Ishilove:

In all sincerity, do you honestly think 6k is enough to cater for growing children?

The law can be an ass sometimes but don't allow your issues with your ex-wife taint your love for your children. The same woman will still tell them that you abandoned them and turn them against you.

Bro, if u had read my previous comments, I've answered d question. dt was d court ruling, but I'm trying my best to give them d best. d only thing they miss is our evening and early morning playing together

Ishilove:

It's true

Not 100% shall.

Ishilove:

All the short men I know, and i mean ALL, are cranky and difficult. It's like what they lack in height, they make up in mouth and aggression

Then Its Either U Are A Rude And Bossy Fellow Or U've Only Met A Few Short People.

Martinez39:
She made it clear that the short people she had encountered did fit into that description but perhaps due to guilty conscience or bias, you didn't see that and felt she was generalising. I don commot hand for your matter. No more mention from me.

And U Read Her Initial Comment Without Understanding. Lol @guilty Conscience And Bias. I've Got Very Wonderful Friends Across Both Heights And Gender Who Sacrifice Their Comfort 4me Without Questions Cos I Do Same 4em. If I Was Biased, I Won't Have Met Them.

kennybelle:
This is a nice thread. Lots of good advice and full of lessons

Yea, Very Educating Thread.

MacMkboy:

And U Read Her Initial Comment Without Understanding. Lol @guilty Conscience And Bias. I've Got Very Wonderful Friends Across Both Heights And Gender Who Sacrifice Their Comfort 4me Without Questions Cos I Do Same 4em. If I Was Biased, I Won't Have Met Them.

Why are you getting so worked up over this issue? Are you short, crooked, aggressive and controlling? as I have said before,

realtalk19:

closely noted.tank u

U'r Wc

Martinez39:
Why are you getting so worked up over this issue? Are you short, crooked, aggressive and controlling? as I have said before,

To all Ur Questions, The Answer Is No And U'r Terribly Wrong To Assume That Bad Sentiments And Jibes Thrown At Me On Nairaland Affect My Mind In Any Way Whatsoeva. I Won't Reply Any Jibe U Throw At Me Again. Nevertheless My Message Remains Clear... When Ur Mind Is Clogged With Bias Toward A Certain Group Of People, U'll Never Fully Get The Good That Could Have Come From Them To You.

MacMkboy:

Then Its Either U Are A Rude And Bossy Fellow Or U've Only Met A Few Short People.

Are you short? It seems you are. I can sense how cantankerous you must be offline.

Martinez39:
Why are you getting so worked up over this issue? Are you short, crooked, aggressive and controlling? as I have said before,

You sef can sense it, shey?

Ishilove:

Are you short? It seems you are. I can sense how cantankerous you must be offline.

U Just Confirmed Ur True Nature 2me!

MacMkboy:

U Just Confirmed Ur True Nature 2me!

Abeg carry your wahala go jor. One-man shortie squad

unfortunately we still marry d wrong women even with all d red flags,believing they will change love dey block our brains to realities

Ishilove:

Is there a possibility that she can change??

Remember I mentioned it runs in the family?

tizan:


Remember I mentioned it runs in the family?

That is quite unfortunate...

LadySarah:
I

The warroom crew has landed

[s]Madam,marriage is more a physical affair than spiritual.If it were spiritual,the likes of BennyHinn,Chris Okotie,Oyahkhilome,etc will never divorce.
Even men who have not knpwn God have successful marriages.[/s]


If both partners are merciful and treat their betterhalf the way they'd want to be treated,i think so many problems will be eliminated.

Would you like to be cheated on?
Would you like to be sex starved by you partner?
Would you watch you wife work and slave while yi cross you legs and watch tv?

A friend very spiritual couple told me how she told her husband she wasnt intersted in sex anymore,even when i know he travels for mths.I only told her,if she will also feel ok if he doesnt bring housekeeping money while he travels.

If that not disaster waiting to happen?

Trash. How dare you make such a terrible statement?

May it be known to you that Marriage is A VERY SPIRITUAL UNION, GOD INSTITUTATED MARRIAGE. BHT IT IS THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF BOTH COUPLE TO KEEP THE UNION INTACT. One way the devil is trying to make great men fall is by marriage cos a broken home would cause a huge distraction. It takes serious prayer and fasting and preparation before marriage and continuous self improvement and love and understanding and patience and sacrifice succeed in marriage.
WHATSOEVER HAPPENED TO THOSE MEN OF GOD'S MARRIAGE WHOM YOU MENTIONED SHOULDNT BE A YARD STICK TO WEIGHT ANOTHER MANS MARRIAGE. FOR EVERYONE ONE EARTH SHOULD WORK HIS SALVATION, MARRIAGE, SUCCESS, AND WORTH. THE HEAVENLY RACE WE ALL RUN, WE RUN IT INDIVIDUALLY AND NOT COLLECTIVELY. SO ALSO IS MARRIAGE.

DONT LET ANY MAN OF GOD'S MARRIAGE FANTASISE YOU, RATHER LET YOUR EYES BE FOCUSED ON THE MARRIAGE BETWEEN CHRIST ANS THE CHURCH.

Ishilove:
Isn't rather odd that majority, if not all the posters are the 'victims'? The other party was the cause of the break up.

Says quite a lot.

They wanna buy everyone's pity and sympathy. This is the challenge failures have. They seek who to cast blames rather than looking at their weakness and working to improve on themselves.

For their mind they married the wrong people, and they're saints.
I laugh in Afrikaans.

Ishilove:

All the short men I know, and i mean ALL, are cranky and difficult. It's like what they lack in height, they make up in mouth and aggression

u ar on point sis.u just hit the nail on the head.

consultancy:
wow!!! a woman u paid her bride price and brought into your home, pounces on you, tears your clothes and beats you up? to add salt to injury, her father breaks ur door at will with his legs; Tekken style. Okay, continue

And you believe his storyline? He's a saint and his ex-wife, plus their families are villains?
If you believe this, you'd believe any lies.

kingreign:


They wanna buy everyone's pity and sympathy. This is the challenge failures have. They seek who to cast blames rather than looking at their weakness and working to improve on themselves.

For their mind they married the wrong people, and they're saints.
I laugh in Afrikaans.

some may be genuine and some may not. from mine i am aware of the fact that no one is perfect and it take two to make it work but in a situation where by only one person is doing every thing to make the marriage work and the other spouse isn't making any effort.it can. be frustrating and painful.

if eventually the spouse dies in the course of all these especially violence and domestic abuse will u stil say the living spouse is the victim.

is the person that wears the shoes that knows where it pinches and hurts.

djon78:

Divorce is a very painful experience

What makes it sad is that you [s]thought you would build a great future with your spouse only to find out you ended up with the wrong person[/s]. To add to it children are involved in the issue.


People should be very careful when getting married.
Check out for red flags
Be prayerful also
And be very watchful of the kind of person you are dealing with
This way, danger will be mitigated

And in conclusion
Always have this mindset
That whomever you associate with, you must leave a positive impression on that person memory. This has a way of turning negative situations in to positive ones.

There's no such thing as wrong people. Plus correct this notion. For every action, there's equal and opposing reaction. You dated, you were together, saw his/her friends, families, and attitudes and prolly was too naive or blinded by infatuation (which folks think is love). There's always a sign to show no matter how subtle it is, it must show when you're very very prayerful and observant from an unbiased clear level headed stand.

drmikeadams:
unfortunately we still marry d wrong women even with all d red flags,believing they will change love dey block our brains to realities

No be love, na sex, mind blowing sex blow their brains and logical reasonings away.

To every young unmarried man reading this thread, please go thru

1. proverbs 21:9 Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife

The Bible still repeated it again in proverbs 25:24 Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife

realtalk19:


u ar on point sis.u just hit the nail on the head.

I think they are that way because they have persecution complex. The human beings tend to take advantage of small people

consultancy:
wow!!! a woman u paid her bride price and brought into your home, pounces on you, tears your clothes and beats you up? to add salt to injury, her father breaks ur door at will with his legs; Tekken style. Okay, continue

Her father must be related to Rambo: his distant cousin on his maternal grandfather's side.

kingreign:


There's no such thing as wrong people. Plus correct this notion. For every action, there's equal and opposing reaction. You dated, you were together, saw his/her friends, families, and attitudes and prolly was too naive or blinded by infatuation (which folks think is love). There's always a sign to show no matter how subtle it is, it must show when you're very very prayerful and observant from an unbiased clear level headed stand.

And was that not what I stated in my opinion you cancelled Mr I too know

Did I not mention the same stuff Mr man??

Whatever I stated there is the way it is
Prayer reveals a lot, and I am speaking from experience.

Ishilove:

I think they are that way because they have persecution complex. The human beings tend to take advantage of small people

True. One of my relatives is like that, we call him small but mighty. If you see where this guy dey rake. The guy na something else. He come marry very fine, beautiful, calm easy going wife, who is a Medical Doctor. Very jealous guy. You dare not talk to his wife. Although he is very wealthy.

djon78:



True. One of my relatives is like that, we call him small but mighty. If you see where this guy dey rake. The guy na something else. He come marry very fine, beautiful, calm easy going wife, who is a Medical Doctor. Very jealous guy. You dare not talk to his wife. Although he is very wealthy.

He can't marry someone with his own kind of temperament. The marriage will scatter in a week

Ishilove:

He can't marry someone with his own kind of temperament. The marriage will scatter in a week

Yea he even says it. His brothers also say it. Because he married a very good woman as wife. The kind that brings peace. His wife is the kind of woman you use as example to other women. Beautiful, intelligent, very good natured. In fact I say that God gives some people what they don't deserve, but that's Grace for you.

Although sometimes he jokes that the only time in his life he did 40 days fasting and prayer was when he was seeking for wife, and God come give am that wonderful woman.

djon78:


Yea he even says it. His brothers also say it. Because he married a very good woman as wife. The kind that brings peace. His wife is the kind of woman you use as example to other women. Beautiful, intelligent, very good natured. In fact I say that God gives some people what they don't deserve, but that's Grace for you.

Although sometimes he jokes that the only time in his life he did 40 days fasting and prayer was when he was seeking for wife, and God come give am that wonderful woman.

There you have it. People don't factor God in when choosing a life partner, that's why we have so many failed marriages

Ishilove:

There you have it. People don't factor God in when choosing a life partner, that's why we have so many failed marriages

Sure you hit it spot on. Many people enter into wrong marriages because they don't put in God. It is only God that knows the true condition of a person. What his or her future will be like.

But people follow physical appeal which is very fleeting. Also another thing i have come to see is that most times, the things that will make our life better may not be appealing to our senses. It may not really look ideal, but those are the things that will make our life the best.
And that is how many people miss out on happiness in life.

djon78:


Sure you hit it spot on. Many people enter into wrong marriages because they don't put in God. It is only God that knows the true condition of a person. What his or her future will be like.

But people follow physical appeal which is very fleeting. Also another thing i have come to see is that most times, the things that will make our life better may not be appealing to our senses. It may not really look ideal, but those are the things that will make our life the best.
And that is how many people miss out on happiness in life.

You are young, but your are filled with wisdom. I couldn't have put it better.

You have also opened my eyes to something I have always known in my subconscious but never truly acknowledged. Thanks a lot

How I wish people know this.

Ishilove:

You are young, but your are filled with wisdom. I couldn't have put it better.

You have also opened my eyes to something I have always known in my subconscious but never truly acknowledged. Thanks a lot

How I wish people know this.

Well wisdom is from God. Thanks too