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Is it true for the both gender?

Only shallow and unstable people change like that. Wether it's a romantic relationship or just casual friendship. U don't go about changing people because U met someone better. There will always be someone better and that doesn't make Ur current partner/ friend useless. If there's no real valid reason to be with someone then like a leaf in the wind U go anywhere that seems rosy only to realise the grass ain't always greener and then U jump again to someone else and on it goes till U become tired and wasted. People who do this are mostly worthless and will end up miserable in the end because everyone around them knows they're unstable and unreliable so everyone deals with them from afar and no one takes them seriously

Generally, humans always strive for improvement. The need to be better and do better is the highest need of man. Humans have the need to upgrade jobs, houses, cars and other possessions as the means to achieve this becomes available to them.

It is therefore delusional to think that a person would naturally stick to one partner when they have the ability to upgrade. Your wife who agreed to marry you because you were the best person asking her out 7 years ago is now studying abroad and other men are asking her out, if she finds one better than you she will sleep with him and lie about it to you.

People hardly say no to benefits. Knowing someone could change is part of the risk you sign up for when you choose to date/marry.

dkidd:
Only shallow and unstable people change like that. Wether it's a romantic relationship or just casual friendship. U don't go about changing people because U met someone better. There will always be someone better and that doesn't make Ur current partner/ friend useless. If there's no real valid reason to be with someone then like a leaf in the wind U go anywhere that seems rosy only to realise the grass ain't always greener and then U jump again to someone else and on it goes till U become tired and wasted. People who do this are mostly worthless and will end up miserable in the end because everyone around them knows they're unstable and unreliable so everyone deals with them from afar and no one takes them seriously

As a man, if you become rich today, thre is high tendency to be moving with rich people. Indirectly, you are discarding the poor, who were hitherto your friends, ditto, if you become political figure or famous person.
One has to do it, not purposely to discard the old friends atimes,that is just how life is, ....in other to maintain the current status you find urself.

This is hard fact that, we, humans trying hard to deny in other to look good before people

I can't dispute this, unless the nature favors you with that rarity, all human beings tend to change in adaptation to their new environment or realities.

While me, my gf and her mum was on video call during the last yuletide, after the call when me & my girl was talking about how her mum likes me & even complimented my look. I jokingly asked her that would her mum still want me to be her daughter's husband if we eventually met & she found out that I was a dwarf(assumption)?

She was like hell no, that why would she settle for a dwarf in the first place, obviously no matter how much love someone profess to you, there's something they see in you, and if they see better of those things in someone else, they MIGHT change.

Fiscus105:
As a man, if you become rich today, thre is high tendency to be moving with rich people, indirectly you are discarding the poor, who were hitherto your friends before, ditto if you become politician or famous person, one has to do it, not purposely to discard the old friends atimes, but that's how life is, in other to maintain the current status you find urself.

This hard fact that we human beings would try hard to deny in other to look good before people

Speak for urself. I have friends I'm far better than and those a lot more better than me but we still communicate. As a matter of fact the only friends I have are my old friends from secondary to a few university friends but my secondary school friends are still tighter. There are some we haven't even seen for decades but we talk like we see everyday. Becoming a billionaire today doesn't change shii.. sure my business circle will be upgraded and some social functions to foster good business Comms and engagement yet it doesn't mean I have discarded old friends because they're financial less fluid than I am atm? I mean this thinking is DOA. I might not have all the free time like I used to buy it doesn't mean I can't create time to chill with the same people who know me up to my grandparents house? When U understand the value of true friendship U will laugh at Ur statement. All those battalions when dey follow Davido, WizKid, Naira Marley etc. U think say na today them know themselves. Some of them na Day one padi's when never get their own so they're under their friends payroll doing one or two for him diligently. Or U think say them just love to carry plenty people join body travel... Lol oga anybody when money change na him true nature be that. Make Una no dey reason as if human being na robot without emotions. The relationship might be strained yes but then who wise when dey see efforts go meet me half way that's why it's friendship any which way we'll be in the matter together even if we see once a month as against almost every day. Those types have privileges no others have and they can barge in on themselves any time. Most of my friends no dey Naija, some in other states, some we haven't seen for over 2 decades, some more some just a few years, some we see occasional but anytime we see its like we never stopped seeing. Maybe U haven't had real friends sha na why. Na wealthy politicians even keep old friends pass anybody FYI cos they need them more

dkidd:
Speak for urself. I have friends I'm far better than and those a lot more better than me but we still communicate. As a matter of fact the only friends I have are my old friends from secondary to a few university friends but my secondary school friends are still tighter. There are some we haven't even seen for decades but we talk like we see everyday. Becoming a billionaire today doesn't change shii.. sure my business circle will be upgraded and some social functions to foster good business Comms and engagement yet it doesn't mean I have discarded old friends because they're financial less fluid than I am atm? I mean this thinking is DOA. I might not have all the free time like I used to buy it doesn't mean I can't create time to chill with the same people who know me up to my grandparents house? When U understand the value of true friendship U will laugh at Ur statement. All those battalions when dey follow Davido, WizKid, Naira Marley etc. U think say na today them know themselves. Most of them na Day one padi's when never get their own so they're under their friends payroll doing one or two for him diligently. Or U think say them just love to carry plenty people join body travel... Lol oga anybody when money change na him true nature be that. Make Una no dey reason as if human being na robot without emotions. The relationship might be strained yes but then who wise when dey efforts go meet me half way that's why it's friendship any which way we'll be in the matter together even if we see once a month as against almost every day. Those types have privileges no others have and they can barge in on themselves any time. Most of my friends no dey Naija, some in other states, some we haven't seen for over 2 decades, some more some just a few years, some we see occasional but anytime we see its like we never stopped seeing. Maybe U haven't had real friends sha na why. Na wealthy politicians even keep old friends pass anybody FYI cos they need them more

Abi oooo, I stop reading ur lies when I reached "from speak for your self". Anyway, if you are still in ur teen phase, you won't understand it yet. I said it in my last response, .....THIS IS HARD FACT, THAT HUMAN OFTEN DENYING, IN OTHER TO LOOK GOOD BEFORE PEOPLE.

Go and read about "SELF DENIAL", a topic in psychology. If you ready to learn,it may help you.


Bye.

Fiscus105:
Abi oooo, I stop reading ur lies from speak for your self, anyway if you are still in ur teen phase, you won't understand it yet. I said it in my last response, .....THUS IS HARD FACT, THAT YOU HUMAN BEINGS DENYING IN OTHER TO LOOK GOOD BEFORE PEOPLE.

go and read about "SELF DENIAL", a topic in psychology. If you ready to ,it may help you.


Bye.

Lol when U lots can't argue constructively U become angry and try to project it to others. Noooo I'm in my infant phase mumu. When I graduate university U still dey inside pampers.
U obviously don't know what life is about. Money, time or distance doesn't change true friendship period. If Ur talking about lovers I can agree to some extent cos most women are always on the lookout for themselves and themselves alone not men except U roll with bitchniggas who are afraid to see the next man prosper which means U must be one. Go and read about "LOYALTY" cos U obviously lack it in Ur soul

Change is inevitable

Not if they've seen shege.

If you haven't fallen into that hole before, following someone else because you think they are better, only to suffer terribly for that, yeah you'll skip right up to that new golden person and fall for them even if you don't want to.

But if you've made that mistake and seen pure hell, you will never try it again. In fact when you see the so called 'better', you will do one of the following:

a. Run with slippers on your head and pass.
b. Revoke the devil and pass.
c. Laugh very hard and pass, saying to yourself, 'not today, devil.'

Better people, especially when you have a partner, are mirages. Harmful mirages. Put water in your mouth and taste hot sand instead.

That a woman is with you today is simply because she hasn't found or be yoked with someone better than you.
Women rarely compromise!
Something must go for something!

purples25:
Not if they've seen shege.

If you haven't fallen into that hole before, following someone else because you think they are better, only to suffer terribly for that, yeah you'll skip right up to that new golden person and fall for them even if you don't want to.

But if you've made that mistake and seen pure hell, you will never try it again. In fact when you see the so called 'better', you will do one of the following:

a. Run with slippers on your head and pass.
b. Revoke the devil and pass.
c. Laugh very hard and pass, saying to yourself, 'not today, devil.'

Better people, especially when you have a partner, are mirages. Harmful mirages. Put water in your mouth and taste hot sand instead.

....only 5% of women really key into your opinion, for the rest, immediately they meet supposedly better option, they discard the old without thinking twice, even married women not left out. Infact, they start mocking the former.
Meanwhile, women hardly learned from previous mistakes, they carelessly making such mistakes, over and over.

dkidd:
Speak for urself. I have friends I'm far better than and those a lot more better than me but we still communicate. As a matter of fact the only friends I have are my old friends from secondary to a few university friends but my secondary school friends are still tighter. There are some we haven't even seen for decades but we talk like we see everyday. Becoming a billionaire today doesn't change shii.. sure my business circle will be upgraded and some social functions to foster good business Comms and engagement yet it doesn't mean I have discarded old friends because they're financial less fluid than I am atm? I mean this thinking is DOA. I might not have all the free time like I used to buy it doesn't mean I can't create time to chill with the same people who know me up to my grandparents house? When U understand the value of true friendship U will laugh at Ur statement. All those battalions when dey follow Davido, WizKid, Naira Marley etc. U think say na today them know themselves. Some of them na Day one padi's when never get their own so they're under their friends payroll doing one or two for him diligently. Or U think say them just love to carry plenty people join body travel... Lol oga anybody when money change na him true nature be that. Make Una no dey reason as if human being na robot without emotions. The relationship might be strained yes but then who wise when dey see efforts go meet me half way that's why it's friendship any which way we'll be in the matter together even if we see once a month as against almost every day. Those types have privileges no others have and they can barge in on themselves any time. Most of my friends no dey Naija, some in other states, some we haven't seen for over 2 decades, some more some just a few years, some we see occasional but anytime we see its like we never stopped seeing. Maybe U haven't had real friends sha na why. Na wealthy politicians even keep old friends pass anybody FYI cos they need them more

you are just like me but some of my friends sees it as a big deal.

I make friends no doubt but I still keep my old friends….infact,,the people I love hanging out with are my friends from secondary/primary school….no matter the person’s status.
Atleast you know them and they know you too to an extent….any friend we are making now is probably because of what we can gain or what they can gain from us which is normal.

Normally, the woman with you is because you're the best option for the moment.

Interview all of them and you understand that mostly the young ones has very high taste/choice on men.

They will need handsome, tall, rich man.

Even your current wife married you because above type of men didn't come for her. Both the ugly and fine ones aim higher till reality hit them.

And for men, the type of women they go after changes with their status. A bus conductor that later made it, will likely dumb her former babe for upgraded one

Things changes and that’s just the way it is..

I'm here to read comments.

Fiscus105:
....only 5% of women really abide with your opinion, the rest, immediately they meet supposedly better option, they discard the old immediately without thinking twice, infact, they start mocking the former.
Meanwhile, hardly woman learned from such mistakes, you will see a lady carelessly making such mistakes, over and over.

Two things.

Either they were actually very lucky with the new person (this world doesn't have a manual, nor is it Nollywood), that is, the new person was truly all they asked for. They actually fell in love with each other and have a successful life with the new person, so there's no lesson they would learn. This scenario is rare.

Or, they were unfortunate with the new person, but not much. It wasn't serious enough to teach a lesson. It wasn't serious enough to cause deep trauma and pain to the extent that they see new people the way I stated in my last post. That's why they keep going back. If the new better person really deals with you, almost destroys everything about your life, you will certainly repent.

If we set finances aside, I think 'better than you' is a strong phrase to use. We all possess unique qualities - what you lack, others may have, and vice versa. No one is inherently better than you. People often leave because they're attracted to something specific in someone else, but they may likely leave again when they discover the other qualities they don't like

purples25:
Not if they've seen shege.

If you haven't fallen into that hole before, following someone else because you think they are better, only to suffer terribly for that, yeah you'll skip right up to that new golden person and fall for them even if you don't want to.

But if you've made that mistake and seen pure hell, you will never try it again. In fact when you see the so called 'better', you will do one of the following:

a. Run with slippers on your head and pass.
b. Revoke the devil and pass.
c. Laugh very hard and pass, saying to yourself, 'not today, devil.'

Better people, especially when you have a partner, are mirages. Harmful mirages. Put water in your mouth and taste hot sand instead.

Lol.. Really?
This is deep baby girl! You must be talking from personal experience.