midnighter:


Oh I didnt even remember that last part

Can you just imagine? Shes saying she wants to stop and he's still talking rubbish. He doesnt want to be around her, he keeps her on the other side of the island like bale of okrika, now she too doesnt want to see him and hes still complaining

Because he doesnt want to be the one who got dumped, he cant imagine the short black woman dumping Oba of Benin like him, he wants to be the one to rubbish her life first so that he can feel better

Walahi this man is bloody stupid

FreemanTJ:
I'm Confused With The Way Forward With My Relationship And Marriage

2 years ago I met a lady through a colleague. We got really close and became friends, few months later we got intimate and eventually she got pregnant. She was so scared and devastated and pleaded that I not only accept the pregnancy but marry her as well.....her parents are both pastors and she didnt want to bring shame to them by having a child out of wedlock.

The truth is, I wasn't ready for such commitment but I couldn't bear to see her depressed and so devastated, so I succumbed to getting married to her. Within 2 months we had to do a rushed traditional wedding and white wedding but before that I told her I felt trapped and we had an agreement we weren't going to be living together. This was because we both had different apartment at that time and due to proximity to work I wanted to stay on the island while she stayed on the mainland. She's an entrepreneur and since she was pregnant it wasn't going to be easy for her shuttling between island and mainland

She was ok with the agreement and all the while we lived apart. After the wedding I never wore the ring as I never considered myself married. My parents were the only ones that showed up at my wedding, all my sibling were really disappointed.

Anyway, to cut the long story, while I was with this lady before she got pregnant I met a lady at an event and immediately we connected. We would chat for several days and play chess game for long hours. We shared alot of common interest in our profession, games and all. She's not the reading type so I always recommend books for her to read and we reviewed together. After about 3 months of communicating online she asked if I was seeing someone, at that time my wife (it feels odd using the word wife) was pregnant, I stylishly dodged the question but she another she insisted I answered and I just had to confess I had a gf.


She thanked me for telling the truth, we continued playing chess but it wasn't as often. One time we were playing and started teasing sexually, she played along and was surprised I even mentioned anything sexual. Few months after, I got married but never mentioned it to her. I fear I might lose her while going through a marriage I never wanted.
During this period I withdrew from all form of communication, I was trying to figure out my life yet distracted. She kept sending messages on WhatsApp which I ignored until after about 2 months, I responded and she was upset that after connecting so well I suddenly withdrew.
She asked if I had a meltdown or emotional breakdown which I denied. Just told her I was detoxing from social media but I was back for good. So we continued chatting for another 3 months and decided we saw a movie together. After the movie I told her I wanted to see more of her. Eventually after some weeks, I invited her over and we got intimate. It wasn't the best of experience for her as she claims to have been celibate for over a year.

When she got home that night we discussed our sex extensively and she said she has never experienced orgasm and has always had painful. I felt I could change that experience for her. The next time she came over she asked if I truly had a gf since we spend alot of time communicating online, this time around I said I did but due to the distance we had issues and the rship isnt heading anywhere. I knew it was selfish of me but I wasn't ready to let go. After the third attempt she had her 1st orgasm and i could tell she wasn't ready to let go either.

After a while she got suspicious, she would tell me she had a dream of a short black lady chasing her out of my room and I kept reassuring her it was impossible but she kept insisting this dreams were recurring but I kept denying I had a gf or wife. She described my wife perfectly and I just wondered how some people are gifted with the ability to see things in dreams. All through the while she insisted on protection as she couldn't trust me completely. She grew more suspicious daily and I got defensive everytime and this started causing a strain in our relationship.
During this period we were dating and I asked her if she publicizes her rship on social media and she mentioned no, then later she asked me what I was hiding but i got defensive and we had a major argument.

FreemanTJ:

To be honest I have no feelings for her. There's no guarantee we would both be happy in the marriage. The other lady may be dramatic but I dont blame her in any way.

donstan18:
You got a lady pregnant, you married her.
Next thing, you connected with another lady while playing chess.
What next? You've started discussing orgasms with her after you both went to see a movie.
Now a short black lady has been chasing her in her dreams



TBH, Never in my life have I seen a BOY as so confused, wayward, deceitful, irresponsible and promiscuous as this OP.


Thanks.

Gforce2015:



You so evil-minded to the essence that you don't believe in abstinence and you don't believe in celibacy....
Son of vipers... Waste generation...
Keep living your de_ulded life...

BlackPantherCri:


Me too was in this position with one stupid guy. Was forming love, took me to visit all his family, visited mine, meanwhile he has done introduction with another babe, planning renting house and traditional wedding. Was even taking me abroad on trips. It was through his laptop I also found out about his wife and introduction. I didn't bother talking too much, I jejeje packed my load and left. Gave him one excuse that I was needed urgently back at work. I allowed him to continue in his foolery while I gathered my life together. I told him I was transferred to another city, he cannot visit because I am living with my strict uncle. It was on Facebook he found out a few months later that I got married and was calling me a cheat and a traitor. I laughed until I almost fainted. Ode, look who is calling who a cheat. I sent him all the evidence I had about his introduction and impending wedding back then. He now turned it around and said I was a witch and I was evil, for me not to have confronted him and given him a chance to explain. Explain what? So you can keep lying to my face and I would be at the losing end?

Men like this yeye op exist everywhere, especially men from the South West. That's why they have the tag demon attached to their names. Why can't you be honest and let the woman decide if she wants to continue.

Why all the deception? When I met my husband I told him about the relationship and he told me about his own. I chose to remain friends with no strings attached. It was my choice to move on or stay and when it did not work out for either of us with the other parties, we decided to give each other a chance. There was no need for deception.
Kini big deal?

Op, fix your life . You lie too much. You only feel remorse now because you were busted.

AngelicBeing:
Hian, castration ke, like seriously, , the guy thinks with his dick and he may end up with plenty baby mama's because he is good at Cumming inside ladies and making them squirt, nonsense and Buhari

@Op, place your 2hands on your head and cry out loud to Heaven like this, shout the player points 7times and turn it to machine gun, my father, my father, deliver my dick and destiny from strange women and sexual immorality

SmellingAnus:
exactly now you get the main point... The man/boy is very heartless.... For me he should just let her be because he will still dump her in the future if she accepts to remain with him cos his mind is not there...

sassysure:
Really surprised that on nairaland, both sexes are flowing with one voice more than 80%
Who said e no go better?

Simbrixton:
op is from the south south

cococandy:


This one pass devil that’s why

baby124:

How do you know this? Do you know him?

Omojudy:

Ever heard the phrase, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned?

FreemanTJ:

To be honest I have no feelings for her. There's no guarantee we would both be happy in the marriage. The other lady may be dramatic but I dont blame her in any way.

sassysure:


There are quotes u are supposed to ignore as the aim is to steer the topic towards tribal and ethnic lines. Such types of argument are their reasons for joining this forum

generationz:


Please help me if I'm getting things mixed up.

I'm trying to see what was wrong with what the girlfriend did when she found out that a man she lost her secondary virginity to was not only married but a full fledged liar.

Or the fact that every time she brought up the issue he used quarrel to cover up.

This man messed that lady.
For her to be a dreamer it mean a she has a sweet spirit, is a good girl and isn't wayward.
Her only crime was loving a liar.

Please break it down for me because I'm confused about how she is a bad person now.

FreemanTJ:


My gf didnt know about the child until recently, and since that moment we haven't seen each other except talk on the phone. I and my wife didnt live together not just because of distance, it was one of the conditions I gave if I was to marry her. I didnt want to be around her.
Yes i agree my gf was wrong but guess what!!! her actions might be what is making me consider staying in the marriage and yes I did doubt the paternity because a relationship was never established, she was desperate to be married and I thought she was trying to tie me down with it.
It's okay for you to judge me. I agree I've been wrong and will do all in my power to mend my marriage but honestly cant guarantee forever and I have no intention of going back to the gf since she doesn't even want me either. All she ask when we talk if we are working on our marriage. She regrets her actions but according to her she had to do it else she would want to continue with the relationship but after revealing the truth to my wife, it will be impossible for her to continue the rship with me.

nana06:
and truth is you connected with the 2nd lady bcoz somewhere in your subconscious, there's a class segregation between u and ur wife, u feel she's a burden and marrying her may not give you that marriage fantasy

sassysure:

That is

Even if he finally divorces his wife and marry another, this action of his will come later to bite him.

Even people with very high libido still behave like human. He is just a wild animal.