Bhuldoxxa:
No disadvantages because its best for the law to recognize your marriage especially with the way more and more people are becoming hard hearted.

erico2k2:

You two are missing the point
Someone could have done traditional marriage and Church wedding 25 years ago and they now want to legalize it for reasons best known to them do you now understand why she might not give out that exciting vibes you described as missing

Sanchez01:

Church wedding does take a whole lot and the funniest thing is that it is totally unnecessary.

Most churches and couples are forced to redecorate the church to their theme colours while the church would make certain requirements cum requests that are also stressful. Buying gifts just o appreciate the pastor, pack the choir's food, as well as ministers, print church programmes, church photography, etc are just some of the little ways the church drains one's purse.

Reception is where you entertain your guests and appreciate them. The church wedding is inconsequential just as the certificates issued, but most people don't see this as the trend and competition for church weddings increase with each passing day.

Ideally, your traditional wedding first, then a registry to formalize the whole thing before the law, entertain your guests and go for your honeymoon if the money is there. You could choose to go for your Thanksgiving or church blessing afterwards. I keep telling people that there was no teaching of church wedding in the Scriptures but we act it out like our lives depend on it.

And yes, most pastors don't attend receptions because they have been heavily settled immediately after the joining in church.

linearity:


What do you mean? Traditional marriages are legal and recognized by the constitution. Except you intend saying that, the wife is afraid of her inlaws and wants the equality provided by statutory marriage.

PaperLace:

Unnecessary is subjective.
Some people see Registry as unnecessary too, different stroke for different folks


Most churches?
How many times have you been married? And where did you do your survey?
Some big orthodox churches wed 5-10 people every Saturdays. I guess all the couples would decorate each pillar. Nice.
The church decoration team handles that Sir.
Church programmes? Not true, they request for just one for their archive. Sometimes for the Pastors...
Photographs? Wouldn't you want your photographs? If you don't want, still not compulsory.
You may have to specify the requirements, so far you're throwing around facile assertions.
'Poor people' get married in churches every Sat/Sun, how exactly did they go past these expenses you keep talking of?


Still choice.
Reception is where the money goes down. Budgeting for 150-300 people isn't beans, and can never equal the amount spent in church (that's if you do 'spend').


There doesn't have to be teaching of it in the Bible.
Lots of youths fornicate with reckless abandon, then remember the Scriptures when issues like this arise.
If you're such an advocate of the Scriptures, I hope you follow it to the letter.

Another lie, most Pastors don't attend receptions 'cos some activities that take place there might be considered 'worldly' inclusive of the gbedus.

erico2k2:

How is traditional marriage Legal?
whats the legal backing for it?
Even church wedding is not legal let alone traditional marriage,I take it you are not yet married right? some of us talking to you have been married for more than 10 years.

Unnecessary is subjective.

Some people see Registry as unnecessary too, different stroke for different folks

Most churches?
How many times have you been married? And where did you do your survey?
Some big orthodox churches wed 5-10 people every Saturdays. I guess all the couples would decorate each pillar. Nice.
The church decoration team handles that Sir.

Church programmes? Not true, they request for just one for their archive. Sometimes for the Pastors...

Photographs? Wouldn't you want your photographs? If you don't want, still not compulsory.

You may have to specify the requirements, so far you're throwing around facile assertions.

'Poor people' get married in churches every Sat/Sun, how exactly did they go past these expenses you keep talking of?

Reception is where the money goes down. Budgeting for 150-300 people isn't beans, and can never equal the amount spent in church (that's if you do 'spend').

There doesn't have to be teaching of it in the Bible.
Lots of youths fornicate with reckless abandon, then remember the Scriptures when issues like this arise.
If you're such an advocate of the Scriptures, I hope you follow it to the letter.

Another lie, most Pastors don't attend receptions 'cos some activities that take place there might be considered 'worldly' inclusive of the gbedus.

erico2k2:

yes you do.

miqos02:
but will the church agree to divorce any marriage easily

erico2k2:

you are l iving in the dark ages still
Advantages of Registry
#you kids are protected to all both of you own
#Anything happens to you,your wife and kids are protected
#Anything happens to her,you and kids are protected
#If you are Dangote and scared you might lose your money to your wife sign a pre-nop if spelt right.
#For legal reasons that little paper is the only thing that gives you the right to call her you wife where marriage laws are enforced.
#The world is changing and its all global, both of you might want to spend xmas in Rome, the only thing that will tell you interviewer yo are both married is that marriage certificate signed by the registrar at teh registry
#last but not the least. stop saying COURT MARRIAGE for crying out loud

gfullmoon:


Grow up sunny boy.
Alimony is also enforceable in church marriages gone sour. So if any man who married through the church should divorce his wife and leave her with lets say 3 kids, do you think the church will just tell you go your way good man, let your ex wife only take care of all the kids?

What makes marriage fail is not Tradition, church neither is it Registry wedding (what most people ignorantly call Court Wedding) but the people involved and how able they were in managing the circumstances leading up to divorce. They are men /women whom have seen 10 times what most divorcees saw and went their separate ways but are in still in their marriage and had worked their ways through such trouble waters through perseverence etc . Please note that Church /Tradition /Registry don't make marriage work, people /couple do, they can only help .

byvan03:



Another lie ,the witnesses can be any adult .

obidevine:


I just had my court wedding on the 10th of december at Ikoyi registry, I know what I'm saying

Sanchez01:

ALIMONY IS NEVER ENFORCEABLE IN THE CHURCH. The church's power is highly restricted to its members and not just everyone. The church could also play a crucial role in working towards reconciling the estranged couple but does not hold the power to make a decree concerning the marriage or outcome. The best the church can do is to advise. I'll paint a scenario.

A married church goer who attends the same church with his wife suddenly becomes distracted and engages in extra marital affairs which does not move him should his wife know about it. Wifey finds out, cries her eyes out but isn't enough as the man is hell bent on leaving with a younger, more beautiful lady. Best case scenario on the church's part would be a reconciliatory move. Should the man insist on not coming back to his wife and kids he might pull out of the church and the power of the church ends there. At that point, they can only ask the woman to involve their families. The church would become a spectator should the man refuse to cater for his family. There's no way they can enforce alimony in this regard. It won't even fly.

linearity:


The Nigeria constitution recognizes three types of marriages:

1. Statutory Marriage aka Registry or Court Marriage.
2. Customary Marriage aka Traditional Marriage
3. Islamic Marriage

In all three marriages, one can apply and get marriage certificate from the registry.

All three marriages are legal in Nigeria and most Church marriages help couples to obtain marriage certificates. So churche weddings these days combine both, hence they are legal.

All the three types of marriages differs in application of certain laws e.g. Those in Statutory marriages cannot practice polygamy, but those in the other two can. Asset distribution and inheritance differs also among all three forms of marriages.

Maxvasia:
Lol. Am sure u are just a boy. You will learn. Surely u will. What am not sure of is if u will survive the experience. All the best. And for ur info, i carry a diplomatic passport for the next 10years at least. So i can go anywer in this world just with the snap of my finger. Just so u know. Having said that, i would love to ask.......Any other boring, inexperienced person on this thread lacking in correct self assessment wanna quote me again and show himself?

omololu2020:
what will i lose?

erico2k2:

well you are entittled to ur opinion, calling me a boy hmm I should take that as a compliment cos wen yu get to my age you might not be lucky to be called a boy, next time look up people stop making assumptions
Diplomatic passport yeah, ahaha Nothing we nor go see for nairaland.
FYI I have lived abroad 17 yrs plus so Diplomatic passport means nothing to me really

Maxvasia:
Lol....i dnt intend trading words with u anyway. But really, when one puts all cards on the table, u will finally realise that there are so many things the society has tied us to in the past that are actually doing more harm than good. Think about it objectively. Going tru the registry is, in the end, harmful to the man but beneficial to the woman. A lot of people have been there and back while some never returned. I may be the son of a Diplomat but that does not prevent me from sharing experiences with those who are open to learning new things. Good morning

erico2k2:

Oga stop this diplomat thing who diplomat epp ?
I'm not new to passports .
Diplomatic passport do t get issued to children of diplomats only the diplomats . Thier wife and kids are subject to immigration controls you can chk the UK website to this effect mayB you think you talking to one of them freshers .
https://www.gov.uk/check-uk-visa/y/nigeria/diplomatic

UrennaNkoli:
We are thinking of going for a court marriage (registry). Please tell me the advantages and disadvantages from the male and female point of view.
Also, can I achieve these things listed below with a court wedding?

# I don't like too much crowd and noise which are common with owanbe's

# Can a little reception be allowed to hold in the court premises without prohibition?

# low Kew wedding in which after the ceremony, everyone goes back to their respective homes

# At most 15 or less number of guests. I don't want too much crowd and paparazzi

# A budget of 150k probably for snacks, cake, food and drinks.

# Time : I don't think it should take more than 5 hours and all will be over.

I brought this to the family section as I believe there are more mature minds here compared to the romance section.
Lalasticlala and farano can help move to front page so that perspectives can be broadened.

obidevine:


I just had my court wedding on the 10th of december at Ikoyi registry, I know what I'm saying

obidevine:


I just had my court wedding on the 10th of december at Ikoyi registry, I know what I'm saying

byvan03:


No you don't, relatives presence are not compulsory in a any way.

obidevine:


You seem like an argumentative fellow, I'm telling you that they advised us to come with a blood relative as witness, they hold counseling / oath taking every Tuesday at Ikoyi Registry and it was at the oath taking they gave us this advice. I'm really not here to argue.

ariesbull:



from eperience, i did court wedding.I drove in..my withness drove in we had our weddiing wify wore wedding gown,we did our wedding and in less than 30 min we are done nd we took our marriage certificate


case closed..went back to work and wify went back to work


no food no drink


at the end of the day....we have our valid legal CERTIFICATE recognised by law

Viking007:
This is cool.

byvan03:


...And am telling you that whether you brought your relatives or not, the wedding holds accordingly. Be open to new information that you don't know to avoid intellectual retardation. No one is arguing with you .