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Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Ginaz(f): 5:44pm On Nov 15, 2016
I don't know the right section to post this but I really need to know cos I'm tired already so forgive me.

I'm in my early twenties, I'm the kind of girl that just love being alone with herself. I don't go clubbing, don't go to parties( except I don't have a choice and I'm being forced by my mother, marriage tinx)

I have few friends, just 4 I share deep emotional matters with. I'm always alone when at home, in fact I get excited about it.

I have never visited anyone this year, except on 2 occasions. Only 2 have visited me also, I close from work straight home and sleep, read novels or watch movie.

I like social stuff but too much of it kills me, makes me shy and tired. Now I'm at my aunt's house, I've been inside my room since Saturday, I only come out to do house chores. This is my personality but I feel people don't understand.

My aunt just had a talk with me right now that I keep myself from people, and it's getting me mad cos I didn't think it that way.

Nairalanders, please am I too introverted or what? Is there something I'm missing? Please.

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by UrennaNkoli(f): 5:47pm On Nov 15, 2016
You're just like me. I dont keep too many friends either. If you make no meaning to me then just **** off.

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Nobody: 5:48pm On Nov 15, 2016
You are perfect baby kiss

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Ginaz(f): 5:49pm On Nov 15, 2016
UrennaNkoli:
You're just like me. I dont keep too many friends either. If you make no meaning to me then just **** off.

I'm very quiet to some extent, people take advantage of it a lot. I don't know how to make them understand this is how I am.

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Winnelyn(f): 5:52pm On Nov 15, 2016
you are exactly like me.. but I think I love myself this way

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Nobody: 5:56pm On Nov 15, 2016
I can relate with ur situation, first of all, it's perfectly normal to want to be alone. But if you ar afraid of people judging you as your reason of alienating others then there is a problem. You should consider yourself rare, most people dont get to love themselves as much as you do. Nd dont let anyone push you into making the wrong friends. You ar in ur early twenties i can say thats still young. Let ur aunt know dat u are in no rush to make decisions concerning ur life. Alone time are to be cherished. Cheers

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by joycesims(f): 5:59pm On Nov 15, 2016
:d I'm the same I think, staying home alone gets me excited most of the time

when I was working, I get home straight, do chores,novels or movies/internet then bedtime

I love watching movies alone, I don't watch TV with family cos they are probably watching sports, zee world/telemundo...ewwww

My mum complains but I can't help it

I have just 1 friend now, lol
and I'm also the only daughter, hmm...

I dunno I'm not really bothered tho family members wouldn't let one be...

is it OK, I dunno, but I'm not unhappy, I mean who unhappiness epp

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by iamphotoshoot(m): 6:13pm On Nov 15, 2016
I can comfortably say that 80 to 90 percent of nairalanders are just like you. So don't expect anyone to give you a real answer.

Yes, you are introverted. I am as well. Is it bad? Not really.
Except when you are probably doing it too much, and apparently, you are. Its best you loosen up a bit.

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by MackBrooklyn: 6:14pm On Nov 15, 2016
Ginaz:
Please o, I really need advise from y'all. I've always be misquoted and misunderstood cos of this. What should I do to lose up.?

cheesy grin






Ginaz, lemme be frank with you. I sincerely understand the dilemma you're in but shît is just that this is what social media is turning us into nowadays. But if you really need solution or a probably a serious advice to your dilemma and you're seeking it here on romance section, I'm sorry to say this but you're on a long thing cos most of the people you see here including myself are the same like you but they haven't realize that yet or probably there is no one that has call their attention to it like yourself.



If you seriously need efficient and perfect solution to your dilemma, I would advice you to copy and past this your post to the family section. I'm sure you'll get even excess advice in there. You can also cc: lalasticlal* too cool



My 2 Cents cool

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by MackBrooklyn: 6:16pm On Nov 15, 2016
Winnelyn:
you are exactly like me.. but I think I love myself this way

cheesy grin






cc: mynd4* cool
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by freesinzu(m): 6:17pm On Nov 15, 2016
Female posters above sha undecided

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by jbrodaly(m): 6:18pm On Nov 15, 2016
Ginaz:

Nairalanders, please am I too introverted or what? Is there something I'm missing? Please.

Have you had some terrible experience in the last year or so?
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Ginaz(f): 6:22pm On Nov 15, 2016
jbrodaly:


Have you had some terrible experience in the last year or so?

No, why this chilling question.?
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Bluezy13(m): 6:23pm On Nov 15, 2016
Women eh... Next na Prayer house. Hehehe...

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Nobody: 6:23pm On Nov 15, 2016
To answer you correctly...

You have to answer mine,

Are you celibate?
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Nobody: 6:24pm On Nov 15, 2016
Always alone; na so "cucumber is bae" dey start.
Iranu.

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Ginaz(f): 6:25pm On Nov 15, 2016
iamphotoshoot:
I can comfortably say that 80 to 90 percent of nairalanders are just like you. So don't expect anyone to give you a real answer.

Yes, you are introverted. I am as well. Is it bad? Not really.
Except when you are probably doing it too much, and apparently, you are. Its best you loosen up a bit.

Worst part is I don't know how to loose myself. right now as I'm typing, I'm excluded in the parlour while my aunties are in the dinning room all chatting. Being alone is like a drug to me.

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Ginaz(f): 6:26pm On Nov 15, 2016
NwamaziNwaAro:
To answer you correctly...

You have to answer mine,

Are you celibate?

This question eh
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Ginaz(f): 6:26pm On Nov 15, 2016
Funnicator:
Always alone; na so "cucumber is bae" dey start.

Iranu.

Who's this one

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Nobody: 6:30pm On Nov 15, 2016
Ginaz:

Who's this one
Your spiritual husband.

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Winnelyn(f): 6:34pm On Nov 15, 2016
MackBrooklyn:


cheesy grin






cc: mynd4* cool

see me see wahala oooi
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Ginaz(f): 6:37pm On Nov 15, 2016
Funnicator:

Your spiritual husband.

You're dead, what's dead can't be reincarnated.

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by jbrodaly(m): 6:38pm On Nov 15, 2016
Ginaz:


No, why this chilling question.?
If you have not always been this introverted, you may have to find out why now? The reason for the question is that some experience just make you "draw" back like a snail withdraws into its shell. But you know, sometimes there could be no reason for worries,It could be a stage in life.
It could also happen that you are becoming wiser. But try mixing up with people even if it means just meeting up at cafe or something. Such friendship doesn't have to go beyond such a place.
I hope I made sense to you.

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Ginaz(f): 6:38pm On Nov 15, 2016
Please o, I really need advise from y'all. I've always be misquoted and misunderstood cos of this. What should I do to lose up.?
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Nobody: 6:39pm On Nov 15, 2016
Ginaz:

You're dead, what's dead can't be reincarnated.
What's dead may never die. #waiting for you at midnight.

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by kinggogo: 6:41pm On Nov 15, 2016
Yeah, we both av same personalities
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by iamphotoshoot(m): 6:47pm On Nov 15, 2016
Ginaz:


Worst part is I don't know how to loose myself. right now as I'm typing, I'm excluded in the parlour while my aunties are in the dinning room all chatting. Being alone is like a drug to me.

Do you have folks that club? And hope you aren't the judgemental type, because left to me, clubbing is one major way of breaking loose the chain of introversion. Go to clubs regularly.(with people).

Yeah, and reduce the amount of time you spend online. Or on social media, make it a must you at least visit a friend in a week. And make sure it is a sincere friend.

Errr
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by MackBrooklyn: 6:49pm On Nov 15, 2016
Winnelyn:


see me see wahala oooi




cheesy grin







Oya beg me before ah go vex put the missing digit tongue
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Winnelyn(f): 6:54pm On Nov 15, 2016
MackBrooklyn:


cheesy grin







Oya beg me before ah go vex put the missing digit tongue

you and myndfourfour bomb dey una head tell him I say so undecided
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Nobody: 6:56pm On Nov 15, 2016
Ginaz:


This question eh


Yes now...you might have an exterior docile facade....

You get exposed from the many avenues you mentioned...parties, work and movies.

So if you celibate then you truly are introverted, if you are not; then you are selectively introverted or an inverted extrovert.

Or

You could have a problem sticking to your resolve from a burning desire to please people even to your detriment.

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Ginaz(f): 7:03pm On Nov 15, 2016
jbrodaly:

If you have not always been this introverted, you may have to find out why now? The reason for the question is that some experience just make you "draw" back like a snail withdraws into its shell. But you know, sometimes there could be no reason for worries,It could be a stage in life.
It could also happen that you are becoming wiser. But try mixing up with people even if it means just meeting up at cafe or something. Such friendship doesn't have to go beyond such a place.
I hope I made sense to you.

I never had any experience, let's say but my dad. I had a very bad vibe with him. I just wanted to know if maybe it's too much. I hate public places, and won't want to go except I am with someone I know very well. I'm confused what I really am, I don't want people hanging round me and don't want to hang round them either. I am not scared of being alone, I wonder if I'm alright mentally or its Part of me.

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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by BEENUEL(m): 7:03pm On Nov 15, 2016
Ginaz do you have a boyfriend? If No, give one-a suitor chance, I think that will be of help, at least normal banging(my banging can mean anything tongue) can boost self esteem. Thank me later

Thanks cool

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