You have noticed some irregularities in your crush,I think you need to kill your crush for him.
You don't need unexpected or shocking news

Izen:
Okay, you know what guys..... You don't have to give me any advice. Let's all pretend like we don't have our emotional sides. I'm asking a genuine question here that affects me because I don't want to fall in love and get hurt in the process. Is it bad to ask? And no, I'm not jobless. My life is perfectly okay. I'm just falling in love and hoping it's not with the wrong guy. If you have ever experienced something like this and want to help, thank you. I'd really appreciate it. But as for those of you insulting me, I really don't know what you're trying to achieve. Is it to make your selves feel better about your maturity or what? It's not by force to comment.

Look dear pay no mind to those insulting you.

Do you love your anus? If you do I'd advice you to pick race.

But then he hasn't asked you for a relationship has he? Just don't put yourself in a position where he'll ask you for a relationship.

If your mind tells you he is gay, then trust me he is gay.

Maybe bi-sexual even.

I know a guy in Lagos, cute face kinda, works in a bank, he is definitely gay cos he fvcks somebody I know and he is preparing to marry his fiance very soon.

I can only pity that girl who may not know what she is in for.

So dear, run for your life.

There's one way to find out how he feels about you. Make your move and see how he responds.

You just need to make up your mind! nobody is perfect, you can't get 100%,and it seems you lose interest quickly.

@op, you really need counselling, trust me. Men are not goods shipped from China or Spain. If what you need is a guy with good command of English, then start associating with the likes. If your story is anything to go by, your educated family should have family friends educated too where you can pick from.

Marrying outside your faith could be frustrating in future pls be careful. Girls can have crush but with whom? If the feeling is not mutual, you will suffer the most. You should be able selective in picking Crushes.


As to gay, if He doesn't look straight, He isn't STRAIGHT. I just pity your small ANUS.



Keep Calm the He is coming

Izen:


Let's just say I'm not under pressure to get married but I'm done with school.

I'm sorry about those people insulting you op,I will just say the little I think can help
All those signs point out to the fact that he's gay,don't be blinded by your feelings.
You say you date guys that can express themselves properly,you should start moving with the type of people you really want to be with.
Plus,don't start a relationship with someone you are really sure you will never marry(Maybe cos of different religion,tribe,educational background)or whatever
And lastly,define all relationship, if you think what you want with a person is just friendship,let that person realise he won't get more than friendship from you

dirtyslap:
Who do you expect to read this your fabricated stupid epistle? Me or other nairalanders?....is something wrong with your head? Do you want to get hit by 20 trucks @ a time. Rubbish

My dear ask am oo hmmm i tire oo na narrative essay oo

The fact that gay people follow him on social media doesn't mean he is gay but "fishy pose" sounds gay/bisexual tho... Some girls know their boyfriends are into guys and they don't mind so it's up to you... Can you cope dating a gay/bisexual guy?

Izen:


Nairalanders, am I reading too much meaning into all these signs? I know gay guys tend to be free with girls. He is not feminine at all tho.
You can see that I've had a limited number of crushes because when I fall I fall really hard. Some last 2-3 years. My shortest was the one before this current one and I believe this current one contributed to me killing those feelings. Should I be open to love if it comes or should I face front?

For what it's worth, MAJORITY of gay guys are not effeminate, at least the outward appearance.

ElsonMorali:


Look dear pay no mind to those insulting you.

Do you love your anus? If you do I'd advice you to pick race.

But then he hasn't asked you for a relationship has he? Just don't put yourself in a position where he'll ask you for a relationship.

Paulpaulpaul:

Marrying outside your faith could be frustrating in future pls be careful. Girls can have crush but with whom? If the feeling is not mutual, you will suffer the most. You should be able selective in picking Crushes.
As to gay, if He doesn't look straight, He isn't STRAIGHT. I just pity your small ANUS.
Keep Calm the He is coming

Why do people think a gay guy would also be interested in a lady's ass if he gets married to a lady? There's a reason he's gay, and it's not because of the anus. It's just like saying a straight person would have sex with a guy with a vagina, just because there's a vagina there.

masonkz:


For what it's worth, MAJORITY of gay guys are not effeminate, at least the outward appearance.

hmmm...u took those words outta my mouth

masonkz:




Why do people think that when a gay guy would also be interested in a lady's ass if he gets married to a lady? There's a reason he's gay, and it's not because of the anus. It's just like saying a straight person would have sex with a guy with a vagina, just because there's a vagina there.

C'mon u really ave time 4 diz dollop-heads here on Nairaland sha...dat is why i dnt comment on posts like dis...dey will just start 2 talk as if dey reason tru d bottom of their slippers...u knw i do say it...wen dey hear of d word "Gay" d only tin dah comes 2 their mind is dat fvcking of anus dey made mention of up there...beta leave dem wit their crack heads...sometimes d way i read some comments ehn?...just lemme May-chaw-nu

youngaz:
C'mon u really ave time 4 diz dollop-heads here on Nairaland sha...dat is why i dnt comment on posts like dis...dey will just start 2 talk as if dey reason tru d bottom of their slippers...u knw i do say it...wen dey hear of d word "Gay" d only tin dah comes 2 their mind is dat fvcking of anus dey made mention of up there...beta leave dem wit their crack heads...sometimes d way i read some comments ehn?...just lemme May-chaw-nu

Ma guy no mind me. Someone has to educate the ignorant folks though Anytime they hear the word gay, next thing na anus. . Crack head no be small.

masonkz:




Why do people think a gay guy would also be interested in a lady's ass if he gets married to a lady? There's a reason he's gay, and it's not because of the anus. It's just like saying a straight person would have sex with a guy with a vagina, just because there's a vagina there.

Your analogy is hilarious bro, a straight guy will be interested in a guy with a V. Many straight guys have married transgender unknowingly and have enjoyed the artificial punna wella

Paulpaulpaul:




Your analogy is hilarious bro, a straight guy will be interested in a guy with a V. Many straight guys have married transgender unknowingly and have enjoyed the artificial punna wella

Being a transgender is a different thing. Would you have sex with a guy that only changed his d.ick to a vag.ina?

Anyway my point is, gay guys aren't attracted to a woman's ass just cos she has one.

masonkz:


Being a transgender is a different thing. Would you have sex with a guy that only changed his d.ick to a vag.ina?

Anyway my point is, gay guys aren't attracted to a woman's ass just cos she has one.

That's wrong to some extent bros, gay guys loves anal se.x mostly and the society wants them to marry a lady and have children. To satisfy the society and his desire, a lady's ass-hole will do the magic

Paulpaulpaul:


That's wrong to some extent bros, gay guys loves anal se.x mostly and the society wants them to marry a lady and have children. To satisfy the society and his desire, a lady's ass-hole will do the magic

Nope. I'm one so I know better.

masonkz:




Why do people think a gay guy would also be interested in a lady's ass if he gets married to a lady? There's a reason he's gay, and it's not because of the anus. It's just like saying a straight person would have sex with a guy with a vagina, just because there's a vagina there.

Sorry you're not making much sense here.

A straight person will not have sex with another person of the same sex even if that person has the opposite sex's sex organs. Thats why they are called straight.

If a guy has a vagina, i cant imagine myself in any kind of situation with such a person. And a straight girl wouldnt co.e near a female that has a penis. So there...

ElsonMorali:


Sorry you're not making much sense here.

A straight person will not have sex with another person of the same sex even if that person has the opposite sex's sex organs. Thats why they are called straight.

If a guy has a vagina, i cant imagine myself in any kind of situation with such a person. And a straight girl wouldnt co.e near a female that has a penis. So there...

Read what I wrote again, slowly this time.

masonkz:


Read what I wrote again, slowly this time.

Slowly or quickly, what you wrote up there doesn't make sense. Try again.

Miss, seems u re looking for luv in d wrong places...anywez, I feel luv should b allowed to grow & not all this crush u re having up & down... I want to bliv u re of age sha....in any case, am single & hoping to mingle, am goodlooking, and I speak quite well too... So, if u reside in Lagos maybe we could hook up & see where it might lead it......

firstking01:
Why crying foul like a toothless puppy huh??...are you new on here??...this is nairaland and romance section of all sections...weather your post makes sense or not people will still bash you...always have this at the front of your mind....


Unto your issue, i 'll advice you give it more time...stylishly lure him into gay porn or something and see his reactions...i'm sure he has friends you can subtly and nicodemously find out if he's gay from his friends/colleagues...ok, have a nice day.

don't mind her, she's new on NL and was expecting NLers to pet her Like a puppy dog....even the non-sense post was fabricated

Why not just pop the big "will u be my boyfriend" question while being serious, holding his two hands and looking deep into his eyes? and stop worrying over shi.t?

Hunnie if you think he's gay, he probably is, especially with all those stuff you listed. My advice, give it time, if he's yours you'll know soon enough.

queenitee:

I'm sorry about those people insulting you op,I will just say the little I think can help
All those signs point out to the fact that he's gay,don't be blinded by your feelings.
You say you date guys that can express themselves properly,you should start moving with the type of people you really want to be with.
Plus,don't start a relationship with someone you are really sure you will never marry(Maybe cos of different religion,tribe,educational background)or whatever
And lastly,define all relationship, if you think what you want with a person is just friendship,let that person realise he won't get more than friendship from you

Thank you for your advice. I'll keep it in mind. I just wish he wasn't this hot But we probably will never end up together anyway. I wish I didn't have to see him very often too

bitchcrafts:
Why not just pop the big "will u be my boyfriend" question while being serious, holding his two hands and looking deep into his eyes? and stop worrying over shi.t?

Lol, if only love was that easy

CheedyJ:
Miss, seems u re looking for luv in d wrong places...anywez, I feel luv should b allowed to grow & not all this crush u re having up & down... I want to bliv u re of age sha....in any case, am single & hoping to mingle, am goodlooking, and I speak quite well too... So, if u reside in Lagos maybe we could hook up & see where it might lead it......

I don't live in Lagos. Lol, I'm a bsc holder o. I know me seeking advice is childish but I'm not a kid lol.

Alfred234:
The fact that gay people follow him on social media doesn't mean he is gay but "fishy pose" sounds gay/bisexual tho... Some girls know their boyfriends are into guys and they don't mind so it's up to you... Can you cope dating a gay/bisexual guy?

Wouldn't that be like giving him a pass for cheating? Not sure o

Izen:

Wouldn't that be like giving him a pass for cheating? Not sure o

Lol Lets just pray he's not gay for your sake

ElsonMorali:


Slowly or quickly, what you wrote up there doesn't make sense. Try again.

If you say so