Hi Nairaland family,

I'm sorry I had to create this account to keep me anonymous.

I need any help I can get on this issue please. So this morning this lady that works for a man I do business with woke me with a call at 5:37am today and opened up to me that she's fallen in love with me. I barely know her. We've just met at the boss's place thrice and I was on my business mission. We gisted small the last time I was around in January. And she was telling me about how her ex broke her heart and all, I was adroit, empathized and put myself in her shoes and all.

Told her to be more outgoing and more friendly cos she seemed to have shrank into her shell after her break up. After that day the calls increased, checking up on me and normal stuff. I reciprocated cos I felt it was normal for two matured folks.

The problem is that I don't really feel the same. Infact it was the least thing I expected this morning. Well I wouldn't bruise her ego, I respect her for her courage and I told her so. She said her problem was that the person might not feel the same and she was right. If I have to have anything with her it wouldn't lead to anything serious. but deep inside her she needs something serious.

Well during the course of the call just so I don't shatter her already fragile frame, I mumbled to her "well I like you too and I respect you, especially for your courage". I don't want her to misinterpret my comment. Please I can be her friend but we wouldn't kick anything serious, at least not on my side. It wasn't what I could relate over the phone. I stay in one of the the west African countries and she's in Nigeria. How do I tell her my stand without breaking her again when I'm in Nigeria?

Guys help!!! I will be in the comments section.

Mods please help me

Just sisterzone her, with time her eyes will open.

Oh, you stay "abroad"?

Problem solved

Sister zoning sure pass bros

What's so hard about you turning her offer down? why don't just grow some balls and tella you not interested in whatsoever is that she seeks.

When a guy let his intentions known to a lady, if she isn't interested she let you know instanta, but when reverse is the case... we got the "I don't wanna hurt her feelings" "How do I turn her offer down without hurting her feelings" and so on... What a bullcrap, so women don't give a fûck about how you guys feels to?

Sorry, I'm not interested. let's just maintain the friendship lane.... simple as DVD

put urself in her shoes..assume u r d lady, act d drama with urself.. then u will find answers to ur worries..some guys are just opportunist, they don't know how to say No..but saying No doesn't make u weak..but u r defined as a man who knows where he is going..guy don't play along tell her the truth..if she wouldn't mind..then go ahead...if otherwise.. QUIT.

Also op, don't always pick her call .
And when u are in Nigeria , always claim busy and still don't pick her call .let it keep ringing .

Claiming you are busy round the clock , even to pic calls or reply her messages. If she sees u face to face and ask why u aint answering her calls , reply her with a yawn and bored look, that uv been so busy lately and even your gf in your country is even complaining too.
She will quickly get the message and gradually withdraw with time .

It will hurt but it's better , she knows on time than later .

Mehn! thank God I don't shoot shots ! Jeez! I go just die !!!!!

I'll advise you reciprocate her love.
Push yourself into loving her.
You just have to love her and go into a relationship with her.
That lady is a nice lady.
You must love and cherish her..
if after sometime you still cant love her though, you can then dump her.
But first, you must accept her proposal.

victorian:
Also op, don't always pick her call .
And when u are in Nigeria , always claim busy and still don't pick her call .let it keep ringing .

Claiming you are busy round the clock , even to pic calls or reply her messages. If she sees u face to face and ask why u aint answering her calls , reply her with a yawn and bored look, that uv been so busy lately and even your gf in your country is even complaining too.
She will quickly get the message and gradually withdraw with time .

It will hurt but it's better , she knows on time than later .

Mehn! thank God I don't shoot shots ! Jeez! I go just die !!!!!

lmao You See it is not easy to be a man


Hope your Greenlight is not multicolored

2dice01:
lmao You See it is not easy to be a man


Hope your Greenlight is not multicolored

Lol na so



Multicolored ke? Its not o!

I don't even known how to show greenlight sef! May God help me

- why waste her time (or yours)?
- why give her hope where there is none?
- why lie to this lady (and your own self)?

no matter how hard the truth is, tell her exactly how you feel and let her accept that. no time to waste pretending to be who you are not, especially with someone who is somehow related to your money.

you certainly aint helping her by NOT being fully honest with her about how you feel about her. you cant pretend to be nice to all the sad babes you PITY

Jayslicky:
Just sisterzone her, with time her eyes will open.

madman

victorian:
Also op, don't always pick her call .
And when u are in Nigeria , always claim busy and still don't pick her call .let it keep ringing .

Claiming you are busy round the clock , even to pic calls or reply her messages. If she sees u face to face and ask why u aint answering her calls , reply her with a yawn and bored look, that uv been so busy lately and even your gf in your country is even complaining too.
She will quickly get the message and gradually withdraw with time .

It will hurt but it's better , she knows on time than later .

Mehn! thank God I don't shoot shots ! Jeez! I go just die !!!!!

see your wicked advice,so na wet in u dey do boiz be DAT if I knock ya head eh fish.

victorian:









Lol na so



Multicolored ke? Its not o!

I don't even known how to show greenlight sef! May God help me

lol

Some guys love ladies with no lights like yours

We just bring any kinda light we want you to show

victorian:
Also op, don't always pick her call .
And when u are in Nigeria , always claim busy and still don't pick her call .let it keep ringing .

Claiming you are busy round the clock , even to pic calls or reply her messages. If she sees u face to face and ask why u aint answering her calls , reply her with a yawn and bored look, that uv been so busy lately and even your gf in your country is even complaining too.
She will quickly get the message and gradually withdraw with time .

It will hurt but it's better , she knows on time than later .

Mehn! thank God I don't shoot shots ! Jeez! I go just die !!!!!

Hmmm

She a kangaroo, women think they can do what men do but unfortunately for them they outdo themselves. Chai see washing on nl

The girl self already has element of a pyscho. You dodged a bullet

badadvice:
I'll advise you reciprocate her love.
Push yourself into loving her.
You just have to love her and go into a relationship with her.
That lady is a nice lady.
You must love and cherish her..
if after sometime you still cant love her though, you can then dump her.
But first, you must accept her proposal.

Ahhh, what kind of a bad advice is this?

Don't date a vulnerable girl. When she is back on her feet again, she will run away.


Except you wan chop and clean mouth.

We're in the era of gender equality. Men have been rejected by women since the days of noah.


Tell her you're not interested without telling the reason for your decision.

Honesty..

No matter how hurt she will be, in Years to come, she will respect you for your honesty.

Refusing to pick someone's call is a wicked act now?
If I am not interested in a female I don't entertain any thought of friendship talk less of a relationship.

'let's just be friends'...the cliché that can never die.

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Treat her like a good frnd and tell her Ure not ready for anything serious or Ure seeing sm1 and still watching to see how that goes.

It's funny how the universe works ....Sth like dis happened to me 2 days ago ...I replied exactly as the op did..

Hdhdtt

badadvice:
I'll advise you reciprocate her love.
Push yourself into loving her.
You just have to love her and go into a relationship with her.
That lady is a nice lady.
You must love and cherish her..
if after sometime you still cant love her though, you can then dump her.
But first, you must accept her proposal.

You need serious planking