Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

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Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

The issue no get weight, she prolly is childish, and or there are other hidden issues worrying her in the marriage....
I wouldnt want to delve into areas of your lifes, but do well to make a self assesment

Fake news!!!

mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!

Lets even say your narrative is true,is that a reason for her to leave her matrimonial home and hastily demand for a divorce?
so if there is an issue that needs to be settled in a matured way,she will rush back to her family?
She is even planning to have a divorce and leave the country...Haba...thats too fast!
Its obvious she was looking for a way out of the marriage and she found one that holds no water!

openmine:

Lets even say your narrative is true,is that a reason for her to leave her matrimonial home and hastily demand for a divorce?
so if there is an issue that needs to be settled in a matured way,she will rush back to her family?
She is even planning to have a divorce and leave the country...Haba...thats too fast!
Its obvious she was looking for a way out of the marriage and she found one that holds no water!

If my narrative is true, just as we have both assumed, I mentioned in the closing that his wife may have caught him still doing what he did 10 years ago.

The wife may know much more than op thinks the wife know. And since op thinks the wife doesn't know, he hence didn't share the full story.

If the wife got know what happened 10 years ago recently (not that she was told o), it means op didn't stop doing what he said he stopped years ago.

I even suspect op may have cheated! (my suspension though)

mikezuruki:


If my narrative is true, just as we have both assumed, I mentioned in the closing that his wife may have caught him still doing what he did 10 years ago.

The wife may know much more than op thinks the wife know. And since op thinks the wife doesn't know, he hence didn't share the full story.

If the wife got know what happened 10 years ago recently (not that she was told o), it means op didn't stop doing what he said he stopped years ago.

I even suspect op may have cheated! (my suspension though)

Let's say I agree with what you have assumed,why did she still go ahead to marry him and why now?
There are issues like these that should be settled or solved without using such as an excuse to leave her's matrimonial home and even threaten to take their son out of the country!

.....And yet some folks who think they know excessively about marriage will say EVERYTHING will be ALRIGHT once YOU have put a RING on her finger...smh

nlPoster:
10 years ago was 2000 btw.

2009/2010 actually

bolseas:


2009/2010 actually

corrected, thanks.

openmine:

Let's say I agree with what you have assumed,why did she still go ahead to marry him and why now?
There are issues like these that should be settled or solved without using such as an excuse to leave her's matrimonial home and even threaten to take their son out of the country!

I wouldn't know why she decided to marry him. That's not even the question.

The question to me is: why hasn't op change?

He presumably hasn't change. Let me give you a scenario that would have taken the wife 10 years to search.

One would really have to dig in your timeline on Facebook before seeing your activities of ten years ago. The wife have may seen snippets of op flirting online to have prompted her (to see more and in a consistent manner) to dig deeper dating back.

It is not a one time thing. It must have been on several occasions that the wife saw to made her conclude.

Mr Poster, did you marry her because you love her or because you saw her as a means to travel Abroad? tell yourself the truth, she was in a relationship over there with someone you know, gets back and you quickly reconnect and get married... Tell yourself the truth.

mikezuruki:



I wouldn't know why she decided to marry him. That's not even the question.

The question to me is: why hasn't op change?

He presumably hasn't change. Let me give you a scenario that would have taken the wife 10 years to search.

One would really have to dig in your timeline on Facebook before seeing your activities of ten years ago. The wife have may seen snippets of op flirting online to have prompted her (to see more and in a consistent manner) to dig deeper dating back.

It is not a one time thing. It must have been on several occasions that the wife saw to made her conclude.

Still....was that enough reason to leave her home with their son or even hastily contemplate divorce while preparing to take their own son out of the country?

Is the matter too convoluted or too grave that it can't be resolved through communication as a couple?

See....We are making too many assumptions!
Let's just go with the narrative of OP until we hear the side of the wife....

izzou:


Dated Briefly

I missed that part.

He better go back to Abia state and tell her family what's happening. The wife dey behave like small pikin

that 10 ten years white penis seem to be more fun to ride on then his, she want more of that. (sorry)

marine agents of darkness I hail thee

post=85811772:

Look at others above you making intellectual contribution. But look at what you just posted!
Do you at least have any meaningful contribution to make?
This is an intelligent forum for crying out loud.
Don't you have any reasonable contribution to make?
Stop typing for typing sake.
Shame!

Look who's talking. You that don't anything meaningful to contribute other than praising and licking the ass of your paymasters buhari. Everyone knows u on this forum

How would you feel if it was the other way around? If she was the one with an anonymous account( that she still uses till today) adding guys up and down including your close friends, sending one of them the same kind of text content you sent to her own friend..Will you trust her?

I am pretty sure you have lots of females as friends on that account. Were you sending d1ck pics too? I would see you under a different light if I were your wife.

Keep apologising and deactivate that useless account. That's all the advice I will give you.

[quote author=Platini7 post=85803146]Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you




My brother the handwriting is clearly written for you to see. Will she say, she didn't pump another Dvck during her time abroad ABI she nor friend person for that side even though she didn't pump. Let her go if she wants to. Meanwhile try and get your kid back that's the most important thing.

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pocohantas:


- They dated briefly 10yrs ago.
- She go America, date another person.
- I think while she was dating another person, uncle was flirting with random girls online.
-She come back, them reconnect come marry.

What exactly is her issue?

She suppose done old pass this kind childish tantrums na.

Be like she get pali, because na wetin dey make Naija guy humble like this.

Lol, uncle is not telling us the truth or the bitch just want to have a home based son that is not a bastard

She is sad that her husbamd is that creepy dude eveybody was disgusted about.

How embarrassing to realise that she married this guy that they all joked and made fun of.

Your past annoys her. In her shoes, I would be sad too. But it's not enough to leave an otherwise good marriage unless things have been rocky.

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

Your wife is bored. Do you know she cannot board any international flight with that boy without your consent? Na she go beg you, just endure for now.

Oga pls stop disturbing us.... If ur wife wants 2 leave, make she go na..... Dis is 2020 man

izzou:


Thank you very much

You'll have to find me to get the cake

Do you reside on earth? So as to know where to start from.

izzou:
Is this the woman you dated for 10 years?

Dated 10 years ago is different from dating for 10 years.

Insatiable Bastard she is.

Erediauwa:
Dumb marriage that won't last.


You got married to an insatiable bitch.....


Sorry for your loss.

why can't you just post your comments without name calling

Is this why that lady was cussing him out on another thread.

So what exactly do you need help with, OP? Tips on how to manipulate or force her to stay against her will? She wants to leave, make your peace with it and move on.

what I don't understand is that, why is she upset if the account is anonymous? her friend will never know it is him and nobody except the two of you will know and its been ten years, who remember some creepy guy from 10yrs ago on FB.

The only problem I see here is if you were using the FB account to Fraud innocent people and she realized that you are a criminal and don't want any of it. so good luck and God bless you