UyaiIncomparabl:
Do not settle for less or mediocre. You don't want to end up living a frustrated life all in a bid to please one man, do you?

Good.

I don't get it. Why would someone seeks for a puppet as a life partner?

OP's "real guy" is not looking for a woman with a "mind of her own" but... I mean, it's fvcking crazy!

I'm inclined to believe that such people are suffering from insecurities: lack of covert self-esteem & the rest.

Let's look at a scenario here: I am ugly, very ugly. And my wife is the complete opposite of me. She dresses to kill and of course, takes all the shine. Just what do you think I, as one suffering from low self-esteem will do? I'd start telling her how she doesn't need so so and so clothes as a married woman: how she should be tying wrapper all the time.

So simply put, those suffering from low self-esteem hates those who takes the shine off them. It could be through your intelligent, creativity etc. Who they want is rather one with whom they think they're better than, and the slave acknowledging same.

I think denying one the ability to think independently is both a crime & sin.

sisisioge:
Well...I'm confused for you too.

Your big Alfa won't let you be you while the small Alfa is all for the you in you....hmmm...life is just so tricky! Can't we have some money/readiness/stability fall on the small Alfa so we can all forever live happily? Whew!

Don't listen to me...I've been there baby

So who did you go with. The big or small Alfa?

*Spreads mat*

bobobooge:


So who did you go with. The big or small Alfa?

*Spreads mat*

Na small Alfa biko...but I'm know to love fairytale, right? My love language is TLC .

This definition of a traditional man is really scary, despite being a man myself.

Its tough alone to be a wife under a man's roof, how much more a man who is still archaic in thinking and only sees his better half as a docile doormat.

Preposterous!!!

How people advise her to marry a slaver with iron shackles in his hands whom she feels nothing for and who bores her to death beats me.

Spend the rest of your days in prison as a slave with a jailer because you didn't know if something better would come up. Tufiakwa! Chukwu aju!!

Does the piling statistics of spousal murders and the high rate of divorce with the attendant damaging ripple effects on lives and generations mean nothing to you all?

I fear who no fear una!

Teasher don't teash me nonsense.

Mtcheeew!!!

My little contribution here is , no reasonable man can be bossy while his woman brings up a better suggestion or opinion. Check if your reasoning can counter his own and still he refuses to see it your way, then there is a problem.
Don't be carried away by the new guy. Thread with care .