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Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by dboY1123(m): 1:14pm On Dec 10, 2022
I'll be brief and precise, I finished my nysc this year but before I began my nysc programme I have started a small business, and I was serious with it, dedicated and trustworthy.. I gained customers in no time and things started moving the right way.. This year, February my mum started this illness, though she's been experiencing it for a while(we didn't know it's heart failure related), later in April she passed on, I'm the last born but my elder siblings didn't show much care towards her so I had to spend my money, part of my allowance to take care of her little.
But this changed recently like 6months now, I can barely buy anything, before I went to service I've saved enough, got an apartment, bed,fan, other basic things to start life after service, but now things became worse, my shop is closed, I'm into debt, I can't pay house rent, no food at home.. I started to think it could be the house I rented cz people parked out of there, maybe my gf I left her, maybe someone gave me bad money.
Many thoughts, I'm looking for job now, I need to do something and I have been strong enough! I know the challenges I faced in school now this!
I'm depressed that's just it, things changed totally.. Things got worse!!
Please help with your advice!
Note: I play bet, but I am conscious of how I spend money on that, and I have been doing that before now. I don't carry olosho or girls, I don't drink nor spend lavishly on irrelevant things.
Any advice I'll accept It and change. Thank you
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by Templee333(m): 1:32pm On Dec 10, 2022
it is cause and effect, no magic abt it. When u spend more than what u earn, ur business must colapse

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Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by dboY1123(m): 3:12pm On Dec 10, 2022
Templee333:
it is cause and effect, no magic abt it. When u spend more than what u earn, ur business must colapse

I don't think I spend more than I earn, fine I no trust my brother wey I put for shop.. But for more than a year, I spent and saved and I'm not this bad.
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by EgwunsoDOTcom: 4:16pm On Dec 10, 2022
Only Jesus Christ can liberate you from the spirit of gambling and poverty.. I wish you will call on Him as soon as you get this message.
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by Templee333(m): 4:31pm On Dec 10, 2022
EgwunsoDOTcom:
Only Jesus Christ can liberate you from the spirit of gambling and poverty.. I wish you will call on Him as soon as you get this message.
noted
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by Ok12345(f): 4:59pm On Dec 10, 2022
Oga it's the economy ooo

Inflation has made things like that.
More than 90% Nigerians are going through the same thing

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Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by dboY1123(m): 5:01pm On Dec 10, 2022
EgwunsoDOTcom:
Only Jesus Christ can liberate you from the spirit of gambling and poverty.. I wish you will call on Him as soon as you get this message.

Amen sir..
But I was gambling before, even then I was doing very fine, I think it's more than that.
It is more than the gambling part, gambling didn't give me the money I used to start business, rent my house and so on, but neither did it affect me after that.
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by frozen70(f): 8:56pm On Dec 10, 2022
dboY1123:
I'll be brief and precise, I finished my nysc this year but before I began my nysc programme I have started a small business, and I was serious with it, dedicated and trustworthy.. I gained customers in no time and things started moving the right way.. This year, February my mum started this illness, though she's been experiencing it for a while(we didn't know it's heart failure related), later in April she passed on, I'm the last born but my elder siblings didn't show much care towards her so I had to spend my money, part of my allowance to take care of her little.
But this changed recently like 6months now, I can barely buy anything, before I went to service I've saved enough, got an apartment, bed,fan, other basic things to start life after service, but now things became worse, my shop is closed, I'm into debt, I can't pay house rent, no food at home.. I started to think it could be the house I rented cz people parked out of there, maybe my gf I left her, maybe someone gave me bad money.
Many thoughts, I'm looking for job now, I need to do something and I have been strong enough! I know the challenges I faced in school now this!
I'm depressed that's just it, things changed totally.. Things got worse!!
Please help with your advice!
Note: I play bet, but I am conscious of how I spend money on that, and I have been doing that before now. I don't carry olosho or girls, I don't drink nor spend lavishly on irrelevant things.
Any advice I'll accept It and change. Thank you

I think you need to search yourself to know what makes you go broke

Is it betting

Are you living larger than life

Did you rent more than a self contain

Do you just spend with out watching the inflow of cash

Just check yourself very well
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by dboY1123(m): 5:38am On Dec 11, 2022
frozen70:


I think you need to search yourself to know what makes you go broke

Is it betting

Are you living larger than life

Did you rent more than a self contain

Do you just spend with out watching the inflow of cash

Just check yourself very well

I rented a room and parlor self con of 130k cz friends told me there ain't much difference btw d two ,self con is Luke 100k.. If things didn't go wrong I'm d type that'd save two months and I'll see d money.
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by frozen70(f): 6:39am On Dec 11, 2022
dboY1123:


I rented a room and parlor self con of 130k cz friends told me there ain't much difference btw d two ,self con is Luke 100k.. If things didn't go wrong I'm d type that'd save two months and I'll see d money.

Ok good
But what was that thing that went wrong
You don't club
You don't drink
You don't womanize

So where did you miss your step
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by dboY1123(m): 11:18am On Dec 11, 2022
frozen70:


Ok good
But what was that thing that went wrong
You don't club
You don't drink
You don't womanize

So where did you miss your step

There might be another unseen or spiritual stuff I don't know, could it be my house? I parked in last year December.. I left my gf maybe I dy give money na y.. I want to understand
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by Pacesetter2021: 11:36am On Dec 11, 2022
Now therefore, thus says the Lord of hosts, “Consider your ways and thoughtfully reflect on your conduct! You have planted much, but you harvest little; you eat, but you do not have enough; you drink, but you do not have enough to be intoxicated; you clothe yourselves, but no one is warm enough; and he who earns wages earns them just to put them in a bag with holes in it [because God has withheld His blessing].” Thus says the Lord of hosts, “Consider your ways and thoughtfully reflect on your conduct!
Haggai 1:5‭-‬7 AMP
https://bible.com/bible/1588/hag.1.5-7.AMP

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Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by frozen70(f): 12:19pm On Dec 11, 2022
dboY1123:


There might be another unseen or spiritual stuff I don't know, could it be my house? I parked in last year December.. I left my gf maybe I dy give money na y.. I want to understand

If you have searched yourself and can't find thr leaking route

Then ask your neighbors if they are passing the same experience

If so then probably the house
If not them I don't know what you guys had
that made you to drop your girlfriend

You never can tell

Did you promise her marriage
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by dboY1123(m): 1:01pm On Dec 11, 2022
frozen70:


If you have searched yourself and can't find thr leaking route

Then ask your neighbors if they are passing the same experience

If so then probably the house
If not them I don't know what you guys had
that made you to drop your girlfriend

You never can tell

Did you promise her marriage

It was when I started to feel smh that I decided to let her leave, maybe our destiny no match and herself she's not helping matters at all.. Even if I'm broke she wouldn't hesitate to ask for money. So why would I be with such a person? Meanwhile I did everything I achieved while I was single.. I'll look into myself critically..Thanks ma'am.
I just felt like since I parked in, things started changing for me, it might be wrong but I noticed. If I have money I'll pack away,.in just one year everything changed.
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by dboY1123(m): 1:04pm On Dec 11, 2022
frozen70:


If you have searched yourself and can't find thr leaking route

Then ask your neighbors if they are passing the same experience

If so then probably the house
If not them I don't know what you guys had
that made you to drop your girlfriend

You never can tell

Did you promise her marriage

Ma'am, like, money no dy stay for my hand again, and I no dy spend money like dat, but it'd like e dy disappear.. Even the capital itself not to say d gain.. If I have 100k today, on Friday it could remain 40k without spending o.. The thing is ,I play bet but I still don't think I spend dat much on it, cz I've been betting even before I rented my apartment.
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by frozen70(f): 3:26pm On Dec 11, 2022
dboY1123:


Ma'am, like, money no dy stay for my hand again, and I no dy spend money like dat, but it'd like e dy disappear.. Even the capital itself not to say d gain.. If I have 100k today, on Friday it could remain 40k without spending o.. The thing is ,I play bet but I still don't think I spend dat much on it, cz I've been betting even before I rented my apartment.

Ok. I think the best way is getting a savings container like the wooden one or piggy bank

Be saving there and don't put it in the pocket, except the one for food after a week check the piggy bank

If it disappears then something is wrong

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Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by frozen70(f): 3:27pm On Dec 11, 2022
dboY1123:


It was when I started to feel smh that I decided to let her leave, maybe our destiny no match and herself she's not helping matters at all.. Even if I'm broke she wouldn't hesitate to ask for money. So why would I be with such a person? Meanwhile I did everything I achieved while I was single.. I'll look into myself critically..Thanks ma'am.
I just felt like since I parked in, things started changing for me, it might be wrong but I noticed. If I have money I'll pack away,.in just one year everything changed.

You did well dropping her as her worries are much and her behaviors are not helpful

God will give you directions

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Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by Richy4(m): 4:14pm On Dec 11, 2022
Did it occur to you that a lot of business closed their doors after the pandemic all over the world especially sole trader kind of businesses..
Why are you asking questions like you were operating a heavenly Economy? embarassed
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by ayobama: 5:14pm On Dec 11, 2022
dboY1123:


It was when I started to feel smh that I decided to let her leave, maybe our destiny no match and herself she's not helping matters at all.. Even if I'm broke she wouldn't hesitate to ask for money. So why would I be with such a person? Meanwhile I did everything I achieved while I was single.. I'll look into myself critically..Thanks ma'am.
I just felt like since I parked in, things started changing for me, it might be wrong but I noticed. If I have money I'll pack away,.in just one year everything changed.


Hello brother, this is a sensitive matter and I feel your pains why I am empathising with you. I seldom discuss things like this here. My advice:

1. Be prayerful, gather lots of info about your current house and take your leave as soon as possible if it's not palatable whether you have the money to rent another apartment or not plz borrow even if other tenants are willing to be there until they get money to leave (talking from my urgly experience). You need lots of prayer and courage to leave if ...
2. Be prayerful and open your eyes when next you are renting an apartment.
3. Stop gambling at all cost.

Mercy!

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Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by Lucrativress(f): 9:29pm On Dec 11, 2022
dboY1123:


Ma'am, like, money no dy stay for my hand again, and I no dy spend money like dat, but it'd like e dy disappear.. Even the capital itself not to say d gain.. If I have 100k today, on Friday it could remain 40k without spending o.. The thing is ,I play bet but I still don't think I spend dat much on it, cz I've been betting even before I rented my apartment.

I understand that life is spiritual but for this your case, please man let's think logically a bit.

First, get yourself a Book, start keeping a daily journal and write each detail of money coming in and going out for tracking.

2ndly, I think we're all starting to be misguided that success has to come fast fast, you'll be surprised to see, you spent your money on needs not even wants..

Change your mindset and understand that growth takes time most times and things that seem bad also happens to us.

What I need you to do is track your inflow and outflow, then if you have to be thrifty with spending , do that.

Also pray cause it's not only by hard work, God blesses those He will bless.

Just stop being hard on yourself or reading extra meaning, if God is in control, no location is ever too devilish to overcome you.

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Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by annayawchee: 9:41pm On Dec 11, 2022
Na wao....

Anyways start keeping records..

Don't do expenses beyond your capabilities..

Check yourself spiritual .

Some houses sef suck personal spiritually

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Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by annayawchee: 9:43pm On Dec 11, 2022
Na wao....

Anyways start keeping records..

Don't do expenses beyond your capabilities..

Check yourself spiritually

Some houses sef suck personal spiritually

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Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by dboY1123(m): 10:17am On Dec 12, 2022
ayobama:



Hello brother, this is a sensitive matter and I feel your pains why I am empathising with you. I seldom discuss things like this here. My advice:

1. Be prayerful, gather lots of info about your current house and take your leave as soon as possible if it's not palatable whether you have the money to rent another apartment or not plz borrow even if other tenants are willing to be there until they get money to leave (talking from my urgly experience). You need lots of prayer and courage to leave if ...
2. Be prayerful and open your eyes when next you are renting an apartment.
3. Stop gambling at all cost.

Mercy!

I want to believe I rushed things, getting d apartment.. I must admit I've not been lucky here
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by dboY1123(m): 10:26am On Dec 12, 2022
frozen70:


If you have searched yourself and can't find thr leaking route

Then ask your neighbors if they are passing the same experience

If so then probably the house
If not them I don't know what you guys had
that made you to drop your girlfriend

You never can tell

Did you promise her marriage

Safe to tell u that I haven't added a single thing since when I parked in. And at least like 3 people parked out and a pastor is one of them.. I have someone who is also running helter skelter to pay his rent and d landlord told me he's looking for him.
Some house will bring luck and not making things difficult, I didn't pray very well before going ahead cz I had little money and was desperate to pack out of my dad's house since I was already serving..
Re: Why Are Things Going Bad For Me. by frozen70(f): 10:28am On Dec 12, 2022
dboY1123:


Safe to tell u that I haven't added a single thing since when I parked in. And at least like 3 people parked out and a pastor is one of them.. I have someone who is also running helter skelter to pay his rent and d landlord told me he's looking for him.
Some house will bring luck and not making things difficult, I didn't pray very well before going ahead cz I had little money and was desperate to pack out of my dad's house since I was already serving..

Ok. Naw
You too can plan to pack out and see if you will get alright

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