Wuraola01:



Whether ur wife initiated it or not, it is quite rude of your brother to slap your WIFE even if it is in defence. I would advise you sit your brother down and make him apologize to your WIFE and promise you never to do that again!!!

This is the problem with bringing in siblings

Emescot:

Nice advise tho, i've just never been one to walk away from my problems


But let's forget all this talk and make out and forget it ever happened *wink*

Divay22:
Ehn Oya beat her na

ImaIma1:

Op the bitter truth is that your brother doesn't respect your wife and women for that matter. Slapping your wife whatever the reason is an affront to you. That also means that he doesn't respect you.

Let me ask you a question...if you slap him, will he slap you back?

Divay22:

Nothing can justify it.
It's not right and let it be so.

omoskenso:
1) she's your wife which makes that place her house a claim your brother cant make unless you're dead, so he should learn to live by her rules of coexistence.

2) she's 24 & his 19, she's older and can issue a slap if she feels disrespected as a senior

3) A man should not hit a woman not to talk of another man's wife (how was he brought up??)

4) there's an underlying issue here that you failed to see as the head of the house, the slapping was to me as a result of previous accumulated events (either she has been slapping him since and it has gotten to a point of retaliation or they both despise each other) what am saying is, it didn't just happen that day because of mere water!

5) she has right to send him on errands so long he stay under her roof, feeds him and the water isn't it for the general house??

6) your brother is stupid and disrespectful (you too can get a slap from him one day) how do you refuse an errand from someone older, your elder brother's wife and expect to go free!

Imagine Aisha Buhari been slapped by a Governor for whatever reason (weather his democratically elected or not) it would be seen as a slap to Mr president himself, though her position is ceremonial but she's accorded almost same respect as her husband and the said Gov must be punished directly or indirectly but he must feel the venom and nothing would justify his actions

In all sir, do not focus on the slap rather the cause of the slapping, there is a rift between them and your brother continous stay in that house belittles your wife even after resolution( how does she endure the presence of a boy that slapped her and your brother will definitely cross her path some other time)

Do the needful or you might just come home 1 day to meet your brother dead of food poisoning or your wife in the pool of her blood.

Splinz:


Sorry, you're really in deep sh!t.

Now, who's at fault here doesn't really matter, but how to resettled your brother elsewhere.

For the fact that he slaps your wife, let it be known to you that as long as he lives under your roof with your wife, she'd never forgive him for daring to slap her in her own house. And she'll probably grow to hate him so...much. So, it is best he moves.

Again, it's absolutely pointless asking who's at fault. The deed has been done...

Wuraola01:



Whether ur wife initiated it or not, it is quite rude of your brother to slap your WIFE even if it is in defence. I would advise you sit your brother down and make him apologize to your WIFE and promise you never to do that again!!!

This is the problem with bringing in siblings

TonyeBarcanista:
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Wuraola01:

Emescot:

Yeah i know, but in ur own opinion how do u correct women with the fast hand to slap or lock a man's chest. Just asking cos it has never happened to me or my dad and i donr know how i would react if it did

Divay22:

Walk away.
Nothing tortures a woman more, other than silence.
If you hit her, congratulations you can as well kill her but when you walk away she calls herself to order and most likely feel remorseful.

If they lock your shirt or slap you and at the end you retaliate, no matter her offence people will support her and would tag you a wife beater.
Beating or slapping us changes nothing, but silence goes far more than you think.

TonyeBarcanista:
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TonyeBarcanista:
You can't validate violence perpetrated by the wife and still condemn appropriate response by the brother. It is not possible!

TonyeBarcanista:

If a woman is quick to slap, she should be ready to receive equal or double measure of it.

Violence should be condemnable, we can't validate that of female with silence and condemn that of males.

This is my principle!

TonyeBarcanista:

If a woman is quick to slap, she should be ready to receive equal or double measure of it.

Violence should be condemnable, we can't validate that of female with silence and condemn that of males.

This is my principle!

Wuraola01:


I wasn't there. So I don't know who gave d slap first.
Whether the wife gave the slap first or not, It doesn't matter!!. If at all the wife slapped him first, the guy ought to respect his brother and wait till he gets back before doing anything. That retaliation isn't appropriate at all, truth be told.

TonyeBarcanista:

[s]Which her own house? Is it also not the house of the OP's brother?

@Op first establish the cause and who slapped who first (I suspect it is the wife because it is irrational for a man to land a slap just because someone asked him to go fetch water).

Your wife is 24 and your brother is 19, I think your wife should have gone to fetch her water since he ignored her rather than initiating the slap (if she first slapped him). However, she should not be sending him on such errand, a good wife will do her errands herself.

Meanwhile, caution them both but ensure you establish the real issue.

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Divay22:

Lol
So you can stand and watch your younger brother slap your wife even if she slapped him first?

Divay22:

Hahahahahaha
Spill whatever you have against my comment

TonyeBarcanista:

The wife is Clearly at fault. The brother retaliated appropriately to whatever the wife dished at him. If the wife had respect for her husband and his family she would have known that slapping a grownup is a taboo. If it were in the days of our forefathers she would have been sanctioned. She displayed no regard towards her in-law and she shouldn't complain, she has no reason to complain!

The young man should be cautioned no doubt but he can be understood as one that was only reacting to an inappropriate action.

(That is if she initiated the slap)

Wuraola01:


I can't believe my eyes. It's fine, everyone is entitled to his/her opinions
Forgive me, are you Yoruba?

mhizbel:

Exactly! I don't want any relative living with me when I'm married. Exception to sick parents though...

TonyeBarcanista:

How does ethnicity come in?

mhizbel:

Exactly! I don't want any relative living with me when I'm married. Exception to sick parents though...

TonyeBarcanista:
She won't even dare slap my younger siblings whether male or female (though I don't have younger brother). But if my elder brother's wife slap me, I will call my younger sister to slap her in triple fold.

Because I won't want to do what will make me regret.

However, she won't dare. Everyone should respect themselves!


Lemme add a lil story:

While growing up (14 then) a woman came to where I was fetching water and gave me unexpected slap! I returned the slap and she fell down!

Her husband came and said to her, "I hope you learn to respect yourself in public", and left.

Divay22:

Nothing can justify it.
It's not right and let it be so.

Eberechi24:


Love your fair judgement.

Emescot:


Fair judgment ndi mmuo, that is fair judgment to you? Anything that supports women becomes fair, if it doesnt then its unfair