sassysure:

U can never be half of who he is. When u see his type out there, u will only wish but your retarded mindset will never allow u to grow.
slowpoke and dunce.
U write like a gateman.

See this mumu. Ya boy boy husband fit buy yasht? I get yasht wey I dey use furck silly gerls likes u. If ya husband fit buy yasht, den I witdruw my commentasion. But if na only canoue he fits buy, den me and una no fits deys d same levul. Makes u comes lekki, makes I use money drives u come out from ya boy boy husband hause. Yeye dey smells

AHCB:
political? This is the real dose of truth. Men do this just like women, in fact, with men, it's even worse.

Let's use you and your posts here on this forum as a case study bro. It's a no Brainer that the woman will worship you and if she doesn't... Ghen Ghen Ghen, action film done start. Lol

I am not even domestic.things like food and chores can't ever bother me.
But the moment she starts battling for supremacy in my house then it's on.
Operation leave the house for her so we see how far she and her feminism will go with the bills and probably kids

sassysure:

That is what he told you or what u and host of his friends have planted and watered in his heart and it has grown.

I'm sure u and ur likes will be happy when their union ends.

He even discuss his relationship with u guys.
What a man!

This is how people like you go about destroying relationships.

When your friend marry and you are still single, limit the way you go to their house, it's a simple rule cos u guys will always look and feast on their marital weakness as you are doing now.
Go and marry your own wife and leave them alone.
Amebo.
Home breaker.

not matter of marry my girlfrd wont try such talkles of my own wife i dnt enter kitchen talkes Of dishing out food wen my gf is around my dear some women lack respect no matter what a man is a man

nwanneni:
I am not even domestic.things like food and chores can't ever bother me.
But the moment she starts battling for supremacy in my house then it's on.
Operation leave the house for her so we see how far she and her feminism will go with the bills and probably kids

you see wetin I dey talk. Lol.

Don't tell me you're the type who punish your 'wife' to the extent it extend to your kids?

AHCB:
you see wetin I dey talk. Lol.

Don't tell me you're the type who punish your 'wife' to the extent it extend to your kids?

desperate times....you know the rest.
My peace comes first.
You should try a nagging and overly opinionated woman sometime

nwanneni:
desperate times....you know the rest.
My peace comes first.
You should try a nagging and overly opinionated woman sometime

always have. There's a reason why they say silence is gold... sometimes. Lol

After eating ur husband wil wash his plate and clean anytn he finds in the sink chai dat guy must be ur puppet women get mind chai i know he must be washin ur cloth as well as cooking while u sat on ur sofa watching zee world... I cant take dat from any woman

kevin25:
not matter of marry my girlfrd wont try such talkles of my own wife i dnt enter kitchen talkes Of dishing out food wen my gf is around my dear some women lack respect no matter what a man is a man

U are still in the girlfriend level.
So u go to their house for free food?
And in the process look meddle in something that doesn't concern you.

When will u guys learn to mind your biz, Mr busy body?

AHCB:
always have. There's a reason why they say silence is gold... sometimes. Lol

silence would be golden if I was looking for anything out here on nairaland.
But I'll pass
Keeping it 100 yo.This is who nwanneni is

Smh

sassysure:

U are still in the girlfriend level.
So u go to their house for free food?
And in the process look meddle in something that doesn't concern you.

When will u guys learn to mind your biz, Mr busy body?

For ur information i dnt associate with feminist coz i know the woman is! I cook my own food nor i go to resturant but whenever my gf is around she cooks for me so food is never my problem... I can take care of that...i even tell my girl that anyday she behave like that woman that spell the end of our relationship i dnt take shit

kevin25:
Imagine if your friends came around and u instruct your wife to go and bring food for U and ur frd then she told you to go and do by urself how wil u feel? My girlfrd wont try dat talkles of wife

Op, the man in question is you and not your friend. Nothing to be ashamed of if you need help. The genesis of your marital problems lies in the word you used above. That is to instruct! Why are you instructing your wife? Respect begets respect. I hope you’re not trying to “subdue” your wife to prove that you’re the one who wears the pants in the family? This has nothing to do with her being financially or academically more stable than you. I think it has to do with your poor self esteem. Why don’t you look at it this way? That you must have a lot going for you to have such a woman marry you. Address her with some respect and she’ll respond with even more love and respect.

sweetrace:


Op, the man in question is you and not your friend. Nothing to be ashamed of if you need help. The genesis of your marital problems lies in the word you used above. That is to instruct! Why are you instructing your wife? Respect begets respect. I hope you’re not trying to “subdue” your wife to prove that you’re the one who wears the pants in the family? This has nothing to do with her being financially or academically more stable than you. I think it has to do with your poor self esteem. Why don’t you look at it this way? That you must have a lot going for you to have such a woman marry you. Address her with some respect and she’ll respond with even more love and respect.

U have to read my write up first before trying to blame me did i tell you that am married? I cant take poo if any woman cant abide by my rules den dats the end so get it

Most Nigerian men think the only thing they have to offer a woman is his money. When you base your self worth on how much money you have, when that money is gone or isn’t there, low self esteem sets in. They become paranoid, interpreting every utterance and gesture as being rude. So this woman sacrificed everything to make sure her man succeeds, what did the man offer her? If he didn’t take advantage of her sacrifices, does she have a right to be frustrated? So she sacrificed everything yet he couldn’t even dish his own food?

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

Other women serve their food husband kneeling down, which i have seen many times ordinary to enter kitchen bring out food na wahala some women no go ever marry cuz we guys cant have two masters in one house

Smh some women start what they can’t finish to get the ring.

Girlfriend and wife are VERY two different responsibilities.

Some women start unrealistic pampering of a man when they are dating but hard to keep up in a marriage, when the woman now has added responsibilities and the husband still thinks he is a boyfriend.

kevin25:
not matter of marry my girlfrd wont try such talkles of my own wife i dnt enter kitchen talkes Of dishing out food wen my gf is around my dear some women lack respect no matter what a man is a man

Added responsibility yes with some conditions u can help your wife do anything but not when she takes it as if its your responsibility... Women are always like that dish out food today den tomorow you hear baby help me wash my cloths u do dat den next baby pls wash my under wear before u know it u don turn to her puppet she can even say it infront of your frds, anyday u try to let her know dat all dos things are not ur work as a man then u don enter civil war... I dnt give chance for that at all

sweetrace:


Op, the man in question is you and not your friend. Nothing to be ashamed of if you need help. The genesis of your marital problems lies in the word you used above. That is to instruct! Why are you instructing your wife? Respect begets respect. I hope you’re not trying to “subdue” your wife to prove that you’re the one who wears the pants in the family? This has nothing to do with her being financially or academically more stable than you. I think it has to do with your poor self esteem. Why don’t you look at it this way? That you must have a lot going for you to have such a woman marry you. Address her with some respect and she’ll respond with even more love and respect.

smiles

Jmk9292:
That's when both are in marriage because of pressure..... Pressure arising from poverty on the side of the man.... Pressure on the side of the woman to be a Mrs..

Wow. You are absolutely right!!!

greatbygrace:
This has nothing to do with finance or academic. It has everything to do with the attitude and the love they claim they had. There are people in the same scenerio who are happily married. So your generalization is wrong.

There is nothing wrong in a wife calling her husband by name. It only depends on the attitude and manner.

There is also nothing wrong in a man dishing his food himself and even dishing for his wife. It is all about understanding and love.

Loving someone isn't all about money and academics afterall there are illiterates who are madly in love and there are poor people in love also. Although money makes it better. The main thing about love is understanding and sacrifice.

My opinion.

Nice theory!

SageMK:


From what you posted, he wanted her to serve him his food in the presence of a stranger (you). And while she declined, he tried forcing her. (Bear in mind she did the cooking with her own money).

From this it clearly depicts —

1. He felt entitled to her caring and wasn't appreciative.
2. He had no respect for her by trying to emasculate.

Note that I am not saying she isn't disrespectful.
But her husband gave her a reason to disrespect him.

And it's not because of financial status but his behavior.

You are rationalizing for this kind of women??
They never do you strong thing

runwaymodel:
What's so bad in him dishing out his own plate?

What is bad is the wife refusal In the presence of a guest. It is very disrespectful!!!

sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

E dey sweet your bele
Can he wash your pants and any other Laundry he found in the basket too
Is that how your mum treated your Dad?? Continue the emasculation!!!

sassysure:

That is what he told you or what u and host of his friends have planted and watered in his heart and it has grown.

I'm sure u and ur likes will be happy when their union ends.

He even discuss his relationship with u guys.
What a man!

This is how people like you go about destroying relationships.

When your friend marry and you are still single, limit the way you go to their house, it's a simple rule cos u guys will always look and feast on their marital weakness as you are doing now.
Go and marry your own wife and leave them alone.
Amebo.
Home breaker.

Don't involve 3rd party. Continue to be emasculated. It is a big WIN for the wife. She is the real head of the house. The husband is just a ceremonial head!! Love without submission from the wife is merely a manipulation!!!

eni4real:
You are rationalizing for this kind of women??
They never do you strong thing

dnt mind him he never jam women with heartles heart him go make beer parlour his nearest destination

kevin25:
dnt mind him he never jam women with heartles heart him go make beer parlour his nearest destination

He never jam a Devil cousin!

How a man can reason this foolishly is alarming.

SageMK:


From what you posted, he wanted her to serve him his food in the presence of a stranger (you). And while she declined, he tried forcing her. (Bear in mind she did the cooking with her own money).

From this it clearly depicts —

1. He felt entitled to her caring and wasn't appreciative.
2. He had no respect for her by trying to emasculate.

Note that I am not saying she isn't disrespectful.
But her husband gave her a reason to disrespect him.

And it's not because of financial status but his behavior.

How will he be ordering her around when she is not a maid?

The same kind of insecure men who call women who depend on them "olosho"
are the ones also crying when they meet an independent woman.

She took him from the gutters but now he wants to become an emperor.
Well, he is free to go his separate ways but he will surely be bankrupt in no time.

This is the risk every woman who marries a poor man takes. Most will never be
secure and will be looking for every opportunity to seize control.

Once you provide what is bad in a man asking his wife dish his food I will answer your question.

runwaymodel:
What's so bad in him dishing out his own plate?

eni4real:
Don't involve 3rd party. Continue to be emasculated. It is a big WIN for the wife. She is the real head of the house. The husband is just a ceremonial head!! Love without submission from the wife is merely a manipulation!!!

Only slaves submit.
Free humans collaborate or go their separate ways.
Make sure you buy an illiterate girl from your village to marry
or even stay single forever.
I don't want to see another thread about "my wife disobey me".

SMH

Iwanttoto1:


That your husband na very stupit boy. Infacts, him be disgrace to human beans wey carry prick in btwn dier legs

I hope you have passed your JAMB?

kevin25:
U have to read my write up first before trying to blame me did i tell you that am married? I cant take poo if any woman cant abide by my rules den dats the end so get it

I read your right up alright! Did you say abide by your rules? Seriously smh!!! Good luck to you with that attitude.