₦airaland Forum

Omotayor123:
I disagree

You can't just disagree without stating your reasons, please tell us your reasons, let's learn from you too.

I thought the institution was for fun happily ever after, never knew it was a set-up/trap. Thanks for the info anyway. The scripts have been re-written.

atakamus:
Come madam carry food give this guy abeg. I go pay you. Women don send you abi. Una no go succeed.
Our ladies nowadays are after unrealistic abstract things in thus world. They are not ready to submit and respect their husbands. Rather they are after their right. Most if them are selfish and are not ready to commit to their marriage. You hear things like " I know my right" instead of them to respect their husband.
The one I am living with opted for court wedding and I said no. I thank God for my response. Now she is a big issue for me. Very disrespectful and very abusive. Recently she has been telling people that she will leave the marriage. Some people I don't even know. Some people I don't even know. I spent mm y resources to train her in School. She has left the house 8 times and returned. I still accepted her. About 3 months ago, she destoyed all our marriage pictures including frames. Now she is asking for forgiveness because I am giving a damn again. She intercepted a text message between me and another woman that I intentionality went for. Her lives is now crashing. She is telling me she has right. I have made up my mind, I won't chase her away but will marry second wife. I won't chase cus we have three children together. The children need us but I can't live with her alone. It took me 8 years to put up with this shit of behavior.
So damn it OP.

How mature of you to come on here and be spewing all this about your marriage and your life.
Have you considered for once if she had also been putting up with your own shitty behaviour for 8 years? Cos something tells me you are not exactly a saintyourself...



PS: How sure are you that the woman you are dating at the moment and thinking of bringing into your house is an angel. Considering the fact that she is indecent enough to be screwing a married man.

You better man up and go make your marriage work. Unless of course there is threat to life.

The poster is mastakenly assuming that only a marriage contracted in a court or registry is covered by the relevant laws protecting marriage.
That is a wrong assumption sir.
Once the marriage can be proved to have been contracted whether in a court, home or religious house then all the marriage laws can automatically apply.

OBAGADAFFI:
Come on man, legalizing your marriage is not about the woman claiming your property in case of divorce .

It is about you securing your future together.

No insurance company, bank, embassy, private or government agency will listen to you if you cannot prove that the woman is your wife. In case of death .

Thank you.
That certificate is what is recognised by most organizations that you are married to the individual.

Its strange people are mentioning divorce, properties etc. It shows what is in their minds.

EgunMogaji:
Comparing two separate countries immigration requirements is a grave danger.

Best of luck on your immigration travels.

What is a “Spouse”?

A spouse is a legally wedded husband or wife. Merely living together does not qualify a marriage for immigration. Common-law spouses may qualify as spouses for immigration, but only if the laws of the country where the common-law marriage occurs recognizes common-law marriages and grants them all the same rights and obligations as a traditional marriage. In cases of polygamy, only the first spouse may qualify as a spouse for immigration.

http://niamey.usembassy.gov/mobile//niger/foriegn_spouse.html

kaziblake:
You are very correct,i concur.
1-Introduction ceremony

2-traditional marriage.

3-court marriage

On point

yetseyi:
Thank you.
That certificate is what is recognised by most organizations that you are married to the individual.

Its strange people are mentioning divorce, properties etc. It shows what is in their minds.

Some Nigerians are narrow minded.

Funny how most of people with the same marriage certificate are attacking the .

Court marriage humbles most men because the woman has been empowered to fight for her place while the Husby is alive or late. May God help us and give us our own home where peace talks happens every time. Beloved notin give long life than that.

What if a lady wants dat so she can also leave when she wants to or does it mean dat men re d only ones dat likes leaving

Sunnynwa:
What is a “Spouse”?

A spouse is a legally wedded husband or wife. Merely living together does not qualify a marriage for immigration. Common-law spouses may qualify as spouses for immigration, but only if the laws of the country where the common-law marriage occurs recognizes common-law marriages and grants them all the same rights and obligations as a traditional marriage. In cases of polygamy, only the first spouse may qualify as a spouse for immigration.

http://niamey.usembassy.gov/mobile//niger/foriegn_spouse.html

I don't live in or give a frack about Niamey.

My Wife is from Nigeria and I specifically referenced USEL.

Kitanadex:
You can't just disagree without stating your reasons, please tell us your reasons, let's learn from you too.

It's there. Just stroll down a little bit.

Nina4u:
omg don't u get it ? If we only have a traditional wedding u can't even get a visa to travel by u self to the USA ... Non the less if we not legally married u can't stay or live in that country ..so only naija would recognize traditional wedding but the rest of the world does not

ok,then I stay in my country.No matter what you say,i say NO to court.

Toks2008:
It is no longer news that tradition is the opium of the people and no one is contending that.

But when it comes to marriage,while some believe that without paying of bride price,the man can not be said to be married to a lady and some believe that without the white wedding,a marriage can not be said to have received GOD's blessings.

Well i'm not here to discus on that aspect of marriage and i had to drop this quick one as a result of the mentioned i got on a thread relating to this.

[size=13pt]I am not sorry to write this...

Any married lady who never had a legal wedding otherwise called Court or registry wedding is as good as single.Quote me anywhere in the world.[/size]

And this is very true for some reasons but i will mention a few.

1. He can not just wake up one day and say he does not like your face again and send you out of your matrimonial home.
2. He dares not marry another wife except he divorces you
3. He must have a valid reason for divorcing you and must be able to convince the court.
4. You have protection under the law for yourself and your child(ren) in case he dies

I can continue to list several other reasons but let me just stop here.If you like, say you trust your husband,he loves you,he can never treat you bad..O.Y.O lo wa.

If you like let the man spend 1billion on your traditional wedding and do a white,blue,green,indigo wedding with a trillion naira. The fact is that these two ceremonies combined with all the money spent is not as binding and constitutional as a simple court wedding with just 4 people in attendance.

Unfortunately we have seen many people getting away with bad acts despite the fact that they had a legal wedding but the reason is because the affected individual usually lets go without putting up a fight due to high cost of legal battle and no thanks to parents and family members who always preach to them that "what is yours will always stay with you" and that they should let go which i see as stories for the gods.

Ladies be wise..as an endangered specie in the cruel world of men,legal wedding was specifically created to protect more of the lady's marital right so take advantage of it or ignore at your own risk.

I will stop here.

Op i bin tink say u be woman o abi u be gay?
Anyways go get a job and let Nigerians leave their lives not coming here to talk poo.
court marriage ku.

I strongly disagree.
I believe you have issues of insecurities and trust. May be u do not have a religion

urchmanx:
Traditional marriages are the first recognized marriage that is recognized in Nigeria. That is why we have customary court.

Thanks for enlightening me sir. I didn't now before coz I once saw a mother in law and husband get into an argument where he threatened to leave the wife... Mother in law was like she'd drag him to court. Husband was like they can't make a case in court coz they are only traditionally married

haryomikun:
Thanks for enlightening me sir. I didn't now before coz I once saw a mother in law and husband get into an argument where he threatened to leave the wife... Mother in law was like she'd drag him to court. Husband was like they can't make a case in court coz they are only traditionally married

It's ok dear. The cons of traditional marriage is it is decided by the customary court. And customary court look at cases from the customs and tradition of the community. Nigerian legal recognize that each committee have different customs and tradition which must be respected. I will give you an example of what I am saying. In most Igbo land women are excluded from owning landed assets. But some part of rivers state allows women to own landed assets. So our women from the river line area are ok while those from the other side are endeared. So will is the only means of bridging the gap. Once you have tradition and court marriage. My dear if you meet deadly uncles the cab still mess you up.

The same protection a women gets from a court marriage is the same protection a man gets. Most of the rights in court marriages are what men are already receiving traditionally. But court marriages make it equal in law to both sexes

NEHLIVE:
So what's the protection for the man. Y'all ladies always thinking of yourselves alone.

My brother, you are on point!