I'm about ending a beautiful relationship of over 36 months (3 years plus) for 3 reasons.

1. Unforgiveness:
I cheated more than a year ago during NYSC, I begged for forgiveness with which she made my life miserable, I turned a new leave after learning from my mistake. She never allowed it go even after claiming she had forgiven because she always brought in that incident at the slightest provocation. A woman who will throw her self in the arms of another man because she wants to pay back for a mistake that has long supposedly been forgiven and forgotten is definitely more dangerous than a viper.

2. Lack of trust and respect:
For the past 33 months I never had any reason to check on her text or scrutinize her phone, of course she checks mine regularly(well, I don't have a problem with that). The only time I checked her phone was disastrous. She even had to put her life on the line by traveling out of state to visit a man with the excuse "he cheated first and I wanted to pay him back and make him feel all I felt. Well, a woman who can go this far not even minding her own life hmmmm...

3. Outright denial:
After attending her graduation she not only showed me through body language during the program that her mind isn't with me, but she didn't upload any of the pictures we took together afterwards, whereas others with colleagues and friends that mattered were upload with sweet captions.
When confronted, her reasons for not uploading our pictures were "I don't flaunt relationships online and I always keep my relationship private". Well done ma. Personally I strongly think it's evident there's an interest she's protecting (definitely not mine) or she's not proud of me.
Please he needs constructive advice on this issue. Can there possibly be a damage control? I'm just wondering.

OP you need nobody to tell you she's no longer interested in the relationship, how people still consider unrepentant cheats baffles me

He has already made up his mind....he only needs confirmation and no be me go give am go-ahead

Imagine the nonsense I'm reading on a Monday morning. Chai.... E get as this week go be! Baba God, please let me have a good testimony before this week ends in Jesus name!
@Op, lemme go and fry watermelon � � � for you!

And you stayed in such toxic relationship for 3 years


Was the punny that sweet? Cos I don't see any other reason

peterveo:
I'm about ending a beautiful relationship of over 36 months (3 years plus) for 3 reasons.

1. Unforgiveness:
I cheated more than a year ago during NYSC, I begged for forgiveness with which she made my life miserable, I turned a new leave after learning from my mistake. She never allowed it go even after claiming she had forgiven because she always brought in that incident at the slightest provocation. A woman who will throw her self in the arms of another man because she wants to pay back for a mistake that has long supposedly been forgiven and forgotten is definitely more dangerous than a viper.

2. Lack of trust and respect:
For the past 33 months I never had any reason to check on her text or scrutinize her phone, of course she checks mine regularly(well, I don't have a problem with that). The only time I checked her phone was disastrous. She even had to put her life on the line by traveling out of state to visit a man with the excuse "he cheated first and I wanted to pay him back and make him feel all I felt. Well, a woman who can go this far not even minding her own life hmmmm...

3. Outright denial:
After attending her graduation she not only showed me through body language during the program that her mind isn't with me, but she didn't upload any of the pictures we took together afterwards, whereas others with colleagues and friends that mattered were upload with sweet captions.
When confronted, her reasons for not uploading our pictures were "I don't flaunt relationships online and I always keep my relationship private". Well done ma. Personally I strongly think it's evident there's an interest she's protecting (definitely not mine) or she's not proud of me.
Please he needs constructive advice on this issue. Can there possibly be a damage control? I'm just wondering.

My brother i know it's difficult, but do you need a special spirit to tell you to move on.
What i will advice is move on slowly and only have sex with her as it pleases both of you.

Bro, please take a walk. STOP WATERING A DEAD FLOWER. it is obvious you are not happy and it's surely affecting one way or the other if not emotionally alone. God bless you

**modified**
Don't even have sex with her as that might be a setback in you moving on fully. Just move on, life is too short to spend everyday begging someone to love you the way you want to be loved.

Those three things you mentioned are killers . What is a relationship without trust. What is a relationship when your partner can't forgive or be proud to show you around.

Some women never get over stuffs like that. Your actions must have really hurt her deeply.

You killed that relationship the moment you decided to be unfaithful to her. Confessing up to her was the final nail in the coffin. Now she's just toiling with you, if you value your happiness you would call it quits this very moment and leave da bítch alone. It tells a lot on a guy whose chick ain't proud to show him off.

A word of advice; when next you cheat, blame her by playing the victim. Never leave yourself at the mercy of a woman like that - you're basically telling her "here I am love, do with me as you please." 99.99% of the time she will rubbish you.

Olalan:
OP you need nobody to tell you she's no longer interested in the relationship, how people still consider unrepentant cheats baffles me

Even when she's beging seriously telling friends to talk to me? She's unrepentant I'm very sure of that.

Those three things you mentioned are killers . What is a relationship without trust. What is a relationship when your partner can't forgive or be proud to show you around. [/quote] To be honest my brother this is killing me already.

Jamieb:
Bro, please take a walk. STOP WATERING A DEAD FLOWER. it is obvious you are not happy and it's surely affecting one way or the other if not emotionally alone. God bless you

**modified**
Don't even have sex with her as that might be a setback in you moving on fully. Just move on, life is too short to spend everyday begging someone to love you the way you want to be loved.

Those three things you mentioned are killers . What is a relationship without trust. What is a relationship when your partner can't forgive or be proud to show you around.

They have killed me already

some women are prostitutes who have only pussy to offer and come with the baggage of disgusting sense of entitlement.

These creatures should be avoided like plague and left to rot in their misery

Bro she's cheating on you already. I know from experience. She doesn't respect you or care about your feelings anymore. Truth is, You should forget about her and move on. It's best for you!!!

This relationship ended on an emotional level a long time ago. You are to blame to a great extent. You stepping out created a lot of issues for her the main one being trust. She might have forgiven you at that time as some feel pressured to do so. Forgive in the hope that they will forget and move on but this has not been the case. What you have is still a lot of resentment. Her refusal to publicise your relationship is a dig at you. You knew you were in a relationship but humiliated her anyway.

Both of you need to draw a line in the sand this situation has limped on for far too long. There is nothing to salvage. Learn from this as tit for tat is not healthy in a relationship.

starlingbawa:
Bro she's cheating on you already. I know from experience. She doesn't respect you or care about your feelings anymore. Truth is, You should forget about her and move on. It's best for you!!!

Don’t make out like he is the innocent party here!

I don't know why a guy will cheat and still confess. I can never confess my sins or shortcomings to any human. If u cheat and she isn't aware and you're sure she isn't aware, just stop and don't cheat no more but don't confess to her, no matter what. She will never forget if you confess.

Confessions should be a solo thing between yourself and your God, no human is worth confessing to, esp in this world we are now. Move on bro and don't repeat the same mistake again.

MissRaine69:

Don’t make out like he is the innocent party here!

I'm not saying he's innocent of blame. He already pointed it out that he cheated in time past.

Fact is, when a lady is fed up, Even Angel Gabriel can't help get her back. So it's best he picks up the pieces or whatever's left of it and move on because she already did that....

cut out ma nicca

All relationship must not lead to marriage. Pick a lesson or two from here and move ahead if you must.
I'm pretty sure you have your own (spiritual) problems also.