These days I go even fear to sponsor my own wife self. Make she no go love one Yahoo boy 4 SKU

MissCokie:
I have heard and seen so many men sponsoring a girl who is not his wife through education/career. I just want you to know something, when she's done with you, she will leave you for someone else.

The money you would use in sponsoring her, please give it to your mother or sister to start a business or rather, sponsor your sisters education/career.

You can share your experience for others to learn.

I remember one guy a security man in some organization. the guy was barely educated bit he was sponsoring his girl through school. He had this nice racket going on where they steal diesel from the company stores and sell. About the time the girl graduated he got busted and was sacked. That girl dropped him like a hot potato

I think the best way to give is to know who you are giving to and to give only what you can afford to let go. give and forget about what you've given, don't keep it mind.
I think this helps if the person betrays you later, you won't be upset about what you gave because you know that you gave because it's your personal decision, it's what you wanted to do and you are happy with your decision.
There is nothing wrong with lending a helping hand IF YOU CAN AND IF YOU ARE WILLING TO . It doesn't make you a mugu, it doesn't mean you are foolish.

That should have been op's advice, Instead of trying to spoil people's minds from giving.

illuminated93:
If I do anything for my gf or anyone,it's not really because I owe such person a duty or something, it's just because I'm the bigger person,and if I don't like,I won't do,no matter the noise.[/b]I don't do things for people because I expect a payback,that's a poverty mindset. But the idea is this, never allow emotional blackmail as a way of getting you to do stuffs

That's the most important thing, give because you want to and not because of emotional blackmail. Nice

LordKO:

[b] Dear, mind games is only for small-minded people. If I cannot be of goodness to a lady/person I termed a friend then, I have no reason keeping her close. Pretense and hypocrisy aren't my thing. Nothing justifiably inhibits someone that has the wherewithal, from genuinely changing for good, the cause of people around him/her (blood relations and friends in particular and genuine needies in general) simultaneously.
My previous submission stand.

I love this

Robbin7:
These days I go even fear to sponsor my own wife self. Make she no go love one Yahoo boy 4 SKU

Yes O. I geard of one man too.sponsored his wife abroad. She ran off and left him with 6kids

MissCokie:
I have heard and seen so many men sponsoring a girl who is not his wife through education/career. I just want you to know something, when she's done with you, she will leave you for someone else.

The money you would use in sponsoring her, please give it to your mother or sister to start a business or rather, sponsor your sisters education/career.

You can share your experience for others to learn.

The funny thing is that after sponsoring her in school, you'll still be required to pay a huge bride price and settle a lengthy traditional marriage list, all for some tiny piece of wet, hairy flesh between her legs

I'm with her on that. Too much Expectations lead to heartbreak

MasterRahl:
The funny thing is that after sponsoring her in school, you'll still be required to pay a huge bride price and settle a lengthy traditional marriage list, all for some tiny piece of wet, hairy flesh between her legs

Really?

OrestesDante:
Bottom line?

What's your point?

It's pretty much self explanatory: NEVER EVER INVEST HEAVILY ON A WOMAN WHO IS NOT YOUR WIFE, MOTHER, OR SISTER.

MissCokie:
I have heard and seen so many men sponsoring a girl who is not his wife through education/career. I just want you to know something, when she's done with you, she will leave you for someone else.

The money you would use in sponsoring her, please give it to your mother or sister to start a business or rather, sponsor your sisters education/career.

You can share your experience for others to learn.

Wisdom !!!

nairanaira12:


Then you are misplacing your priority, which should be to first have mental evaluation before coming to read the post

Bros! You don't have to insult me now. You can just read and leave

ocelot2006:


It's pretty much self explanatory: NEVER EVER INVEST HEAVILY ON A WOMAN WHO IS NOT YOUR WIFE, MOTHER, OR SISTER.

This is better than insult

OrestesDante:


No deduction could be made so far. You can help.

d point she was trying to make is that u should spare no effort, financially, materially or otherwise in helping ur gf achieve her dreams. u don't need 2b married 2her. Just make sure b4 she asks, u have provided

lexy2014:
d point she was trying to make is that u should spare no effort, financially, materially or otherwise in helping ur gf achieve her dreams. u don't need 2b married 2her. Just make sure b4 she asks, u have provided

Thanks

Shey nah bad tin if one lady sponsor me too, abi is it a crime in nigeria constitution... Why always "MALE"

MasterRahl:
The funny thing is that after sponsoring her in school, you'll still be required to pay a huge bride price and settle a lengthy traditional marriage list, all for some tiny piece of wet, hairy flesh between her legs

bros, is that tiny fleshy tin the famous"ABODII OR SHAKI" that afonja likes so much..

Op is very right. A girl who is not your wife owe you nothing. Sponsoring her in school is a waste of resources unless you are on a charity mission.

Daeylar:
I think the best way to give is to know who you are giving to and to give only what you can afford to let go. give and forget about what you've given, don't keep it mind.
I think this helps if the person betrays you later, you won't be upset about what you gave because you know that you gave because it's your personal decision, it's what you wanted to do and you are happy with your decision.
There is nothing wrong with lending a helping hand IF YOU CAN AND IF YOU ARE WILLING TO . It doesn't make you a mugu, it doesn't mean you are foolish.

That should have been op's advice, Instead of trying to spoil people's minds from giving.





That's the most important thing, give because you want to and not because of emotional blackmail. Nice


I love this

op isn't spoiling people's minds, she's just being plain honest. Its easy 2 say give 2a man or woman u intend 2 marry without any emotions attached.fact is most times, u give more 2a person who u c as d object of ur love much more than u give 2 others. U can't avoid it.best thing is avoid it all together. If u want 2b father Christmas, then leave romance&love out of it. Jesus had this to say in Matthew 7:6 "Don’t give precious things to dogs. Don’t cast your pearls before swine. If you do, the pigs will trample the pearls with their little pigs’ feet, and then they will turn back and attack you". Even Jesus knew some people don't deserve good gifts.some people are not just worth it

illuminated93:
If I do anything for my gf or anyone,it's not really because I owe such person a duty or something, it's just because I'm the bigger person,and if I don't like,I won't do,no matter the noise.I don't do things for people because I expect a payback,that's a poverty mindset. But the idea is this, never allow emotional blackmail as a way of getting you to do stuffs

what if the lady, tells you its ur duty to cater for her needs (as a gf ooo not as a wife)



As they always say if a man can't spend his all for her while courting he won't do during marriage

OrestesDante:


Thanks

u welcome

Eberex:
If a guy decides to help his girl friend who in school, and he does it with good will knowing she needs it but not expecting anything in return, then he will receive the blessing that comes with it.

I did the same for my girl friend. She is now a graduate and says she is in love with me. I like her of course but I told her she shouldn't feel indebted to me for all I did for her. God may have sent me to be a helper for her because her folks wouldn't have done it alone.

If you can help, help. Do it for humanity and God will replenish you as He has been doing for me.

Guy u helped her out of ur selfish interest,ask ur self this question how many times have u helped any of ur family member guininely,or helped any dude that is close to u.U did it so that u 'll be seen as a good person or get access to what lies in b/w her legs.

MasterRahl:
The funny thing is that after sponsoring her in school, you'll still be required to pay a huge bride price and settle a lengthy traditional marriage list, all for some tiny piece of wet, hairy flesh between her legs

Extra burden. Life should be much more easier than this. Women indirectly suffer men, but we don't know it.

Jaqenhghar:

I remember one guy a security man in some organization. the guy was barely educated bit he was sponsoring his girl through school. He had this nice racket going on where they steal diesel from the company stores and sell. About the time the girl graduated he got busted and was sacked. That girl dropped him like a hot potato

That's my point. No matter what you do, if she wants to walk away, she would, and you can't do anything.

MissCokie:
I have heard and seen so many men sponsoring a girl who is not his wife through education/career. I just want you to know something, when she's done with you, she will leave you for someone else.

The money you would use in sponsoring her, please give it to your mother or sister to start a business or rather, sponsor your sisters education/career.

You can share your experience for others to learn.

100% True.....

menxer:


Then what is the rational for helping people, regardless of the motive?

The less privilege, IDP camps would pray for you, your family members will never forget you. But if you decide to help a girl is just your gf, the outcome won't be nice.

reminiscing:

I don't do things so I would get paid back.

Okay. And remember not to attach emotions while doing it. Suicide and heartbreaks is real.

Hahahaha..Laugh don kill me. Billyonaire must have an opinion.

1234onyekwe:
Guy u helped her out of ur selfish interest,ask ur self this question how many times have u helped any of ur family member guininely,or helped any dude that is close to u.U did it so that u 'll be seen as a good person or get access to what lies in b/w her legs.

true but some women are very loyal, if able to find such, I sure don't mind sponsoring

If you wanna help somebody be it Gf, bf or whatever. You help because you have the resources to do so.
Help that doesn't expect anything in return is the purest.

But I do understand where the Op is coming from.
Life is full of betrayals, people betray you at the slightest thought.
But there's one thing no for sure, and that is, 'No good deed goes unrewarded and same can be said for Evil deeds.

goingape1:
best advise for all ya who want to remain a mugu for life!


the last thing I will ever to on earth is to spend my hard earn money on a piece of shiit who ain't my wife yet.


I don't do such childish behavior anymore!
I only give what you give me back. if you buy me a boxer on my birthday do sure to expect a pant on your birthday

now is the time to treat those gorillas hash and put them to were there belong. just because there is a little hole between their legs doesn't mean that hole is a bank deposit were you waste all ya fundings.

bewise guys

#thewiseape

That's good. I rather tell my man to invest in himself than me.

ocelot2006:


It's pretty much self explanatory: NEVER EVER INVEST HEAVILY ON A WOMAN WHO IS NOT YOUR WIFE, MOTHER, OR SISTER.

supported!

MissCokie:


The less privilege, IDP camps would pray for you, your family members will never forget you. But if you decide to help a girl is just your gf, the outcome won't be nice.

Leave that bias.
What do you mean by 'pray for you?'

You have added value to a life, that is all that matters.