We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?

She has a huge ego bro. Every human should be flexible and willing to change their bad attitudes.

Which One Is After Marriage?
Wedding is a one day event while Marriage is an everlasting thing.
Slap me hard to reset to my default mood, if I'm nt thinking well

khalhokage:

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like AFTER MARRIAGE?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.
What do you think?

Subtlety rules the world. I believe this, explains everything. To get absolute peace, get rid of that distraction that causes you that pain. I cannot tolerate an egotistical spouse, I expect that you shouldn't too. Please do the needful. Get RID of her. She won't change. Dissuade any person who tells you otherwise. She'll only get worse.

Make your struggle easy. No need recycling dysfunctional homes. We are tired of the ones around.

Run Away From Women Who Can Not Apologise... Women Like your Girlfriend And UyaiIncomparabl

Kooldon:
Which One Is After Marriage?
Wedding is a one day event while Marriage is an everlasting thing.
Slap me hard to reset to my default mood, if I'm nt thinking well

I've corrected it, now do you have any advice or opinion to share that isn't correcting grammatical blunders.

khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?

Being gay is best sir. Women are useless. Preach

Take a brake

eunisam:
Take a brake

Na it's not what it

Egoistic, proud lady.

The reason she never says sorry is the reason she won't take to correction.

She will never say sorry because she thinks she is right. She can never and should never be wrong.

She won't take to your correction because she thinks she is right by never saying sorry.
She can never and should never be one to say sorry.

Bro, if she can't get fixed, don't sign that agreement with her.

People like that don't like seeing other do better than them in life. It always have to be them and they love grabbing all the attention to themselves and themselves alone.

They will never allow you outshine them because no one close to them should be better than them.

Like everyone else has said, when you can’t apologise for something you’re genuinely wrong for, your ego is too big.

If you’ve already spoken to her and she’s still the same I doubt she’ll change, so either marry her and put up with it for the rest of your life or leave the relationship

Nobody is flawless,since you can't live with it,& she's not ready to change Quit.

Well.... there's an Igbo adage that says: the hen that claims to be mad, is because she has not seen a drunken fox.

I believe there are subtle tricks you can use to get her understand she's wrong and have her apologize whenever she is wrong.

AGideon:
Well.... there's an Igbo adage that says: the hen that claims to be mad, is because she has not seen a drunken fox.

I believe there are subtle tricks you can use to get her understand she's wrong and have her apologize whenever she is wrong.

I don't want to have to coerce her to apologize every time she's supposed to, she's a grown woman not a child, if i make her apologize then that apology is meaningless.

This is so similar to my case as well.
Mine was not ready to be corrected, won't take advise or even suggestion and full of mannerless characters. I couldn't cope anymore, so I jilted.
Bro just do the needful, and look for a very good and polite girl.

Don't marry a woman that can't apologize when she is wrong, its one thing having a flaw, but being apologetic is another thing.

Getting married to such lady is the same as man utd employing mourinho as coach.. ask their fans now, they are suffering for it...

I really think you should let her go.
A woman should apologize when she is wrong and even when she is right.
That is total submission.

You don't need to tell her she is wrong or try to convince her to apologize.
Apologies come naturally to every woman oblivious of her onions.

She should apologize when she is wrong,
She should apologize when you think she is wrong,
She should also apologize when you are wrong,
Even when she is right, she should still apologize for not being perfect.
But the main apology she owes herself is for finding an immature scum.

She will get worse after the wedding. Whatever you cannot change now will never be changed

There is nothing like love.
I dont believe in it.

Better flee from trouble now bro

Hmmmmmmm and what if she loves saying sorry but won’t stop repeating the same bad attitude?
I’ll advice you not to listen to online advisors on here and take her out for counseling
Some of the guys on here are as young as 15 years old they don’t know anything about life

When u dump her hope we wont read on NL how she stabbed u ti death after wasting her time all these years choping ponmo

It’s better to free the girl joor

But on a serious note @OP you’re not yet matured for marriage , you are looking for apology today and truth be told if she starts apologizing now , tomorrow you will still look for something else ...
mind you so many girls would like to pretends and obey almost everything you said for now and until you stupidly put that ring in her finger and said be my wife before them go come out on their original true self and show you pepper

We have so many great pretenders in female gender...
So for you to be well prepared for marriage you must first learn how to say sorry or apologize even when you know that you done nothing wrong!

The same reason I'm thinking about ending things with my boyfriend if he doesn't change , Ego runs in his veins, he'll never apologize lest he sees tears dropping from your face , I despise proud egoistic humans, pfft.

lol...also dated a girl like that...her own no be here oh...I tried so much to change her which she promised to buh didn't. things went sour sha but not because of the ego ishh...

now my advice, girls like that hardly change, it's inbuilt in them..I'd advice you leave her be...it'll hurt, yes! buh such a girl will never respect you.


my 2cents

Kooldon:
Which One Is After Marriage?
Wedding is a one day event while Marriage is an everlasting thing.
Slap me hard to reset to my default mood, if I'm nt thinking well

Dem nor dey divorce for marriage?
And is wedding not the door to Marriage.
Oya take am

khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?

If you don't marry her, you won't die.... If your red flag, is her green flag......


Time to show her the red card.........

Well, big ego. But you do not know what characteristic flaw the next partner will come into the relationship with.

No one is perfect. If she ticks majority of “the boxes” for you, then ..... what do I know kwanu