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Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Zeal0000007(m): 1:11am On Dec 30, 2022
For a serious relationship leading to marriage , do you encourage going through your partner's phone for trust to be built ?.

I discovered my partner has been flirting with other guys online, thanks to the fact that I always go through her phone when she's asleep. I have done alot for this gal, just disappointed while gals wouldn't be faithful in their relationships.

This is someone I wanted to wife next year, and I love her so much despite her flaws .

I swallow alot of her flaws, like whenever we have issues she will abuse me from head to toe, on occasions like that I will ask her out of my life and my house but she'll be so bent in staying that nothing can separate us after how many years according to her "over her dead body" she wants to eat her cake and have it back.

I'm really stalk, after abusing me up and down at night I find it very difficult resist her body, I will still try to have sex with her especially when I see her nudes, I be flesh and blood.

I can't continue like this 2023, Guys please don't cohabit with a gal you haven't married.
Now I have issues of driving her way or I relocate to somewhere far just to have peace of mind. I can't continue like this next year, God forbid.

If she was coming and going ending this toxic relationship would have been effective. This is someone I have paid two sessions school fees for, care for her like she was my wife in my own little way, as we speak I have written her final year project for her chapter one to five, its just left for her to type it and present it.

I don tire for this relationship I really need a way out, I want to leave her cos its no longer healthy for me, though I really love her. She lacks respect for me , she still flirts online, she's very abusive . I have told her if you feel you have seen someone better than me, kindly move on or you feel we have stayed long enough and you can't wait anymore kindly move on, I won't hold anything against u. But you can't be staying in my house and be seeing someone else, frustrating me all round.

Sometimes when we want to have sex , neighbours must hear us because of fight over sex, but she has her good side, she wasn't like this when we started. I'm really tire, God help me next year, cos I can't continue like this.

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by HardBishop: 1:21am On Dec 30, 2022
She is just controlling you. Why begging her for sex? Haba, infact NA WHERE UNA DEY SEE ALL THESE YEYE GIRLS ? she don't have that emotional love for you, she's punishing you.
Tell her you're traveling for 6 months for a job. That to visit her is nearly impossible, take that decision bodly

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by JoeRizzla(m): 1:27am On Dec 30, 2022
Kai !!






What did I just reed now.

Omo guys dey try ooo I swr, what you wouldn't do for your self or a fellow guy that's what you doing for a kitten wey no send you, abeg continue that relationship make sure you wife her, don't let another innocent man inherit what you created.

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Ahmed0336(m): 1:51am On Dec 30, 2022
What a SIMPle young fella.
Keep it up undecided

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Zeal0000007(m): 1:55am On Dec 30, 2022
Ahmed0336:
What a SIMPle young fella.
Keep it up undecided
baba na advice I needed especially now that I'm down, not to cast stones.

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by beelon1020(m): 2:01am On Dec 30, 2022
I heard you said “God forbid”? Watin concerned God with your sinful act?.. na you go forbid her,..
You have the yam and you have knife.. slice it to favour you..

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by frozen70(f): 2:04am On Dec 30, 2022
Zeal0000007:
baba na advice I needed especially now that I'm down, not to cast stones.

You are too weak, that's all I can say
You have not seen anything yet

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Nobody: 2:19am On Dec 30, 2022
Just end the relationship- it is a simple as ABC. There are many women to date out there so stop fretting
1. Work on your confidence
2. Work on making money
3. Learn from this current relationship

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Moh247: 2:39am On Dec 30, 2022
cool



Pay for another apartment without letting her know and just park out after your rent expires, change your phone number too and block her everywhere

Peace of mind is sacred


.

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Zeal0000007(m): 2:42am On Dec 30, 2022
frozen70:


You are too weak, that's all I can say
You have not seen anything yet
madam power I hail u, it's your type that encourages men to hit women , women of ur type, so u fit get sense, but I'm aren't like that, pls if u have nothing to tangible to contribute next time just read the story and move on, u mustn't contribute thanks.

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Zeal0000007(m): 2:44am On Dec 30, 2022
Moh247:
Pay for another apartment without letting her know and just park out after your rent expires, change your phone number too and block her everywhere

Peace of mind is sacred
thanks bro thats what I have in mind , my rent will be expiring by April next year, and I'm planning packing out to somewhere new, thanks for d advice bro

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Smartguyboy(m): 2:48am On Dec 30, 2022
Mistake men make
No matter how the love I have for you exist once you started taking another dick am done with you . That why I hate dating students they will always bleep especially if she be olodo sorry . Leave the house for her marriage is for life and you won’t want to regret marrying someone for the rest of your life . You will die very young because no peace of mind.

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Boogyman557: 2:54am On Dec 30, 2022
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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by BigYash: 3:16am On Dec 30, 2022
Emancipate yourself from toto slavery. Its not worth your peace of mind. You said she was not like that when you guys started cheesy Yes that's how they pretend from the beginning.. When they feel comfortable, their true color will come up. Na only curse she dey curse you now.. Make she first born for you or say you don marry her fully. cheesy Her type go beat you join sef,una neighbors go dey see your family as home of laughter..

Guy see,give her your terms and conditions if she still wants to be in that relationship. If she is not ready to work with it,make she get lost asap..

Abi na she dey feed you? Me no dey understand some of these my gender people sef. Guy you are the price here. Na she suppose dey do everything, to make sure you no leave her.

Some boys go just dey fear make girl no leave them,when in reality the girl no even get you for mind.. Wise up guy.. Just try wise up for toto matter,e get why o.. Like this now, na you hrt go pain,cux na you invest resources pass.. After all you did for her,like you stated in your write up cheesy
Who send you go do something for her?

As them dey say bet with what you can afford to loose for bet9ja,na so gf suppose be. Don't give them what you can not afford to loose o. Relationship na gamble these days.. That your babe carry you over 2.5 and ..

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Nicepoker(m): 3:21am On Dec 30, 2022
Common final year project she couldn't write herself. But she can abuse you. grin

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Hunter0007: 3:25am On Dec 30, 2022
Zeal0000007:
madam power I hail u, it's your type that encourages men to hit women , women of ur type, so u fit get sense, but I'm aren't like that, pls if u have nothing to tangible to contribute next time just read the story and move on, u mustn't contribute thanks.

I'm a man and I can testify she's right dude, you are a fucking weakling.

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by jceetunes(m): 3:28am On Dec 30, 2022
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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Nobody: 3:36am On Dec 30, 2022
No cheating girlfriend will leave his mobile phone for his side guy to gain easy access to it.

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by dontrulee: 3:41am On Dec 30, 2022
Shege pro max loading!
It will be very hard for you to disentangle yourself from this entanglement, you know why? You've invested so much in a lady that isn't worth it!

You've been blinded and chained by lust that's why you're muddled and confused.

When you were enjoying the sex and the good side of her, were we there?
Oga enjoy the negative consequences alone, but as a guy man, let me give you tips that will help.

1. This lady is not a wife material, dead that thought!

2. Stop doing things for her, it may be a bit harsh if you send her parking (you may not even be able to do it because you're spell bound already but that's the best thing for you to do). When you stop doing things for her, she might get frustrated and leave, unfortunately you can't control your erection so she will definitely control you.

3. Girls flirt a lot ooo, so that shouldn't be a surprise to you that "your girl is flirting with other guys". This shouldn't be new to you, your girl can be sending you love messages and at the same time be sending other guys love messages, it's their nature, it cannot change. Even married women are flirting these days because they're not getting 'emotional love' from their husbands!

4. You've no business with ladies that do not respect you! I roll with older ladies and they all respect me, that's because I know how to command respect. Respect is very important. Love is not tolerating insults, disrespect and abuse, that's not love that's weakness!

5. Your head don dey clear small small but can you take the decision. E no go make sense that after all the advise wey you listen to for Nairaland you go still loose guard and continue to be a Mumu. grin grin

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by dontrulee: 3:42am On Dec 30, 2022
Revolution2022:
No cheating girlfriend will leave his mobile phone for his side guy to gain easy access to it.

Some don't care especially the ones that are manipulating the guys already!

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by dontrulee: 3:44am On Dec 30, 2022
BigYash:
Emancipate yourself from toto slavery. Its not worth your peace of mind. You said she was not like that when you guys started cheesy Yes that's how they pretend from the beginning.. When they feel comfortable, their true color will come up. Na only curse she dey curse you now.. Make she first born for you or say you don marry her fully. cheesy Her type go beat you join sef,una neighbors go dey see your family as home of laughter..

Guy see,give her your terms and conditions if she still wants to be in that relationship. If she is not ready to work with it,make she get lost asap..

Abi na she dey feed you? Me no dey understand some of these my gender people sef. Guy you are the price here. Na she suppose dey do everything, to make sure you no leave her.

Some boys go just dey fear make girl no leave them,when in reality the girl no even get you for mind.. Wise up guy.. Just try wise up for toto matter,e get why o.. Like this now, na you hrt go pain,cux na you invest resources pass.. After all you did for her,like you stated in your write up cheesy
Who send you go do something for her?

As them dey say bet with what you can afford to loose for bet9ja,na so gf suppose be. Don't give them what you can not afford to loose o. Relationship na gamble these days.. That your babe carry you over 2.5 and ..

And handicap grin grin

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by BigYash: 3:49am On Dec 30, 2022
dontrulee:


And handicap grin grin
grin
Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by peedeeasobie(m): 4:34am On Dec 30, 2022
Zeal0000007:
For a serious relationship leading to marriage , do you encourage going through your partner's phone for trust to be built ?.

I discovered my partner has been flirting with other guys online, thanks to the fact that I always go through her phone when she's asleep. I have done alot for this gal, just disappointed while gals wouldn't be faithful in their relationships.

This is someone I wanted to wife next year, and I love her so much despite her flaws .

I swallow alot of her flaws, like whenever we have issues she will abuse me from head to toe, on occasions like that I will ask her out of my life and my house but she'll be so bent in staying that nothing can separate us after how many years according to her "over her dead body" she wants to eat her cake and have it back.

I'm really stalk, after abusing me up and down at night I find it very difficult resist her body, I will still try to have sex with her especially when I see her nudes, I be flesh and blood.

I can't continue like this 2023, Guys please don't cohabit with a gal you haven't married.
Now I have issues of driving her way or I relocate to somewhere far just to have peace of mind. I can't continue like this next year, God forbid.

If she was coming and going ending this toxic relationship would have been effective. This is someone I have paid two sessions school fees for, care for her like she was my wife in my own little way, as we speak I have written her final year project for her chapter one to five, its just left for her to type it and present it.

I don tire for this relationship I really need a way out, I want to leave her cos its no longer healthy for me, though I really love her. She lacks respect for me , she still flirts online, she's very abusive . I have told her if you feel you have seen someone better than me, kindly move on or you feel we have stayed long enough and you can't wait anymore kindly move on, I won't hold anything against u. But you can't be staying in my house and be seeing someone else, frustrating me all round.

Sometimes when we want to have sex , neighbours must hear us because of fight over sex, but she has her good side, she wasn't like this when we started. I'm really tire, God help me next year, cos I can't continue like this.




You don't need any advice, you just want to vent.

Very soon you will marry her and the abuse will continue or she will leave you in a most devastating way because you are an emotional weakling.

The fact you are cohabiting shows how weak you are.

She will marry another from your house, watch out. That's when you will start saying fear women. I think we should fear spineless men, weaklings.

You are even giving advice... you dey craz.e.


Please, hold on to the relationship like your life depends on it, she will finish you completely.

You love her kò, love nì

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Fiscus105(m): 4:49am On Dec 30, 2022
I give you few months after your marriage might have collapsed,by then mad people will ve blaming marriage institution rather than foolish people, who saw red flags and still went ahead.

...... marriage not for everybody crew over to you.



THOUGH YOUR STORY IS MERE FIGMENT OF UR OWN IMAGINATION.

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by omolasho: 5:22am On Dec 30, 2022
Seeing these Red flags and you are still here speaking English! Nigerian youth shaa, you can't produce chips, computers, planes and you can't still make make a simple personal decision?

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Mcslize: 5:31am On Dec 30, 2022
You cannot tame some girls. Just understand the kind of girl you're dating. Is she the kind that loves social media attention so much? If she is then don't waste your time trying to tame her or make her remain faithful to you.

The fact that you've spent so much on her as if you are married to her have given her the ease to move on faster than you, should you break up. It's you that will feel all the emotional pains cuz you still finding it hard to walk away.

The truth still remains that she won't change any time soon. Just start looking for another more reserve lady that you know still believes in faithfulness and start a relationship with.

Terminate that thought of marrying that toxic lady. Remove that marriage thought from your mind right away. She is a toxic partner because you have given her all of your power as a man. Her honey well does make you lose control.

You don't need to beat a woman to be able to gain her respect. The whole issue is your fault. You can't control your sexual urge around her and she is using that to manipulate you. The moment you learn to control your sexual urge and desire, that's the day you gain your freedom from the manipulation of ladies.

Free yourself of that toxic relationship and curtain your sexual desires. Focus your mind and energy on more better things and try improving yourself on a daily basis.

Stop spending frivolously on any lady you are getting on with as a man. Spending on a lady doesn't make her stops seeing other men.

The more you spend on her, the more you find it hard to walk away even at the point of her killing you with hypertension. She knows you care too much for her, hence the level of disrespect.

Don't let your emotions override your logical thinking. Have some balls brother and end this toxic relationship. There are many other girls out there. While killing your mental health with just 1 out of all the millions of girls out there? Not that she is even well mannered.

You don't fall in love with ladies like that. They ain't good as wives.

If after all these advice, you still end up being seduced by her pussy and fail to walk away, have yourself to be blamed. Toxic relationship can deteriorate a man's mental health.

Walk away without looking back no matter how sweet the pussy is. She isn't in any way a wife material.

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by jogsman01(m): 5:32am On Dec 30, 2022
She wasn't like that when you started grin She go soon use your head carry /over2.5

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Zeal0000007(m): 7:20am On Dec 30, 2022
Mcslize:
You cannot tame some girls. Just understand the kind of girl you're dating. Is she the kind that loves social media attention so much? If she is then don't waste your time trying to tame her or make her remain faithful to you.

The fact that you've spent so much on her as if you are married to her have given her the ease to move on faster than you, should you break up. It's you that will feel all the emotional pains cuz you still finding it hard to walk away.

The truth still remains that she won't change any time soon. Just start looking for another more reserve lady that you know still believes in faithfulness and start a relationship with.

Terminate that thought of marrying that toxic lady. Remove that marriage thought from your mind right away. She is a toxic partner because you have given her all of your power as a man. Her honey well does make you lose control.

You don't need to beat a woman to be able to gain her respect. The whole issue is your fault. You can't control your sexual urge around her and she is using that to manipulate you. The moment you learn to control your sexual urge and desire, that's the day you gain your freedom from the manipulation of ladies.

Free yourself of that toxic relationship and curtain your sexual desires. Focus your mind and energy on more better things and try improving yourself on a daily basis.

Stop spending frivolously on any lady you are getting on with as a man. Spending on a lady doesn't make her stops seeing other men.

The more you spend on her, the more you find it hard to walk away even at the point of her killing you with hypertension. She knows you care too much for her, hence the level of disrespect.

Don't let your emotions override your logical thinking. Have some balls brother and end this toxic relationship. There are many other girls out there. While killing your mental health with just 1 out of all the millions of girls out there? Not that she is even well mannered.

You don't fall in love with ladies like that. They ain't good as wives.

If after all these advice, you still end up being seduced by her pussy and fail to walk away, have yourself to be blamed. Toxic relationship can deteriorate a man's mental health.

Walk away without looking back no matter how sweet the pussy is. She isn't in any way a wife material.

thanks my dear,
Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by frozen70(f): 7:28am On Dec 30, 2022
Zeal0000007:
madam power I hail u, it's your type that encourages men to hit women , women of ur type, so u fit get sense, but I'm aren't like that, pls if u have nothing to tangible to contribute next time just read the story and move on, u mustn't contribute thanks.

No one encourages anyone to beat any one and no body does that
You are seeing red flag in a relationship and you think the red flag is a flower

Anyway, continue and enjoy it

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by faceLAGOS: 7:37am On Dec 30, 2022
Good for you.

You go get sense by force or your foolishness and konji kee you.

For pucci only.

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Kingluqman(m): 8:27am On Dec 30, 2022
You are a MuMu, why you go sey you still love a girl despite her flaws. Get sense Na

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Re: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by Adaisback(f): 8:35am On Dec 30, 2022
Moh247:
Pay for another apartment without letting her know and just park out after your rent expires, change your phone number too and block her everywhere

Peace of mind is sacred
zeal0000007 , I support this. Don't kill yourself before your time pls

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