So, I was hanging with a friend sometime ago, and he made mention of how marriage has become an avenue for women to escape poverty.

He also gave me instances, as to how most of the women he knows, use marriage as a way or means, to escape the harsh clutches of poverty.

Frankly, looking at it from his point of view, most women (if not all) don't really need to put up anything when getting married, as most of what is needed, is provided by the men.

For instance, a broke guy who wants to get married will easily be shooed and told he's not serious, if he says he wants to get married, while on the other hand, a broke woman, who have nothing but the clothes she put on, doesn't need to have the world, if she wants to get married, all she needs is a willing man to ask her "will you marry me" then she's home free.

Then again, how many times have we often heard some women, say "they can't marry or even date a broke guy", as many of them are on the hunt for rich or well to do men.

So, I ask your opinion(s), do you honestly believe marriage is now a means used by most nigerian women, to escape poverty?

hemartins:
You can marry a rich guy and still remain poor.
Success is not contagious.

PresVA:
So are you saying most Nigerian men are rich?
And most Nigerian women poor prior to marriage? Smh

Acidosis:
Your writeup is correct especially the part where a lady with only 1 shoe and bag can get married, whereas, a man with such would be mocked for mentioning marriage.

However, I think the title of the thread is wrong; not all single & ready-to-marry ladies are broke. Some of them are so rich now their wealth scare men away.

ShaqFu:
Well I never said 'women are broke' the content of the thread made that clear, don't you think so?.

ShaqFu:
How? Obviously, if a woman marries a man who is rich, even if she's poor, by virtue of her marrying that man, her poverty level will reduce, it can't stay the same, can it?.

ShaqFu:
How? Obviously, if a woman marries a man who is rich, even if she's poor, by virtue of her marrying that man, her poverty level will reduce, it can't stay the same, can it?.

ShaqFu:
Nope. I'm say sometimes, a woman marries a man who is financially buoyant than her, or so.

Juliearth:



Shallow thinking. Gone are those days. I have seen women who cater for their family(including that of the husband).

Richy4:


Based on my little knowledge of English language , the key word based on what the OP was saying was " MOST" women...

I don't think He/She was disputing the fact that there are no women out there who were the bread winner of their homes..maybe u should check the headline again

Juliearth:



Using the word "most" is unfair. using "some" have been better

Richy4:


Maybe you are right.. But I 'm glad you realize that he/she was not referring to every woman.. You should have asked where he got his statistics from and probably argue your case so that he can reduce it to a bare-minimum..

eyinjuege:
Thats not true.
How many young men have money?
The Nigerian girls we talk about also come out of the same homes as these young men in question. Most Nigerian families have at least 2 children (and i'm being conservative). So the poverty ridden parents of these young ladies are the same parents to these young men marrying them.
Infact, i believe most ladies marry men who are poorer than their fathers. At least most of the fathers have had time to make a little money for themselves.
Also, the children of the rich also marry everyday, middle class also marry daily. They don't always marry from their social class.
Ladies making their own money also marry daily. So how is the marriage alleviating the poverty?
The men have an advantage as most go for younger ladies. They have had more time to create their own path in life, and usually marry ladies that are just graduating from school ( I'll be using educated ladies as example). The ladies have to fine tune their life towards that of the man, if husbands are based in lokoja, the new bride who has just finished serving will not chase that job opportunity in Abuja.
For couples married to their age mates/course mates (there are loads of them around), there's a level playing field and some/ a lot of the women even earn more.
Its a natural need of humans to want to build a family. In Nigeria, its worse as society expects you to do the needful immediately you graduate from school or even marry in school as a woman.
As a man, you go for a woman you graduated 5-10
years ahead of her and you propose for whatever reason as soon as you see she's graduating from the school. You then have the effontery to call her parents paupers. Why couldn't you wait for her to find her foot as you were able to years after graduating? Or better still, why couldn't you go for the women closer to your age group who also graduated same time you did?

Juliearth:



Shallow thinking. Gone are those days. I have seen women who cater for their family(including that of the husband).

eyinjuege:

Its a natural need of humans to want to build a family. In Nigeria, its worse as society expects you to do the needful immediately you graduate from school or even marry in school as a woman.
As a man, you go for a woman you graduated 5-10
years ahead of her and you propose for whatever reason as soon as you see she's graduating from the school. You then have the effontery to call her parents paupers. Why couldn't you wait for her to find her foot as you were able to years after graduating? Or better still, why couldn't you go for the women closer to your age group who also graduated same time you did?

Juliearth:


You should go out more often and have a feel of life