Good evening everyone, pls I will need our sincere contributions and ideas about this topic.let's share perceptions, stories and experience to help educate,enlighten and empower our Ladies. thank you my people.

Explain your question very well, please.

You want to know if it is possible for a lady to be financially independent before marriage?

The answer is yes.

Can’t emphasise the importance of a woman having her own money enough, even if your husband is ok with fully taking care of you, still have something you can fall back on.

It’s empowering, self fufilling, it brings independence, multiple streams of income won’t hurt the household, you’re less of a liability, if your guy falls on bad times you can step in and help, being entirely reliant on your guy can open doors for misbehaviour (cheating, abuse, etc)

There was a recent story of one peanut head Nigerian man who destroyed a business he helped his wife build because he felt she was becoming ‘too proud’. When you have your own, if things go wrong you will have more options

So many reasons

ibkayee:
Can’t emphasise the importance of a woman having her own money enough, even if your husband is ok with fully taking care of you, still have something you can fall back on.

It’s empowering, self fufilling, it brings independence, multiple streams of income won’t hurt the household, you’re less of a liability, if your guy falls on bad times you can step in and help, being entirely reliant on your guy can open doors for misbehaviour (cheating, abuse, etc)

There was a recent story of one peanut head Nigerian man who destroyed a business he helped his wife build because he felt she was becoming too proud. When you have your own, if things go wrong you will have more options

So many reasons

The man is a role model, I heard he was celebrated

ToyinDipo:

The man is a role model, I heard he was celebrated

Lol so you actually got around to reading the write up eventually, well done

ibkayee:

Lol so you actually got around to reading the write up eventually, well done

I did, and everyone agrees that Nigeria will be a better place with men like him

ToyinDipo:

I did, and everyone agrees that Nigeria will be a better place with men like him

Lol you and your mechanic is now everyone, lol fair enough

ibkayee:

Lol you and your mechanic is now everyone, lol fair enough

I didn't get the mechanic reference
What the man did should be passed into the law as how such situation should be handled

pocohantas:
Explain your question very well, please.

You want to know if it is possible for a lady to be financially independent before marriage?

The answer is yes.

I mean why is it important and not knowing if it is possible
Thank you

ibkayee:
Can’t emphasise the importance of a woman having her own money enough, even if your husband is ok with fully taking care of you, still have something you can fall back on.

It’s empowering, self fufilling, it brings independence, multiple streams of income won’t hurt the household, you’re less of a liability, if your guy falls on bad times you can step in and help, being entirely reliant on your guy can open doors for misbehaviour (cheating, abuse, etc)

There was a recent story of one peanut head Nigerian man who destroyed a business he helped his wife build because he felt she was becoming ‘too proud’. When you have your own, if things go wrong you will have more options

So many reasons

Thank you so much
I find this piece interesting

money is a padlock use in closing in-laws mouth from seeing and saying rubbish about u

It's important for one to be financially independent before marriage because it is a sign of economic emancipation and responsibleness. However, it is even better to be resourceful, or to master the act of being resourceful, than to be financially independent, because money remains a visitor.

Also, pursuit of financial independence shouldn't be for the purpose to subjugate one's better half, or as a leverage to establish contention in the union. Money will always remain a means to an end but never an end itself. It never defines a sane person.

ToyinDipo:

I didn't get the mechanic reference
What the man did should be passed into the law as how such situation should be handled

Lol don't worry
A bit extreme, thank God for blessing me with a secure man tbh

ibkayee:

Lol don't worry
A bit extreme, thank God for blessing me with a secure man tbh

Secure how? Is he https
Bring him to naija, let's reconfigure him

LordKO:
It's important for one to be financially independent before marriage because it is a sign of economic emancipation and responsibleness. However, it is even better to be resourceful, or to master the act of being resourceful, than to be financially independent, because money remains a visitor.

Also, pursuit of financial independence shouldn't be for the purpose to subjugate one's better half, or as a leverage to establish contention in the union. Money will always remain a means to an end but never an end itself. It never defines a sane person.

Your ideology tho..

dollytino4real:
money is a padlock use in closing in-laws mouth from seeing and saying rubbish about u

I swear

LordKO:
It's important for one to be financially independent before marriage because it is a sign of economic emancipation and responsibleness. However, it is even better to be resourceful, or to master the act of being resourceful, than to be financially independent, because money remains a visitor.

Also, pursuit of financial independence shouldn't be for the purpose to subjugate one's better half, or as a leverage to establish contention in the union. Money will always remain a means to an end but never an end itself. It never defines a sane person.

Word.

ToyinDipo:



Secure how? Is he https
Bring him to naija, let's reconfigure him

Lol you you’ve got jokes
Eww

ibkayee:
Can’t emphasise the importance of a woman having her own money enough, even if your husband is ok with fully taking care of you, still have something you can fall back on.

It’s empowering, self fufilling, it brings independence, multiple streams of income won’t hurt the household, you’re less of a liability, if your guy falls on bad times you can step in and help, being entirely reliant on your guy can open doors for misbehaviour (cheating, abuse, etc)

There was a recent story of one peanut head Nigerian man who destroyed a business he helped his wife build because he felt she was becoming ‘too proud’. When you have your own, if things go wrong you will have more options

So many reasons

pocohantas:

ToyinDipo:

I didn't get the mechanic reference
What the man did should be passed into the law as how such situation should be handled

And if she did it to the man if he was getting too proud, should it also be written into law?

ImaIma1:


And if she did it to the man if he was getting too proud, should it also be written into law?

Let such scenario play out first, then we will decide

pocohantas:

Lekwa Eze Ure

So you can walk away from the man if any bullshit,( i.e abuse of any kind) starts from him (before marriage) or anyone at all e.g in-laws.(after marriage, Allthough this has more to do with you having the mindset to walk away than having cash, because some rich women are abused or mistreated and still stay even though they have the money necessary to walk away.)

Also, Since it is money that controls Nigeria. Having your own money will help take your kids with you when you walk. (In the event that there are kids and you would like to walk away after marriage).

These are the only 2 reasons why it is important to have your own money.

LordKO:
It's important for one to be financially independent before marriage because it is a sign of economic emancipation and responsibleness. However, it is even better to be resourceful, or to master the act of being resourceful, than to be financially independent, because money remains a visitor.

Also, pursuit of financial independence shouldn't be for the purpose to subjugate one's better half, or as a leverage to establish contention in the union. Money will always remain a means to an end but never an end itself. It never defines a sane person.

Full-stop.

Elder0001:



Your ideology tho..

Whoever wants to prosper in life should read and do the exact opposite of whatever this man says or type on Nairaland.

your birth month is what makes you feel better when sad

January – Series
February – Alcohol
March – Money
April – Jogging
May – Food
June – Movies
July – Weed
August – Shopping
September – Cooking
October – Sex
November – Swimming
December – Good Company

Tooth paste, you beg for money.

Lip stick, you ask for money.

Powder, you ask for money.

Unless that man is too cashed up. And naija economy No good again like before.

He won't respect you.

Even if your husband is rich, ask yourself if you want to be a liability or an asset!


This is 2019, not 1902....

Olamsoh:
your birth month is what makes you feel better when sad

January – Series
February – Alcohol
March – Money
April – Jogging
May – Food
June – Movies
July – Weed
August – Shopping
September – Cooking
October – Sex
November – Swimming
December – Good Company

March born

The lady needs to be financially independent so as not to be a liability and also assist her husband financially too in her own little way ....