OK, my first time of posting on nairaland pls just need a little advice...
I live with a childhood friend,we both went to my mom school, we passed out and went to the same high institution,and we both understand each other very well, tho he was d first to gain admission and a year after I was admitted too,he left school and a year after we linked up again this time at his parents house,so fast forward, he commit to a serious relationship and we barely had the time to talk or relate,i start to feel lonely so I had to fund girl too, which didn't end up well for me, I was too kind,soft heartand caring,but I am lonely,i don't keep a lot of friends and I don't go out much too....


Then I met Sarah(my gf), she was still in school then,some how inside me I felt love for the first time not like the previous relationship that lasted for just 2 months, I felt like I have finally find my other half, I ask her out and she said yes, everything was going fine,i am financially comfortable at the age range, I was madly in love with her that I dont eVn like To c her sad for a second,i am always scared of loosing her to the extent I had to relocate with her in Ibadan to finish her studies since its juSt few months to go,i will give her whatever she wants at the right time even before she ask,her friends are always jealous of what she have and yes she is a virgin I didn't sex her,i am not in a haste, I just want to felt love and I'm always happy to know she is mine...she knows my parent and they do get in touch Very well and I do too...

October 1,i lost my mom and dad, things start to get hard on me(life)..i was so weak that I can barely work,everything was to tight,could not provide for my self and my only sis not to talk of her, my sis understand if I can't pay the rents Or pay for her daughter school fees again,sometimes she cheer me up and tell me everything will be fine, for me not to think much I had to move in with my friends that was around my gf house, just few miles away so we do get in touch every week end..



She starts giving me attitude, no respect again, she calls and bang the calls on me, things she don't dare do to Me before, I sit her down and tell her, *doNt make me feel like you are acting this way because I am broke* times like this will come but they will surely pass this are the times we know who Is real and who is fake, she said OK, few days ago was her B-Day I could not get her anything but I keep Calling and tell her not to be mad at me that very soon everything will be fine ...i do go to her house every night juSt to c her smile and I'll go back home(i truck everyday) and she Do give Me food,part of the reason I do go,i am dead broke lol



Not until 4 days ago, I get there and I call her and tell her am outside, I waited for about an hour it getting late already, I call her and she tell me I should leave she is busy, and she ask her sis to Bring my food, I told her sis to return it and tell her to come outside I want to see her, the next thing she did is call and tell me I should leave and if I am hungry I will collect d food, and she hang up, I was so annoyed I waited for about 30min to c if she will show up she didn't, I was so sad and I left,since then she didn't call or message, I felt so bad inside me,i can't count what I've done for her it's part of relationship we should be able to stand by each other during the hard times too and Ive done that for her so many times even if it means making my self uncomfortable, but she only feed me for few days, she let it get over her,its making me feel so bad I dont know what to do and I don't know who to talk to pls I beg you guys what should I do pls

Hmmmm if this is real i will advice you to just distance yourself from her for now even the food issue just ignore it and try to look for another source i dont believe she is a virigin .........Get over the loss of your parents .... Things will change for you soon for good

are you sure she is still a virgin, guess you were there been her doormat instead of being a man.

anyway, she is giving you signs that it is over. get heartbroken, feel the pain and move on.

ominilongest:
its making me feel so bad I dont know what to do and I don't know who to talk to pls I beg you guys what should I do pls

ur close to ur sis.
discuss with her.
let ur tears flow.
get a woman's take from her.
do all ur crying and thinking till u sleep.
when u wake, discuss a small business wit ur sis:
use ur phone/other assets as collateral to get goods to sell.
go to ur church and disturb dem 4 work.
life goes on so make d most of it.
and thank ur God u Saw her true nature.
God bless.

I wanted to bash and insult you initially, then I realized no one is free when it comes to emotions. Please, cheer up and move on. It's obvious she was only using you, don't beg her.. I know it's gonna be difficult, try getting something to keep you busy.
I repeat, don't beg her. And besides, she isn't a virgin, she was only using you to satisfy her needs. She knew your parents are gone (sorry about that), and that things are not gonna be easy anymore, so she had to cut you off and find another ATM. How was she celebrating her birthday before you met her?
That's why most of us don't give a fvck anymore.

so sorry about it, I'm very sure your finances is not the reason she's acting up, talk to her and know the real reason behind it.

Your story is pathetic. Sorry about that. Your girlfriend is no more interested in that relationship since money is absent and truly, she loved the money and not you. I know you're broke just for now so, please don't collect food from her again. Your sister should help in that case and as a man, you will definitely bounce back and don't allow your present conditions to weigh you down. Love only exist when money is involved. Cheer up nigga.

Well this is part of life experience some people have gone through and survived. So your case won't be different. It is better you have seen her other side now than later. Just find a way to see her and hear why she is acting up. If the reasons giving is odd and irrelevant.... Make your last statement and move on with your life. But if she is reasonable then you can find a way to resolve the issue.

No money no honey. If you know you know.

ThothHermes:
No money no honey. If you know you know.

:
You don turn teacher for woman matter Dear Ranchhoddas

LoJ:
: You don turn teacher for woman matter Dear Ranchho ddas

Your pidgin is impressive. Na boredom dey worry me.

ThothHermes:

Your pidgin is impressive. Na boredom dey worry me.

I have great teachers (@mizmycoli @hardmirror) and I can already write quite well. But speaking I can't

You're the only one who has been "madly in love" in this relationship. This is how she's going to treat you in the future should something unprecedented happen to you again financially.

Have some dignity: focus on building yourself, and find someone better.

LoJ:

I have great teachers (@mizmycoli @hardmirror) and I can already write quite well. But speaking I can't

Lack of practice

BronzeMajik:
so sorry about it, I'm very sure your finances is not the reason she's acting up, talk to her and know the real reason behind it.

if it is not finances then it is what? don't let's us deceive him, she is showing those attitude because of his present predicament

ThothHermes:
Lack of practice

Yes. I only learned to write some expressions with the aforementioned monikers and on nairaland too.

LoJ:

Yes. I only learned to write some expressions with the aforementioned monikers and on nairaland too.

One more reason to visit Naija then

You are lucky God made you to experience dry season to enable you know the kind of lady you fell in love with.
It's obvious she is after your money and not necessarily in love with you.
Just see this as an opportunity to motivate yourself to success.

BronzeMajik:
so sorry about it, I'm very sure your finances is not the reason she's acting up, talk to her and know the real reason behind it.

Try and read before commenting to avoid insane response.

She was never in love wiv u,u better not go n kill yuhself,n i strongly believe that she was never a virgin, always help a brother when d going x good n never a woman, women can never ever be trusted,most male badt folks whom treat women like trash,wia once d good guys buh women don't want d good guys dey want d rough n bouyant,buh guess what bro all hope x not yet lost,use d heartbreak as a motivation n get back on yuh feet,buh next time never show a woman how much u truly love her,even yuh wife...

Things that happen when "A NICE Guy"
dates a HOE.
Learn from this ,u go de alright.

vingeophysicist:
Try and read before commenting to avoid insane response.

shut up.

BronzeMajik:
shut up.

Thanks dear . I was only advising you.

vingeophysicist:

Thanks dear . I was only advising you.

you're very welcome sir good evening.

Oh Lord.. Another loser again crying because of a virgin LovePeddler .. Brother to start with, that girl is not a virgin, you lost the battle the moment you believed she is a virgin. When you’re in money, she has another main niggar that is drilling her honeypot and the niggar helps her map out format to scam you after which he collects his cut. Now that you the maga has run out of cash, you’re useless to her hence, she has no other reason than to dump you. You guys don’t ever learn, many threads are on this section on how to handle this rampaging whores but you don’t ever want to read and learn. It’s only when reality hits you like this, you come here to wail. There is nothing you can do now than to move on, stop calling her and focusing your energy on fixing yourself financially.. Study and understand the psychology of women before you go into any other relationship and stop giving women money unnecessarily... Lastly, start hitting that pussy so that if worst come to worst, you won’t be a total loser.

[quote author=Headlesschicken post=76953869] She was never in love wiv u,u better not go n kill yuhself,n i strongly believe that she was never a virgin, always help a brother when d going x good n never a woman, women can never ever be trusted,most male badt folks whom treat women like trash,wia once d good guys buh women don't want d good guys dey want d rough n bouyant,buh guess what bro all hope x not yet lost,use d heartbreak as a motivation n get back on yuh feet,buh next time never show a woman how much u truly love her,even yuh wife...

You're on point bro, never ever show a woman how much you really love her cause many will take an advantage of You, guy I will advise you accept the heart break and move on, I know it's difficult but it's worth it, I personally have been through something like this.

the part that set me off laughing is he is outside calling the chick inside the house to come out and she doesn't want to,can't you see the obvious,she is inside with another man,matters about sex and human relations should not be a do or die affair,I just pity the poor guy that drank 3 can of sniper because of a gilted lover,when his best revenge could be to get an even more beautiful girl and flaunt it.

If you continue this way with women, it's just a matter of time before we read about your story on front page like the way we are reading about the young man who committed suicide because of a lady.

That babe you're treating like egg, another Nigga is frying her already

Use your upper

ceeroh:
I wanted to bash and insult you initially, then I realized no one is free when it comes to emotions. Please, cheer up and move on. It's obvious she was only using you, don't beg her.. I know it's gonna be difficult, try getting something to keep you busy.
I repeat, don't beg her. And besides, she isn't a virgin, she was only using you to satisfy her needs. She knew your parents are gone (sorry about that), and that things are not gonna be easy anymore, so she had to cut you off and find another ATM. How was she celebrating her birthday before you met her?
That's why most of us don't give a fvck anymore.

i am free guy. i love with my head.... although i ve had my share of a broken heart but that was very early in life...

@op and to all guys.... never believe when a girl says shes a virgin or that she was raped... they are all lies....... never engage in no-sex relationship... its a scam

chris brown sang "these hoes aint loyal" for a reason...

first off am so sorry you lost your mum, I lost mine too so I know how it feels.

secondly you are darling, you are good man and men like you are rear.

I really don't know why she be acting up like that cause you don't just treat any one you claim to love bad at their lowest low.

Stay away from her don't go asking her for anything. I pray you get a good woman by you side cause BABY boy you deserve.

And i pray God restores you back financially much love.