House... please I need u guys advise to ease this pain am going through... Please pardon my typo errors


I have a girl have been dating for almost 3years now & she has been very helpful to me, infact she recently paid my house rentage of 72k early this month.

But our problem started on the 14th(val day), in the morning I sent her a text which she didn't reply nor call back to tell me she saw the text. Then some hours later a text entered my phone with her number, checking the text I saw it contains 2 different text messages & a phone number, out of curiosity I dialled the number & a guy picked. Then I try calling her phone but switched off, I went straight to her place of work & I ask her whose number is that she said she did not know. in her presence there I added the number on whatsapp, lo & behold its one guy that she always tell me they are just friends. I show her the picture & she said she will tell me the truth, that we should go home together which I obliged.

Getting home she started pleading that the guy text her & she replied with THANKS MY LOVE, she revealed to me that the guy went to Ghana & ever since he came back, he has been disturbing her for relationship & her friend told her to give him a chance which she did but she is ready to break everything at that instance, she picked her phone & call the guy to tell him she is no longer interested in him in my presence but I was still not satisfied & I sent her out of my house.

We didn't see since then till on 16th which she started calling & sending text to beg for my forgiveness which I did not reply nor answer her call. The next morning she came to my place to beg me & during the course I picked up her phone & went through her whatsapp conversation, what I saw there was very terrible & the cause of my unhappiness.


I saw different conversation she had with her friends, there is this particular one that she likes wella, she was telling the girl that I have caught her with the guy o & I told her I don't want her again so she went to meet the guy & the guy rejected her too but she lied to the guy that the call she called him was just a joke & the guy accept. She also tell her friend that the guy love her die cos the guy nearly commit suicide on hearing she break up with him. Then her friend ask her what she want to do & she replied that the guy is her last hope o cos there is no hope from my own side, her friend asked her that does she knows she is about to dissapoint me which she replied YES! Her friend was surprised as she typed JESUS! She also tell her friend that the guy is coming to do her introduction next month ending.


Her friend then ask her if she can cope without me which she said it will be hard cos it's me that she need but I won't take her back & the guy is her last hope now. Her friend just replied her to follow her heart so she wont make miatake, when I confronted her with the message, she said she just wanna hear what her friend will say. Instantly she broke her sim card & started begging me that she will CHANGE that she can't explain what's wrong with her. She confessed that she actually went to the guys place & had sex with him on val day.She used my phone to call the guy that she is no more interested, now my fear is this... Can I trust her again? She involved my dad & he begged me to forgive her but I haven't. She even drop her phone with me since that day that she doesn't want to use phone again if that will make me happy.


I need you guys advise!

Can she really change?


Note: I'm 25 while she is 24...


cc: lalasticlala, Seen,

Hmm

If she did before, she will do it again. Same right now, same girl back then.

OP, people change. Give her a benefit of doubt

Lolzzz


Sorry man


LMAO D

Abeg do wetin dey ya mind bro. LMAO


Bros that girl na better green snake. See as she cast you finish. You still dey ask us for advice? LMAO


Bros that girl go use you cook pepper soup.

I wan stop laughing but I no fit. LMAO

Bros, you mean you read all those things and you still get liver to ask for advice?

My advice dey simple: Take her inside and fvck her any how you like because of the way she don cast you. When you finish, no cuddle her at all o, just tell her to dress up and go that you will get back to her later (just as job interviewers tell job seekers). LMAO

Everything's so childish, I can't even assimilate. Are u both adolescent?

Rtopzy:
Everything's so childish, I can't even assimilate. Are u both adolescent?

Please advise on what to do, that's not necessary.

Rtopzy:
Everything's so childish, I can't even assimilate. Are u both adolescent?

Wat is d adolescence dere? D babe is cheating n was caught so is dat one so difficult u cnt decipher again, Nawa 4 sum humans sha

Guy, neva u trust any woman' jst live ur life as if u dnt ve a hrt 2 love' trust no man

stevealibi:


Wat is d adolescence dere? D babe is cheating n was caught so is dat one so difficult u cnt decipher again, Nawa 4 sum humans sha

Don't get me wrong, d whole story sounds like child's play. It doesn't sound like a tin btw two adults

AdexAbbey:


Please advise on what to do, that's not necessary.

Dear, just forget abt her nd move on, she ain't worth it

In Yoruba, we wee say "Eleyi Gidi gan o"

This one is strong. O koja agbara mi!

Rtopzy:


Don't get me wrong, d whole story sounds like child's play. It doesn't sound like a tin btw two adults

Dat lady is a capital cheat, n has been caught case closed

U guys nid to sit down and seriously talk. From the look of things u guys are still not matured enough. Ultimately go get yourselves some relationship advice from professionals. Peace!

Dannidom:
U guys nid to sit down and seriously talk. From the look of things u guys are still not matured enough. Ultimately go get yourselves some relationship advice from professionals. Peace!

Thanks for this... How can I go about this?

stevealibi:

Dat lady is a capital cheat, n has been caught case closed

Yes sir. I concur

Broz think about it

She's not confused. She wants to be with you, for now. But more than likely it will happen again, in a few months.

schumastic:
let me be the first to tell you this sad news.

THEY HAVE HAD SEX, REASON WHY SHE IS CONFUSE AND DON'T KNOW WHO TO CHOOSE.

IS SAD BUT SHE DOESN'T SEE A FUTURE WITH YOU CUS TO HER, YOU ARE NOT READY WHILE THE OTHER GUY IS.

JUST MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE CUS AM SURE RIGHT NOW YOU DON'T TRUST HER OR LOVE HER AS MUCH AS YOU DO, WHICH ON THE LONG RUN WILL AFFECT THE RELATIONSHIP.


BEFORE I GO, ALWAYS HAVE THIS AT THE BACK OF YOUR MIND ''IS GOOD TO TRUST BUT IS BETTER NOT TO''

Thanks so much, but the truth is that I still love her that's why am asking for an advise... Let me say not real love but have gained/am gaining many things from her & for the fact that I have no one here, all my family/relatives are in lag while am in Delta state.

Guy, the earlier you accept the fact the better for you.
Look, that girl will still see the other guy and they'll sought things out again.
She knows you won't trust her the way you did before, so she'd consider settling for the new guy... Fresh relationship. She already told her friend her plans, don't believe her if she tells you anything else.

AdexAbbey:



Thanks so much, but the truth is that I still love her that's why am asking for an advise... Let me say not real love but have gained/am gaining many things from her & for the fact that I have no one here, all my family/relatives are in lag while am in Delta state.

Lol... In other words, you've been using her abi? You've been with her just because of the benefits, right?
well, you can continue na, since it's not real love.... Make she kuku be your sugar mummy.
50/50

I hate complicated relationships, I just can not cope.

AdexAbbey:



Thanks so much, but the truth is that I still love her that's why am asking for an advise... Let me say not real love but have gained/am gaining many things from her & for the fact that I have no one here, all my family/relatives are in lag while am in Delta state.

so why are you crying cus to me you are only with her because of what you are gaining and the fear of what you tend to lose if you brk up with her "that's not love " is either you continue to stay with hewr or you leave

AdexAbbey:



Thanks so much, but the truth is that I still love her that's why am asking for an advise... Let me say not real love but have gained/am gaining many things from her & for the fact that I have no one here, all my family/relatives are in lag while am in Delta state.

Kwantinue

that awkward moment your maga want CHANGE but you are a diehard goon of PDP

I could bet she's no longer for you. Her chat with her friend is the bitter truth...
If you think she will change,you are deceiving yourself. Drop her silly a$$

its better to break up with her now, the truth is you don't trust her anymore... even if you take her back out of pity, you ve got something to nurse for the rest of your life. save yourself that!

lol... Babe wanna port

Krystalzkris:
lol... Babe wanna port

hey

the guy is a yahoo boy that just came from ghana with enough money to spend on her..
its the money thats confusing her.
but one thing she does not know is the guy will still go back to continue his hustle..thats what her friend is trying to tell her but she is not wise enough to understand.