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My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Ghostfaze(m): 10:39pm On Dec 02, 2019
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by donstan18: 10:39pm On Dec 02, 2019
D'fvq did I just read?

A lady presented a pregnancy of 6 weeks plus to you, when it's not even upto a month you had your first sex her, and here you are, asking for matured advice.

Are you normal? Like, are you under some charms or what?

The first doctor made it clear to you then that she was pregnant before she took the pregnancy prevention pills, you never took it serious.

Now, two doctors have cleared you on how old the pregnancy is, even without giving you a possible reason to believe that you are responsible for it, yet you are asking for matured advice.


Nna nawao! What is toto gradually turning to people's common sense to. This story just dey piss me off.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by shamsin6300(m): 10:41pm On Dec 02, 2019
Guy if wat u re saying is truth
I think de oda guy dt got her pregnant is nt a hustler, she bliv u re de1 capable of taking care of her needs.

Be Wise

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Lightangel65: 10:43pm On Dec 02, 2019
Ghostfaze:
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!


The fact she is still lying when the answer is ovbious means she doesn't give a Bleep about you.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Kendumazy(m): 10:44pm On Dec 02, 2019
Take love, emotions out of this and use your head. You will definitely know the right thing, the right thing to do and the next step to take. All the best!

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Lightangel65: 10:44pm On Dec 02, 2019
I don't know much but I have seen enough stories like this on NL to she is lying. You can run a DNA test to be sure

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by emeijeh(m): 10:44pm On Dec 02, 2019
Guys, should we tell him?







You guys are wicked!!!!!! grin
frubben:
naaaah make we leave am
Lwkmd

galadima77:


Nooo, let's be looking at his mumuism for a while till the day they quarrel and she yells all unprintable names at him.

Me I don't have any advice. Go ahead and marry her

Kenturkey048:
Don't tell him ooh...leave him to mumu small.

Solidkay:


Please, tell him ooo
He's still a baby adult grin grin grin

lollybizzu:


Oya tell him for us grin

reservd:

Lol, not yet


Especially you grin
duduade:


Yes na. That he is about to be maga...ed

Please run HIV test.. Hepatitis too sef...

Uncle get a calabash... Load it with sacrificial items.. All those agidi and co...

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Abfinest007(m): 10:45pm On Dec 02, 2019
d pregnancy is not yours ask her to abort it but if she refuse tell her u will DNA test when d child is out believe me she will abort it without you knowing then she will say she has miscarriage.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Nobody: 10:47pm On Dec 02, 2019
If you won't allow emotions get the better of you, I sincerely feel you know the very right thing to do.
One thing I have inferred so far from your write up is that you're too soft & trust me ,that lady is going to mess up with you if you don't drop these softness & grow some balls in situation as these .

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Skmoda360(m): 10:48pm On Dec 02, 2019
You better do away with her but before you do make sure you know the exact reason why she decided to pin another nigga baby on you...

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by thorpido(m): 10:48pm On Dec 02, 2019
Scan results read +/- 2 weeks so in this case it can give you 6 weeks and not the 4 weeks you are calculating.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Birdeyeview: 10:48pm On Dec 02, 2019
OP i understand how you feel but i must tell you i'm also perplexed as you are... waiting for advice or suggestions from well meaning NL so i can learn as well..

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Nobody: 10:48pm On Dec 02, 2019
Ghostfaze:
Kindly approve to the homepage, mods.


Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

you actually had raw sex with her.. Did you cum insyd her and watch it flow out like a boss?
She might be saying the truth,and she might not.. All in all.. You have already partially accepted the baby.

Wait till after the childbirth and do DNA test.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Jimbadly: 10:49pm On Dec 02, 2019
You are definitely the father of the unborn child. Don't expect the pregnancy test to be 100 percent accurate on the date she took in, cos this is still the very early stage.

If you're still in doubt, you can take her to Ogwugwu ukpa ani shrine to swear that she never had sex with any other man prior to having sex with you recently. grin

Or you might as well wait till the baby is born to carry out a DNA test to determine the paternity of the baby.

Cheerio.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by duduade: 10:54pm On Dec 02, 2019
emeijeh:
Guys, should we tell him?

Yes na. That he is about to be maga...ed

Please run HIV test.. Hepatitis too sef...

Uncle get a calabash... Load it with sacrificial items.. All those agidi and co
.. Mark the calabash with colored chalks... Tie a red wrapper... Once she's deep asleep in the middle of the night just wake her up, let her see the calabash and ask her to say the truth... I am sure the *DNA* of the child will come out that night... No need to wait till when she deliver t9 do DNA

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Lightangel65: 10:56pm On Dec 02, 2019
aro1:
you actually had raw sex with her.. Did you cum insyd her and watch it flow out like a boss?
She might be saying the truth,and she might not.. All in all.. You have already partially accepted the baby.

Wait till after the childbirth and do DNA test.

Don't forget she took contraceptive, if she wasn't pregnant at that time she can't be now

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Greenbullet(m): 10:56pm On Dec 02, 2019
DNA test.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by maikbanj(m): 11:00pm On Dec 02, 2019
Your girlfriend is already seeing you as a wealking honestly and you're too soft with this issue.It's clear enough you're not responsible.. The first doctor already hinted you and now it's confirmed. Please act like a man you are bro. Otherwise you'll end up taking care of another man's child.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by anonymuz(m): 11:27pm On Dec 02, 2019
Be blunt about this issue o, i have once been in a situation like this, i just told it's not mine. The next morning she just packed her load. Till now we've not seen. Though i was aware she dey date one soldier man. Eventually he go born another one for the guy. Now the guy has dropped her again. She called for a visit again, but keep declining. Trust women at your peril. Be wise

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by anonymuz(m): 11:30pm On Dec 02, 2019
Lightangel65:


Don't forget she took contraceptive, if she wasn't pregnant at that time she can't be now
contraceptive only work after sex. So the first doctor is right. She was pregnant prior his top up. It might be a casual affair though

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by healthserve(m): 11:31pm On Dec 02, 2019
donstan18:
D'fvq did I just read?

A lady presented a pregnancy of 6 weeks plus to you, when it's not even upto a month you had your first sex her, and here you are, asking for matured advice.

Are you normal? Like, are you under some charms or what?

The first doctor made it clear to you then that she was pregnant before she took the pregnancy prevention pills, you never took it serious.

Now, two doctors have cleared you on how old the pregnancy is, even without giving you a possible reason to believe that you are responsible for it, yet you are asking for matured advice.


Nna nawao! What is toto gradually turning to people's common sense to. This story just dey piss me off.

I love your opener. And its ending too.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Nobody: 12:13am On Dec 03, 2019
You have all the evidence you need yet you want to waste our time here.

I hate manipulative ladies but I hate sissy men more. sad

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Heartbender: 12:29am On Dec 03, 2019
Why? Are you the OP's soon-to-be baby mama? ��
Birdeyeview:
OP
i understand how you feel but i must tell you i'm also perplexed as you are...
waiting for advice or suggestions from well meaning NL so i can learn as well..

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Offpoint: 12:33am On Dec 03, 2019
How do I locate this guy and beat sense into his life?

She took morning after pills
Doctor 1 gave you a clue
later results also said someone else was there before you and yet you need advice...


Since you don't know what to do, kindly accept the pregnancy on condition of DNA test after birth.
If it turns out not yours, she'll pay every dime you've spend during the pregnancy and delivery.

And it turns out yours, you apologize for the troubles...

That's all I have to say

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Cutehector(m): 12:50am On Dec 03, 2019
Made up story.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by flakkybakky(f): 1:03am On Dec 03, 2019
Pregnancy Scan Results Is Plus Or Minus 2weeks,bt For U To Be On A Safer Side Go For A Dna Test,go Borrow I Beg If U No Fit Afford Am

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by reservd(m): 1:03am On Dec 03, 2019
emeijeh:
Guys, should we tell him?
Lol, not yet

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by zed7: 1:39am On Dec 03, 2019
Start preparing her for antenatal.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by MightySirKay(m): 1:48am On Dec 03, 2019
duduade:


Uncle get a calabash... Load it with sacrificial items.. All those agidi and co
.. Mark the calabash with colored chalks... Tie a red wrapper... Once she's deep asleep in the middle of the night just wake her up, let her see the calabash and ask her to say the truth... I am sure the *DNA* of the child will come out that night... No need to wait till when she deliver t9 do DNA


The best advice so far

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Collins4u1(m): 4:02am On Dec 03, 2019
Sorry bro, I hope things get straightened out.

But the worst thing you can do with me is to be lieing when the truth is staring you on the face.

That means you can kill me if given the chance.

Then my guy, if you're financially buoyant, wait for 9 months do paternity test on the child, I believe by then you wouldn't need a soothsayer to convince you.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Sweetchilli(f): 4:23am On Dec 03, 2019
Brother, pregnancy is not calculated from the date of conception(the date you had sex). It is calculated with the date of her Last Menstrual Period. Ovulation is usually 2 weeks after the period. Add that to the 4 weeks that you had sex with her and you get 6 weeks. Why do you think pregnancy is usually 40weeks in women? It starts to count from the day of the last Menstrual period. Don't let men who don't know what pregnancy is confuse you.

This is for the uneducated men mentioning me and saying rubbish. You at least have access to the internet, why can't you just Google it instead of making uninformed statements and disgracing your ancestors

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Blissbath(f): 5:30am On Dec 03, 2019
D pregnncy is not urs

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