When the video was shown to the husband, his initial reaction was to dismiss the whole scene as a concocted fairy-tale- a sick joke that his haters had pulled, to embarrass and diminish him. How could his wife who had given him four beautiful kids and was there for him as ‘the rock of Gibraltar’ be caught in such a lurid act? His wife was a respected member of the Nigerian community in Maryland, United States and was the hardworking and successful manager of nurses in a reputable Washington DC hospital.

But what he didn’t understand was that the video he was being shown had already gone viral and practically every member of the Nigerian community spread all over the continental United States had viewed it several times and were all shocked and filled with righteous indignation over such an embarrassing conduct by an otherwise happily married woman.

The video, recorded by a sick and depraved lover of the Nigerian-American nurse, had shown the woman, her face clearly in view and well defined, in various stages of intimacy and to imagine a husband looking at the video of his wife in intimate moments with another man and having the same video seen by millions of people was too much for him to handle. He was seized by a paroxysm of anger and dread and went into shock.

The wife, too, having known that the jig was up, was said to have also become suicidal and had to be kept for observation in hospital with the possibility of losing all that she had worked for in the United States- her marriage, her career and her children’s love and adoration, simply because she had allowed fleeting sexual emotions to dominate her thought process.

According to sources, the lady, whose names are withheld here, was seemingly happily married and the union had been blessed with four children. The husband, also names withheld, was said to be very proud and supportive of his wife’s spirit of industry and enterprise and both had led a seemingly happy marital life. However, unknown to the man, the wife was engaged in a torrid affair with an African- American male janitor at the hospital (the janitorial angle is what really offended a lot of the Nigerian community who had seen the video) where she works.

The affair was said to have gone on for years and both had done a great job concealing their romantic involvement. However, the African – American lover was said to have felt betrayed by a promise made, which was not fulfilled by the married mother of four and he decided to blackmail her, with an invitation to their regular rendezvous.

Unknown to the lady, the act for the day was fully recorded and, still unable to fulfill her promise and not yielding to the blackmail, the incensed lover decided to upload the video on YouTube and what a feeding frenzy it generated by the Nigerian community in the U.S. The video was shared within minutes on Whatsapps and a major league embarrassment was created for the married mother of four.

Word within the Nigerian community in Maryland is that the woman is still undergoing observation at the hospital and her marriage is as good as done.

The above sad and unfortunate story illustrates the stress and strain that have bedeviled the institution of matrimony in the Diaspora. Husbands have killed their wives, wives have cheated on their husbands with reckless abandon, wives are challenging their husbands and assigning certain domestic chores to them, while men have abandoned the traditional roles of breadwinners and opted instead to be ‘kept men’ tending to the home front while the wife works.

Everywhere the aroma of matrimony emits putrid odor, the emotionally nourishing enterprise of matrimony has been turned into an enterprise laden by zero-sum machinations- wives openly plot their husbands failures while the husbands treat their wives with disdain and contempt. Some have lost their children through the cracks in American social structure. The kids have been denied love and nourishment since all they see around them is fight and incessant verbal and physical abuse.

How did we get to this junction where the divorces rates, physical and emotional abuse have become the defining features of the matrimony among Diapsorans? Next week, relying on two personal experiences, we will attempt to provide answers to the puzzle.

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2015/01/sex-secrets-nigerian-wife-us-uploaded-youtube/

The above sad and unfortunate story illustrates the stress and strain that have bedeviled the institution of matrimony in the Diaspora. Husbands have killed their wives, wives have cheated on their husbands with reckless abandon, while husbands are cheating on their wives without compunction ,wives are challenging their husbands and assigning certain domestic chores to them, while men have abandoned the traditional roles of breadwinners and opted instead to be ‘kept men’ tending to the home front while the wife works.

cococandy:
So where's the video? Abi Na only hear we go hear?

Emaprince:
Trying to google this sh1t to see the video but its no where..just stories everywhere.but the below in qoute is an excerpts from somebody in the same city who watched it..funny to me and made me shake my head too.

"By the way, the Compromizing Video was uneventful. It was like watching my parents or aunt or uncle having sex. The man jerked a lot, like he was having seizures, and there was a lot of grunting and wheezing, and then he finished. P.S. The couple in the picture above look nothing like the one in the video. I cannot post the video on my blog, but you’re not missing anything. P.P.S. If I were her husband, I would have fainted too. His wife sucked some strange man’s joystick for over five minutes (joystick-sucking for 5 minutes is like 60 minutes in real time) and as if that was not bad enough, the strange man ejaculated who-knows-what into what’s the otherwise private area of his wife. I would faint, too."

Now I get why the janitor exposed her..she was confronted by some people trying to find out if it was true that the janitor was ffucking her..she was like "that dirty man?..I cannever have anything to do with that dirty man"..the guy heard it and said he'll show her what real dirty is about.
She even wore lingerie..red and black lingerie which she doesn't wear for her husband..lol

Ike77503:
for those asking for a link, theres NO link. I don't think you will find one. the Video is straight up PORN ! and if one distributes it thru a link or MMS, I think its a Misdemeanor / felony offence here in the state. thats WHY most people are sharing it through whattsapp.

hospital (the janitorial angle is what really offended a lot of the Nigerian community who had seen the video) where she works.

How did we get to this junction where the divorces rates, physical and emotional abuse have become the defining features of the matrimony among Diapsorans?

dre11:




This one aspect of the post that got me thinking.......

Where did our brothers and sister miss it?
What happened to our pride of having and naturing a family till our old age?
Why all this vices?

kallmemrB:
Chaiii...this is too bad I can't imagine the pain,betrayal the husband and family will be going thru right now...May God give the family to cope try this hard trials....

God pls give me a faithful,devoted and Godfearing woman as my wife

mgbeketoto:
Did I read A JANITOR or SENATOR?
YEYE WOMAN.
Twaaaaaaaaah!!!!

ileobatojo:
Scandalous!!

With that said, it doesn't illustrate any blah blah blah that has to do with diaspora marriages anything.

Miami11:
The man should kneel down and pray and fast, he should also work out and try to look appealing to the wife. Maybe he has neglected himself hence the wife looking elsewhere.

He should also help more in the house to make his wife happy.

cococandy:
na today?
Anything to paint diasporan women bad.

I'm almost certain married women in naija cheat more than those in diaspora.

kallmemrB:
Chaiii...this is too bad I can't imagine the pain,betrayal the husband and family will be going thru right now...May God give the family to cope try this hard trials....

God pls give me a faithful,devoted and Godfearing woman as my wife

Miami11:
The man should kneel down and pray and fast, he should also work out and try to look appealing to the wife. Maybe he has neglected himself hence the wife looking elsewhere.

He should also help more in the house to make his wife happy.

Timbuktou:
Dre11, where is the video/link in question? You can't just come and tell us some without proof to back it up and expect us to believe you. And don't tell me it's from Vanguard, complete your post, bring proof or wedonbilivit.

cococandy:
question for the gods

Miami11:
The man should kneel down and pray and fast, he should also work out and try to look appealing to the wife. Maybe he has neglected himself hence the wife looking elsewhere.

He should also help more in the house to make his wife happy.

armyofone:
I'm very sure he neglected himself too. He must have left his beard unruly, unwashed boxers, untidy home etc. Imagine coming back from her double shifts nurse job anyway he made her do it. He pushed her into the janitor's waiting arms.