do, we tuck-in dt 'mood' under our mattress and off we go to work contrary to how we feel.

Why don't we say, "ah-ahn, my boss shd understand that I am not in the mood to come to work 4 days in a week"? Yet we expect our spouses to understand that we are not in d mood for our conjugal duties for months, yet in those weeks/months, the 'wife's still expects d husband to do his own part of d deal as husband (putting food on d table, dropping money for her expenses etc).

The thunder dt will fire dt 'mood' is already doing pressup.

If a woman is not in the mood and you keep complaining and forcing yourself on her, she'll begin to dislike you. Me I will just hate you. Let me not even mince words here.

But she can be in d mood to collect demand money from d man shey?

Men should learn to exert their energy in more productive things than always whining about sex all the time.

You forgot that 'sex' is one of the terms of engagement in d contract (aka marriage) shey?
It's like a cleaner complaining that his employer shd give him a break from cleaning and that he shd stop whining about asking her to do d exact duty upon which d need to employ her arose in d first place. If she doesn't do d exact job she was employed for, who will? The maiguard?
It's obvious most females don't really understand what marriage is all about. They think it's all about d ring and d 'Mrs.' title.

Love has nothing to do with mood. You can love and not be in the mood. Besides, the woman's body is flesh, not iron that you'll be pounding all the time and she won't get tired. Abeg, make una carry that una iron bender body park well. Biko!

Everytime sex sex.

See small pikin talk. Anyways over to the Simps who still think marriage na accomplishment.

E nor consyn me.

Carcholce:
This is why it’s good to marry two wives. Both wives cannot be acting like witch at the same time. They will always be at competition to kill you with sex.

Our ancestors enjoyed every left...

Tell a genZ lady about polygamy, just know say you have activated the tiger in her.

odinson1:


This is another excuse,if a woman likes you, she'll always want to have sex with you. If you aren't good in the game, she'll teach you.
Women break rules for men they like,and Make rules for men they don't like.
Don't let the lies women say get in your head bro

And it can change at any time o

MonsieurX:
While there are elements of truth in what the OP wrote, I disagree with the idea that lack of sex in a marriage means that your wife doesn't love you.

A man must understand his woman well enough, such that sex isn't forced, it just happens. If you pay attention to your wife's emotional needs, talk to her & establish mutual understanding, romance wouldn't be lacking in the home. You have to know how to turn each other on.

Some men believe that working and getting home to tell their wives "honey, spread your legs" is what marriage is about, no! A woman will go the extra mile to please her husband if both of them have a good emotional bond, after all, sexual urge isn't limited to men alone.

Let's stop passing our limited views to others please. It's too much on social media nowadays.

You are right but money answereth all things bro. If u are rich and u take care of your wife's need well. She will have mood everyday . It will even be romantic to her to be a one-minute man
Lack of money is what is causing all these excuses
It is rich men's wives who complain of inadequate sex from their husbands and poor men who complain of sex starve by their wives. Fact

UyaiIncomparabl:
A woman will only weaponize against a man because of one of these. Viz;

* She may not be sexually attracted to you.

* You cheated on her and she caught you, hence the feelings died. Some women don't forgive cheating.

* You have terrible oral and bodily hygiene. Some men can be so nonchalant when it comes to their hygiene.

* She has a low libido or suffers from vaginal dryness, and hormonal imbalance which usually happens after childbirth, or she could even be circumcised.

* She is stressed. If you care about being sexually satisfied and her well-being, take the stress off her. A happy woman will gladly go to the ends of the earth to satisfy you - the man.

* Your sex game isn't just on point. You aren't hitting her centre of gravity. Some men are just a no-go area in bed (2 mins men and co). Look, sex is beyond just humping and jumping on a woman. If your sex game is lit and you satisfy her in other areas, she can never weaponize sex against you. Take it from me.

A woman who loves and is sexually attracted to you will bend her rules for you as long as the aforementioned issues aren't the causative factors.

Women, to avoid issues like this, endeavour to marry men you are SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO. It is very sacrosanct. Never settle.

Good summary. The OP just generalized all marriages must have same problems.

wunmi590:


Nah man wey dey force him wife split bill or no dey take care of him house responsibility him wife go dey deny se everytime

You never see woman wey dey foot house bills, still dey love and bleep her hubby scara..

Them plenty o.

Some men aren't aware a lady you married, might still not be into you like that..Just settled with you based on available man..

Only do sex for procreation and ones in a blue moon.

Frustrating.

If a married wife weaponize intimacy, The man is pushed to the walls.

lailo:

You are right but money answereth all things bro. If u are rich and u take care of your wife's need well. She will have mood everyday . It will even be romantic to her to be a one-minute man
Lack of money is what is causing all these excuses
It is rich men's wives who complain of inadequate sex from their husbands and poor men who complain of sex starve by their wives. Fact

Rib cracking comment..

MonsieurX:
While there are elements of truth in what the OP wrote, I disagree with the idea that lack of sex in a marriage means that your wife doesn't love you.

A man must understand his woman well enough, such that sex isn't forced, it just happens. If you pay attention to your wife's emotional needs, talk to her & establish mutual understanding, romance wouldn't be lacking in the home. You have to know how to turn each other on.

Some men believe that working and getting home to tell their wives "honey, spread your legs" is what marriage is about, no! A woman will go the extra mile to please her husband if both of them have a good emotional bond, after all, sexual urge isn't limited to men alone.

Let's stop passing our limited views to others please. It's too much on social media nowadays.

People don't understand the essence of that emotional bond..Very important.

If you succeed, na you go run as the man sef...Because she will build and exhibit that comfort around you.

Then, you will realize what it is for a woman to be attracted and always in the mood..Even on her monthly stuffs she will find alternative to keep you together.

I don't buy some excuses flying around..The summary is she is not into the man like that.

Munzy14:

People don't understand the essence of that emotional bond..Very important.

If you succeed, na you go run as the man sef...Because she will build and exhibit that comfort around you.

Then, you will realize what it is for a woman to be attracted and always in the mood..Even on her monthly stuffs she will find alternative to keep you together.

I don't buy some excuses flying around..The summary is she is not into the man like that.

At last, someone with maturity and emotional intelligence. All these people forming Aba made Andrew Tate on Nairaland, they think marriage is kept by muscles and ego...

Women are emotional creatures. If you understand a woman and you play your cards right, them go too mumu for you.

odinson1:
The simple reason is, she doesn't love you bro. She married you only because she had no other option at the time. Know this that a woman will break all rules, raise hell if she has to, to have sex with a man she likes. If she's constantly giving you excuses for an extended period of time, or making demands before she allows you in, it means you're sexually unattractive to her bro, she settled for you.

Women will come on this thread now and give nonsense excuses about her being tired, depressed etc but for how long can one be consistently tired that she only has sex with her husband once in 3 months?

Why are you men just so blind to reality? Damn! You'll jus rush into marriage because of love without making sure the person you're marrying isn't settling for you. You'll give her a comfortable live in the marriage, she'll deny you sex and you'll come to Nairaland to ask for advice.

Women will tell you to continue treating her right, talk things out with her etc. But it never works, trust me. If your wife settled for you, she'll deny you sex and use it to control you. When she needs a new handbag that is very expensive, she'll deny you sex and wait for you to buy it for her first before she allows you in.

Then she repeats the process for another demand and so on and so forth. Is that how you want to live the rest of your life as a man? Begging and paying your WIFE for sex. I'm tired of you men really, y'all lack balls and that is why women use Sex to control you.

WRONG WRONG WRONG!!!

Munzy14:

You never see woman wey dey foot house bills, still dey love and bleep her hubby scara..

Them plenty o.

Some men aren't aware a lady you married, might still not be into you like that..Just settled with you based on available man..

Only do sex for procreation and ones in a blue moon.

Frustrating.

If a married wife weaponize intimacy, The man is pushed to the walls.

Nah true you talk bro

TheFacelessMan:
Reminds me of the last episode of House Of Dragon.

How the young Queen was just stomaching the King with sores and crawcraw all over his body screwing her while she lay like a corpse.

NEVER marry someone who tolerates or "manages" you. Applies both ways.

ROFLMAO

AkuOlisa:
[color=#006600][/color]There's no explanation a woman will give that will justify her denying her husband sex for months and months with no end not when she is not critically sick. Even a depressed woman will try to have sex if not for anything, at least for the intimacy.

here is one for you:"honey, i am tired of you violently raping me every night with no care whatsoever, instead of you making sweet love to me. i am all dried up from the mishandling that i suffer in your hand and cant have sex any longer. if this is what you desire in bed, abeg go nyansh some dirty prostitutes!!!"

Secondly you must be a novice if you believe a woman especially a married woman will open up and tell her husband that she is no longer sexually attracted to him anymore. Especially when she knew she married him simply because he was the only one available and willing to marry her at when they got married.

if your wife cant open up to you then the problem is YOU aka the caveman who cant communicate in a decent way so that your partner can open up to you....

The best you will get out of her is that she is depressed as a result of child bearing which in most cases is a big fat manipulative lie most married women use to justify why they are no longer sexually attracted to their husbands.

you do know that some women get their toto teared up and damaged during child bearing right? would you call a woman with such damaged toto a manipulative liar OR would you just force her to have sex with you because you dont believe she is damaged?

I bet you that woman that is not in a mode to have sex with her husband, is 100% ready to have sex with a total stranger as long as she will not be caught, exposed and judged by society...

here above is your misplaced weak ego talking....you automatically believe that if a woman dont desire to have sex with you then she must desire to have sex with someone else, lol!

Lastly it's quiet unfortunate that we still have large percentage of men who still think and believe that women are innocent and inexperience in the sexual and manipulative games.

no, whats unfortunate is that we do have men today who automatically believe that a woman MUST have sex with them, regardless of how this woman feels about it. i guess in your world , the minute she doesnt want sex with you, then she is automatically guilty of trying to manipulate you (because i guess your dikc is more important than her coochie). what a sad state of mind, probably from men who see a r/ship as a war between men and women, that they must win at any cost.

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Carcholce:
This is why it’s good to marry two wives. Both wives cannot be acting like witch at the same time. They will always be at competition to kill you with sex.

I think this is what I'll do. Maybe even 3!

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MrBrownJay1:


here is one for you:"honey, i am tired of you violently raping me every night with no care whatsoever, instead of you making sweet love to me. i am all dried up from the mishandling that i suffer in your hand and cant have sex any longer. if this is what you desire in bed, abeg go nyansh some dirty prostitutes!!!"



if your wife cant open up to you then the problem is YOU aka the caveman who cant communicate in a decent way so that your partner can open up to you....



you do know that some women get their toto teared up and damaged during child bearing right? would you call a woman with such damaged toto a manipulative liar OR would you just force her to have sex with you because you dont believe she is damaged?



here above is your misplaced weak ego talking....you automatically believe that if a woman dont desire to have sex with you then she must desire to have sex with someone else, lol!



no, whats unfortunate is that we do have men today who automatically believe that a woman MUST have sex with them, regardless of how this woman feels about it. i guess in your world , the minute she doesnt want sex with you, then she is automatically guilty of trying to manipulate you (because i guess your dikc is more important than her coochie). what a sad state of mind, probably from men who see a r/ship as a war between men and women, that they must win at any cost.

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It's either you are having difficulty understanding me or you're deliberately been emotionally petty.


No where in my writing did I mention rape or anything related to that....

And the discussion was about WIFE denying their Husbands sex and not about the usual Boyfriend and girlfriend relationship.

All I am saying, is that a married woman have no moral justification to withhold sex from her husband for months some even years especially when she is not critically ill or clinically depressed.

Does that mean the man should force his self on his wife HELL NO.

any man that is in a sexless marriage should as a matter of fact dissolve that marriage or at least look for a side chicks....

Weaklings like you should continue pacifying, begging, bribing and convincing your wife's to have sex with you.

AkuOlisa:
[color=#006600][/color]It's either you are having difficulty understanding me or you're deliberately been emotionally petty.

No where in my writing did I mention rape or anything related to that....
And the discussion was about WIFE denying their Husbands sex and not about the usual Boyfriend and girlfriend relationship.

All I am saying, is that a married woman have no moral justification to withhold sex from her husband for months some even years especially when she is not critically ill or clinically depressed.

Does that mean the man should force his self on his wife HELL NO.
any man that is in a sexless marriage should as a matter of fact dissolve that marriage or at least look for a side chicks....
Weaklings like you should continue pacifying, begging, bribing and convincing your wife's to have sex with you.

i can picture you beating your chest when writing the above.... the reason some women cant go nowhere with their husbands is because of men like you who pretend they dont understand anything, and believe life should be THEIR WAY or no way whatsoever.
keep thinking with your small brain...

Man can marry more women.