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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Octaves(m): 12:25am On Feb 18, 2018
Shankieboy:
I'm a devoted christian. I believe in Jesus And his teachings. But what I don't seem to understand is Why he hasn't changed my Sexuality. I've prayed. Threatened to harm myself, believing he'll heal me from homosexuality. But all to to no avail.

I've fasted. 5 days dry. I've been celibate for years but I still find myself attracted to members of my gender.

I'm very close to self hate because I feel disgusted with myself. I've tried to be straight. had several girlfriends but I don't seem to be sexually attracted to them. It just doesn't work.

What do I do? Please, help me. I need a miracle. I need an intervention. Else, I'll wallow in depression.

Insults are welcomed.
it depends on what you want to do with your life. from your post, it seems you want to maintain a relationship with God. don't let those commenters asking you to embrace homosexuality deceive you because they will only derail you from the plan of God for your life. but first, you have to stop beating yourself up about it. it is not your fault. God won't judge you for having such feelings unless you act on it. try and live a celibate life. even straight sexual relationships are prohibited outside marriage, so you would not be missing anything that straight people aren't having illicitly
try and seek the face of God. draw close to God. forget about your sexual orientation and focus on living a holy life. always ask God that you want to live according to his plan and that he should heal you of any spiritual or psychological impediment preventing you from doing so
seek spiritual counselling in your church.
try and live life mixing with guys and try seeing them as friends and not in a sexual way. if you have such feelings around them. try and discard them quickly. maybe try and appreciate women a bit more.
at the end of the day, its your determination and faith in God that will get you through.
unless you want to live a homosexual lifestyle. that would be your choice to make, but you would be departing from the path of God and it leads to disaster.
just try and calm down about this issue. don't beat yourself about it but try to restrain yourself from illicit acts as they'd only worsen the situation.

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by zinaunreal(m): 12:39am On Feb 18, 2018
Darksider131:
Lots of demons are commenting here, beware not all are humans on the internet, dont listen to those comments.

Dont accept homosexual, cause if you do you will die horrible and then you suffer horribly eternity to enternity.

You can start celibacy and live your life for God than to live a disgusting life.


To those encouraging him to embrace homosexual, may your sons be homosexuals
dont judge
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by KingGBsky(m): 12:55am On Feb 18, 2018
FluidQueen:
Dude. Let me start by telling you, YOU ARE AMAZING!
You are what you are, A Gay, Beautiful man.
No amount of prayers and anointing oils would change that, but it's okay. Your god obviously made you that way. In his words, he created man in his own image. You're his image, and your sexuality too.


Stop torturing yourself. Go find love and happiness. Embrace your sexuality. Find a dude. It is who you are. If you eventually meet God and he judges You, ask him why he didn't change you. His fault, not yours. smiley

PS- Send me a message. A DM. We need to talk. Suicide isn't the option. Life's too short to feel this way. Pursue those Orgasms, boy!

Are you people serious with all this advice?
I wonder what television and the crave for western world had turn people's senses into.
Where do you all get the idea one is born to be homosexual in the first instance.
Homosexuality is a behavioral act like masturbation and any other indicated act that was first of all practiced.
No one I repeat no one was born gay or lesbian. This is a practical act due to lost, it stays and tends to live with you.
What in the world are you guys talking about and get to think of Nigerians for that matter advicing to stick to homosexuality.
Nawa! Everything happens in Nigeria in deed

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Iqguy: 12:58am On Feb 18, 2018
The basic conclusion of the argument of “against nature”—as thrown around by Anti-LGBTQIA+ proponents is that non-heterosexual orientations are not natural. Allow me to reiterate that this argument is however fallacious and built up simply to support discrimination against sexual minorities.
But before I start discounting this fallacy, I will briefly discuss the term Natural. Natural is defined in the Oxford English Dictionary as:
1. existing in or derived from nature; not made or caused by humankind ,
2. in accordance with the nature of or circumstances surrounding someone or something. Dictionary.com defines Natural as:
1. existing or formed by nature
2. based on the state of things in nature; constituted by nature.
It is based on the above definitions and many others which are beyond the length of this write-up that the argument that other minority sexual orientations are unnatural sits: That queer sexual orientations are not found in nature, not formed by nature, and, ultimately, are not part and parcel of the make-up of individuals who identify as queer.
One of the basic tenets of the “against nature” argument is that homosexuality cannot be natural because the basic requirement of nature from sexuality is procreation; so nature could not have created homosexuals because they cannot procreate. A question I once heard asked at a conference which goes thus: “How can you say ‘contrary’ sexual orientations are natural when nature requires heterosexual orientation to prevent humans from going extinct?” exemplifies this belief.
First, there is no such thing as a ‘contrary sexual orientation’ -as evidenced by the absence of this term in any modern scientific journal on the topic of sexual orientation. Indeed there is a common sexual orientation and other less common but equally valid ones. The phrase ‘contrary sexual orientation’ is totally heteronormative—assuming that everyone is/was born heterosexual and everything is about heterosexuality—and connotes a Heterosexual versus Non-Heterosexual war of orientations—the one striving to end the other. This is not so.
Also, Species do not ONLY need to procreate to ensure their survival but must function as a community to transfer genes that are overall favourable onto the next generation. That is procreation is not the ONLY contribution that members of a species have to make to prevent the extinction of the species. This is explained by the concepts of the gene-centered theory of evolution, and the “Helper in the Nest” hypothesis. These theories hold that the genetic contribution to homosexuality has been preserved through time because this helps support other related genes that favour propagation of the human species. My point here is that there is no need for nature to procreate numerous offsprings without favouring them for survival, they will just die off and this is evidenced by the fact that Neanderthal man and other older fossil records of man showed smaller skulls (corresponding to smaller brain size) and were less intelligent.
A study done by Andrea Camperio Ciani and Elena Pellizzari in 2012, [http://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0051088.] found that non-parental females (aunts and grandmothers) in the maternal lines of homosexual males were more fertile than those of heterosexual males, suggesting that the genetic contribution to fertility in women was being carried along by nature with male homosexuality. This study agreed with other similar studies (http://www.nytimes.com/1993/07/16/us/report-suggests-homosexuality-is-linked-to-genes.html?pagewanted=all, http://www.sciencemag.org/news/2014/11/study-gay-brothers-may-confirm-x-chromosome-link-homosexuality, https://www.theguardian.com/science/2014/feb/14/genes-influence-male-sexual-orientation-study) which found out homosexual males were more related on the maternal side and also found similar genetic regions in about 97% of gay men in a locus on the X chromosome(Xq28) which was usually contributed by the mother for genotypic males. The research helps throw some light on the fact that female fertility and homosexual tendencies are relevant to preventing extinction as a pair. It is evident therefore that nature has persistently preserved both heterosexual and other sexual orientations through generations because NATURE REQUIRES HETEROSEXUAL, HOMOSEXUAL, BISEXUAL and OTHER SEXUAL ORIENTATIONS TO PREVENT HUMANS FROM GOING EXTINCT. This is because other orientations obviously contribute to the propagation of the Homo sapiens species and no way results in its extinction because they exist in balance with heterosexual orientation which can still procreate. This, however, doesn’t even mean that people of other sexual orientations are infertile and cannot reproduce. In the US 37% of LGBT people have a child, about 60% of which are biological.
If we know anything about nature and science, it is that history has shown how much of nature science is still yet to uncover. So I can imagine there are many more unknown contributions of the diverse minority sexual orientations in nature that science is even yet to explore.
Another basis of this argument comes from the direction of the anatomical forms of male and female animal species. It states that animals are usually heterosexual male and female in nature and there are no Homosexual or Bisexual animals. Examples of this part of the argument include statements like: “Have you seen two male dogs having sex before?” “Even animals have male and female, and its male lion mating with female lion, not male and male or female and female.” “God made man with penis and woman with vagina for a reason.” This argument has long been refuted by nature itself which has offered more than enough examples of Homosexual and Bisexual behaviours in the animal kingdom. Nature has also fortunately blessed our diverse world with intersex members of species (regarded in certain parlances as haemaphrodites) who have natural anatomical sexual organs conforming to neither Male nor Female strictly (ambiguous Instruments) or having both. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_animals_displaying_homosexual_behavior , https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexual_behavior_in_animals http://community.lovenature.com/wild/why-do-some-animals-exhibit-homosexual-behaviour
When the Anti-LGBTQIA+ proponents see these scientific facts stacked against them, they say, ‘Just because animals do it doesn’t mean we should adopt animal behaviours.’ Well, the point is: Homosexuals, Bisexuals and Other sexual minorities are not “doing it” because animals do it, they are just being their innate self while referring Anti-LGBTQIA+ proponents to the animal kingdom as a genuine and untampered—at least in this aspect, unless someone is of the opinion that people are converting animals in the wild into gay animals— part of nature.
Finally, scientifically speaking, man is classified under the Kingdom animalia and If the Homo sapiens species were the only member of the kingdom to exhibit non-heterosexual orientations we would have questioned the scientific validity of these orientations being natural but this is not so. What is however impossible to find in the Kingdom Animalia is the hate directed against people of minority sexual orientations.
Heterosexuals always say they “came into” their sexual orientations naturally irrespective of how they first explored sex and they are believed but yet promoters of the “against nature” argument find it hard to believe Homosexuals, Bisexuals and Other sexual minorities when they say they “came into” their attractions not from any learned conscious behaviour and irrespective of what their first sexual explorations were. If heterosexuality is natural and not learned, then other variations of sexuality should be easily understood to be natural and not learnt. The funniest thing is that some Anti LGBTQIA+ supporters say homosexual tendencies are strong desires with genetic predispositions—so are stealing, murder and criminal behaviours. The comparison however, is not apt because it is trying to equate Homosexuality, Bisexuality and Other sexual orientations to behaviours that are harmful to society. The flaws of this argument are exposed below.
1. OTHER SEXUAL ORIENTATIONS (proven genetic contributions); “may indeed be natural”
2. MURDER, THEFT (might have genetic predispositions; “may indeed be natural but are harmful and so are considered immoral’
3. CONCLUSION OF THE ARGUMENT IS, “Other Sexual orientations are harmful and also immoral too” (AN UNTRUE STATEMENT THAT IS INFERRED IN THE ARGUMENT), “so surely you cannot say they are natural if not you are also saying Murder and Theft are natural”.

Again, no orientation is in itself harmful and several studies have shown that Homosexuality, Bisexuality and Other Sexual orientations are no more harmful than Heterosexual orientation. My point here is that, if you can prove that genetics supports predisposition to stealing, murder and other crimes, then those behaviours can be said to be natural but are not acceptable because they are harmful. However, non-heterosexual orientations are both natural and harmless and are not crimes against humanity. Whether they are harmful or harmless is by the way another debate. Bringing it into the argument of “against nature” just shows that the Anti-LGBTQIA+ proponents are in a hurry to get to their real intention of this argument which is to have any reason at all to hate and discriminate minority sexual orientations.
I also hear supporters of the “against nature” argument claim that there is no gay gene and so there is no genetic support for other sexual orientations. Permit me to say that people who say this are just brandishing their ignorance on the subject of genetics and its research. In medicine there are numerous conditions and traits with known genetic predisposition for which there are no pin-point single gene culprits. The absence of a particular gene culprit for all cases in conditions such as Schizophrenia, Down’s syndrome and Parkinson’s disease does not dispute the fact that it has inheritance and genetics as a major contributor in its aetiology. In the area of sexual orientation, research has not been extensive for obvious social reasons but the evidence in support of a genetic predisposition is just as strong as that for other conditions in the science of medicine so this ‘show me the exact gay gene’ argument is as invalid as ‘show me the exact straight gene’. One very common type of genetic research which helps scientist to understand the impact of nature and nurture in a situation is the twin studies. One such study by J. Michael Bailey and Richard Pillard studied male homosexuality among Monozygotic twins (MZ), Dizygotic twins (DZ) and non-related adopted brothers. The study found that 52% of MZ twins both identified as gay, while 22% of DZ twins and only 5% of non-related adopted brothers were so. This showed that the more closely genetically linked people are, the more likely they exhibit the same sexuality. This evidence was repeated by another study and found to be true however not in the same percentages. Obviously, nurture also contributes to what an individual becomes albeit as far as sexuality is concerned nature surely contributes a great quota. This video link gives a rounded view of the genetic theories that support innate homosexual predispositions.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pP-yZ9jOVnk.
Perhaps in another discourse, I will debunk the Anti-LGBTQIA+ argument which say that Homosexual, Bisexual and other sexual orientations are learned behaviours from the media and Pro-LGBTQIA+ societies. The shocking truth is, in many extremely homophobic countries like Uganda, Nigeria and many countries in the Middle East where there is almost zero show of Homosexual affection in the media and most representations of any non heterosexual orientation is usually negative, there exist a significant LGBTQIA population. Even in Nazi Germany where homosexuality was punishable by death, love letters were still recently unearthed of two gay veterans from the German army.
In many places, being queer is a cultural taboo and also criminalized. So the big question is, why would so many people ‘choose’ to be hated outcasts? My only plausible answer is NATURE, NATURE, AND NATURE.

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by KingGBsky(m): 1:03am On Feb 18, 2018
FluidQueen:
since we're asking dumb, redundant questions.


How tf is it even possible? To be feeling your opposite sex?

Girl just shut the fuvk up!
I'm ashamed of who gave birth to you.
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Iqguy: 1:07am On Feb 18, 2018
First of all lemme say that Nigerians are such sexual perverts in sheep clothing, such hypocrites. Being gay has nothing to do with sexual acts or sex, so all those people shouting about liking manhole/butt/dick rather than pussies you guys are just minds who cannot think above sex. Being gay is about feelings, emotions and attractions. Like I once told a pastor when we argued about the Bible and Homosexuality; even if you stay celibate for years like I once did, you are still gay because being gay is about an emotional attraction to persons of the same sex. All the religious discipline can help you struggle to not act on who you are but you will still leave this world just as gay as the person who acted on it. And do you know why God will not change a person's sexual orientation, it is simply because unlike men, his love his radical and does not understand barriers of sexuality, your spirit which is in his image is neither male nor female nor transgender nor cisgender and it is that which he deals with. It is men that try to subdue other men and women and gays.

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Iqguy: 1:18am On Feb 18, 2018
These blind people describe how they knew they were gay
So much of sexual attraction is bound up with the visual and aesthetic in our culture that some people struggle to comprehend how blind people know they are gay.
A thread on Reddit invited blind, gay users to share how they discovered their sexuality.
It offered up a fascinating mix of stories from Redditors who were blind from birth or became blind later in life – as well as input from sighted gay and straight users.

“I’ve been blind since birth and extremely gay,” said hank_scorpio_123.
“You know when you see someone and are attracted to them? It’s kind of like that but I can’t see.”
Which makes sense.
RedzandBluez said: “When I was 11 or 12, I didn’t really understand the difference between boys and girls. To me, they were the same except that men turned me on and women didn’t.
“I did not know about body parts (breasts, vagina, penis, etc.) and yet, I was attracted to my same sex. Because of my unique situation, I can tell you that being gay is not a choice.”
He added: “When I meet someone, what I go by is their voice, their smell, their kindness, and their willingness to help me when needed.”
“I hear the voices of guys and it just sounds attractive to me,” said commanderzilyana.
“Even though I can’t ‘see’ them physically mentally I can picture how they look. I wasn’t blind until I was age 14, but I realized I was gay when I was 18.
easwaran added: “I’m pretty sure it’s a cultural trope that most people (men and women, gay and straight) prefer to close their eyes while kissing and turn the lights down (or even off) during sex.
“We might think we’re all about visuals, but actually when it comes down to it, there’s a lot more going on that we often don’t think about
“Honestly, it’s not all that different from how sighted people know they’re gay. When they think about kissing someone, say around second grade or so, they know if they want to kiss boys or girls.”
rkingett said: “For all of the questions about attractions, I encourage all of you to read the good dates on my blog and that will answer a lot of your questions.
“In all other aspects, this question is stupid to be honest. It’s almost like people have never masturbated or had sexual daydreams before.
“That’s how I knew what sex I was attracted to because I found the idea of a male body, male voice, male hair, sexually arousing.”

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by KingGBsky(m): 1:22am On Feb 18, 2018
Shankieboy:
thank you, Queen. Already added you on Facebook.

I hope I come to terms with my Sexuality soon. Don't know if I ever would.

Another taught I don't believe your story.
I think you are a gay guy just trying to put up a story to come out with your crazy act.
The world is big enough for whatever anyone chooses to the with his or her life.
But my problem is always dragging others to it especially when you are doing something wrong, trying your best to convince people to live terrible lifestyle.




And for a remembrance know you are CURSED!

Romans 1:25-31 English Standard Version (ESV)

25 because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen.

26 For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; 27 and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.

28 And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. 29 They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossip; 30 slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31 they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Iqguy: 1:27am On Feb 18, 2018
While we are at it, I know some very religious but unchristian and very radical Islamist will come to curse me and spew hate. Let me just tell you before hand, know case you don't realise, it doesn't matter as it cannot in the least affect me. I do beg you not to let your hate consume you or take away your rational thinking. it's always better to have constructive radical arguments, that is exactly how we make progress.

Like someone once made me realise, Africans should not feel sacred and special for their homophobic views like its unique to them, not at all, Europeans were the pioneers of the homophobia, they've been there and done that; everything homophobic that most Nigerians do today and realised that it wasn't right and all their approaches weren't working. They brought both the Christian and judicial laws that govern our thinking. they have frozen us in a fix and updated everything sadly ensuring that they are ahead of us.

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by tonbari: 1:35am On Feb 18, 2018
Nothing wrong with you!! Embrace what u are!! But, stay TF away from me angry!!! If u do that, then we're good!!!

Find yourself a man, and pound AWAY tongue
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Donwilly20(m): 3:39am On Feb 18, 2018
your addicted to gay porn so desist from it your sickness will be healed instantly
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by BdorianGray(m): 4:21am On Feb 18, 2018
[quote author=Shankieboy post=65142453]I'm a devoted christian. I believe
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by BdorianGray(m): 4:23am On Feb 18, 2018
Shankieboy:
I'm a devoted christian. I believe in Jesus And his teachings. But what I don't seem to understand is Why he hasn't changed my Sexuality. I've prayed. Threatened to harm myself, believing he'll heal me from homosexuality. But all to to no avail.

I've fasted. 5 days dry. I've been celibate for years but I still find myself attracted to members of my gender.

I'm very close to self hate because I feel disgusted with myself. I've tried to be straight. had several girlfriends but I don't seem to be sexually attracted to them. It just doesn't work.

What do I do? Please, help me. I need a miracle. I need an intervention. Else, I'll wallow in depression.

Insults are welcomed.





It happens! Many times in life we seem to have done all we could- Pray, fast and still we don't see the change we seek.
Well, my advice to you is to keep praying, fast and above all do a lot of sacrificial giving or charity. It is very likely your Soul is entangled in a terrible karmic current.
Most time just prayer and fasting don't do the miracle. Good luck!
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Annibel(f): 4:25am On Feb 18, 2018
schumastic:

Am serious try me...I won't to change cry
I'm not joking too... DM biko
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Tggabby: 4:50am On Feb 18, 2018
FluidQueen:
Dude. Let me start by telling you, YOU ARE AMAZING!
You are what you are, A Gay, Beautiful man.
No amount of prayers and anointing oils would change that, but it's okay. Your god obviously made you that way. In his words, he created man in his own image. You're his image, and your sexuality too.


Stop torturing yourself. Go find love and happiness. Embrace your sexuality. Find a dude. It is who you are. If you eventually meet God and he judges You, ask him why he didn't change you. His fault, not yours. smiley

PS- Send me a message. A DM. We need to talk. Suicide isn't the option. Life's too short to feel this way. Pursue those Orgasms, boy!
You are a Liar, God did not create anybody like that it is the work of the devil and the son of God made manifest that he should destroy the works of devil. Pls I advise you to go for deliverance in any mountain of Fire and miracles ministries around you. Though I am not a full member but God wrought wonders in deliverance in this church.

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Nobody: 4:52am On Feb 18, 2018
Daeylar:



Nobody should dare insult you.
If they do, they are mad.


You are OK. There is nothing wrong with you, it's just that you live in a society where people think homosexuality is wrong, but you need to know that there is nothing wrong with your sexuality.


As for the god you are praying to.
Don't mind that unserious God that says he doesn't like homosexuals but still created you as one. ( PS he doesn't exist wink )

Stop being so hard on yourself, don't allow yourself wallow in depression,
There is nothing wrong with you,

Wish you the best, and wish you happiness and peace, so you can get out of depression kiss
very arrogant and rude comment. So typical if you.

Since you want to be forming liberal, may all you sons end up as gay in Jesus's name
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by escodotman: 5:54am On Feb 18, 2018
boringnigerian:


How long did it take scientists to explain genetic anomalies?

But hey, why not make people miserable today pending when science can prove they are a product of nature?
What do you mean how long did it take scientists to explain genetic anomalies?? I don't understand you at all because homosexuality had been in existence even before Jesus came to this world, during the time of Sodom and Gomorah, that was many thousands of years ago!! It would never take science that long to explain it if it has any Genetic or Anatomical inference. It means it is not and never will be a product of nature!

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by nothernstar: 6:24am On Feb 18, 2018
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
I think you should embrace what you are.
pls can give him your husband, brother or boyfriend to do it with.
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Tohzara(m): 6:29am On Feb 18, 2018
Shankieboy, I understand your predicament, and deeply sympathise with you.

First of all, I'm glad you're still alive and took it upon yourself to come out to seek for help----it would have been quite sad and extremely tragic had you given in to your suicidal thoughts. I'm happy for you.

I want you to realize that coming out as a homosexual in Nigeria, at times, depending on the orientation of the kind of people in your locality (who're very likely to be bestial and benighted), can be likened to a cow walking into an abbattoir, or a person identifying as a Jew in Nazi Germany.

However, that is an EXTERNAL problem, and there can always be a way to get around it. The aspect that give me much concern on the matter is the INTERNAL toxin----your feeling of GUILT!

It should be understood---perfectly understood---that you've never received any direct, or personal revelation from this God who allegedly declared your sexual orientation forbidden and shameful. Everything you know about him is what some people told you-----SECOND HAND INFORMATION. So, you should remain open to the possibility that it's all lies.

You should have noticed by now, that the rules in his book do not meet the needs and requirements of an ever-changing, evolving human race, but have remained stagnant and static, reflecting the moral ideas and beliefs of the people of the era in which they were written or composed. All they needed to do was lay claim to divine authority in order to impose them on others. But ask yourself these: is God hurt or harmed by the fact that you're homosexual? Does it take anything from him? Would any sane God create you with such urges, and despite the fact that HE DOESN'T NEED ANYTHING TO BE WHOLE, FULFILLED & COMPLETE, promise you eternal perdition if you tried to live according to the nature HE GAVE YOU?

You know the answer, bro. So, try and get that religious guilt out of the way. Stop seeing yourself as a pathetic sinner with bestial, iniquitous, damnable, and shameful impulses. You're a human being, and your feelings are natural and legitimate! ONLY CONTROL-FREAKS would say otherwise.

I want you to note these facts, and maybe choose to live by them. They might be very helpful:

1) In this world, others CAN TELL YOU WHAT TO DO, you cannot do whatever you want, or live however you want. Why? Because it would constitute anarchy if such were to be allowed. There will always be rules and restrictions, codes of morality and comportment----the normal and the abnormal.

2) You own your life, indeed. You define yourself, absolutely. You decide what you do, and what to do with you. As long as your actions or lifestyle do not hurt, harm or have any negative effect on anyone in PARTICULAR or society in GENERAL, either DIRECTLY or INDIRECTLY, nobody has the right to tell you what to do, what to be, and how to live.

If you had committed suicide, it would have been an insult to yourself, a self-damning sentence, condemning yourself for being you----it would have been a SIN---a REAL SIN---killing yourself for a sin you didn't commit. What could be more awful and despicable?

You're a homosexual, and have committed no crime. Do not allow anyone to make you hate yourself. If they judge you----you shouldn't join them in passing the damning judgement on yourself. Whether they accept you or not, you should accept yourself. If they think they can make you feel bad, tell them you can make yourself feel good. Your feelings or mental health should never depend on people's whims and caprices. Their attitude shouldn't determine your fate. You should put it IN YOUR OWN HANDS.

And you shouldn't be depressed anymore. You owe no one happiness but yourself. And no one deserves to be happy at your expense. You're doing great injustice to yourself by feeling guilty for doing nothing wrong. You're costing yourself SO MUCH. You need to snap out of it, mate. No one can tell you what to be, if what you are is neither a threat to you, nor a threat to society. Be a blessing to yourself if others refuse to bless you regardless of your sexuality.

Never allow your homosexuality to generate suicidal thoughts or lead you into depression ever again.

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Tohzara(m): 7:03am On Feb 18, 2018

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Nobody: 7:20am On Feb 18, 2018
DJHANDSOME:
hbd! So How old are you now? cheesy grin
Lmao, thank you dear. I am 20 now.
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Nobody: 7:22am On Feb 18, 2018
FTrebirth:
happy birthday to you, mariinee spirit. tongue

long life and prosperity!
Thank you honey. cheesy
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Tohzara(m): 7:49am On Feb 18, 2018
Iqguy, your post is very brilliant and insightful. Awesome.

Unfortunately, most of the people (the ignorant, and homophobic ANTI-LGBTQIA horde) it was intended for won't even give it the time of the day. Because:

1) They're close-minded and don't just want to know. They want to take their prejudices to the grave.

2) Some are just too mentally lazy to read something "that long".

It's tragic, honestly.

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Nobody: 7:57am On Feb 18, 2018
Billyonaire:


Shankieboy,

What you are saying in essence is that you are not attracted to Vaginas but to Anus. That is exactly what it means.

Ignorant premise. Very ignorant premise. Followed by lots and lots of trash.

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Tohzara(m): 8:00am On Feb 18, 2018
KingGBsky:


[s]Another taught I don't believe your story.
I think you are a gay guy just trying to put up a story to come out with your crazy act.
The world is big enough for whatever anyone chooses to the with his or her life.
But my problem is always dragging others to it especially when you are doing something wrong, trying your best to convince people to live terrible lifestyle.




And for a remembrance know you are CURSED!

Romans 1:25-31 English Standard Version (ESV)

25 because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen.

26 For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; 27 and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.

28 And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. 29 They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossip; 30 slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31 they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy[/s]

GTFO! Bible-thumping morön. Enough of your stomach-turning bugaboo about impotent curses and eternal perdition in imaginary chambers of fire.

Stop being a retãrd and a fücking nuisance.

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by KingGBsky(m): 8:05am On Feb 18, 2018
Tohzara:
GTFO! Bible-thumping morön. Enough of your stomach-turning bugaboo about impotent curses and eternal perdition in imaginary chambers of fire.

Stop being a retãrd and a fücking nuisance.

And I hope you stop being gay.
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Tohzara(m): 8:07am On Feb 18, 2018
Tggabby:

[s]You are a Liar, God did not create anybody like that it is the work of the devil and the son of God made manifest that he should destroy the works of devil. Pls I advise you to go for deliverance in any mountain of Fire and miracles ministries around you. Though I am not a full member but God wrought wonders in deliverance in this church. [/s]
Don't speak for God. Let him come down himself and tell us those intolerant, anti-nature, guilt-inducing, and psychologically damaging crap in the Bible are his words----that they are true.

There's nothing wrong with the OP. It's you delusional legions that are not normal.

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by ctec(m): 8:09am On Feb 18, 2018
Embrace what he is? What he is ain't normal. Bro you need God's intervention. Keep praying and keep up the faith.
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
I think you should embrace what you are.
Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Tohzara(m): 8:09am On Feb 18, 2018
KingGBsky:


And I hope you stop being gay.
Lol. I wouldn't mind if I were one. But if you want to make me one so badly, I can start by raping your dad to coma.

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by KingGBsky(m): 8:11am On Feb 18, 2018
Tohzara:
Iqguy, your post is very brilliant and insightful. Awesome.

Unfortunately, most of the people (the ignorant, and homophobic ANTI-LGBTQIA horde) it was intended for won't even give it the time of the day. Because:

1) They're close-minded and don't just want to know. They want to take their prejudices to the grave.

2) Some are just too mentally lazy to read something "that long".

It's tragic, honestly.


LGBTQIA horde... You simply can imagine.
Its so sad that tour lives are being run by the what you see on TV about the Americans and Europeans.
So all this to make love to a fellow man.
Infact this is nothing but sexual madness more than what even animals will indulge in.
The write up you are quoting was written by someone like you trying to justify the reason for a man to have sex with another man.
Nonsense.

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by ctec(m): 8:16am On Feb 18, 2018
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked


People think I am partial because I love lesbians and detest gays.

Don't think I am judging you because I already did.
All homosexuals will go to hell but lesbians will not because they are naturally wired to be at least bisexual.

Sadly, you can't change who you are. It's ingrained in your chromosomes.
You were predestined to be amongst the condemned.

Just enjoy your life and embrace who you are while you await your judgement in the afterlife.
Who told you lesbians are wired that way or will go to heaven? Smh

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Re: I Have Contemplated Suicide Because Of My Sexual Orientation by Nobody: 8:18am On Feb 18, 2018
LZAA:

lol of course he won't publicly
Americans dont joke with their defense
trust me when i tell ya u will never see a tranny combatant
Trust you? Who are you? Lol. There are already gay people serving in the US army. (Since 2010, and they even consider that 'late'). Trannies too (since 2016). You shouldn't misinform people in an attempt to drive your point.

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