pocohantas:
Forgive her.

Women are polygamous in nature.

Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...

Yea I support this ... It will lead the op a quicker 6ft trip

hurthubby:


I was 100% faithful to her, for over 16 years till i discovered that she's something else, that she can't change

so right now you are cheating on her too.

She is cheating, you are also cheating so what else do you want?

If she stops cheating, it is very unlikely that you would too so?

hurthubby:


I was 100% faithful to her, for over 16 years till i discovered that she's something else, that she can't change

Bless your heart sir. If all you're reporting is true,then bless your heart sir.

hurthubby:


I was 100% faithful to her, for over 16 years till i discovered that she's something else, that she can't change

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JudgeOGBUNABALI:

Well, this is my 7th yr of marriage. My main problem with man and woman is not cheating but disrespect. And cheating even comes under disrespect. I don't play with respect. I give it to people and demand 110% reciprocation.
Dude here has no respect for himself. So am sure nothing, not even his children will respect him. Not to talk of the so called wife and her bonobo friends. You see, my wife, my inlaws, my siblings knows I can kill demanding respect. So nobody crosses that line. You want to mess around? First quit the marriage. Otherwise the day I find you out. There'd be double funeral and nobody will know who is responsible. My respect is more important than any blood!
That's why I wish to encounter this louse called Op. The wimp seriously need some whip

Your language is rude and crude. You are married for 7 years only. Wait till you get to over 19 years of marriage with teen children before you know that it is another kettle of fish. Thanks anyway

Ok since both of you have cheated on each other, I honestly think this marriage is dead. Too many outsiders, too many issues, and lack of respect. I don’t expect you to leave over night, but please both of you are too toxic for one another, it’s not good for your health. You are getting older and I know you want to see your kids live to do great things. 18 years, you have tried please. Gradually take yourself out, even if it takes one year just prepare yourself as much as possible to leave. Goodluck and I hope you listen to this advice. Men are liable to die before their wives, she will outlive you and continue messing around after your death if you continue to live like this. Are you setting a good example for your children? What do you want to be remembered for? The decision is in your hands.

hurthubby:


I was 100% faithful to her, for over 16 years till i discovered that she's something else, that she can't change

I believe it’s the only way he felt to cope with the situation. The only way to distract his mind from his wife but it’s eating him up even more. The best thing for him to do is to leave. There’s no way around it, this situation will kill him before his time I know what I’m saying.

zeb04:
so right now you are cheating on her too.

She is cheating, you are also cheating so what else do you want?

If she stops cheating, it is very unlikely that you would too so?

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LadySarah:
When did You notice this behavior first?What was ur immediate rxn?What did She give As excuse;small p..is,unsatisfactory sex,low libido on ur side,weight gain?
All these yrs what have You done to improve Where She complained?


Watch warroom movie .That is what they tell the women who complain here so You can find out If it Will Work for you.

Work on yourself ,ok?

She explained it away as a mistake, just fun. Am very good on bed. She just takes it as fun

hurthubby:


This is no fiction. Am talking about my marriage.

Do you know what it means for you to agree that your wife has cheated frequently and you are still there with her. Did you know how angry God is with you right now.

zeb04:
so right now you are cheating on her too.

She is cheating, you are also cheating so what else do you want?

If she stops cheating, it is very unlikely that you would too so?

Am not cheating on her. I made up my mind to revenge but i restrained myself

Yes but I think this is extreme. I would never advise a woman that has been with her husband for 18 years to stay after constant cheating and disrespect. That’s pure wickedness and torture. If the woman chooses to stay fine, but nobody will condemn her for leaving such a nasty and toxic situation. Everybody has one life to live to make themselves happy with peace of mind. Please.

LadySarah:
When did You notice this behavior first?What was ur immediate rxn?What did She give As excuse;small p..is,unsatisfactory sex,low libido on ur side,weight gain?
All these yrs what have You done to improve Where She complained?


Watch warroom movie .That is what they tell the women who complain here so You can find out If it Will Work for you.

Work on yourself ,ok?

Safitu:
Ok since both of you have cheated on each other, I honestly think this marriage is dead. Too many outsiders, too many issues, and lack of respect. I don’t expect you to leave over night, but please both of you are too toxic for one another, it’s not good for your health. You are getting older and I know you want to see your kids live to do great things. 18 years, you have tried please. Gradually take yourself out, even if it takes one year just prepare yourself as much as possible to leave. Goodluck and I hope you listen to this advice. Men are liable to die before their wives, she will outlive you and continue messing around after your death if you continue to live like this. Are you setting a good example for your children? What do you want to be remembered for? The decision is in your hands.

I have not cheated on her. My reply earlier was incomplete because my computer was hanging. I have modified it

kapelvej:
Do you know what it means for you to agree that your wife has cheated frequently and you are still there with her. Did you know how angry God is with you right now.

I have always hated a broken home. I just felt that things will be alright

Sir, what is stopping you from filling a divorce?

kai, this is disturbing

Do you think you can have the strength to leave this marriage sir? Maybe not immediately but once you gain financial independence, what do you think?

hurthubby:


I have not cheated on her. My reply earlier was incomplete because my computer was hanging. I have modified it

If we see a pic of the so called wife now, i can bet my balls she's some local, old, haggard looking thing.

Safitu:
Do you think you can have the strength to leave this marriage sir? Maybe not immediately but once you gain financial independence, what do you think?

leave, leave and go to where? to marry another instagram Thot or what?

The young girl you want him to marry how do you know she is not a bigger cheat?

I will advise you report to her parents and call a meeting

zeb04:
so right now you are cheating on her too.

She is cheating, you are also cheating so what else do you want?

If she stops cheating, it is very unlikely that you would too so?

An unintelligent comment.

Give me a woman of values any day over a masquerading Christian.

Woe betide any man who gets it wrong in marriage, your suffering is going to be forever, till death do u part. Especially if you still stick to the woman.

pocohantas:
Forgive her.

Women are polygamous in nature.

Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...

what is this now?


This is a very serious matter, everything on nairaland is not about gender bruhaha.


this stuff really enter my bone marrow like say ooop nah my relative, I no just won pull trigger on you ni o

rosy1992 please come and say something

Right now I don’t even think he’s in the right mental frame to start a new relationship. I think this man needs to work on himself, his self esteem, his finances and if a woman comes along later in life than so be it. But right now staying in this marriage will lead to an early death for him.

zeb04:
leave, leave and go to where? to marry another instagram Thot or what?

The young girl you want him to marry how do you know she is not a bigger cheat?

I will advise you report to her parents and call a meeting

you forgave a wife who cheated on you?....if you have any spine in you,leave that marriage and start all over..he do you even sleep at night,knowing your wife is diicked by another man...smh

missjo:

You're being funny right?

No. He obviously doesn't want to leave. What will anyone say here that he doesn't know already?

He should keep forgiving her.

Kingosytex:


If after all these things happened you still can't take a tangible decision, it means that you are even more gullible than Timi Dakolo and your wife will always capitalise on that fact to manipulate you till thy kingdom come, can't you see she is using your brain to play bet9ja? ...Sorry for the harsh words but i just had to pour out my mind.


In your wife is the deadly combo of cheating, lying, deceit, nudist and promiscuity. Oga, you have a very big problem. Your wife has cheated and lied to you on many occasions yet you forgave her, i must commend you for that because it is only few men that can tolerate such excesses to the level you tolerated. I dislike liars with passion and i absolutely have no second chance to offer them.


Your wife is a perfect example that Okafor's law works. I will suggest you meet your in laws and table the matter before them though i don't believe anything positive will come out of such meeting, but you have to do that for the sake of formality. I advice you to break free from her bondage, send her away, divorce her. She is a cheat and she can't change. A leopard can't change its spots, Buhari is a perfect example about that. Your wife is prepared to ruin your life, she is willing to steal your joy and happiness and she might send you to your early grave.


Remember she has nothing to lose. If you die, she will move on with her lovers. Lastly, make sure you run a DNA test on those children to determine their paternity. Don't even think of selling your house, i advise you sell the undeveloped plots instead and grow your business. I believe you will overcome, i wish you good luck!

Your wife has the runs girl attitude of going to men for financial help. Op you've simply lost the respect you deserve as the husband. Kindly do something fast before she infects you with a deadly disease.

hurthubby:



I have always hated a broken home. I just felt that things will be alright

Sir your wife simply has no love or respect for you. I'm sure she's sleeping with those men for the financial benefits which is simply low. Involve a marriage counselor and if things don't change, kindly leave her. A wise woman keeps her home and not scatter it. I pray your business bounces back.

Safitu:
Do you think you can have the strength to leave this marriage sir? Maybe not immediately but once you gain financial independence, what do you think?

I quite agree with you. My financial situation actually escalated her disrespectful attitude

My wife has put me through hell in just such a short time. I understand what this man is going through, it takes the grace of God to leave these olosho women we call wives. My wife will get the shock of her life in December, I’ve already furnished my new apartment and I will be moving there leaving my wife to suffer on her own. I will sell that house that she’s living in, let her go and collect money from her customers to take care of her. Bros I will advise you to get your finances up and leave her ASAP. Got no time for these useless parasites that will come and ruin your life.

hurthubby:



I have always hated a broken home. I just felt that things will be alright

We all do, but with this kind of woman, a broken is better than a dead husband. I will send you a link later. These people do not change.

pocohantas:
Forgive her.

Women are polygamous in nature.

Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...

I swear I was just thinking the same thing