Good evening everyone..
Guys I'd need the elders to look into this matter for me.
There's a guy who lives around me who has been keen on dating my younger sister for like three years plus but my mom and I have been against the relationship cos we felt she's just twenty and priorities are needed to be set straight so as to build her into an independent woman rather than being a leeching hoe and asides the guy's background is not an encouraging one such that I'd wish my enemy.
So some weeks back my mom called to tell me she's been seeing my sister communicating via chats and phone calls with the guy she's been warning her about , but she didn't confront her about it.
So I took the matter up and spoke to her. She opened up telling me she likes the guy's personality not his looks or money but she's not given him a yes. I really do not want my sister around a person like this guy at a time like this but I've spoken to her and she wouldn't just do away with him. I want her to face her career first as she just got admission to study nursing this year.

Guys how on earth am I expected to handle this matter ?
PS: I've ever been in a relationship and I don't see the need to be in one at the moment due to the hurdles of the medical career ahead of me and how I've planned my life.

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Certain things are beyond one's control. My mantra is, I could only tell you the little I know about life since I equally have a naive little sister that looks up to me, but I can never force you to do or change a cause. The best teacher life has given us is 'Mistake'. Let your sister make her mistakes and learn from them and if it turns out good for her, it'll be her luck.

Note: I am not in any way saying 'don't advise'. What I'm saying is, when you're done talking, seat and watch.

It's her life and her choices. If you and your mother aren't careful then you will push her into his arms. Say your piece and leave it with her.

Where is her Father?

DrSam4:
Where is her Father?

My dad is no more. Lost him six years back and it's been God's help coupled with mom's hustle.

sexysage:
Good evening everyone..
Guys I'd need the elders to look into this matter for me.
There's a guy who lives around me who has been keen on dating my younger sister for like three year plus but my mom and I have been against the relationship cos we felt she's just twenty and priorities are needed to be set straight so as to build her into an independent woman rather than being a leeching hoe and asides the guy's background is not an encouraging one such that I'd wish my enemy.
So some weeks back my mom called to tell me she's been seeing my sister communicating via chats and phone calls with the guy she's been warning her about , but she didn't confront her about it.
So I took the matter up and spoke to her. She opened up telling me she likes the guy's personality not his looks or money but she's not given him a yes. I really do not want my sister around a person like this guy at a time like this but I've spoken to her and she wouldn't just do away with him. I want her to face her career first as she just got admission to study nursing this year.

Guys how on earth am I expected to handle this matter ?
PS: I've ever been in a relationship and I don't see the need to be in one at the moment due to the hurdles of the medical career ahead of me and how I've planned my life.

Two people you cant advice:
1. A woman in love
2. A man with money

sexysage:


My dad is no more. Lost him six years back and it's been God's help coupled with mom's hustle.

OK
Any elder bro?

GrabHisBalls:
Certain things are beyond one's control. My mantra is, I could only tell you the little I know about life since I equally have a naive little sister that looks up to me, but I can never force you to do or change a cause. The best teacher life has given us is 'Mistake'. Let your sister make her mistakes and learn from them and if it turns out good for her, it'll be her luck.

Note: I am not in any way saying 'don't advise'. What I'm saying is, when you're done talking, seat and watch.

Mistake.....but do u realize there are some costly mistake....
A girl who just gained admission should take time to study for grades...u think say nursing na play play....
As much as I don't stand against relationships...but I still feel she should keep him as a friend for now..and pay more attention to her studies...

DrSam4:


OK
Any elder bro?

No.. I'm the first child

First, don't force your opinion on her. However, sit down and speak honestly with her and be objective. Don't lecture or judge her. Don't insult anyone.

Make sure you clearly explain your position and why you're concerned enough to say something.

After that, just leave her alone because you can't steer an adult away from bad choices if that's what they want. And even after bad experiences, you'll find that some people keep walking into the same problem. There's a reason why some make those decisions over and over, but we don't have the power to change them, and it's not our place anyway.

You have to sit her down and talk to her about relationship in general. The good and bad side of it . I don’t think you will be able to persuade her to leave that guy since her mind is gradually getting into it.

Let her be, advice is useless on a girl in love.
Do the part you can and leave the rest.

Make the guy your friend and advice both of them against premarital sex and protection.

no one advice a girl or a boy in love. the only thing that cab be force is to take a to a far away place where both can never see except by calling.

my former church the pastor daughter had a crushed on me. and I am a very god guy I don't want to hurt my pastor because she was still a virgin. the girl crush on me was madly even where I was avoiding her it making her go mad. it was obvious the pastor and pastor wife was aware and I don't want to stop the church because I was close to the Pastor. I never give her my number and the pastor wife stop bringing her to church. that was how she stop seeing me so it will fade from her memory with time.

its natural phenomenon that young people passes through for others it was fun If the look back while for others it destroys or consumed them.

Your sister is a fish brain with oloshoism from the root. I just hope the guy doesn't add more problems to his life by smashing her polluted pusssy.

fineboynl:
no one advice a girl or a boy in love. the only thing that cab be force is to take a to a far away place where both can never see except by calling.

my former church the pastor daughter had a crushed on me. and I am a very god guy I don't want to hurt my pastor because she was still a virgin. the girl crush on me was madly even where I was avoiding her it making her go mad. it was obvious the pastor and pastor wife was aware and I don't want to stop the church because I was close to the Pastor. I never give her my number and the pastor wife stop bringing her to church. that was how she stop seeing me so it will fade from her memory with time.

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Sounds like a fake story, just saying.

nairalandposter:


Sounds like a fake story, just saying.

what fake about it?

fineboynl:
what fake about it?

In what way is "pastor daughter" different from any other girl her age?


Why are you specifying "pastor daughter"?

Besides,


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nairalandposter:



In what way is "pastor daughter" different from any other girl her age?


Why are you specifying "pastor daughter"?

Besides,


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https://www.nairaland.com/5315955/did-it-raw-multiple-times

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https://www.nairaland.com/5243574/throwing-up-after-sex

https://www.nairaland.com/4997107/some-girls-sexy-revealing-pussy

https://www.nairaland.com/4727976/girls-offering-free-cheap-sex

https://www.nairaland.com/4706499/girls-smell-get-wet-when

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And what does that got to the with these topics. Because I mentioned church. Oh you think I'm Bad guys. There are good bad guys you know

fineboynl:


And what does that got to the with these topics. Because I mentioned church. Oh you think I'm Bad guys. There are good bad guys you know

Somebody going to church and who says he is close to the pastor, should not be this comfortable and vulgar about casual sex.

nairalandposter:


Somebody going to church and who says he is close to the pastor, should not be this comfortable and vulgar about casual sex.

choser in the sense that he know me and my family. I am not working with him but we know closely and anything will effect the relationship with my family.

fineboynl:
choser in the sense that he know me and my family. I am not working with him but we know closely and anything will effect the relationship with my family.

Do you see a serious contradiction between church and your lifestyle?

nairalandposter:


Do you see a serious contradiction between church and your lifestyle?

oga church has nothing to do with lifestyle