Mine was when at the age of 22, He shouted at me in a public place for what I didn't do.

Can you share yours?

He bought me ugly shoes & I had to wear them on Christmas. He took a bunch of photos that day & I looked visibly upset in every single one them. I really hated the shoes. I only wore them once. Trust a dad to pick some manly-looking shoes.

too annoying that I can't type it here.

Hmmm...


Way back 2005,wrote jamb and scored 212,my dad said I didn't do well, that I will rewrite the upper year, meanwhile people in compound who scored below 200 were busy packing their luggage to university, omo,I started starving ooo,for almost five days, I didn't eat nor drink,I was just slimming down and looking so weak,my mum begged me to eat but I told her I will only do that when they start processing my admission, it was one woman(teacher) in my compound that actually convinced my dad,na so I take go school ooo

XhosaNostra:
He bought me ugly shoes & I had to wear them on Christmas. He took a bunch of photos that day & I looked visibly upset in every single one them. I really hated the shoes. I only wore them once. Trust a dad to pick some manly-looking shoes.

Can I see the photos?

Best dad....he never got me angry not even for once in his lifetime..
Continue to rest in peace dad. I miss you man.

That guy is like an uncle to me, no experience with him

JaceBlaze:
Can I see the photos?

The photos are back home in the EC. Saw them while searching for some documents last time I was there & I almost tore them up. I still can't believe he bought such ugly shoes that didn't even go with the outfit. After that incident, he left the shopping to my mother & sister lol.

one school term when my school bag tore,
my dad insisted I use the box he used in carrying books to school in the 1960's, I no gree, I rather be bag-less than turn into a laughing stock.
and it was the box he inherited from his father.

He still have all his school books neatly arranged in his room on a bookshelf, he still have all the newspaper that existed when Buhari was the military head of state.

XhosaNostra:


The photos are back home in the EC. Saw them while searching for some documents last time I was there & I almost tore them up. I still can't believe he bought such ugly shoes that didn't even go with the outfit. After that incident, he left the shopping to my mother & sister lol.

Why tear them apart? I was wearing Michael Jackson's penny loafers at my pre-school gradution

Remember when I was going back to school,went to my dad for money for provisions and foodstuffs....he was actually counting bulk money cause our tenants just paid their rent in cash.

Mehn popsy just looked at me, took the topmost 500 naira in one of the bundles and gave it to me.

I frooze for like 5 minutes, I couldn't believe my eyes...the man no even look me, he just continued counting his money.

It took plenty family meeting for him to finally release money to me that year...Chai!

JaceBlaze:
Why tear them apart? I was wearing Michael Jackson's penny loafers at my pre-school gradution

I didn't tear them up, but I almost did. I don't like most of my old photos anyway. I tore up my grade 12 yearbook picture. I regret doing that now because those are memories, but I didn't understand it at the time.

LMFAO. Can I see them? In primary school I wore "Higler's", that's what they were called back then. Basically, hushpuppies. I also hated them. I'd cry every time I had to wear them.

He said I was dressed too revealing( he's Muslim, but hypocritical)

he was hostile to me when I failed my first yr at uni

He compares me to my peers when he knows nothing about them

He's says I'm not a certain way, when he wasn't there to raise me that way, you can't reep what you didn't sow


I hate African parents, very narrow minded
But I love my dad

Countless.he not taking care of us.been selfish.no food at home yet he will Dodge and go and buy food in buca.he never admits having money.when we go to the buca to buy food on credit we see him there.him eating the skl fees momsi gave him to pay for me.abandoning me or forgetting to pick me up in school many times.prefers outsideers to us.he has even abandoned me in a hospital when i was 5.if we are celebrating he will wear rag.but if his church has an ocassion he will sew a new cloth.men countless.hurts I swear.hurtsss.am crying writing this.70+ and still same.above he does not wish us well but God pass any man.have learnt to live like he does not exist.but it's hard.....

XhosaNostra:


I didn't tear them up, but I almost did. I don't like most of my old photos anyway. I tore up my grade 12 yearbook picture. I regret doing that now because those are memories, but I didn't understand it at the time.

LMFAO. Can I see them? In primary school I wore "Higler's", that's what they were called back then. Basically, hushpuppies. I also hated them. I'd cry every time I had to wear them.

When did you graduate grade 12?


They are so deep in the archives,they looked like the shoes below

JaceBlaze:
When did you graduate grade 12?


They are so deep in the archives,they looked like the shoes below

In 200...

Oh, I remember those! They used to be called "Patent shoes" lol.

chivera018:
one school term when my school bag tore,
my dad insisted I use the box he used in carrying books to school in the 1960's, I no gree, I rather be bag-less than turn into a laughing stock.
and it was the box he inherited from his father.

He still have all his school books neatly arranged in his room bookshelf, he still have all the newspaper that existed when Buhari was the military head of state.

JaceBlaze:
When did you graduate grade 12?


They are so deep in the archives,they looked like the shoes below

Lol..but these shoes are back now

XhosaNostra:


In 200...

Oh, I remember those! They used to be called "Patent shoes" lol.

First you refused to tell me your age,now you won't even tell me when you graduated?

yup,those,and they became my first school shoes since they were black.

1Sharon:


Lol..but these shoes are back now

Yeah I have noticed all the "cool boys" have been wearing these shoes lately.

JaceBlaze:
First you refused to tell me your age,now you won't even tell me when you graduated?

yup,those,and they became my first school shoes since they were black.

2005

You were a cheeseboy, ne?

1Sharon:

lol, it wasn't funny then oo, the man insisted I carry ancestral box to school.

Rosarie:
Countless.he not taking care of us.been selfish.no food at home yet he will Dodge and go and buy food in buca.he never admits having money.when we go to the buca to buy food on credit we see him there.him eating the skl fees momsi gave him to pay for me.abandoning me or forgetting to pick me up in school many times.prefers outsideers to us.he has even abandoned me in a hospital when i was 5.if we are celebrating he will wear rag.but if his church has an ocassion he will sew a new cloth.men countless.hurts I swear.hurtsss.am crying writing this.70+ and still same.above he does not wish us well but God pass any man.have learnt to live like he does not exist.but it's hard.....

I concluded a while back that the average fathers in our generation failed at their jobs. Most people would deny this openly but they know its the truth. Most did not have it as bad as you though. Shout out to the Mothers....they basically made most of us who we are. I hope the current new crop of fathers would not repeat the mistakes of their fathers.

XhosaNostra:


2005

You were a cheeseboy, ne?

Ahaa I knew I would solve the mystery one day.So if you matriculated in 2005 it means you were born in 1987,so you are a 90's baby if we round the figure to the nearest 10 just like I consider '98 borns as 2000's.


Nope,I wasn't a cheeseboy,I grew up in a very decent house with a Television and countless VCR decoders,TV games,etc but never considered myself a cheeseboy.You? are you one of them "coconuts"?

JaceBlaze:
Ahaa I knew I would solve the mystery one day.So if you matriculated in 2005 it means you were born in 1987,so you are a 90's baby if we round the figure to the nearest 10 just like I consider '98 borns as 2000's.


Nope,I wasn't a cheeseboy,I grew up in a very decent house with a Television and countless VCR decoders,TV games,etc but never considered myself a cheeseboy.You? are you one of them "coconuts"?

Yes, I grew up in the 90s, so I also consider myself a 90s baby because I don't know what the 80s were like. I was a baby in the 80s

Ooh nice! You had a comfy upbringing. I'm not a coconut lol. How dare you! I grew up ekasi until my early teens, then we moved to the suburbs. We were middle-class.

XhosaNostra:


Yes, I grew up in the 90s, so I also consider myself a 90s baby because I don't know what the 80s were like. I was a baby in the 80s

Ooh nice! You had a comfy upbringing. I'm not a coconut lol. How dare you! I grew up ekasi until my early teens, then we moved to the suburbs. We were middle-class.

Okay

chii8:
Hmmm...


Way back 2005,wrote jamb and scored 212,my dad said I didn't do well, that I will rewrite the upper year, meanwhile people in compound who scored below 200 were busy packing their luggage to university, omo,I started starving ooo,for almost five days, I didn't eat nor drink,I was just slimming down and looking so weak,my mum begged me to eat but I told her I will only do that when they start processing my admission, it was one woman(teacher) in my compound that actually convinced my dad,na so I take go school ooo

Awwww.

Are you married now cos I'm seriously looking for a wifey?

XhosaNostra:


The photos are back home in the EC. Saw them while searching for some documents last time I was there & I almost tore them up. I still can't believe he bought such ugly shoes that didn't even go with the outfit. After that incident, he left the shopping to my mother & sister lol.

I always like reading your replies. You're always so frank and unassuming.

I don't know you but I love you.

chivera018:
one school term when my school bag tore,
my dad insisted I use the box he used in carrying books to school in the 1960's, I no gree, I rather be bag-less than turn into a laughing stock.
and it was the box he inherited from his father.

He still have all his school books neatly arranged in his room on a bookshelf, he still have all the newspaper that existed when Buhari was the military head of state.

manitobor:


I always like reading your replies. You're always so frank and unassuming.

I don't know you but I love you.

Thanks

manitobor:


Awwww.

Are you married now cos I'm seriously looking for a wifey?

Lol.....not just that but with a big baby and four over hyper active cuties.
What about those sisters in your church, street and place of work or business?

Chai! A lot o but I will mention a few. I remember the day I finished my 3rd term exams in SS2, baba came in usual once in a blue moon tandom style, asked someone to call for me and he started abusing my mum, grandma and her family, using cuss words too. All my friends and other stidents marching to the field could hear everything. My parents always had issues but at least I didn’t make that open on school.

Or when he asked me to go get his alcoholic wine from the fridge one time his friends were around, wine slipped off my hand and gbam, wine break. My father just said that was why school fees I had broken and me seff know cos e no dey joke. But the way his friends laughed out loud embarrassingly ehn.

Or the day he almost beat my sister to death for flushing his cigarettes, adding excess salt to the soup his girlfriend made and flushing the expensive jewelry he bought for her too.

Make I no lie ehn, e go dey hard to forgive that man o because I no wan talk say I no go fit.