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Benita27:
Op, the only relationship I think you're in was based on sex. The second the sex wasn't forthcoming, she moved to another dude who was ready to give her the fùcks she needed.

Mariinee:
You wee learn. Sapiosexual indeed.

Benita27:
Op, the only relationship I think you're in was based on sex. The second the sex wasn't forthcoming, she moved to another dude who was ready to give her the fùcks she needed.

Adaumunocha:
Go hug your school gate next.

fayded:
Lolz, but we did it like Monday or so.. And its not sex sha. Yea, sex started it, but along d line. It wasn't about d sex anymore. Cos, she wanted Me to define it and she wanted more,so along d line. D love word started flying around.
So, its not bout sex. I'm just worried about ds new conversation with the guy, and I don't want to look insecure by telling her to stop talking to him or sumfn

Benita27:
It's all about the sex. Check the history of your relationship with her 'cause I think you're living in self denial. It's overt from your narrative. Two people who constantly bleep would definitely throw the "L" word around to keep getting what they want.

Benita27:
Op, the only relationship I think you're in was based on sex. The second the sex wasn't forthcoming, she moved to another dude who was ready to give her the fùcks she needed.

MissWrite:
If you think your sapiosexual fwb won't engage an airhead in something as purely physical as sex, would she now find him appealing for something as intellectual as talking? . And when a girl offers extraneous info like "I even know his ex", watch it. I'm not saying you should be worried, but if you're really interested in this girl, don't just wait around on the sidelines. Define what you want and make things happen.

fayded:
Okay, buh how do I not wait around on d sidelines??

MissWrite:
Like Benita said, your relationship was based on sex. If a girl is in a fwb relationship with you, she has settled on a certain dynamic and may not be expecting that you would take each other seriously. So, if you're feeling her, simply step up to her and tell her you want to get more serious with her. That way, if the thing with dreads isn't serious she can make her mind up about you two, knowing that it's something real.

But if all you're looking for is extended benefits, that ship might have sailed.

fayded:
No, I told u, we re now dating. She told me"I love you, I really do", although it was after one of d sex period and then she said it again, early this week. We were just alone and she just called my name and said it. And from there, we just started being serious and all that..
Now, she is talking to this dread guy,
I was just with her few mins ago, and she is angry with me, I told her "Bleep off" this afternoon. She pissed me off.
And now, I went to see her, to apologize and she told me to leave her alone. She was really angry or sumfn. I told her, that Im partly angry at her cos she was always wth that dreads guy. She said nothing. And she even left d room for me

MissWrite:
Awww...cute. Okay then, good for you two. Well, communication is an art and it can become a mess when emotions are flying high. I'm not presuming to know how it transpired between you, but if (for instance) you want to table your concerns about the other guy, you may tell her how it makes you feel when she hangs out in her room with this dude. It's normal and justified for you to get jealous. But if you try to get controlling about the issue by suggesting she stop seeing him, her walls will go up. It's counterproductive. And with apologies you have to be equally tactful: timing and measure. If you've tried and she wasn't ready to hear it, give her some room to cool off. The longer you wait, though, the more elaborate you have to make your apology. Just get creative.

fayded:
Thanks alot. Ur advice has been helpful
Would u mind if I pm u??.

MissWrite:
, I'm glad you found it helpful. we just talked about all the stuff that would have warranted the pm, and now you ask? I'd rather you didn't. I wish you all the best with your girl, hun.

fayded:
Well, I might need ur advice again, thats why I asked, unless u are comfortable with me mentioning u.
Plus I'm also into literature and poetry... I'm a huge fan of Shakespeare, I fond his lifestyle intriguing though..,

MissWrite:
That's okay, sweetie, you can mention me.

MissWrite:
That's okay, sweetie, you can mention me.

theGigolo:
Can't you see he has a crush, abi u don't read between the lines? Biko help a bro out.