strungup79:


I'm always out of town looking for one job or business. I've just been unfortunate that all my efforts have yielded little or no fruit. It's almost as if there's a curse working against me.

No curse is on you. Have you taken any new training or skill to reposition yourself during this period?

See, as times go on, some previous opportunities loses relevance and new ones are birthed. If you hold on to the past, you will become irrelevant.

I was at a shop to do some graphic works few days ago. The owner of the shop gave his staff just just a phone to take passport and print it out.

This was previously the work of cameras in the past but technology has rendered cameras useless with the emergence of smart phone.

And it practically ended the reigns of global brands like Kodak and others.

I could cite numerous examples but I am sure you get the drift.

That is the point.

simonlee:
simple trick....

use a strange number to forward a text to your phone that reads "i will give you N20million and an oil company job if you divorce your wife and marry me"...
then see if she wouldn't go back to factory settings!

I just know it will end in hot tears

Michellekabod2, Ubunja and Co. Was this not what we were discussing? Give a man power, money, and make him the bread winner, his family will benefit from him. Give a woman money, power, and make her the bread winner, her husband will see hell. OP needs to take the red-pill.

Even though the man is at home, his wife has turned turned the kids against him in the cruel and petty game of power dynamics. And many girls had the dishonesty to attack me when I created THIS TOPIC and they acted like parental alienation is not really a thing to worry about and the father should "just spend some time with the kid". Here is a man who is present in his home and yet the kid has turned against him (a case similar to that of emmaodet). Never underestimate the power of brain washing and the wickedness and brutal nature of women. Women are not fair players.

Indeed, Ilekokonit was right in THIS TOPIC OF HIS. Also the arguments and contributions made by ubunja and myself are valid. A family is supposed to work as a unit but the woman purchased properties without the man's knowledge, turned the kids against him, and disrespects him yet folks like funmisticqueen (whose personality is as ugly as she looks) turned this on the man insinuating that the man must have been cruel to his wife in the past. The op opened a joint account with his wife but now, the wife has gotten a secret account.

Any man that remains oblivious to female nature will suffer and get burnt.

making money is about hustling

Mr, go and hustle

change line of business

ignore your wife and stop giving her attention, but she no try at all

my advice is simple, if you arent making it, find another location, move there alone and hustle hard, send upkeeping for children to your wife

men arent suppose to be complaining all the time, we are problem solvers, lets use our initiative to provide solutions to our problem

Change business? Good.

What business should he change to? Voice mail.

Solve problems? Good.

What kind of problems can he solve and how does this make him money? Voice mail.

olumide3367:
Women . I wish I can hate all of you. But I love my mamao

Trust me, the woman has co-conspired with key person in her family to go spiritual with d man to become d woman in d house. He needs divine intervention. His downturn ain't normal.

funmisticqueen:

Most likely money was all you had to offer in the marriage and now that you have lost that, you are just like an appendix in your marriage. Existing without function, but capable of causing hell because no one cares about it anymore.

It is not about bringing more money but showing that you are a leader, and being her support. Give her a reason to trust you by showing initiative. Do you think women like to be bread winners? She is picking up your slack.Of course She will be pissed at you subconsciously.

Be proactive, anticipate needs in the marriage that you can provide and meet them without being told or nagged. Convince her that you are still necessary in your marriage. Get your head out of your asshole and be man.

Guys, note this:
PARAGRAPH 1: This is how women see you as a man. They see you as a utility. Once you can't provide, you are like a phone spoilt beyond repair. This is the cold truth. "You are just like an appendix in your marriage."

PARAGRAPH 2: This is just senseless rambling to insinuate that it isn't really the woman's fault. Note, women will always blame someone else for their bad behaviour. She is giving him false hope that he can still do something to save the situation but, in line with the aim of this rambling, she is covering up the fact that the man can't get the love of his wife without money. No money, no love. Also, notice how she implied that the man is supposed to provide and the wife is "covering up his slack". This is women for you. The financial sacrifices you make for the family is okay but the one a woman makes is "covering up the slack of the man". Your money is our money, my money is mine mindset. Despite having equal rights and opportunities as men, they think it odd that they should take on equal responsibility at any time.

PARAGRAPH 3: Further nonsensical rambling to hide the fact that it not about the money. This advice is ironic because to do these things to win back the wife, he needs money. So we all come to the same point — no money, no love.

Notice how she never blamed the wife for turning the kids against the man, an act that was unnecessary and cruel. Notice how she never said that marriage is supposed to a union where both individuals support each other through thick and thin and the wife is supposed to be helpful. It's always the man's fault — he is indulging in self pity and laziness. Guys, if you still think there is a NAWALT out there, you will suffer. Truth.

owowa145:


Trust me, the woman has co-conspired with key person in her family to go spiritual with d man to become d woman in d house. He needs divine intervention. His downturn ain't normal.

There is nothing spiritual here, the man is going through tough times. It's not unusual. Don't spiritualize anything. No one is too special that the universe owes it to them not to go through hard times.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

Stop making careless comments.
If it was the days when i was adventurous , i will patiently seduce you and mess up heart and your mind and turn you into a nervous wreck with this careless statement.

You have never been married and you have no clue what he is experiencing.

Kendumazy:
I guess you didn't pray about your relationship or you didn't get to do spiritual consultation about the kind of person your wife is. See, when it comes to two people coming together to get married. There are a lot of things involved. A wife star might superceed that of the husband and atimes it could be the other way round. These are parts of what parents sees that make them stand their ground that their son or daughter won't get married to a particular person. Not that the person is bad but it's just that, we all have the star we carry. You don't need to fight your wife. You just need some prayer or spiritual journey to see what could be the cause of your downfall or you can try and leave the home for like a month and watch any changes.

this is the nature of women, if you like marry angel.

strungup79:
I'm 42 years old and married with 3 children (2 boys and a girl). I got married to this beatiful lady 13 years ago and everything was bliss until three years ago when my business experienced a serious down turn. My wife on the other hand witnessed an upturn in fortunes and practically became the bread winner in the home. Her good financial fortune had me focussed on trying to get myself back on track. I tried getting a job, but it was not forth coming. My business continued to dwindle and then I resorted to doing small odd jobs just so I could contribute to the family upkeep.
My wife's upturn in fortune however brought out the ugliness in her. She started trying to assume control of the home. She stopped consulting me on decisions concerning our home, rather consulting her parents. She practically turned my kids against me as she painted me as irresponsible. We initially had assess to each other's account, but now she has accounts hidden from me. I just found out she bought land somewhere, though she doesn't know I have that knowledge. She has become rude and disrespectful and her parents and siblings have taken over my home. I am so pained because all I ever did was show her love and respect. She didn't like the fact i tried to have order in my home and that seems to be my sin. I have never hit her or been wicked to her. Right now, I'm pained and confused. I don't know what to do. Someone please help.

dont put it to heart. look for those things that would make you happy most importantly get close to God more. Try as much as possible to bounce back and take back control. if you can afford one bedroom please move to one bedroom. stop your wife as much as possible from taking care of the bills.

internationalman:

worked like magic when i once used it on my shakara girlfriend....

and i made sure i used a profile picture more beautiful than my girl's own..

i lay the phone where she could have easy access to it and she did and read the chat i orchestrated thinking i didn't know she saw it as she refused to confront me with it..

i made sure to make it look like the girl was begging me to leave my girl to date her...but since i knew my girl was gonna view it, in the chat i reiterated how much i loved my girl and how i could never leave her for anyone...


my guy you need to see the love this girl was showing me afterwards en.

if you want to be successfull with ladies you have to be manipulative as well

You are a true G. I came to realise first in theory and then in practical that
" women do not love. they calculate".

I noticed one day back in 2007 when my girlfriend had been acting up the whole day saw an alert of 50k on my phone when i was in the bathroom.

Her mood just change, person wey no like to watch ball follow me go viewing center go watch oo. After some bottles come see as she dey scream fanatically for Chelsea that day.

We went back to my place and come see passion on steriods. I just dey laugh for my mind sey see this muntula.

The next day she carry bill come i tell am sey i no get shishi sey dem take one money send me message.

strungup79:
I'm 42 years old and married with 3 children (2 boys and a girl). I got married to this beatiful lady 13 years ago and everything was bliss until three years ago when my business experienced a serious down turn. My wife on the other hand witnessed an upturn in fortunes and practically became the bread winner in the home. Her good financial fortune had me focussed on trying to get myself back on track. I tried getting a job, but it was not forth coming. My business continued to dwindle and then I resorted to doing small odd jobs just so I could contribute to the family upkeep.
My wife's upturn in fortune however brought out the ugliness in her. She started trying to assume control of the home. She stopped consulting me on decisions concerning our home, rather consulting her parents. She practically turned my kids against me as she painted me as irresponsible. We initially had assess to each other's account, but now she has accounts hidden from me. I just found out she bought land somewhere, though she doesn't know I have that knowledge. She has become rude and disrespectful and her parents and siblings have taken over my home. I am so pained because all I ever did was show her love and respect. She didn't like the fact i tried to have order in my home and that seems to be my sin. I have never hit her or been wicked to her. Right now, I'm pained and confused. I don't know what to do. Someone please help.

Be a man! This 2020.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

You're really a terrible person.

Martinez39:
Guys, note this:
PARAGRAPH 1: This is how women see you as a man. They see you as a utility. Once you can't provide, you are like a phone spoilt beyond repair. This is the cold truth. "You are just like an appendix in your marriage."

PARAGRAPH 2: This is just senseless rambling to insinuate that it isn't really the woman's fault. Note, women will always blame someone else for their bad behaviour. She is giving him false hope that he can still do something to save the situation but, in line with the aim of this rambling, she is covering up the fact that the man can't get the love of his wife without money. No money, no love. Also, notice how she implied that the man is supposed to provide and the wife is "covering up his slack". This is women for you. The financial sacrifices you make for the family is okay but the one a woman makes is "covering up the slack of the man". Your money is our money, my money is mine mindset. Despite having equal rights and opportunities as men, they think it odd that they should take on equal responsibility at any time.

PARAGRAPH 3: Further nonsensical rambling to hide the fact that it not about the money. This advice is ironic because to do these things to win back the wife, he needs money. So we all come to the same point — no money, no love.

Notice how she never blamed the wife for turning the kids against the man, an act that was unnecessary and cruel. Notice how she never said that marriage is supposed to a union where both individuals support each other through thick and thin and the wife is supposed to be helpful. It's always the man's fault — he is indulging in self pity and laziness. Guys, if you still think there is a NAWALT out there, you will suffer. Truth.

look how you twist my words around to satisfy your delusions of grandeur and push your narrative my using other words apart from what I wrote.

Nothing you say makes any sense.
With you, cat is dog and black is white,
salt is sugar and water is blood.

If you all want to drink the wine of your tears and snot, go on ahead and drown your sorrows in the pity and mockery of your brethren. I bid you happy new year

otipoju:


Stop making careless comments.
If it was the days when i was an advent, i will patiently seduce you and mess up heart and your mind and turn you into a nervous wreck with this careless statement.

You have never been married and you have no clue what he is experiencing.

I don't have a heart.

By the way, point out what is careless in my comment.

hazard7:
Sorry man,shit happens in marriages. Once a woman taste power like in yours,she becomes intoxicated so better u put the bitch in her right place or u relinquish control to her.

he was never and will never be in control of another human being.

If he wants control so bad, let him get a pet and train it.

How are you different from slave traders

marvelous000:

You're really a terrible person.

coming from you, that's a compliment.

I tell you what you don't want to hear but need to understand. My words chip away your armor and burrow into your soul

na so women just be. that's why I can't be with a lady that's financial bouyant than me. na only money dey make woman respect man I swear

strungup79:
I'm 42 years old and married with 3 children (2 boys and a girl). I got married to this beatiful lady 13 years ago and everything was bliss until three years ago when my business experienced a serious down turn. My wife on the other hand witnessed an upturn in fortunes and practically became the bread winner in the home. Her good financial fortune had me focussed on trying to get myself back on track. I tried getting a job, but it was not forth coming. My business continued to dwindle and then I resorted to doing small odd jobs just so I could contribute to the family upkeep.
My wife's upturn in fortune however brought out the ugliness in her. She started trying to assume control of the home. She stopped consulting me on decisions concerning our home, rather consulting her parents. She practically turned my kids against me as she painted me as irresponsible. We initially had assess to each other's account, but now she has accounts hidden from me. I just found out she bought land somewhere, though she doesn't know I have that knowledge. She has become rude and disrespectful and her parents and siblings have taken over my home. I am so pained because all I ever did was show her love and respect. She didn't like the fact i tried to have order in my home and that seems to be my sin. I have never hit her or been wicked to her. Right now, I'm pained and confused. I don't know what to do. Someone please help.

Sorry!!!

Happy new year!!!

funmisticqueen:
marriage is not about control. Money is what gives control. Stop misquoting me from your place of pain.

Also stop this 'poor me' 'boohoo' victim mentality, it is irritating and pathetic. You are the one emasculating yourself, by allowing yourself to be emasculated.

Most likely money was all you had to offer in the marriage and now that you have lost that, you are just like an appendix in your marriage. Existing without function, but capable of causing hell because no one cares about it anymore.

It is not about bringing more money but showing that you are a leader, and being her support. Give her a reason to trust you by showing initiative. Do you think women like to be bread winners? She is picking up your slack.Of course She will be pissed at you subconsciously.

Be proactive, anticipate needs in the marriage that you can provide and meet them without being told or nagged. Convince her that you are still necessary in your marriage. Get your head out of your asshole and be man.


This is the most candid advice you will get from me or on your thread

You are very disrespectful!!!

funmisticqueen:
for saying the truth? Or not telling all you testosterone laden apeshits who only think with their joystick what you want to hear or stroking your China doll egos.

Is that how you talk to your Dad??
Are you the first Doctor in your generation??

RisenPhoenix:
Then you should have let her go not given in to her whims. You are the captain who sets the course for the household. If she cannot stay with you through thick and thin, she should find her own direction in life without you.

As for the land, she has a right to do what she wants with her own money.

It's not too late. Get a divorce, she's now a liability on your back. No man can function after he has been emasculated. Hustle hard, marry a more supportive wife, and try to keep in touch with your kids as much as possible.

The last thing you want to be in when you are in economic downturn is a toxic relationship that drags you further down; mentally and emotionally.

Good luck.

Spoken by someone who REALLY knows what he is talking about.

maak400:

Sorry about your predicament sir, I can only imagine what you’re going through. That’s the nature of women who suddenly become richer than their husband, similar cases like yours abound everywhere. God did not create women to be the provider of the house, so anytime circumstances happen to make a woman the provider, they simply become proud and treat the husband like shit. Just keep praying and hoping that your business bounces back. Also, ensure that you still put your foot down as the head of your home no matter what attitude your wife is displaying.

You've spoken well but the bold area is where I disagreed with you... God did not create anybody to be richer, God's command is for everyone to be loved equally and perhaps God wants a husband and wife to be helper to each other (no specific gender) it cab be the wife or the husband.. You speak well bro

otipoju:


You are a true G. I came to realise first in theory and then in practical that
" women do not love. they calculate".

I noticed one day back in 2007 when my girlfriend had been acting up the whole day saw an alert of 50k on my phone when i was in the bathroom.

Her mood just change, person wey no like to watch ball follow me go viewing center go watch oo. After some bottles come see as she dey scream fanatically for Chelsea that day.

We went back to my place and come see passion on steriods. I just dey laugh for my mind sey see this mumu.

The next day she carry bill come i tell am sey i no get shishio sey i dem take one money send me message.

funny girlfriend you've got ..


if you really know how to stage and fake things that increase your value in the eyes of your girl, both of you will never feel less of the vibe that got you started.

being too honest with girls will always make you a failure with them.

strungup79:


I'm always out of town looking for one job or business. I've just been unfortunate that all my efforts have yielded little or no fruit. It's almost as if there's a curse working against me.

No cause for alarm. This is the more reason why you should intensify your effort cos tough times don't last, tough people do.

Focus on getting back on your feet financially rather than focus on who wears the manly pants at home

Lastly, just like it's not possible for the devil to smoke Igbo and become the Most High, it is not possible for your wife to grow hairy manly balls overnight.

awwfar:
Nawa..this one pass me o..but I don't think there's anything you can do right now..focus on getting back on your feet.. that should be your main goal and priority now...just park her fr one side and get back up there

Very good advice.

If it was me I will relocate far away from her and the kids and only come back once my finances pick up for the better.

Your wife has a grudge with you and had been waiting for your finances to go down so that she can exact revenge against you.

if you keep staying in the same house with her, your finances will not pick up because she will keep waiting for you to blow your balloon and she will simply puncture it with a pin leaving you deflated and at rock bottom all over again.

Face the fact that your wife had been envying your past success and has always been competing with you to have more money than you and now that she has, she will not give up that competitive advantage without a fight including turning your kids against you like you say she is already doing all in a bid to destabilise you any which way she can.

Your wife knows that if she gives you peace of mind, you will pick up financially and probably overtake her financially like before and she doesn't want that hence all the dirty tricks she is using to keep you down.

The marriage don tire the woman and she sees you as a liability forgetting the times you had money.

Guy, pack out of that house now and don't go back until your finances are better and that's if it is even advisable to go back to such a woman.

strungup79:


I'm always out of town looking for one job or business. I've just been unfortunate that all my efforts have yielded little or no fruit. It's almost as if there's a curse working against me.

The only person cursing you under their breath is your wife.

If I believed in prophets or alfas, I would have said to verify this from them.

Your wife DOES NOT want you to pick up financially as she wants to forever be above you financially.

Liberate yourself from that bondage and move far away from her as delaying is just like prolonging your agony as she will not change for the better but will only get worse.

Mark my words.

And remember that this might be an anonymous forum but there is a wealth of good real life experience to be learnt from here FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO LEARN.

Martinez39:
There is nothing spiritual here, the man is going through tough times. It's not unusual. Don't spiritualize anything. No one is too special that the universe owes it to them not to go through hard times.

Alright, i believe u sir. One love.

funmisticqueen:
he was never and will never be in control of another human being.

If he wants control so bad, let him get a pet and train it.

How are you different from slave traders

Look bitch am not in mode to heckle so take ur drama out of my sight. I never for once talk about slavery or whatever garbage u mean, get ur act together and a happy new year

internationalman:


funny girlfriend you've got ..


if you really know how to stage and fake things that increase your value in the eyes of your girl, both of you will never feel less of the vibe that got you started.

being too honest with girls will always make you a failure with them.

You know at a point you just tired of smokes and mirrors. Especially when you have more important things that you are working on. But one thing i know, women do not like to hear the truth and you can't let them see you finish.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

Dumb contribution

funmisticqueen:
when did I beg on this forum for a man?

Stop deluding yourself

Olosho stfu. Ugly fool who can’t take her family out of okokomaiko talking about making money as if she has mademoney for herself or her wretched family. Go and make money and stop giving foolish advice here mofo