I and my siblings grew up in a very dramatic polygamous home, it was both hectic and toxic at a time.

We vowed to break the yoke of polygamy in our family but I don’t know if I’m toeing the line already.

I already have a child with a lady though I didn’t marry her, but we ended our relationship in 2020. We are cool and we are both taking care of our child without troubles, we only talk about our child and we don’t share what’s going on in our lives with each other.

I recently met a girl I plan to marry by the first quarter of next year, she is from a nuclear family and she knows about my family background as well. She’s been asking me what I’ll do if the mother of my child says she won’t allow my child visits or come spend the holidays with me except she is also allowed to come spend the holiday with my child in my house.

The question sounds confusing at the same time funny to me because I don’t know how a woman I stopped seeing since 3 yrs will suddenly say she won’t allow my child visit except she comes along.

That’s not my worry, I want to know if marrying my girlfriend when I already have a child with another woman will make me a polygamist.

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Cc RoyalRoy

Not really.i will advise you go with your people and marry your son.ask your people,they will tell you how it's done.
If not,dis your babe go make life more difficult for that young man.if you still feel anything for your ex,settle with her.no perfect woman anywhere.

donbachi:
Not really.i will advise you go with your people and marry your son.ask your people,they will tell you how it's done.
If not,dis your babe go make life more difficult for that young man.if you still feel anything for your ex,settle with her.no perfect woman anywhere.

She is obviously seeing another person already, I don’t want to get back with her even if she is not seeing anyone. As for my babe making life difficult for my son.. I don’t think that will happen

If you marry this your new girlfriend, then you have continue the polygamous from where your family stop.

Olarewaju89:
If you marry this your new girlfriend, then you have continue the polygamous from where your family stop.

I didn’t marry the first woman na, is that polygamy

CoolNL:
I and my siblings grew up in a very dramatic polygamous home, it was both hectic and toxic at a time.

We vowed to break the yoke of polygamy in our family but I don’t know if I’m toeing the line already.

I already have a child with a lady though I didn’t marry her, but we ended our relationship in 2020. We are cool and we are both taking care of our child without troubles, we only talk about our child and we don’t share what’s going on in our lives with each other.

I recently met a girl I plan to marry by the first quarter of next year, she is from a nuclear family and she knows about my family background as well. She’s been asking me what I’ll do if the mother of my child says she won’t allow my child visits or come spend the holidays with me except she is also allowed to come spend the holiday with my child in my house.

The question sounds confusing at the same time funny to me because I don’t know how a woman I stopped seeing since 3 yrs will suddenly say she won’t allow my child visit except she comes along.

That’s not my worry, I want to know if marrying my girlfriend when I already have a child with another woman will make me a polygamist.

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Cc RoyalRoy

if the question sound confusing then i can safely say you still need to mature abit

Your girl is way ahead in thinking or she seen situation like yours straining a relationship

yes both mamas and fathers sometimes tend to became jelousy when their ex marries and create drama from nowhere

as for polygamy you claim to grow in it but seem you dont know the meaning

ZIMDRILL:


if the question sound confusing then i can safely say you still need to mature abit

Your girl is way ahead in thinking or she seen situation like yours straining a relationship

yes both mamas and fathers sometimes tend to became jelousy when their ex marries and create drama from nowhere

as for polygamy you claim to grow in it but seem you dont know the meaning

I don’t know the meaning sir, please tell me what it means for me

CoolNL:


She is obviously seeing another person already, I don’t want to get back with her even if she is not seeing anyone. As for my babe making life difficult for my son.. I don’t think that will happen

I wish you well

CoolNL:


I don’t know the meaning sir, please tell me what it means for me

being married to more than one wive at the same time

ZIMDRILL:


being married to more than one wive at the same time

Ok meaning wetin I dey do now nor be polygamy abi.

Start to request that your child spends some time with you especially now that you’re not married so you will know the mother’s reactions and also to start getting closer to your child

CoolNL:


I didn’t marry the first woman na, is that polygamy

OK.

You better marry both of them to avoid story that touch.

StPete:
Start to request that your child spends some time with you especially now that you’re not married so you will know the mother’s reactions and also to start getting closer to your child

Noted sir thank you

Olarewaju89:


OK.

You better marry both of them to avoid story that touch.

You dey play abi, I know say you dey joke sha

CoolNL:
■ She’s been asking me what I’ll do if the mother of my child says she won’t allow my child visits or come spend the holidays with me except she is also allowed to come spend the holiday with my child in my house.The question sounds confusing at the same time funny to me because I don’t know how a woman I stopped seeing since 3 yrs will suddenly say she won’t allow my child visit except she comes along. That’s not my worry, I want to know if marrying my girlfriend when I already have a child with another woman will make me a polygamist. Mod please help move to front page

If you had a legal decision defining visitation between yourself and your baby mama then your baby mama cannot spring such a surprise as the one your girlfriend asked you of. But since there is only an informal agreement between you and your baby mama concerning visitation rights, nothing stops the scenario painted by your girlfriend from occurring. And as such your girlfriend's concerns are real.

If, in fact, you do not want a polygamous union and you want to make certain the lines are properly drawn to ensure this, then you would approach the courts to legally define the relationship between yourself and your baby mama — child support, visitation rights, etc. That way she cannot spring surprises on you in the future.

Your babe is well learned.

She gat brain.

She knows that the moment you both get married, the good baby mama will suddenly turn something else.

Your baby mama is been nice now cos u aren't married.

Think deeply and answer her question....

If u didn't want to smell polygamy at all, why didn't you marry the mother of your child.

First of all, you're already a polygamist..So there's no way you will twist the story that can twist tht whole narrative..Then again,why would your current banny have such an imagination? Like your baby mama whom you ain't doing any relationship stuff with coming over to spend a night at your place all because of your kid? Who does that? Even Nollywood movies won't even stoop so low to that level of shooting such movies

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Once you start taking responsibilities of kids from different women, you already a polygamist


Baby Daddy or Daddy Baby, you still remain a polygamist, because your responsibilities will always be broad across different kids and mothers. Jealousy and all the ills of polygamy will still always play out.

You can use Davido and Tubaba as case study.

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I remember when the World was laughing at Muslims for practicing Polygamy. Today, the purveyors of such propaganda are telling us that Homosexuality is a must.
I call on the Religious Bigots of yesteryears to come and side with their pale skinned masters once again.
Islamic rules/principles is never archaic, you are just destitute of Wisdom

As you can see, this op is very confused. He is trying to run away from the Solution to his problems

You are the kind of person the Yoruba call Olojukokoro! You're so selfish that you failed to factor the future of your son into your happiness. There are girls who will not under any circumstance marry a guy from a "divided" home. How does your son cope with life seeing his classmates with both parents now and again? I advise you go and settle with the mother of your child, because as our people would say, a woman who has even one child for you is no longer a concubine - she's a wife. Your girlfriend seems to be more reasonable than you, because her questions are deep and meaningful.

You are if you don't know

CoolNL:
I and my siblings grew up in a very dramatic polygamous home, it was both hectic and toxic at a time.

We vowed to break the yoke of polygamy in our family but I don’t know if I’m toeing the line already.

I already have a child with a lady though I didn’t marry her, but we ended our relationship in 2020. We are cool and we are both taking care of our child without troubles, we only talk about our child and we don’t share what’s going on in our lives with each other.

I recently met a girl I plan to marry by the first quarter of next year, she is from a nuclear family and she knows about my family background as well. She’s been asking me what I’ll do if the mother of my child says she won’t allow my child visits or come spend the holidays with me except she is also allowed to come spend the holiday with my child in my house.

The question sounds confusing at the same time funny to me because I don’t know how a woman I stopped seeing since 3 yrs will suddenly say she won’t allow my child visit except she comes along.

That’s not my worry, I want to know if marrying my girlfriend when I already have a child with another woman will make me a polygamist.

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Cc RoyalRoy

you have a child already with another woman. tell us the full story that led to you not marrying her, and now you want to marry another woman. the fact that you have double dated already shows you are what you are asking already. can't you see it. go and make amend with your baby mama and leave single girls alone. or still go look for another single mother and marrry. case close. who knows if you will still turn this young one now into another single mother.

its time the society awake from all this none sense of turning ladies into single mothers.

CoolNL:
I and my siblings grew up in a very dramatic polygamous home, it was both hectic and toxic at a time.

We vowed to break the yoke of polygamy in our family but I don’t know if I’m toeing the line already.

I already have a child with a lady though I didn’t marry her, but we ended our relationship in 2020. We are cool and we are both taking care of our child without troubles, we only talk about our child and we don’t share what’s going on in our lives with each other.

I recently met a girl I plan to marry by the first quarter of next year, she is from a nuclear family and she knows about my family background as well. She’s been asking me what I’ll do if the mother of my child says she won’t allow my child visits or come spend the holidays with me except she is also allowed to come spend the holiday with my child in my house.

The question sounds confusing at the same time funny to me because I don’t know how a woman I stopped seeing since 3 yrs will suddenly say she won’t allow my child visit except she comes along.

That’s not my worry, I want to know if marrying my girlfriend when I already have a child with another woman will make me a polygamist.

Mod please help move to front page

Cc RoyalRoy

Whether you marry the first lady or not, you are married already because marriage is more than the coming together of a man and wife to become couples. For as long as there was an issue (a child) between you, you are married. As to whether you'd be a polygamist or not, that's another matter for another day, but your past has put you on the path of polygamy.

Good evening great minds

Pls, I need this funny post about children's day stuff. I came across it mostly last year. The post is about things we adults do as children.

"If you still do all these things you are still a child"

. I think that's d title of the post. Anyone should pls help me out.

Hmm...

Every baby mama get angry when the father of there child get married to another woman

Yes
A chronic and unrepentant one at dat

Lolz.. make sure the next yoke to be broken is Father Abraham.. same curse n plague.. trust me