Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!

izzou:


Lol

Thanks bro
Thanks
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I really appreciate the wishes

Hisduchess:


Happy birthday.more life

Jewessgratitude:


Hmm...using it for biz and news. I c.
Just try to be straight forward Sir. We had to put words into your mouth before you could open up that you're still operating that troll account.
If you ask me, it is enough to make her angry cos She's doesn't know for sure if you're still chyking her friend till date. If not, how come its only that account you're still able to remember the password. There must be a reason why you're still keeping it. Best known to you though.

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

gbogboija:
The man himself has so many questions to answer. He claimed he has been using another name different from his, how come then the wife gets to know he is the one?

mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!

Reichel99:
Your wife is childish. If she wants to leave let her go but make sure you don't let her take your child along with her.

mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!

midnighter:
The sad truth is that the woman TONTO DIKEH'D the OP...if you know, you know...

nlPoster:
Why do you consider it a fake account instead of an alternate one?

And why comment anonymously to people you know?

That's rather creepy and could be considered borderline stalking.




Not to mention why would people intentionally add strangers on their personal fb pages?

And is it a must you have to flirt online? Why is self control considered a female thing among Nigerians? (even that has changed now). Must you drop sexually themed comments on someone's page when you know you have sex issues?

davillian:
If a woman look for excuse to dump you and they no see
They fit enter house see you de eat bone
Complain say you are eating like a dog that they don't want to marry you again its over
You go think say na play but na so e go take end.

cococandy:
Right? She’s probably Wondering if he still thinks about her . One Can’t tell her not to be upset at least a little.

But leaving the marriage is overkill

Mimicole:
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Haba mana what is it with Nigerians and this self righteous judgmental behaviour?
The flirting happened 10 years ago and Oga said he has given up d habit... Why are you still asking these questions? And where in the story did you get 'sex issues'??

OP just travel down to see your wife and apologize again, let her feel your sincerity... After all wise people say its only when you cultivate the ability to apologise for no reason that you are fit and ready for marriage... 'I'm truly sorry' will do the trick and save you lots of unhappiness in the future.

In my line of work I come across lots of divorce cases that could have been prevented at the early stage by just apologies. Its really not such a big deal in the end.

ebby9z:




Your comments don't even make any sense. Is the issue here about stalking or about someone trying to leave a MARRIAGE over a flirtatious post made 10 years ago.
Why on earth are you justifying her shitty behaviour?

Anything done before a current commitment can't be counted at all. You have to remove your skirt and stop thinking like a woman.

Platini7:
Nothing else that i know about. Yes we do have small small quarrels.....but non of our little misunderstandings has ever led to the kind of reaction i'm getting from her on this one.

She claims she's heartbroken cos the comment was made on her CLOSE friend's post.

sassysure:

So the man is Churchill while the wife is tonto?
U people will not kii somebody here

SmellingAnus:
Looks like she was already looking for any excuse to rush to another dvck based abroad

If that's the case, there is little or nothing you can do about it... Just hustle to be more successful ...