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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Waffarianman(m): 1:07pm On Jul 29, 2019
1StopRudeness:


Don't go there man.... U don't have to fallaciously linked fvcked up issues with a particular organization... Shiits happen everywhere and everytime


I know man just wanted to know if its JW peeps
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by mastermaestro(m): 1:10pm On Jul 29, 2019
pocohantas:


You don't know what goes on in some of these "churches". My friend was complaining how her younger sister brought one old man home. First question I asked was if her sister attends that kind church, she said yes. I know say na them. The kind brain-washing they give them there ehn, it is on another level.

Liar liar! My friend this, my friend that. This is how liars and slanderers are identified. Your aversion for Christianity is written all over you.

You fail to pick on the jealous lazy selfish brother who has no shame but wants to be the only beneficiary of mummy's income. Because religion has been mentioned, your eyes are bulging like an owl's.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by LANDLORD72: 1:10pm On Jul 29, 2019
[quote author=Techfave post=80730844]Hello guys, please I need enlightenment on this



My sister got married Last Year, she was pregnant already when she married, the man she married is over 40 years old, my sister got her husband through a religion organization, when the leader of the organization insisted that she must marry that man..

Now my concerns about is that this man she got married too is not financially okay, My mum always send money to my sister..


When my sister was about to give birth my mum finance nearly all the hospital Bill, the funniest thing is that my mum also borrowed the money somewhere..

My question is that,

Is is okay for my mum to send money to my sister after she is married??

Is it okay for the leader of a religion organization to dictate to my sister to marry this man??

Please I need enlightenment on this issues


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My sister got married Last Year, she was pregnant when she married, the man.
So no religious leader force your sister to Marry this young man because she already pregnant for him the religious leader don’t tolorate imorality hence he said they most get married I can see that even the husband is not happy getting married to your sister my advice assist your sister no condition is permanent
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Kindoo: 1:10pm On Jul 29, 2019
If she has challenge, she should please support her.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by uuzba(m): 1:11pm On Jul 29, 2019
shekauvsbuhari:
Mr. Man dnt be self-centered. She is ur sister. Ur family. She in a deep poo. Whether by foolish decision or error, she needs all de help from even you to get out of her mess. Go n work and assist. Its ur family member U re talking about.
The woman is in a big bull shit
And OP should be terribly ashamed to even mention this type not useless story.
He should go and rescue his sister from death of hunger
When the man was toasting the sister without job or money, none of them talked.
Na E do reach the stage of begging for food. Na now dem dey talk.
And they all went to spend the little money the man didn't have on Wedding and dress.
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by fimi: 1:12pm On Jul 29, 2019
Emily22:
It's normal cuz the present situation in this country ain't funny.

Lemme burst Ur bubble, as at last year...as at last year(July), my mum was the one feeding my sister and her family but luckily around December,the husband got a nice contract and since then...na faaji galore for them..

In summary,Ur sister's present situation is d cause...mabinu



Although I don't support that religious trash
God bless you for this answer.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by danniekute(m): 1:13pm On Jul 29, 2019
Techfave:


My sister is my business sir
It is seems you have too much time.
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by sisisioge: 1:15pm On Jul 29, 2019
grin grin grin grin grin

Very funny!

I think you sister and her husband should be kind to you mother by taking their burdens off her and transfering to the church. After all, na them join two financially incompetent folks in matrimony. May God help the children.

By the way, love and other relationships is only sweet when there is money or parties involved are not burdening one another! Hian!

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by LoveThemChubby(m): 1:16pm On Jul 29, 2019
Your mum is right, trust me. It might look like the worse thing to do but in the end it will be the memories that will make both she and her husband feel loved and part of the family.
Many many years ago, my sister got married against my parents wish and things later nosedived for them but still my mum bailed them out from time to time. Today the man is strong on his feet and doing excellently well plus he regards us as family and the bond is very strong.
If your mom abandons her today to her fate, the feeling of betrayer will be great and the family might never be able to recover from the consequences of such neglect.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Nobody: 1:19pm On Jul 29, 2019
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My sister is my business sir
Your sister is not your business in this context. You are simply poke nosing into other people's marital affair with the aim to ridicule either one of the parties or both. If you care so much, the condition to which it became necessary for your mum to offer assistance should have been your concern not the assistance rendered.

Amebo sibling.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by YoungAncient1: 1:20pm On Jul 29, 2019
In Africa, children no dey grow finish. Therefore, it is OK for your mom to send her money and food items especially as you have said her husband is no financially bouyant.

As for how she got married, it is not right for a religious leader to wield such level of authority over their members especially as it related to marriage issues. But as you said," she was already pregnant for the man before they married." I believe that was why he insisted they marry so that the child is not born out of wedluck.
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by solmusdesigns: 1:20pm On Jul 29, 2019
shocked


Some sibling can.be damn wicked sha... if my sister was in that situation, my concern would be how to support her baby with pampers or baby formular and not wail like an idiot about what my mother does with her sweet and blood


Shame to the trash we call family this days

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by kunkelhanspeter(m): 1:23pm On Jul 29, 2019
Ur sister mumu sha oh
How can a religion leader force ur sister to marry not even a young and rich person for that matter old and broke man chai!!!!
There’s God oh!!!!
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Dottore: 1:28pm On Jul 29, 2019
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My sister is my business sir
If the man was a billionaire would have complained about his age?

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Kemight15: 1:28pm On Jul 29, 2019
She was already pregnant before she got married to him. That means they forced her to marry the man that got her pregnant outside wedlock. If I May be right thou

Your mum is a good mother and I pray God will continue to provide for her. and as for your sister, may God locate her and her husband with helper.

Please don't have headache because your mum is doing all that for her. A good mother will not watch her children to suffer.

Please leave your mum alone. Just pray for them and help your sister with job opportunity. That's the main thing you should do.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by cocolacec(m): 1:28pm On Jul 29, 2019
Techfave:


My sister is my business sir

There is no crime if your mum supports her in the meantime.She and the husband need to get a job. The spiritual father can support them too.

Why did the family allow her marry the choice of the spiritual father in the first place apart from Pregnancy?
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Drake2021: 1:30pm On Jul 29, 2019
wahles:
I personally don’t think you have the right to speak for your sister or seek opinion for her about her choice. Mind your business

If your sister isn’t working yet, channel this enquiry towards helping her find a job, so she could be independent.

It's very obvious u are one of those types, who is there just to impregnate a woman and feel cool when others carry what is supposed to be ur responsibility.
Why is that not his business, if the old woman broke down, who did you think will carry the load. Is it a man that can't feed himself not to talk of his wife, but he keep having erection for bleeping.
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by 8stargeneral: 1:30pm On Jul 29, 2019
ur not a good brother, what is food, so if ur sister die because of hunger u will be happy, Na ur type wey no go fit give person a dime.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Agbowilly: 1:33pm On Jul 29, 2019
Let wisdom prevail!! Don't cast any blame on ur mom, she's playing her role as a good mother! Don't also blame ur sister, wat has happened as happened!! Support them in cash nd kind if u be means! U never know wat 2mao holds!! It is well with d couple!! God bless!

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by sexymomiyo(f): 1:34pm On Jul 29, 2019
wahles:

I understand!
But keep family business within, talk to your mum or any oda relative on possible solutions or advice
very sound advice.
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by sapientia(m): 1:34pm On Jul 29, 2019
She is your sister.

Asking this is very wrong for a start.

My answer is.

She is your sister for goodness sake.

Suck it up.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Codes151(m): 1:35pm On Jul 29, 2019
If your not Married like your sis Is, then STFU

Is the food items and cash your mother sends, is it urs?
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by oneTIMEman(m): 1:40pm On Jul 29, 2019
You better go and marry
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by wahles(m): 1:45pm On Jul 29, 2019
Drake2021:


It's very obvious u are one of those types, who is there just to impregnate a woman and feel cool when others carry what is supposed to be ur responsibility.
Why is that not his business, if the old woman broke down, who did you think will carry the load. Is it a man that can't feed himself not to talk of his wife, but he keep having erection for bleeping.
Remember, some days are sunny, some are cloudy. If your daughter marries and she is currently having financial crisis in her matrimonial home, watch her starve ooo .. because you have given her out.. nobi until u see beggar for road before your act of kindness manifest
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by enemyofprogress: 1:51pm On Jul 29, 2019
Blame your sister for allowing herself into that nonsense
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Kamoryemi2580(m): 1:53pm On Jul 29, 2019
seems like you don't like your sister,, cus if you do,,you won't be asking this question.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by yeman1(m): 1:55pm On Jul 29, 2019
it's not that bad,, any family can stand and help ,, whatever they are passing through is not going to be permanent. I'm very sure about that. you can pray for them as well so that God can intervene and lift d husband up from his feet. No condition is permanent. I've seen series of cases like these. and at the end, it was a great joy.

you don't need to bring their issue to this place. you can kindly seek opinion from your elders . So since they have married , there is limitation for you to be mediator between them.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Solsix(m): 1:58pm On Jul 29, 2019
Techfave:


My sister is my business sir
So what do u want us to do the deed is done, there is nothing we can do to stop your mom from helping her child. Your sister made a big mistake and the best u can do is to learn from it.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Nobody: 2:03pm On Jul 29, 2019
marvelli:
babe, where I come from its considered normal to help family members in need. Besides the OP never said the husband was perpetually poor na. Maybe he lost his job. I'm sure her parents or complaining brother wouldn't let her marry a jobless man.
Read d story again.
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by mrsfavour(f): 2:05pm On Jul 29, 2019
pocohantas:
Sebi una say it isn't about money, but love.
Your sister has been misled by one religious leader into marrying a broke man. I don't know why they never connect someone to the rich ones.

How can I marry a poor ancestor? What did he spend his youth doing, if he didn't make good money?

Your sister should better go look for a job and fend for herself. Maybe her husband too grin

Nonsense and alfah males.
my sister , laugh wan kill me o for here�
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by xeros20(m): 2:05pm On Jul 29, 2019
The reverse should be the case but since is like that, she needs assistance. Most time woman are been deceived religiously because they don't know the will of God for them, they tend to seek for the will thru a religious person which may eventually deceive their members. My advise is to help the husband to stand. There is nothing wrong for your mum to help at this period, things will change, it won't continue forever

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