Missperplexity0:
I will try as much as possible to make this brief and clear(excuse my typos).
Met this guy while I was in my part 1 and we've been dating for a couple of years, the issue is, he's very possessive and overly jealous, restricted me from having male friends, I have to tell him everything and everywhere I want to go, snoops through my phone, read my chats and sometimes harasses my male callers, my last protest was met with series of slaps, everything I try to walk out of the relationship, he threatens to leak my nudes and tapes, also promised to leak my family secret I told him when the going was good..... I really need help and advises on how to leave the relationship because my heart is no longer there and am scared of calling his bluff

badadvice:
Miss, tbh, Your situation is pretty complex.
If you leave him, he leaks your nude and videos,
if you stay with him, he'll continue beating and one day kill you,
if you report him to the authorities, nigga could seek bail or spend 5-6years at most in prison and when he comes out, people like him can find you and do shiit to you,
if you report to your family, nigga could release your family secret and shame y'all.
So, i'll advise you to poison him.
Poison him or find a way to slowly kill the bloke and make it look like a suicide case.
I've watched alot of movies like this and this has always been the solution.
It might be your only solution too.
I don't know though.

ebonyggurl:


Breaking his phone will be easier on her conscience than killing him though

Tomoyayi:
. Why do the girls allow it?

badadvice:



no offence but i think you should check the meaning of "choleric" and then re-read op's post.

ebonyggurl:


Breaking his phone will be easier on her conscience than killing him though

Admin401:
I know what Choleric means and no offence I think you're a dumb person trying to sound smart. You must be a very narrow minded individual if you think people with other temperaments are not capable of wicked acts like this.

Missperplexity0:
I will try as much as possible to make this brief and clear(excuse my typos).
Met this guy while I was in my part 1 and we've been dating for a couple of years, the issue is, he's very possessive and overly jealous, restricted me from having male friends, I have to tell him everything and everywhere I want to go, snoops through my phone, read my chats and sometimes harasses my male callers, my last protest was met with series of slaps, everything I try to walk out of the relationship, he threatens to leak my nudes and tapes, also promised to leak my family secret I told him when the going was good..... I really need help and advises on how to leave the relationship because my heart is no longer there and am scared of calling his bluff

schumastic:


If you are really serious about leaving the relationship and your only worry is the nudes and videos, it's very easy.

First of all get the police or a military personnel involve, let the dude sign an undertaking not to release such and he must delete everything. If he does otherwise, they will come pick him up.

For the one of your family, he can say what he likes. Who cares, it will only be for a while and that's it. the most important thing is the nudes and once that is settled, just leave his sorry ass. Guys who hit ladies are cowards.

Signed.

Vice President,

Bachelors Club,

Ikeja, Lagos Branch.

SweetBuns:

Bad advice.

Bad advise indeed.
Missperplexity0 dont do it. It will make things worse. Think about how you'll feel If you do this.
Think about the fear, guilt trips, phobia of getting arrested, loss of self respect and possibly suicidal mood that might come over you if you do this.
I strongly advise you to turn deaf ears to this slowpoke. Please

Missperplexity0:
i don't even have the heart to do that and moreover this secret is like to cause divorce between my parent and also tarnish my father reputation because he's a respectable priest and oversees our church headquarter

badadvice:


it will.
But what if he already made copies stacked up somewhere.
She'd just sign her death warrant by breaking his phone.
I say to hell with the dude.
Slow painless death.

Missperplexity0:
I will try as much as possible to make this brief and clear(excuse my typos).
Met this guy while I was in my part 1 and we've been dating for a couple of years, the issue is, he's very possessive and overly jealous, restricted me from having male friends, I have to tell him everything and everywhere I want to go, snoops through my phone, read my chats and sometimes harasses my male callers, my last protest was met with series of slaps, everything I try to walk out of the relationship, he threatens to leak my nudes and tapes, also promised to leak my family secret I told him when the going was good..... I really need help and advises on how to leave the relationship because my heart is no longer there and am scared of calling his bluff

SweetBuns:

I knew idiots like you would like to quote me for cheap "likes".
When sex goes wrong, why do the females have to bear the brunt?
You put it out as if she was the one who took the camera and snapped the pics. Was she the one? No!
It was one sick MAN ,a childish bastard who doesn't understand that sex is a secret and intimate act that must not be put in record. So how is it her fault? Did you know if the poor lady knew about the videos or not?? You're bearing false witness on something you don't know! Disgusting!!!!
Its clear that you can't reason beyond your nose before thinking of the " likes" you will have. Slowpoke

Missperplexity0:
i don't even have the heart to do that and moreover this secret is like to cause divorce between my parent and also tarnish my father reputation because he's a respectable priest and oversees our church headquarter

SweetBuns:

So because a lot of people have sextapes online, she should join the bandwagon? I wonder how some souls reason at times. Its her female pride and dignity that is on the on the line here

As for the OP, go to court and sue him for defamation of character. Not at that time, but charge a count that holds him responsible for any bad thing that happens to you after severing the cords of the relationship. After that, give him a restraining order to stay far away from you. If he breaks it, he gets arrested.

About your family secrets, thats a family and close friends matter. I won't put my mouth into it. But know that you made a big mistake for letting him know those secrets while fully knowing the kind of person he is

bukatyne:


Don't make the girl look more stupid than necessary.

A man who his not your husband records sex videos of you and you let him?

@OP: weigh the risk of staying or leaving and shoot your shot.

You can also explore telling your family so they threaten him and you can leave.

However, I am curious: why doesn't he want to let you go? Why is he using all the weapons in his arsenal to ensure he keeps you?

Cc: Missperplexity0

Missperplexity0:
thats what am baffled about too because he's always like if I don't have you, nobody will and this we've come a long way than to end it here, lemme set some things straight, I only made a clip that doesn't show my face, all the pictures and videos he showed me were either taken while I was asleep naked or coming out of the shower..... they are clips am not aware of

Missperplexity0:
I will try as much as possible to make this brief and clear(excuse my typos).
Met this guy while I was in my part 1 and we've been dating for a couple of years, the issue is, he's very possessive and overly jealous, restricted me from having male friends, I have to tell him everything and everywhere I want to go, snoops through my phone, read my chats and sometimes harasses my male callers, my last protest was met with series of slaps, everything I try to walk out of the relationship, he threatens to leak my nudes and tapes, also promised to leak my family secret I told him when the going was good..... I really need help and advises on how to leave the relationship because my heart is no longer there and am scared of calling his bluff

Missperplexity0:
thats what am baffled about too because he's always like if I don't have you, nobody will and this we've come a long way than to end it here, lemme set some things straight, I only made a clip that doesn't show my face, all the pictures and videos he showed me were either taken while I was asleep naked or coming out of the shower..... they are clips am not aware of

SweetBuns:

I knew idiots like you would like to quote me for cheap "likes".
When sex goes wrong, why do the females have to bear the brunt?
You put it out as if she was the one who took the camera and snapped the pics. Was she the one? No!
It was one sick MAN ,a childish bastard who doesn't understand that sex is a secret and intimate act that must not be put in record. So how is it her fault? Did you know if the poor lady knew about the videos or not?? You're bearing false witness on something you don't know! Disgusting!!!!
Its clear that you can't reason beyond your nose before thinking of the " likes" you will have. Slowpoke

bukatyne:


So the pictures are without your permission.

Ask him what he gains from the relationship. Or has he invested a lot? His 'we have come a long way to end this' suggests that.
Are you above his social status that he sees you as an achievement?
Dies he see you as a conquest?

I would assume that he is beating you because you do things he finds offensive.

Please note I am not holding brief for him. I am trying to get you to understand why he is holding on to the relationship.

Biglittlelois:


And when he showed you what was your next reaction? Did you change it for him and delete the pictures and videos yourself? Obviously you didn't, pretty sure you were smiling when you saw yourself looking sexy and all, smh!!! Well follow some good advice here though.....

Missperplexity0:
I will try as much as possible to make this brief and clear(excuse my typos).
Met this guy while I was in my part 1 and we've been dating for a couple of years, the issue is, he's very possessive and overly jealous, restricted me from having male friends, I have to tell him everything and everywhere I want to go, snoops through my phone, read my chats and sometimes harasses my male callers, my last protest was met with series of slaps, everything I try to walk out of the relationship, he threatens to leak my nudes and tapes, also promised to leak my family secret I told him when the going was good..... I really need help and advises on how to leave the relationship because my heart is no longer there and am scared of calling his bluff

Missperplexity0:
i deleted them but he has them backed up and even renamed some of the files so I wouldn't code it......

ebonyggurl:

Lolz...can death be slow and painless at the same time?