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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by jnrbayano(m): 10:26pm On Feb 15, 2015
Gloriagee:
Satanic ke? N it doesn't matter if she protested or not...she may have been exhausted n decided to please u which is wat marriage is about esp when it's a 2 way affair.

What really irked me bout ur post is the mind games u played. She was begging u n u were forming James Bond, u said.

Marriage n relationships in general r like a compilation of memories. Ppl often say she just snapped...trust me, it's always a long time coming.

Best of luck with ur union!


Marriage can be very sweet and interesting if you'd use your wisdom and can be very frustrating if you're insensitive and immature

Why do you think he stated the above with emphasis on the emboldened line?

You ladies should knuckle down. No need for the skirmish.

Tell me your own experience. Please will you?
Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by IDEApro(m): 10:30pm On Feb 15, 2015
kmcutez:


Do not take those words literally.

May God never allow any decent man near women like you with this mindset.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Nobody: 10:42pm On Feb 15, 2015
IDEApro:


May God never allow any decent man near women like you with this mindset.


Na wa o!! You wife must really be going through hell with this your attitude. From your numerous posts I am beginning to see the type of person you are. No wonder your wife does not admit to any wrongdoing even though she might have been in the wrong. She knows you will crucify her.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Nobody: 10:44pm On Feb 15, 2015
IDEApro:


You got it right. I decided to play the mind game cos I was at an advantage.
Most times she does it and I beg her. infact often time, she will be in the wrong but might be too proud to admit and plead for forgiveness, I will be the one to even pamper her or pet her. That's marriage and maturity.

There must always be drama

What advantage?? Marriage and what maturity?? Is keeping scores mature??

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by IDEApro(m): 10:50pm On Feb 15, 2015
kmcutez:


Na wa o!! You wife must really be going through hell with this your attitude. From your numerous posts I am beginning to see the type of person you are. No wonder your wife does not admit to any wrongdoing even though she might have been in the wrong. She knows you will crucify her.

mammy watergrin

The post just got it hundred likes now...time to hang yourself
Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by IDEApro(m): 10:51pm On Feb 15, 2015
kmcutez:


Na wa o!! You wife must really be going through hell with this your attitude. From your numerous posts I am beginning to see the type of person you are. No wonder your wife does not admit to any wrongdoing even though she might have been in the wrong. She knows you will crucify her.

Mammy water. The post just hit 100 likes.

Hang!
Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Nobody: 10:57pm On Feb 15, 2015
IDEApro:


Mammy water. The post just hit 100 likes.

Hang!

I will compare the likes to your post to what Jesus said.

Wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many are those who enter in by/like it.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by 5minsmadness: 11:17pm On Feb 15, 2015
IDEApro:


mammy watergrin

The post just got it hundred likes now...time to hang yourself
Take it easy bro.
She did apologise.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by dollydolly(f): 1:09pm On Feb 16, 2015
Nawa o. Kmcutez dear , pls don't mind him. U're too polished to trade words with him. U misunderstood him n later apologised, kapish. End of story n drama.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by jnrbayano(m): 1:30pm On Feb 16, 2015
dollydolly:
Nawa o. Kmcutez dear , pls don't mind him. U're too polished to trade words with him. U misunderstood him n later apologised, kapish. End of story n drama.

What's the bold about?

You really have a very poor mediation skills.

undecided

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by dollydolly(f): 1:39pm On Feb 16, 2015
jnrbayano:


What's the bold about?

You really have a very poor mediation skills.

undecided
I'm always mindful of my posts here on nl n in my context of calling her "polished" I'm not wrong. Cos to me when u misunderstand people n later apologise, u are polished. Hope I answered ur question.
Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by jnrbayano(m): 1:49pm On Feb 16, 2015
dollydolly:
I'm always mindful of my posts here on nl n in my context of calling her "polished" I'm not wrong. Cos to me when u misunderstand people n later apologise, u are polished. Hope I answered ur question.

You are still wallowing on the error.

Google mediation.

If still in doubts as to what I mean when I stated that you have poor mediation skills, I will gladly come and clear you later when I'm less busy.

That's if you care.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by ogeuno: 11:55am On Feb 17, 2015
Must all thread end with a fight.......smh

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Bootybuttchic(f): 12:56pm On Feb 17, 2015
Simplymeah:

Are u married? Dnt u thk u r 2 mean? We r Africans pls thread softly
just ignore that idiott,shes obviously a home wrecker....its her type of single ladies husbands shldnt allow deir wives be freinds with.....in her mind she feels shes right even wit her baseless points.




Am sure her fada neva even for once help her mother in d kitchen.they wil now come on nl to yarn balls on equality

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Bootybuttchic(f): 1:13pm On Feb 17, 2015
kmcutez:


I'm sure they were all from guys, but wrong conclusion aside, my opinion still stands though, that you treated your wife like a second class citizen.
who are u to judge,he neva said he had an unhappy home,and the wife neva complaind,she only said he rejectd his fud,they closed d case d next day,it depicts a happy wife and gud husband.

Note ur d only one sayin shes tired,elaborate eba,8pm?? Let me tel u,eba makin and warmin oha,is only elaborate to an ill bred,lazy woman,am a woman and i knw wat am sayin,i have a freind who pounds yam and cooks fresh egusi for her dad and siblings like childs play around 10pm ...do dey dig wells or cut wood in ur church ni,dat wil make u tired.?some poor people are stil out by 9 making ends meet,are u sayn dey wil sleep hungry claimin to be tired


stop judgin peoples lives,dy are married cos they understand each other

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by jnrbayano(m): 1:19pm On Feb 17, 2015
Bootybuttchic:
who are u to judge,he neva said he had an unhappy home,and the wife neva complaind,she only said he rejectd his fud,they closed d case d next day,it depicts a happy wife and gud husband.

Note ur d only one sayin shes tired,elaborate eba,8pm?? Let me tel u,eba makin and warmin oha,is only elaborate to an ill bred,lazy woman,am a woman and i knw wat am sayin,i have a freind who pounds yam and cooks fresh egusi for her dad and siblings like childs play around 10pm ...do dey dig wells or cut wood in ur church ni,dat wil make u tired.?some poor people are stil out by 9 making ends meet,are u sayn dey wil sleep hungry claimin to be tired


stop judgin peoples lives,dy are married cos they understand each other

It baffled me so much that she just couldn't understand the guy's simple story that narrated his sweet home.

That guy's magnanimity of heart in sharing that story was out of this world.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Bootybuttchic(f): 1:24pm On Feb 17, 2015
IDEApro:


You got it right. I decided to play the mind game cos I was at an advantage.
Most times she does it and I beg her. infact often time, she will be in the wrong but might be too proud to admit and plead for forgiveness, I will be the one to even pamper her or pet her. That's marriage and maturity.

There must always be drama
mr ignore them,they are being envious obviously0


if u are to find out now,dey may be the single and fasting/praying type,or unhappily married

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Nobody: 1:48pm On Feb 17, 2015
Bootybuttchic:
who are u to judge,he neva said he had an unhappy home,and the wife neva complaind,she only said he rejectd his fud,they closed d case d next day,it depicts a happy wife and gud husband.

Note ur d only one sayin shes tired,elaborate eba,8pm?? Let me tel u,eba makin and warmin oha,is only elaborate to an ill bred,lazy woman,am a woman and i knw wat am sayin,i have a freind who pounds yam and cooks fresh egusi for her dad and siblings like childs play around 10pm ...do dey dig wells or cut wood in ur church ni,dat wil make u tired.?some poor people are stil out by 9 making ends meet,are u sayn dey wil sleep hungry claimin to be tired


stop judgin peoples lives,dy are married cos they understand each other

Can you please write in proper English so that I can respond to your post.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Bootybuttchic(f): 1:53pm On Feb 17, 2015
kmcutez:


Can you please write in proper English so that I can respond to your post.
its not my fault u are too dumb to decipher what i typed up there .shld i type slowly undecided

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Nobody: 2:02pm On Feb 17, 2015
Bootybuttchic:
who are u to judge,he neva said he had an unhappy home,and the wife neva complaind,she only said he rejectd his fud,they closed d case d next day,it depicts a happy wife and gud husband.

Note ur d only one sayin shes tired,elaborate eba,8pm?? Let me tel u,eba makin and warmin oha,is only elaborate to an ill bred,lazy woman,am a woman and i knw wat am sayin,i have a freind who pounds yam and cooks fresh egusi for her dad and siblings like childs play around 10pm ...do dey dig wells or cut wood in ur church ni,dat wil make u tired.?some poor people are stil out by 9 making ends meet,are u sayn dey wil sleep hungry claimin to be tired


stop judgin peoples lives,dy are married cos they understand each other

I think I understand a little bit of what you were trying to say despite your abysmal spelling. I did apologize to him for saying the wife complained, but he also stated that the wife said he should make his own breakfast the next day, so the wife must have been unhappy about the treatment she received from him the previous night.

I do not think I'm ill bred, but I'm not too shy to state my opinions. I also do not think I'm lazy, but now have a cook and maid to take care of all those mundane issues, so I can stay focused and committed.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Nobody: 2:03pm On Feb 17, 2015
Bootybuttchic:
its not my fault u are too dumb to decipher what i typed up there .shld i type slowly undecided

No need to type slowly. Just write in proper English.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by 2goodbobo(m): 2:04pm On Feb 17, 2015
That endurance,sacrifice, love, understanding are some of the tenets of a happy Marriage.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by jnrbayano(m): 2:08pm On Feb 17, 2015
2goodbobo:
That endurance,sacrifice, love, understanding are some of the tenets of a happy Marriage.

Is it that you don't know these before you got married?
Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Nobody: 2:39pm On Feb 17, 2015
Bootybuttchic:
mr ignore them,they are being envious obviously0


if u are to find out now,dey may be the single and fasting/praying type,or unhappily married

I'm single but not the fasting/praying type. Anyone can get married at any time, but what what most people envy is a million times harder to find than getting married.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Nobody: 6:35pm On Feb 17, 2015
jnrbayano:


It baffled me so much that she just couldn't understand the guy's simple story that narrated his sweet home.

That guy's magnanimity of heart in sharing that story was out of this world.

Yes we all agree the story had a sweet ending, but I am also baffled that no one was willing to point out his wrong doing. His wife took out time to prepare dinner for him, and instead of him to say thank you, he got angry that the soup was not up to his standard. His wife was even willing to sacrifice more time and energy to prepare another meal for him, and instead of him again to be grateful and pleased, he got more angry. He even had the audacity to request for breakfast without first apologizing for the childish tantrum he threw the previous night.

You will be surprised that the wife might relate this same story in a not so forgiving/sweet way as the husband did. My brother, sometimes it is the little foxes that spoil the whole vineyard. It is those tiny tiny little details that we overlook or deem as not important that are the most important.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by jnrbayano(m): 8:49pm On Feb 17, 2015
kmcutez:


Yes we all agree the story had a sweet ending, but I am also baffled that no one was willing to point out his wrong doing. His wife took out time to prepare dinner for him, and instead of him to say thank you, he got angry that the soup was not up to his standard. His wife was even willing to sacrifice more time and energy to prepare another meal for him, and instead of him again to be grateful and pleased, he got more angry. He even had the audacity to request for breakfast without first apologizing for the childish tantrum he threw the previous night.

You will be surprised that the wife might relate this same story in a not so forgiving/sweet way as the husband did. My brother, sometimes it is the little foxes that spoil the whole vineyard. It is those tiny tiny little details that we overlook or deem as not important that are the most important.

Why will I point out the guys wrongs after reading the guy's experience for Christ sake?

You agreed the story ended well, over 100 people thought so too, is it not enough reason not to?

Again,

Marriage can be very sweet and interesting if you'd use your wisdom and can be very frustrating if you're insensitive and immature grin

Did you read this part of the guy's story? Pay attention to the bold.

Don't you think he did acknowledge his wrongdoing by that grin and also his apologies to the wife at the end?

Why should I now make a separate post to pointing out his faults?

It's needless, so I won't.
Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Nobody: 9:54pm On Feb 17, 2015
jnrbayano:


Why will I point out the guys wrongs after reading the guy's experience for Christ sake?

You agreed the story ended well, over 100 people thought so too, is it not enough reason not to?

Again,

Did you read this part of the guy's story? Pay attention to the bold.

Don't you think he did acknowledge his wrongdoing by that grin and also his apologies to the wife at the end?

Why should I now make a separate post to pointing out his faults?

It's needless, so I won't.

Yes I have paid attention to the above bolded as stated, but talk they say is cheap. From the telling of his story and his subsequent posts, shows that he still remains insensitive and immature, so definitely those areas of insensitivity and immaturity should be pointed out to him, which will help in future conflicts with his wife. The sweet happy ending happened more due to the maturity of the wife.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by IDEApro(m): 11:19pm On Feb 17, 2015
kmcutez:


Yes I have paid attention to the above bolded as you stated, but talk they say is cheap. It is just like some one telling you how matured they are, only to find out how childish they can be after interacting with them. The events leading to that happy ending was because the wife showed a lot of maturity, and not necessarily because he did. From the telling of his story and his subsequent posts, still showed that he did not see some mistakes he made, so those mistakes should definitely be pointed out to him, which will help him in future conflicts with his wife.


Why are you so slow in reasoning or rather have snail speed in comprehensive. What's you grouse actually?

You claim to be versed in English but simple comprehension and assimilation of a passage is forever becoming complex to you.

The Morale of my story was premised on the OP intention which bothered on the complexity of marriage which can never be overruled no matter how sanctimonious or perfect partners are. Marriage is all about meeting challenges and solving squabbles ( complexities) in a peaceful manner employing maturity.

Let me break down my post to your level for proper processing.

I and wify came back from church service and she wanted to prepare indomie to eat. Remember, all the garnishing I elaborate on that post...those items take time to prepare so definitely she wasn't tired as you subscribed but as always was willingly to provide my dinner. She asked if l did like to join her in the indomie meal which I decline but opted for something of quick fix which was the EBA and oha soup( She is a good woman whose husband wellbeing is sacrosanct)

If you're a good English student, you should notice where she 'asked' if I'd like to join her in the indomie meal...That's explain that the indomie meal was not to be the night meal but something she wanted to eat desperately.

She gave me watery soup? Yes as a man I registered my displeasure because this is not the kind of food I am usually served. I got angry quite well and hit the bed. She was obviously sorry but I rejected her attempt to replace the soup with another cos (1) I do not want food wastage and(2) I don't want to stresses her further.

Following morning I demand breakfast but she ask me to go get it myself( obviously still angry for me not eating last night). Notice this time I was no longer angry cos my anger disappeared the previous night( Mind game) so I was really in the right frame of mine to settle with her. Rather than prepare the breakfast, she requested for TP to go see a friend. Ponder this: Which married woman will go see a friend by 8AM and I obliged her with a Bill without raising objection. I guess she must be surprised thus with this thinking; ''I refuse to prepare breakfast for this man yet he gave me a thousand buck this morning for trivial reason without raising objection'' . Finally her conscience got better of her and she came back for reconciliation.

The theme of the story is: Complexity of marriage and I told the story of a typical marriage life with I as the antagonist and wife as the protagonist. The key of the story is
1. The maturity I exhibit not to exacerbate it.
2. Her sensitivity
3.Selflessness
4. Understanding and Amicable resolution.

Finally, we didn't enter into the marriage as ANGELS but humans full of imperfections and drama.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by jnrbayano(m): 6:51am On Feb 18, 2015
IDEApro:


Why are you so slow in reasoning or rather have snail speed in comprehensive. What's you grouse actually?

You claim to be versed in English but simple comprehension and assimilation of a passage is forever becoming complex to you.

The Morale of my story was premised on the OP intention which bothered on the complexity of marriage which can never be overruled no matter how sanctimonious or perfect partners are. Marriage is all about meeting challenges and solving squabbles ( complexities) in a peaceful manner employing maturity.

Let me break down my post to your level for proper processing.

I and wify came back from church service and she wanted to prepare indomie to eat. Remember, all the garnishing I elaborate on that post...those items take time to prepare so definitely she wasn't tired as you subscribed but as always was willingly to provide my dinner. She asked if l did like to join her in the indomie meal which I decline but opted for something of quick fix which was the EBA and oha soup( She is a good woman whose husband wellbeing is sacrosanct)

If you're a good English student, you should notice where she 'asked' if I'd like to join her in the indomie meal...That's explain that the indomie meal was not to be the night meal but something she wanted to eat desperately.

She gave me watery soup? Yes as a man I registered my displeasure because this is not the kind of food I am usually served. I got angry quite well and hit the bed. She was obviously sorry but I rejected her attempt to replace the soup with another cos (1) I do not want food wastage and(2) I don't want to stresses her further.

Following morning I demand breakfast but she ask me to go get it myself( obviously still angry for me not eating last night). Notice this time I was no longer angry cos my anger disappeared the previous night( Mind game) so I was really in the right frame of mine to settle with her. Rather than prepare the breakfast, she requested for TP to go see a friend. Ponder this: Which married woman will go see a friend by 8AM and I obliged her with a Bill without raising objection. I guess she must be surprised thus with this thinking; ''I refuse to prepare breakfast for this man yet he gave me a thousand buck this morning for trivial reason without raising objection'' . Finally her conscience got better of her and she came back for reconciliation.

The theme of the story is: Complexity of marriage and I told the story of a typical marriage life with I as the antagonist and wife as the protagonist. The key of the story is
1. The maturity I exhibit not to exacerbate it.
2. Her sensitivity
3.Selflessness
4. Understanding and Amicable resolution.

Finally, we didn't enter into the marriage as ANGELS but humans full of imperfections and drama.

May God continue to bless your marriage.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Nobody: 9:06am On Feb 18, 2015
IDEApro:


Why are you so slow in reasoning or rather have snail speed in comprehensive. What's you grouse actually?

You claim to be versed in English but simple comprehension and assimilation of a passage is forever becoming complex to you.

The Morale of my story was premised on the OP intention which bothered on the complexity of marriage which can never be overruled no matter how sanctimonious or perfect partners are. Marriage is all about meeting challenges and solving squabbles ( complexities) in a peaceful manner employing maturity.

Let me break down my post to your level for proper processing.

I and wify came back from church service and she wanted to prepare indomie to eat. Remember, all the garnishing I elaborate on that post...those items take time to prepare so definitely she wasn't tired as you subscribed but as always was willingly to provide my dinner. She asked if l did like to join her in the indomie meal which I decline but opted for something of quick fix which was the EBA and oha soup( She is a good woman whose husband wellbeing is sacrosanct)

If you're a good English student, you should notice where she 'asked' if I'd like to join her in the indomie meal...That's explain that the indomie meal was not to be the night meal but something she wanted to eat desperately.

She gave me watery soup? Yes as a man I registered my displeasure because this is not the kind of food I am usually served. I got angry quite well and hit the bed. She was obviously sorry but I rejected her attempt to replace the soup with another cos (1) I do not want food wastage and(2) I don't want to stresses her further.

Following morning I demand breakfast but she ask me to go get it myself( obviously still angry for me not eating last night). Notice this time I was no longer angry cos my anger disappeared the previous night( Mind game) so I was really in the right frame of mine to settle with her. Rather than prepare the breakfast, she requested for TP to go see a friend. Ponder this: Which married woman will go see a friend by 8AM and I obliged her with a Bill without raising objection. I guess she must be surprised thus with this thinking; ''I refuse to prepare breakfast for this man yet he gave me a thousand buck this morning for trivial reason without raising objection'' . Finally her conscience got better of her and she came back for reconciliation.

The theme of the story is: Complexity of marriage and I told the story of a typical marriage life with I as the antagonist and wife as the protagonist. The key of the story is
1. The maturity I exhibit not to exacerbate it.
2. Her sensitivity
3.Selflessness
4. Understanding and Amicable resolution.

Finally, we didn't enter into the marriage as ANGELS but humans full of imperfections and drama.
Oga you have time to be replying people. Its your marriage, your home your wife and your life. This issue happened sometime ago and you have solved and gone past it. Why will you now be bothering yourself because of other people's views? All because your wife warm soup, boiled water and made simple garri for you?! Oga enjoy your marriage and may God give both of you the wisdom to
make it work.

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Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by Simplymeah: 3:20pm On Feb 20, 2015
As much as we crave 4 peace in our homes,women shudnt b 2 bent on claiming their rights especially if u wish 2 kip ur home intact.cos wit marriage comes reality,most of d things u did 2geda with is ease as singles may require extra efforts afta marriage...coupld wit d fact dat d woman MUST b exceptnally patient nd learn 2 play dumb a littl,if u can,u'll push him around witout him noticing... wink
Re: The Pleasant And Awful Surprises Of Marriage by ifyalways(f): 4:46pm On Feb 20, 2015
jnrbayano:


Deep. Very deep!!

Isn't this somewhat self-centredness?
Who cares? You?

This is what works for me, my home and I frankly can't be bothered about what it means to you.

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