ChiChilolo:
I'm confused.

I can't explain it.

I don't think you are psychologically ready for sex,sexual intercurse is not only physical

How can I advice you when I am still a virgin? the only thing I know about female sexuality is that you ladies only enjoy sex when there is emotional attachment with the man. You are probably being controlled by your high sex drive. Quit having sex with him and look for someone else. If he nack you belle, my sister you don enter one chance be that O!

i guess you are not enjoyin sex with him, maybe he is not sampling ur somethin wella.
Am just imaginin u lying lik a log of wood while doin d deed with him.
Its lik that guy is a 1min man but i think they are NL guys can sample u wella they can bang lik machines excldin me o cos me sef i be 1min man or less.

Signs that your conscience is alive,

Signs that you should not be doing it,

Signs that marriage is honourable when the bed is not defiled

ChiChilolo:
I'm confused.

I can't explain it.

my sister you need to become born again

SUPOL:
U feel his taking advantage of u

This is the reason, the solution is to find out why or what exactly makes you feel this way.

SUPOL:
lolz he's using psychology on u, u loose ur defense wen ever he is with u

For your mind now you be sharp guy? You dey here dey cast your fellow guy,dey spoil en affair,still use style wan collect digits from this babe. For your mind u smart baa?
Na ur kind person dem dey use set example.

Op you have a spiritual husband....

ChiChilolo:


I'm not staying with him, I have a roommate and live off campus

I like the shape of the girl on your dp. I know it's not you.

Wia is this chichilolo sef, see number of comments ontop ur head. U better do and go an come an make ur chioce

I had that problem with a guy once and that was because l loved having sex with him I also hated myself after because I felt used and I knew it was wrong plus he was more into the physical part of the relationship than the emotional part.
So just talk to him about it , that's the best wat out if u love him find a solution together for both of you to be happy.
Happiness is the goal

ChiChilolo:
I'm confused.

I can't explain it.

had a girlfriend like you before we broke up when we were in 500level its something you can do . I left her because i don't want to keep making her guilty. It wasn't easy but its possible all you need to do is find a new hobby and stay focused on your religious aspect.... Me i did the best i could for her by staying away not easy for me but i had promised her initially not to ever force or hold her against her will.. But its now roughly 1yr plus and i bet you she has moved on...so you can but word of advice sit down with him and explain things to him so that he won't feel asif your dumping him for some other dude... And you need to keep your distance..... And yah we dated for roughly 4yrs....

it's not him that u really hate, it's sex and that u do what u said u won't do again that u really hate.

popez:


For your mind now you be sharp guy? You dey here dey cast your fellow guy,dey spoil en affair,still use style wan collect digits from this babe. For your mind u smart baa?
Na ur kind person dem dey use set example.

my brother, d internet is a place to find solutions from experienced ones. I have an idea of what she is saying n I was only trying to help, pls I wasn't serious about d digits cos there's no way she could have posted it here. No vex if I exposed ur secret but I no ur bae is not on nl

stanboy28:
use ur common sense to deduct and evaluate dat its guilt due to religious stuff dats killing her....not the guy....b4 u spoil the guy 4 am.....d guy might even be so gud emotional due to her statement .....tell her to stop dat mentality cos if u wanna hav pleasure den u most sin....if u come hate sex den it will feel like and obligation to ur husband....which he wont find funny

lolz, as far as am concerned d solution to any rship lies in d hands of d man. There's nothing dat doesn't have solution. Watch her enter next rship n she will never complain. I understand wat she feels

Bumbae1:

Maybe its too big then
Did you measure it??


You know what the problem is you haven't had an orgasm yet .. = pointless sex = time wasting = move right on = just don't sex him

Pointless comment

she feels shes making a big decision, against her own conviction, religious belief ?? is better to talk to him about it. and be heard

kolaranking1:
Pointless comment

Likewise wasteman likewise

Op, if that's how u feel, then its better you lock up and throw away the key. No self-servicing. No whatever.

Also, I've seen folks in no-sex relationships. They seem happy too. You can give it a try.

ChiChilolo:
I'm confused.

I can't explain it.

I had d same issues years back until I stumbled onto this....

I think you need to put a little more thought into who you're having sex with. Yes, you're young and you should be having fun, but clearly it isn't fun anymore. You're not going to fall in love with someone if you're too busy getting into their pants.

I don't want to go all psycho-babble on you, but perhaps there's some kind of sexual abuse in your past that you're either not sharing here or you've repressed it? I'm also thinking maybe it's not them that you loathe, but rather you're loathing yourself because you regret having sex with them?

So, work on your self-control and don't have sex with someone unless you can really visualize them as a part of your life afterwards

iamDaisy:
small wont cause this, its hate.

you so look like helen paul with that smile you wearing,,,,,

stanboy28:
its ur mindset....u see sex as taking advantage of u or using u or..what ever...and u hav to stop and fight dis mindset....sex is gr8....it connects emotion and all...if wit d appropraite person or......unless u wanna be single all ur live...u gatta learn how to love sex..cos d moment ur husband bleep u den...ur start thinking rubbish...dat will send u to ur fada's house if care is not taken......dats all i gatta say..



#I-AM-STANBOY

stanboy28:
use ur common sense to deduct and evaluate dat its guilt due to religious stuff dats killing her....not the guy....b4 u spoil the guy 4 am.....d guy might even be so gud emotional due to her statement .....tell her to stop dat mentality cos if u wanna hav pleasure den u most sin....if u come hate sex den it will feel like and obligation to ur husband....which he wont find funny

stanboy28:
its either of these 3 tins


1:-its either d relationship is abusive or u ar jst coping and managin d guy(which i guess not)

2:-......ur religion is affecting ur mentality towards sex...seeing it as sinfull,being used..or takin advtge of...yep..dats basicaly having a wrong mentality abt sex...plus it can affect u to ur husbands house...there..u will see sex as only jst an obligation to ur husband...yes..sex is damn sinfull ..well..jst try and enjoy it.(am sure dis is ur problem)

Lastly...it seems d nigga is not good in bed good,does'nt last enouf or som other tins dat make u less satisfied with d sex...(i dont think these 1 is the main prob)



#I-AM-STANBOY

WALAHI, TIRI GBOSA FOR YOUU!!!

It is a mindset that you need to work on. i was once like that. i had to start relating with the opposite sex differently and start creating a special place in my heart for that special one

ChiChilolo:
I'm confused.

I can't explain it.

ritababe:


lol, you are not staying with him na are you? is not by force you must visit him na, stay in your house my dear if he want to visit he can come when your mom or dad is around.

Eh, You are evuh

ChiChilolo:
I'm confused.

I can't explain it.

Love, you subconscious mind feels he exploited your body

ChiChilolo:
I'm confused.

I can't explain it.

Its a psychological problem....
You feel used.

You are not satisfied

You once had a bad sexperience (rape) (molestation) (abuse)

You feel like you have sinned.(and he's the cause)

..

nikkypearl:
Stop having sex with him...







#teamvirgin#

If she stop having sex, would she become a virgin?

ChiChilolo:
I'm confused.

I can't explain it.

The truth is you should be confused and sad cos you're having a pre marital sex and it is a sin.

Lol....

tomnmenace:







WALAHI, TIRI GBOSA FOR YOUU!!!

SUPOL:
lolz, as far as am concerned d solution to any rship lies in d hands of d man. There's nothing dat doesn't have solution. Watch her enter next rship n she will never complain. I understand wat she feels

ride on sir

ChiChilolo:
I'm confused.
I can't explain it.

That's why premarital sex is strongly discouraged.