I was on my own some months ago when a female friend came to me, telling me about her accomodation issues and is in desperate need of a place to stay.

she's not a girlfriend... and I'm single... I had my reservations...

but knowing how difficult accomodation is, in Lagos, I accepted against my better judgement... one week later I'm beginning to question the decision... for the following reasons...

*I already accommodate a young man who was stranded, now I have 2 folks, non that I know from Adam both stranded, under my space

*She came in with so much properties, more than 3times my existing props, (majority of them feminine and therefore useless to me) as such, my apartment is filled with more of her things than mine... mostly very unnecessary stuffs... of course I won't deny there are some useful things amongst them, especially kitchen stuffs, but nothing I wouldn't have survived without... I now feel choked in the house...

*She told me her former place was sold by the landlord and the new owner gave everyone eviction notice... But the story is beginning to change, from the bits and pieces of information I've been able to extract from her since she moved in, the real picture is closer to having issues with her former landlord and she was possibly evicted... not verified though...

*She is worryingly untidy. zero organisational skills, everything's everywhere, yet nothing is found when looking for them, I even find it hard to locate my things, because they've been displaced by hers or things like that. worse part is she does not know where she keeps anything.. she's always looking for her stuffs...

*I'm very private and I love to keep to myself, I only talk to one neighbor and due to my kind of work you can hardly tell if I'm around or not... but madam is not only loud, she's extremely noisy and nosy. if she's around the whole compound will know, loud phone calls, unnecessary arguments etc, I barely hear myself think when she's around

*since she moved in, (8 days now) she's had more guests than I've for more than 8months living here... and when they leave having messed up the whole place, she'll leave everything dirty and untidy until either I or the other young man returns to clean up...

*Attitude... when I raised up these observations with her, she didn't really banter, she accepted but she's been snubbing me ever since... in my own house again oh... lmao

But seriously guys, what do I do? is it too late to give her the stick or should I tolerate her until Jan, when she claims she'll be able to leave? if so, how do I cope with such a female?

the thing just tire me

Is not good deducing on hearing from one party. On the other hand, we can't hear her own side of the story. If what you said up there is 2rut, then you're living with semi toxic being in your own house.
Even if you tolerate her till January, "mark my words she will not leave your house" Imagine keeping malice with you in your own house ooo...

Tell her politely, let her look for somewhere else to say you're not comfortable with her stay with you anymore.

Na that same trouble make her formal landlord drive her away. Just don't make mistake of sleep with her ooo if you sleep with her, you don buy market.

Hezzyluv:

it's not funny bro... been having sleepless nights over this

Why did you let her in the first instance

You don’t need advice. Just read what you’ve written.
You should know what to do.

ajekpaks:
I was on my own some months ago when a female friend came to me, telling me about her accomodation issues and is in desperate need of a place to stay.

she's not a girlfriend... and I'm single... I had my reservations...

but knowing how difficult accomodation is, in Lagos, I accepted against my better judgement... one week later I'm beginning to question the decision... for the following reasons...

*I already accommodate a young man who was stranded, now I have 2 folks, non that I know from Adam both stranded, under my space

*She came in with so much properties, more than 3times my existing props, (majority of them feminine and therefore useless to me) as such, my apartment is filled with more of her things than mine... mostly very unnecessary stuffs... of course I won't deny there are some useful things amongst them, especially kitchen stuffs, but nothing I wouldn't have survived without... I now feel choked in the house...

*She told me her former place was sold by the landlord and the new owner gave everyone eviction notice... But the story is beginning to change, from the bits and pieces of information I've been able to extract from her since she moved in, the real picture is closer to having issues with her former landlord and she was possibly evicted... not verified though...

*She is worryingly untidy. zero organisational skills, everything's everywhere, yet nothing is found when looking for them, I even find it hard to locate my things, because they've been displaced by hers or things like that. worse part is she does not know where she keeps anything.. she's always looking for her stuffs...

*I'm very private and I love to keep to myself, I only talk to one neighbor and due to my kind of work you can hardly tell if I'm around or not... but madam is not only loud, she's extremely noisy and nosy. if she's around the whole compound will know, loud phone calls, unnecessary arguments etc, I barely hear myself think when she's around

*since she moved in, (8 days now) she's had more guests than I've for more than 8months living here... and when they leave having messed up the whole place, she'll leave everything dirty and untidy until either I or the other young man returns to clean up...

*Attitude... when I raised up these observations with her, she didn't really banter, she accepted but she's been snubbing me ever since... in my own house again oh... lmao

But seriously guys, what do I do? is it too late to give her the stick or should I tolerate her until Jan, when she claims she'll be able to leave? if so, how do I cope with such a female?

the thing just tire me

If you can summon the courage, give her your own quit notice... if you can't, manage till January and let's hope mouth will not change by then.

Hezzyluv:


Is not good deducing on hearing from one party. On the other hand, we can't hear her own side of the story. If what you said up there is 2rut, then you're living with semi toxic being in your own house.
Even if you tolerate her till January, "mark my words she will not leave your house" Imagine keeping malice with you in your own house ooo...

Tell her politely, let her look for somewhere else to say you're not comfortable with her stay with you anymore.

Na that same trouble make her formal landlord drive her away. Just don't make mistake of sleep with her ooo if you sleep with her, you don buy market.

Fantastic idea

padi94:
Why did you let her in the first instance

You ever been stranded before?

I have and knows first hand what it feels like

dawnomike:
If you can summon the courage, give her your own quit notice... if you can't, manage till January and let's hope mouth will not change by then.

Interesting

he could hv called a female friend to accommodate her...

ajekpaks:


You ever been stranded before?

I have and knows first hand what it feels like