I am so sad right now, I am thinking of getting out of d relationship, I and my bf started dating in January, he was in camp wen I said yes to him and after d camp, he was posted to his place of primary assignment, wen he came back home for Easter, I caught him cheating on me with another girl on his watsap and I also saw how he pic mix d girls' and himself on his fone and how he told his friend dat he is dating d girl and sent d girls' picture to his friend and not even mentioning me at all, I confronted him with d pictures which he denied saying she is his cousin, I finally told him I saw his chat on watsap and he started begging me and I forgave him, I told him to either choose me or d girl, he said he will choose me over her 10times dat he is just playing with her and nothing more is happening between them.
He came to visit me in schl and d girls' call entered wen I was with his fone, initially I Neva thought of going through his fone, I decided to check his fone wen he went to bath, he has deleted all his watsap chats and other social network chats leaving only 2 peoples' chat on his watsap and dis really got me thinking, I decided to check his call log and I found out dat he calls d girl very well and d girl calls him too, in fact only my name and her name appeared on his call log and even her name appeared more frequently than my own, I am so sure he is still dating dat girl, he met me b4 d girl, I am wondering wat he saw in d girl dat I don't have, I am thinking of just texting him tomorrow after he is gone dat I am no more interested again, I am hurting, I can't sleep, dis is a guy I don't ask for money from him, I can calculate how much he has spent on me since we have started d relationship which is not up to 3k, he even met me as a virgin sef, though make up is not really my tin but I had to start applying it because he loves it, I don't wear trousers b4,I started wearing it because of him, wat does he really want and I knw I don't have a bad character. wat should I do, he is not even proud of me. I am so sad right now, I want to b myself again and want to b loved d way I am, I am thinking of telling him to just stick with d girl cos I know wit tym, I will b OK.

know this...
...Most guys go into relationships with sex in mind.
...The availability of other positive attributes would make the sensible ones committed.
...The confused ones will still act like your boyfriend. Donating your virginity, not collecting money, wearing makeup and other things won't make any difference.

I told him to either choose me or d girl, he said he will choose me over her 10times dat he is just playing with her and nothing more is happening between them.

Wrong move! You need to overdose on self esteem...
He was playing with her? Is she nintendo?

He isn't going to be faithful just because you want that..but because he wants to.

You changed so much to satisfy him, what personal change did he make? Or were you the only one changing like a chameleon under 6months. After all that change, you lost your identity. Unknowingly you became paranoid and weak, wondering what other modification you need to implement to keep him. Love shouldn't be that stressful.

For future purposes, learn to love yourself. Build your self confidence to a point that you are not scared of being you and being alone. The fear of being alone has made some people cross that line between attraction and desperation.

A relationship where we constantly suspect and put our partners under surveillance, just like you were doing...is exhausting and untenable. You don't have to be stuck with such baggage, you have forgiven previously... let him go.

You seem like a good girl, focus on other things for now. Read books, take some short courses...hang out with friends and cry if you wanna...it helps, don't suck it in. I know it's not easy, but you'll find love again

hummmmmm....this one got me thinking

It is well dear,

the elders will advise you better.

Post ur picture first so I'll know the kind of advice to give u

Things women go through in the hands of men

Ok guys,over to you. What do you really want?

Trust me sis the dude is nt worth d panicking jst move on.... A beta man will come ur way

They want you to be yourself.
One of the biggest mistake you can make is to change yourself just to please a guy.
Right from the onset of the relationship you were a square peg trying to fit into his round hole.
Nothing attracts a guy more than a lady who is confident in herself and needs no validation from anyone.
Mind you there's nothing wrong in wanting to please your man, but the moment you start changing your identity, you lose yourself in him and that's not healthy.

Yes you shouldnt have done it with him, but dust yourself and move on or else you might develop low self esteem soon with the way things are going because i read you asked him to pick between you and the girl when you could have just broken up with him.

Chuksdede:
Trust me sis the dude is nt worth d panicking jst move on.... A beta man will come ur way

tanks

missiret:
I am so sad right now, I am thinking of getting out of d relationship, I and my bf started dating in January, he was in camp wen I said yes to him and after d camp, he was posted to his place of primary assignment, wen he came back home for Easter, I caught him cheating on me with another girl on his watsap and I also saw how he pic mix d girls' and himself on his fone and how he told his friend dat he is dating d girl and sent d girls' picture to his friend and not even mentioning me at all, I confronted him with d pictures which he denied saying she is his cousin, I finally told him I saw his chat on watsap and he started begging me and I forgave him, I told him to either choose me or d girl, he said he will choose me over her 10times dat he is just playing with her and nothing more is happening between them.
He came to visit me in schl and d girls' call entered wen I was with his fone, initially I Neva thought of going through his fone, I decided to check his fone wen he went to bath, he has deleted all his watsap chats and other social network chats leaving only 2 peoples' chat on his watsap and dis really got me thinking, I decided to check his call log and I found out dat he calls d girl very well and d girl calls him too, in fact only my name and her name appeared on his call log and even her name appeared more frequently than my own, I am so sure he is still dating dat girl, he met me b4 d girl, I am wondering wat he saw in d girl dat I don't have, I am thinking of just texting him tomorrow after he is gone dat I am no more interested again, I am hurting, I can't sleep, dis is a guy I don't ask for money from him, I can calculate how much he has spent on me since we have started d relationship which is not up to 3k, he even met me as a virgin sef, though make up is not really my tin but I had to start applying it because he loves it, I don't wear trousers b4,I started wearing it because of him, wat does he really want and I knw I don't have a bad character. wat should I do, he is not even proud of me. I am so sad right now, I want to b myself again and want to b loved d way I am, I am thinking of telling him to just stick with d girl cos I know wit tym, I will b OK.

such a guy does not deserve ur love, u av forgiven him the first time yet he's still cheating on you. I know its painful bt u have to let him go. You have a good heart and girls like you are scarce, so dont let anyone treat you like trash. Let it go... The right guy will come.

Sorry oo..its like the guy don chop clean mouth..

My guys at Alaba always refer to it in like manner as picking dry meats with toothpicks.

U just got picked and chewed.

Adorbs:
They want you to be yourself.
One of the biggest mistake you can make is to change yourself just to please a guy.
Right from the onset of the relationship you were a square peg trying to fit into his round hole.
Nothing attracts a guy more than a lady who is confident in herself and needs no validation from anyone.
Mind you there's nothing wrong in wanting to please your man, but the moment you start changing your identity, you lose yourself in him and that's not healthy.

Yes you shouldnt have done it with him, but dust yourself and move on or else you might develop low self esteem soon with the way things are going because i read you asked him to pick between you and the girl when you could have just broken up with him.

it's very hard for me to let go, I mean very very hard, d thought of it sef is killing me

I have just one advice for you and that is DON'T KILL YOURSELF because you are towing the path already.

missiret:


it's very hard for me to let go, I mean very very hard, d thought of it sef is killing me

dont die ooo..there are still able bodied men out there waiting in queue to pick the kongo meat. Like that dude up there asking you to post your pics.

When i counsel earlier on that we men are naturally and spiritually polygamous, una no hear. I think the overall anatomy of the female body is created in such a way to cure us of this sweet madness.

Honestly op if I was your bf to say?
•1)I would secretly move out of your life because it a mess to derail you to such esteem..

So In essence to what I ve to say!
•2)Respect matter's in a relationship that precisely (loyalty)and if we don't have these two factor's it won't work,your boyfriend might love multiple girls,but respect has to come in the way that you have to be it's first priority..That is to choose btw you and second!!!


Thirdly relationship is basically kind of practicals,you text and if it work you take it,if It does not,you go out...

You don't need to adapt to a man just alone or do some certain things to please men,am totaly against it for you to apply :-
•makeup
•Wear trouser's
•Or maybe even shootout your breast as I think is not love .
It is clearly obvious that this are the things that want to keep you attractive to him..

Then lastly if as I above stated we can summarized it as saying ''sex''attracted him,whether you wear ''Buluku''or not sex was what he want from you,maybe he might originally love you oooo but that what I think,because sometimes within ourselves for we guy's

You will hear were a man well say mehn it feels good to sex a virgin,it like a pleasure to disvirgin a virgin,that what guy's see it as and if he succeeds the story has a 90% possibility of failing...

So I think you can decide on your faith from here...


But if I was you,I will stick to him as friends..
You know why?
•it is because you will learn more about what his type of person are like and especially understand abite of 30 to 45% men character.

Atleast it will show you what some potential or eventual men who will come seeking will look like,it will just make you have an insight about me...

But if you choose to decide on other faith towards him,it all what you know will be best for you!!

missiret:
I am so sad right now, I am thinking of getting out of d relationship, I and my bf started dating in January, he was in camp wen I said yes to him and after d camp, he was posted to his place of primary assignment, wen he came back home for Easter, I caught him cheating on me with another girl on his watsap and I also saw how he pic mix d girls' and himself on his fone and how he told his friend dat he is dating d girl and sent d girls' picture to his friend and not even mentioning me at all, I confronted him with d pictures which he denied saying she is his cousin, I finally told him I saw his chat on watsap and he started begging me and I forgave him, I told him to either choose me or d girl, he said he will choose me over her 10times dat he is just playing with her and nothing more is happening between them.
He came to visit me in schl and d girls' call entered wen I was with his fone, initially I Neva thought of going through his fone, I decided to check his fone wen he went to bath, he has deleted all his watsap chats and other social network chats leaving only 2 peoples' chat on his watsap and dis really got me thinking, I decided to check his call log and I found out dat he calls d girl very well and d girl calls him too, in fact only my name and her name appeared on his call log and even her name appeared more frequently than my own, I am so sure he is still dating dat girl, he met me b4 d girl, I am wondering wat he saw in d girl dat I don't have, I am thinking of just texting him tomorrow after he is gone dat I am no more interested again, I am hurting, I can't sleep, dis is a guy I don't ask for money from him, I can calculate how much he has spent on me since we have started d relationship which is not up to 3k, he even met me as a virgin sef, though make up is not really my tin but I had to start applying it because he loves it, I don't wear trousers b4,I started wearing it because of him, wat does he really want and I knw I don't have a bad character. wat should I do, he is not even proud of me. I am so sad right now, I want to b myself again and want to b loved d way I am, I am thinking of telling him to just stick with d girl cos I know wit tym, I will b OK.

Sweetheart most men are like that. He's a player and not good enough for you. Never do things you don't like to please a man because he will take you for granted. 90% of guys now want sex before marriage and if they don't get, they won't be satisfied so never give in to sex because if the relationship doesn't work out you will end up regretting. Remember your virginity is your pride and quit him no matter how he ask for forgiveness ignore him and God will send a handsome young man for you in Jesus name Amen...

I need money for now
den later i would look 4 my virgin wife
Op am sorry 4 u sha....gan look 4 a good guy

guys just want to read the bible and get closer to God but u girls be using us for sex and shiit which ain't right!

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OP when you mean camp, do you mean NYSC?
if so then variety is the spice right now, there's nothing as good as dating someone new.

if it's NYSC then wait till he has done with it.

missiret:
I am so sad right now, I am thinking of getting out of d relationship, I and my bf started dating in January, he was in camp wen I said yes to him and after d camp, he was posted to his place of primary assignment, wen he came back home for Easter, I caught him cheating on me with another girl on his watsap and I also saw how he pic mix d girls' and himself on his fone and how he told his friend dat he is dating d girl and sent d girls' picture to his friend and not even mentioning me at all, I confronted him with d pictures which he denied saying she is his cousin, I finally told him I saw his chat on watsap and he started begging me and I forgave him, I told him to either choose me or d girl, he said he will choose me over her 10times dat he is just playing with her and nothing more is happening between them.
He came to visit me in schl and d girls' call entered wen I was with his fone, initially I Neva thought of going through his fone, I decided to check his fone wen he went to bath, he has deleted all his watsap chats and other social network chats leaving only 2 peoples' chat on his watsap and dis really got me thinking, I decided to check his call log and I found out dat he calls d girl very well and d girl calls him too, in fact only my name and her name appeared on his call log and even her name appeared more frequently than my own, I am so sure he is still dating dat girl, he met me b4 d girl, I am wondering wat he saw in d girl dat I don't have, I am thinking of just texting him tomorrow after he is gone dat I am no more interested again, I am hurting, I can't sleep, dis is a guy I don't ask for money from him, I can calculate how much he has spent on me since we have started d relationship which is not up to 3k, he even met me as a virgin sef, though make up is not really my tin but I had to start applying it because he loves it, I don't wear trousers b4,I started wearing it because of him, wat does he really want and I knw I don't have a bad character. wat should I do, he is not even proud of me. I am so sad right now, I want to b myself again and want to b loved d way I am, I am thinking of telling him to just stick with d girl cos I know wit tym, I will b OK.

I am a guy and I'm saying maybe you should let him go

Victornezzar:
I need money for now
den later i would look 4 my virgin wife
Op am sorry 4 u sha....gan look 4 a good guy

Oboy, u don come here? Howfar una seeing church (whatsapp group)?

missiret:


it's very hard for me to let go, I mean very very hard, d thought of it sef is killing me

What are you insinuating? I want you to know the truth;you are his side chic...no offence.


Just move on,do you wanna kill yourself because of love?It is very obvious,you are love drunk,just be careful to avoid stories...


Chase the paper and live your life.Work on your self esteem...thank me later

Mhissgaga:
Things women go through in the hands of men

You make it sound like the females don't do worse.

toastedbread:


Oboy, u don come here? Howfar una seeing church (whatsapp group)?

Omo me no know 4 dem oo

missiret:


it's very hard for me to let go, I mean very very hard, d thought of it sef is killing me

sorry dear.

Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

ibkkk:
Ok guys,over to you. What do you really want?

money,excess of it...

missiret:


it's very hard for me to let go, I mean very very hard, d thought of it sef is killing me

How far,una don marry?